How To Talk Dirty In Bed Without Being Awkward

Hey guys, in today’s video, we will talk about how to talk dirty in bed. If you are tuning into this video, you are probably feeling a bit shy when it comes to dirty talking.

Or maybe you feel awkward or can’t get past the nervousness, and you break into this like uncomfortable laughter.

Maybe it just does not sound good whenever you try to talk dirty to your partner.

So I’m going to give you a few tips to help you nail dirty talking and start to turn on your partner even faster.

Because let’s face it, our biggest sex organ is between our ears. It’s our brain. So if you can stimulate your lover’s imagination and mind, it’s going to get the foreplay started. It’s going to get the energy moving.

I am Céline Remy, “The Intimacy Angel,” and I am here to help you bring your sexy back in life.

How To Dirty Talk

Let’s start with a scenario: remember when you and your lover hit it off? What was it like? How did your body feel? What were the things that you really enjoyed about that scenario?

Think details.

Okay, now that you have this vivid picture, start to tune into yourself.

How are you feeling? What are the sensations that you are experiencing in your body? How is your lover smelling, tasting feeling?

See when you break it down to how your partner feels and how you feel it becomes easier to find the right words to describe what is happening.

Dirty talking is all about being in the present with what is happening. And by the way, just because it’s called dirty talking doesn’t mean that it’s dirty. Okay?

I like to refer to it as “erotic talk.”

So if you have this reframe and knowledge, rather than take forever to try to find something to say – start to tune into what is happening, what are the things you are feeling?

How is your partner feeling in that moment?

Dirty Talk Examples And Phrases

So what does it look like concretely? Right?

So if you want to talk about how you feel, it could be like: “Oh my gosh, I am so turned down watching you walk naked around the house, I can hardly stop myself to just jump all over you and have my way with you.”

Super easy. It’s just about the attraction and the excitement you feel from watching your partner being like naked around you.
Another way is to talk about what you want to do to them. And it could look like: ” I want to slowly undress you and start to tease you from head to toe until you beg me for more.”

Another reframe is to tell them what you want them to do to you. So get real. What do you want your partner to do?

Like, “I want you to have your way with me and come all over me.”

It could be less graphic, but what is it that you want from them and use your words to describe that?

Here’s the thing when it comes to dirty talking, you know, make it organic, relaxed, natural, effortless.

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Make sure you ask your lover maybe before like hey, are there some words that don’t fly with you – words that are big no-no that will turn you off? And avoid those.

But you don’t have to go like all “porn-like” to make it work. You can be softer, more romantic. If it’s your style to be crude or to be just more specific and your lover loves it, that’s great. Go for it.

Ultimately start with little things one at a time and go a little bit out of your comfort zone. Okay? So that’s how you’re going to grow.

Practice a few times in front of the mirror, and make sure that you just don’t burst into laughter because that’s going to kill the mood.

It’s about having the confidence to step into this powerful zone of, I am a sexual being, I am sexy, I deserve pleasure, I am worthy of pleasure. And I’m going to make you have the time of your life.

When you come from that place in your mindset, and you stand up or sit straight and come with that intention. It will translate because remember, a lot of what we say is non-verbal.

So even if you use your words when you are doing dirty talk, your body language is also utterly important.

Become A Pro At Erotic Talk

So let’s recap quickly here. If you’re not sure what you like, think back to a situation. Look at details like be attention to the little things that are going to give you a little bit of a taste about what you like.

It doesn’t have to be all about you. It could be the body of your lover about how their body feels. You can ask for things that you want, or you can be very graphic about what you want to do to them.

Most importantly, you need to be able to deliver the dirty talk with an attitude of power and confidence.

And if you do that, it’s going to turn your partner on and pay attention when they react when they go like oh my gosh, that was good, I love that. File this for using it again later until you have a lot of different scenarios that you can keep using over and over.

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