My Story – Humble Beginnings

While my wife Céline’s story involves traveling the world to study under different masters, my story is quite different. I grew up in a typical North East suburb in a family that did NOT talk about sex. There was no mention of it ever.

When I was about 14, I came home from school after a Sex Ed class. Parents, of course, knew that day was sex ed day. When I came home, my mom asked how it went. I remember thinking it was awkward to be having this conversation with my mom. I told her some of the things we learned, and some of the questions students asked. My mom listened, acknowledged, and didn’t say much. That was the extent of my childhood “sex ed.”

Despite the lack of education or even talk about sex, I’d always had a keen interest in it. The first girl I ever fingered left a huge wet spot on my bed. I remember thinking, “how did I do that, and how can I make that happen again?” From that point on, I was always trying to improve my skills.

In my early years of sexual activity, there was no internet or access to any educational material. It was all just trial and error…and more error…and more trials.

By the time I reached University, I had started to get good at it (at least for that age). Around this time, I somehow got the idea that I could last longer in bed by using the towel technique. I really can’t remember how I had heard of this, but I was willing to give it a try. What I didn’t know at the time was that I was strengthening my PC muscles, which did, in fact, help me control my ejaculation.

Life continued, and I kept experimenting and having as much sex as I could. Over the years, my girlfriends and I visited sex shops, experimented with positions, toys, and even sex clubs (that’s a funny story for another time).

Sexual Breakthrough

One of my biggest breakthroughs was around age 30. At that time, my partner bought me the book “Sexual Reflexology” by Mantak Chia (one of the masters Céline studied under). This book opened my eyes to the possibilities of what sex could be. It was also the first time I learned about separating orgasm and ejaculation. I dove in head first to the practices and practiced every day. I then went on to seek other books that could also help.

These practices and experiments were going very well. However, my relationship with my partner was not going so well. This was when I realized that becoming a Sexual Master wasn’t just about the techniques or practices. I realized that I also really needed to learn how to be a better partner. So I decided to learn the art of relationships.

The Poly & Tantra Years

After that relationship fell apart, I started spending a lot of time with a local polyamory group. While I had been friends with many of the poly people already, I was newly single and ready to dive into the possibilities of multiple relationships.

The years spent with this close group taught me how to step up my game. To be successful in open/poly relationships, you need to have excellent communication skills, good boundary-setting skills, and a high EQ (Emotional Intelligence). I remember when scheduling a date with one particular tantrika, she agreed to the date only if I promised to call her the morning after. For her the morning after call was an important follow up. That got me wondering what other things women really wanted but were usually afraid to ask for.

I began attending every workshop that came to town. Since San Diego had a pretty big poly community, there were lots of teachers coming to town. I took workshops with just about every big name in the Relationship, Sex, Tantra, and Poly worlds. I learned a lot from all of these people and put as much of what I learned into practice as I could.

The next step on the journey was Tantra. The poly community had a pretty big crossover with the local Tantra community. I began to meet a lot of people in the Tantra world. I even became lovers with some of the local well-known Tantra teachers. Since I had already studied Mantak Chia’s Taoist practices, some of which were similar, I felt right at home with Tantra.

I really loved how Tantra saw sexuality as part of a whole. It wasn’t separate from work or any other part of life. Tantra was/is a way of living life successfully and that was extremely appealing.

You Need To Teach What You Have Learned

After doing so much work in Sexuality and Relationships, I started to notice that many friends (and even sometimes strangers) would often pull me aside and ask for my help with their sex and relationship issues. Women would ask me about issues with their partners. Men would ask me about erection problems and porn addiction.

One friend even heard me make love to my girlfriend in the other room one day and asked me how he could learn to make a woman scream like that. In addition my roommates (who often had to listen to those sounds) were also encouraging me to start teaching this to other people.

I have to say that it was never my original intent when setting off on this lifelong journey to become a teacher of Relationship and Sexuality (although I had been a teacher all my life teaching High School, for the American Red Cross, for the American Heart Association, martial arts, personal training and more). However, the call to do so was getting louder and louder.

Eventually, I decided to become a Tantra Counselor. I attended a local well-known Tantra school and completed the course. Soon after I started my first coaching business. I did some good work with men, women, and even a few couples. However, the coaching business was second and not my primary day-to-day wage-earning business.

A Dream Come True

Enter the amazing and talented Céline Remy into my life! I knew from our first date that something magical was happening. Céline already had her coaching business up and running. At first I didn’t want to get in the way of what she was already doing, however, we did talk about working together in the future.

As time went on, I was doing my thing, and she was doing hers. But I was now helping her behind the scenes. She had created version one of a program she called Power & Mastery. Céline decided she wanted to redo this program and do it radically differently. She wanted to have not only the woman’s point of view but also the man’s.

This was when she asked me to stop being behind the scenes and step out as her partner and co-teacher. Together we expanded and created a whole new program for men consisting of 3 separate programs: Power Up Your Erections, Master Your Ejaculation, and Sexual Mastery.

The success of that launch and its response showed us that we did have magic and synergy teaching together. However, I was still doing my other businesses. We weren’t yet at a place where we could both coach together full time.

The next milestone for us was The Love Lab Podcast. This one was my idea. Remember when I told you I was helping Céline behind the scenes? Well, one of the things I was helping with was strategizing programs to help her clients. She would discuss what was going on with her clients, and we would both come up with strategies to help them. We would have (and still do) some truly amazing conversations.

One day we were on a walk and having a great conversation about work when I had the idea to record it. I thought these types of discussions could benefit so many people. That’s when the idea for a podcast was created.

It took awhile for us to get the free time to get it started, but it has been better and more successful than we could have ever dreamed.

After creating the podcast, we began co-creating videos for YouTube and crafted our first co-coaching program called Relationship Synergy, where clients got to work with both Céline and I at the same time.

Our early dreams of coaching together finally came true.

Tragedy & New Beginnings

In late 2022 the love of my life and soul mate Céline passed away due to health issues. To say this was a shock is the biggest understatement one can make.

I thought the journey of finding the one was for sure over when I met Céline. Now I find myself dating again and using all of the skills I have been teaching all these years.

In the past many people had attributed our relationship success to what a good match we were for each other. While we were indeed a terrific match, we worked hard to make and keep our relationship and sex life as truly amazing and fulfilling as it was.

Now I have been given (whether I wanted it or not) the opportunity to use these skills again and prove that with the right knowledge and application of skills, anyone can create the relationship of their dreams and the best sex of their lives!

Céline is an immeasurable loss to not only me but the world as well. However, I am now more committed than ever to continuing this important and life-changing work that we created together.

And so the journey continues………….