Last Updated on August 31, 2020

Being born with a penis doesn’t guarantee you have the skills and dexterity needed to use your penis properly and skillfully. You most likely were taught many contradicting messages about your cock and might have had unrealistic expectations or felt pressured to perform at one time or another.

Often that translates into sexual issues, frustration, or disappointment. 

Most men carry shame and guilt when it comes to their penis. There’s a strong correlation between what goes on between your ears and what happens between your legs.

BEFRIEND YOUR PENIS

I love to use the different names given to the penis interchangeably: cock, dick, and lingam, to name a few. And I found that speaking the words out loud helps to take the shame out. 

Give it a try. Do you feel silly? Maybe embarrassed? Or are you excited? It’s essential to take the emotional charge out of the words so you can appreciate them and your body more fully.

Remember to be a friend to your penis. If you were to talk to your friends the way you talk to your dick, would they want to hang around? If the answer is no, then changing your inner dialogue is a must. 

Love yourself, your penis, and your masculine power. 

READ THIS: TRAITS YOU MUST DEVELOP TO SUCCEED WITH WOMEN

TRANSFORM YOUR COCK INTO A MASTER COCK 

What is a master cock, you ask?

A master cock is a cock that can take a woman to deeper and higher levels—ones she somewhat knew existed yet has longed to experience. It’s a cock that can heal and transform trauma stored in her tissues. 

It’s a cock that is soft yet hard; soft as the quality of the touch and gentleness, and hard as the stamina it takes to be able to sustain her waves of ecstasy. 

It’s a penis that is focused on her pleasure, without goals. 

First and foremost, you must drop any agenda. What I mean by that is that your penis is here to serve her, not to serve yourself. That’s probably a strange concept as most of what porn portrays is men taking from women or using women to reach a certain goal (aka orgasm).

Sometimes the taking is subtle; it can be disguised under the pretense of giving but yet not being receptive at all to the partner you are with. Or it can be quite obvious, like just wanting to put it in, ejaculate, and be done. 

Having no agenda is about enjoying the journey, rather than being focused on the destination. It’s about being present in the moment, without expectations or desire for it to be any different. 

Reminder: Ejaculation and orgasm are two different things. The ejaculation is a spinal cord reflex; picture it as a muscle spasm triggered by orgasm. Orgasm, on the other hand, lights up different parts of our brain and activates pleasure centers. Physiologically they are different. 

A master cock knows how to separate one from the other and can ride orgasmic waves multiple times, thus increasing his sexual energy.

THE LOST ART OF PENETRATION

We call it “screwing” and not “nailing” for a reason.

Thrusting is not solely an in-and-out motion or a hammering activity. Your penis can move and transmit energy.

In Tantra, they call the penis ‘lingam”, which means wand of light. What that truly means is that you can use your penis for healing purposes.

When you begin to see it as a tool to enhance communication with your partner, then you can start having so much more fun with it. 

A client of mine brought this concept into the lovemaking with his wife. While they were making love, he focused on transmitting love, and energy through his penis. He wasn’t chasing an orgasm: he was present with her and their union. He hadn’t told her anything, but she commented afterward how different the sex had felt for her, that something knew got ignited even though they had been married for over twenty years.

LISTEN TO EPISODE 29 OF THE LOVE LAB PODCAST: DOES SIZE MATTER AND OTHER PENIS RELATED IDEAS

THE THREE KEYS TO USING YOUR PENIS

There are three critical keys to master so you can take your partner on a wild ride:

1.Depth: Being able to shift from shallow strokes to deep strokes. 

This really can drive a woman crazy as it awakens different parts of her vagina. The sensations she experiences are very different from being stimulated at the introitus (entrance of the vagina) or her cervix (deep inside).

She will enjoy the variety and crave certain areas more than others. Place all your focus on the strokes and have fun with going three strokes deep, then six shallow, or whatever number you fancy.

2.Speed: Varying the speed from faster to slower to absolute stillness. 

Most men are versed at a fast pace; slowing it down requires more attention. Pay attention to the movement, the breath, and your partner. Stillness can be overwhelming in intensity but can bring so much depth to the exchange. Just like with a car, sometimes you need to slow down to have a better grip and then race faster. 

3.Dexterity: Grinding the hips in a circular motion and flexing your penis.

When you start rotating your hips, your penis follows, which means that you are stimulating the sidewalls of her vagina, which don’t usually get much attention — having control over your muscle so you flex your penis up while inside her will stimulate her g-spot area and increase her sensations.

Plus, it’s such a wonderful feeling for her to feel your penis pulse inside her. Then you can start a dialogue between the penis flexing and the vagina squeezing, giving each other a massage with your genitals. 

A master cock is versed in those different techniques, likes variety, and loves to anticipate what could bring her even more pleasure.

THE MAGIC BEHIND THE LOVING 

Focus on the energetic exchange and the communication that the penis is capable of bringing. It is, after all, the great communicator. When you shift gears and make it about the quality of the interaction, you ignite your erotic potential and can open the door to new sexual adventures. 

Immerse yourself totally in the experience and let the healing power of sex begin.