Last Updated on August 31, 2020

Men, this might be the most useful article you will ever read. I am about to bust some myths that could transform your life and will force you to step into the shoes of the man you want to be. No more excuses, no more delay, because we women need you to show up for us.

But first, let me backtrack a little and set the scene for you.

When I was developing my new kick-ass coaching program for men to take their sexual mastery to the next level, I asked my community questions to figure out what they wanted. So I created a market research campaign and started to talk on the phone with lots of people about what is working and not working for them in their sex life.

MY RESEARCH FINDINGS

The first thing that I learned is that women are much more willing to talk about sex. I had many more women reach out than men. Women aren’t afraid to say, “Something isn’t working.”

I know – that’s not so surprising as women tend to process their emotions and release stress through talking. However, if you can’t talk about something, you won’t be able to change it. Pretending it doesn’t exist won’t fix the issue; it might make it disappear on the surface, but it’ll grow bigger underneath.

The second thing I learned is that these women crave touch and long to be wanted and cherished. To women, affection and attention are like fresh air; they are needed for us to thrive. Most of us stay “connected” online, but lack the real in-person experience. So drop your phone and hold someone’s hand while looking into their eyes for a minute.

But the third thing that I learned blew me away because it goes against the popular belief that women don’t want sex as much as men do.

Are you ready for this?

Every woman that I spoke to admitted having a higher sex drive than her man. They wanted sex more than he did. So here it is: women love and want sex. They are hungry.

Men, are you ready to penetrate your woman with your heart and fuck her silly with your throbbing cock?

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THE REALITY

In my private practice, when working with men, their common complaint is that she doesn’t want sex as often as he does.

So what that tells me is that both parties are frustrated in some way or another when it comes to their sex life. It also means that whether you are male or female, you are a sexual being and therefore want sex. But to have sex, you’ve got to give her the kind she wants.

In today’s world, we have constant stimulation that pretty much overloads our senses. Whether it’s the images speeding by on a screen or the continuous chiming of our inbox, we are bombarded, and we are mostly out of balance.

Most women are too stressed to relax into sex, and most men are too tense to perform sex with mastery.

So intercourse becomes one way to release stress and tension, but it doesn’t feed our hearts and souls.

As a result, most women walk around in this world under-fucked. Being under-fucked is a condition that is painful for both the woman who’s not getting enough and the man who has to be around that frustrated, grumpy woman.

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THE HOPE

Turning sexual dysfunction into sexual connection will give us greater satisfaction. You need to master your sexual skills now. It is so much bigger than becoming a great lover – it is about fucking her open like no over man.

Whether it is mastering your ejaculation; achieving firmer, more consistent erections; or experiencing more powerful orgasms, take the lead and find solutions to become the lover you know deep down you are meant to be.

Bring sex back into your bedroom – you know you both want it.