Last Updated on August 31, 2020
To succeed with women, a man needs to develop his masculine power. If you aren’t getting the sex, love, or attention you want, it’s basically because you aren’t using your energy well.
The solid core energy within you is your masculine power. By embracing your potent masculinity, you make change happen. Masculine power is about creating the container so that the feminine can flow freely within the set boundaries. It isn’t about restricting the feminine; it’s about gently guiding and channeling its raw, fluid energy.
Imagine the feminine as a river. Sometimes it gushes in a cataclysmic waterfall, and sometimes it is a gentle stream. Without banks, the river isn’t contained, and it loses its potency as it is simultaneously everywhere and nowhere. The banks, (aka masculine power) creates a safe container for the water to flow. The feminine can be as wild or tame as she wishes, while the masculine holds her and encourages her true nature’s expression. In that scenario, both the masculine and the feminine get to be fully expressed and celebrated.
As a principle, the masculine loves to penetrate. Most men fixate on their cock as the only way to penetrate her. But unless you know how to use it to transmit and move energy, your penis alone isn’t cutting it. There are so many ways to penetrate a woman. Let’s expand the possibilities and look at other areas to grow.
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TO SUCCEED WITH WOMEN DEVELOP PRESENCE
Presence is one of the most attractive traits in both men and women.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone who wasn’t fully present with you? How did you feel? Annoyed? Frustrated? I am imagining that somehow a part of you was shutting down towards the other person. You knew you didn’t have that person’s full attention and you held back your expression.
A woman’s pussy is no different than you are.
When you are making love with your woman, if a part of you is somewhere else, her pussy will shut down.
Somewhere else can show up in so many different ways. It could be worrying about your performance, doubting whether she likes it or not (by the way, if you are wondering that, she most likely isn’t thoroughly enjoying herself) or being focused on the end goal of your ejaculation. What that means is that neither of you will be able to reap the benefits of the lovemaking or increase the depth and intimacy.
Presence means being here, now. Presence is about noticing the little things. You can’t fake being present; it requires discipline and focus. Being present is the greatest gift. Your woman needs to feel that she is the most important thing in the entire world. You are responsible for the depth of the sexual encounter.
When a woman feels held by your strong presence, she can relax and open. That surrender is the key to her pleasure.
Tip: The next time you are in the presence of a pussy, rather than going for a dive within seconds, slow down to look at her and praise her. Watch for the changes in coloration, the way the labia fold, the hood covering her clit. Notice how she responds to your attention by swelling, getting more puffy or glistening. Verbally express what you notice and how much it turns you on. Watch how the more present you are to her, the more she responds to you.
THEN YOU MUST ADD PASSION
Passion is attractive and magnetic.
Think back to a time when someone was talking passionately about something they truly loved. I am pretty sure you got lit up from the inside out just by listening and watching them. That passion was contagious; you felt uplifted and inspired. Maybe you couldn’t wait to dive into your passion.
Guess what? The passion you feel feeds her desire. This means that if you aren’t showing up passionately, she is probably responding with low desire. Her pussy knows when you are having a blast with life, and she wants part of it.
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Passion is what you love. Be passionate by expressing your feelings, values, and sharing your heart freely. It’s so hot for a woman to watch you grab life and fuck it silly.
When a woman feels your palpable passion, she responds to you by magnifying it, taking you both on a wild ride of bliss and ecstasy.
Tip: What’s your highest purpose for having sex? If your answer is because it feels good, dig deeper. Simply doing the motion doesn’t cut it. Be passionate about her, and express it wholeheartedly. Know your wants, desires, and needs, and go after them. Live for what you care about.
The beauty is that when you fuck your woman with your full presence, passionately and powerfully, she experiences depths of ecstasy never seen before. When she gets to access this part of herself, she becomes this loving creature who can’t wait to make your life better. So by serving her, you are serving yourself.
Céline Remy, ‘The Intimacy Angel,’ is a leading expert who has helped and worked with over 1,500 men, women, and couples to discover their true sensuality and energy in their sex life and relationships. She teaches both men and women how to unleash their sexual potential, bring out the best in each other, and have mind-blowing sex for hours. Celine’s mission in life is to help and inspire 1 million people to experience love, passion, connection, and true intimacy in their relationships and sex life.
