Last Updated on August 31, 2020

Is female ejaculation, also known as squirting, a real thing, or is it fake? The short answer: 100% real. However many fake it, especially in movies. Okay, so yes it can be confusing.

Scientists do not fully understand it, and many are still puzzled by it. So, it’s normal if you are confused about it, so let’s demystify it.

WHAT IS FEMALE EJACULATION

Female ejaculation refers to the expulsion of fluids from the urethra during sexual arousal. It is often combined with an orgasm but not always. The amount of liquid that gets expelled can vary, from a few drops to cups of liquid.

Notice that it comes out of the urethra, not the vagina! That means that when you see a porn movie where water gushes out of her pussy, it’s because she put it there from the outside.

The glands that are considered responsible for producing female ejaculate fluid are called Skene’s glands or para-urethral glands. They emit prostatic fluids, called PSA (prostate specific antigen) an alkaline liquid that is chemically similar to male seminal fluid.

The glands drain both into the urethra and near the urethral opening and sit tucked inside the front wall of your vagina, right at the G-spot area. They are surrounded with tissue (which includes parts of the clitoris) that reaches up inside the vagina and swells with blood during sexual arousal.

Female ejaculate is a clear, watery liquid. Its smell and taste vary with the cycle. It is predominantly prostatic fluids mixed with glucose and trace amounts of urine.

After the ejaculate is expelled from the female prostate into the urethral canal, it can flow either out to the urethral opening or into the bladder. When the urethra is covered, or there’s pressure on the pubic bone, it can be difficult to ejaculate, and the liquid will go to the bladder. If a woman is relaxed, and nothing obstructs her urethra, she can experience squirting.

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THE G-SPOT ROLE 

Even though it is called the “spot,” think of it more as an erogenous zone filled with spongy tissues. Hence it’s “real” name the urethral sponge.

The urethral sponge is an area that has a head, a body, and a tail. There are several “hot spots” that can be awakened for our pleasure, and they can “shift” depending on the level of arousal and position.

The urethral sponge is a tube that surrounds the tube of the urethra and is located on the roof of the vagina. For most women, it is located just inside the entrance of the vagina. You can feel the urethral sponge by inserting two fingers into the vagina and pressing back toward the pubic bone.

When the urethral sponge (aka female prostate gland) is aroused and swollen and is full of ejaculate, it can easily be felt through the vaginal wall. A common sensation is the urge to pee, or a burning sensation.

The urethral sponge surrounds the clitoral nerve, and since the two are so closely interconnected, stimulation of the clitoris may stimulate the nerve endings of the urethral sponge and vice versa. I like to think of the clitoris as the fire stoker.

A note of caution about the G-spot

In the beginning, some women may feel numbness when stimulating the area. She might think she is not responsive. Some might feel pressure or pain, and others might feel pleasure, from mild to extreme. All of these are normal and common.

Because our organs and muscles store our emotions, we need to be aware that the G-spot is often where a woman’s body stores deep, powerful emotions, ranging from laughter and anger to tears and fears.

There is no predicting what emotions might arise when massaging a woman’s G-spot, so be ready to hold space and honor whatever she is feeling, and let her be vulnerable. There is no need to fix what she feels, so hold her, stroke her, and let it come out. When she feels open and safe, her emotions and her ejaculate can flow.

HOW TO FEMALE EJACULATE

So how do you do it? You need two things – the right kind of stimulation and relaxation. It is easier to use a curved wand specifically designed to stimulate the g-spot area or have someone’s fingers.

Stroking and massaging the G-spot area will make the tissues become aroused, swollen, and engorged with blood and fluids.

You need a high level of arousal and letting go of your inhibitions and fear. Getting over the sensation of peeing and the fear of it and surrendering enough for the pelvic floor muscles to contract and relax.

Combining clit rubbing with the G-spot stimulation will help, since the two are so closely interconnected. In other words, the stimulation of the clitoris may stimulate the nerve endings of the urethral sponge and vice versa.

Don’t pressure yourself, take your time, and focus on the pleasure.