Last Updated on August 31, 2020

It’s fascinating that despite our obsession with anything sexual, we still believe many sex myths that are hurting our love life. You’d think that by now we would have figured out.

But pay attention. What does society tell us about sex? What about the ads, TV shows, movies, churches, and governments? If we were to listen to those, we would be doomed and trapped into an endless cycle of bad sex.

3 SEX MYTHS THAT ARE RUINING YOUR SEX LIFE

1. Sex should come naturally.

Just because you were created from sex, doesn’t mean you know about sex. I like to think of sex as wine; it gets better with age. However, anytime you want to get good at anything, you have to dedicate time and energy to master your craft.

Studying ancient philosophies such as Taoism (from China) and Tantra (from India) can help you live in harmony with nature and with yourself. Both ancient traditions are very complex systems and deeply explore the working of sexual energy.

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Sexual energy is always present. Imagine it more like an underlying current or wave. Just like an old radio, to listen to a particular channel, you have to adjust the knob to the desired frequency. Sexual energy works just like that, and you can fine-tune your body to tap into this ever-flowing current. But if you don’t know how to adjust the knob, you get lousy reception, and the energy doesn’t flow with clarity and power.

Taking the time to learn how to “dial-in” your full sexual power and expand your repertoire can significantly increase both partner’s sexual pleasure.

2. Sex slows down in long term relationships.

Sex doesn’t have to die. The decline of your sex life is only a choice you make, and an excuse for poor relationship skills. If you improve your skills, your relationship can improve.

Sex can be seen as a barometer for intimacy in a relationship. Sex is part of what keeps people together, and it’s essential to keep that connection thriving. Remember, what you don’t use, you lose. So when sex seems to be sliding downhill, learn new skills to pick it back up again.

For instance, when you learn to communicate your wants and needs, not only does it leads to fantastic sex, but it also strengthens and deepens your relationship. Sexual intimacy comes from communication, not from assumption.

Many couples enjoy sex regularly, as a part of their routine, and it brings them happiness, health, and well-being.

A 14-year study published by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology found that the happiest people have sex once a week or more. Couples that had frequent sexual connection reported greater satisfaction with their relationship as the sexual frequency increased up to once a week.

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3. You can have too much sex.

When it comes to sex, you have to find what works for you. The right amount of sex for any couple is the amount they’re happy and satisfied with. For some, that’s several times a day, for others, it’s once every few days or weeks.

As long as you both benefit from your interaction, and no one is experiencing pain or distress, your frequency is perfect. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. Variance is the new norm.

We are sexual beings, and it is part of our nature to express love, affection, and connection this way.

SEX IS GOOD FOR YOU

Sex is a powerful force for connection, energy, the immune system, and many other benefits. Don’t let silly sex myths prevent you from enjoying its many far-reaching benefits.

Making love and having fun is part of the human experience. So do it. Now.