Last Updated on August 31, 2020

Maybe you are embarrassed to be vocal during sex? Perhaps you’ve never given it a thought, or you find it strange. Maybe you are like me and you are unapologetically loud. 

I used to feel shy about being heard making noises during sex, but over the years I have learned to embrace that part of myself. And, as a bonus, my husband LOVES my sounds during lovemaking, from the quiet moaning to the roaring.

Making sounds can quiet our minds and make us more receptive to the experience. Truth be told, it can be slightly deafening to ears nearby- but all so worth it. Also, the sounds can be a great indicator of a person’s excitement.

FOLLOW THE SOUNDS

Before my husband and I moved in together, he used to have roommates. One day while I was at his house, working on my computer, his roommate came home with his girlfriend and headed straight for his bedroom. 

A few minutes later I could hear lovemaking sounds, which I treasure and celebrate! I started paying close attention to the sounds, not just because they are so beautiful to hear, but also because they can tell me so much. 

First, there was a wave of moaning that sounded like they were having penetration sex. Yes, I take my work very seriously and have been studying sex for over two decades, so I know my sounds and can relate.

Then, there was a second round of moans that had a deeper, more primal quality, so I knew she was being fingered and her g-spot was activated. 

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I had no doubts. I just knew. But I eagerly waited for an opportunity to find out. A few days later I confirmed with them the exact unfolding of their lovemaking. One of the blessings of being a sex coach is that people are used to you asking them all kinds of very personal questions about their sex lives. 

I had accurately guessed what was happening behind closed doors, not because I am psychic or have a secret camera installed, but because of the range and depth of the sounds, which were guiding me. 

So if you want to become a master lover, start paying attention to the sounds.

If I can do it, not knowing the woman’s sounds before I heard them, then you can do it too. By paying attention, watching, and listening, you can accurately know where she is in her sexual excitement. 

THE THROAT-SEX CONNECTION

According to ancient Indian traditions, there is a connection between the throat center and the sex center. When you open one, you also open the other. These energy centers located along the spine are called chakras. Chakra is a Sanskrit word, meaning wheel or vortex of light.

Everything we do or think influences the vitality of our chakras. These circular energy centers are in constant motion, rotating, attracting energy, receiving or radiating. 

Whether you can see your chakras or even believe in them isn’t essential. They are an intrinsic system that influences your experiences of life. You and everything that exists is made of energy. 

So when you open your throat and let your voice flow, your sexual energy starts flowing more freely as well. And when it’s open, more pleasure flows, enhancing the experience many folds. 

Even on a physical level, there is a correlation between our sex and our throat. If you’ve ever looked at vocal cords, they are very similar to the way a vulva looks. Do you really think that it’s a coincidence?

Tip: Use the vibration of vocal sounds to allow sensations to move throughout your body for more pleasure during sex. Let your voice free, and sing, howl, scream, moan, growl, whatever comes to you. For that matter, you can use this idea anytime with anything you are doing, to bring greater pleasure and sensations. Try it anytime! 

BECOME A MOAN EXPERT

According to a study conducted by Bijoux Indicrets, a leader in erotic products, 66% of people have a fictional view of sex. It is often based on listening to the actors that star in porn films. This means that most men and women have no clue what sounds of pleasure really sound like.

And without that information, we wander blindly through our sexual encounters, not knowing correctly what is happening, or what to do next to take it to the next level of pleasure for our lover. 

Also, most people hold themselves back, they aren’t giving each other the gift of their ecstatic sounds, furthering the lack of knowledge and authentic depth of connection. 

Wouldn’t it be great if we broke down the taboos and celebrated the sounds of pleasure?

Orgasms Sounds Library started a project that collects real sounds of orgasms. It’s totally free to listen and you can even add your own to the collection. 

So go upload your orgasms and make the world a better place sharing your inhibited pleasure. And remember, be vocal during sex, so you can experience higher states of bliss.