Last Updated on August 21, 2020

And why I’m so much happier now bra-free.

Growing up I was eager for my breasts to start developing so that I could catch up with my friends. You see, I was a late bloomer and it only really started to happen around the age of twelve. I was so proud when I started sprouting two little strawberries. However, I didn’t expect the amount of physical discomfort from their growth. I mean really, how could such tiny small bumps create that much soreness in my body?

Puberty was such an awkward phase. Some bodyparts would start expanding while others were ignoring my hormones signals. I looked and felt weird, and I am sure you can relate.

I still remember the day my mother took me bra shopping for the first time. She was convinced it would help them grow into the proper shape, even though I couldn’t fill an A cup. I didn’t know how to put it on and to further my embarrassment she was talking loudly while selecting “training bras.” You know the plain, ugly, shapeless white, front strap ones.

I was mortified when one of my friends walked in on us, and my mum started to tell them all about how excited she was about our shopping adventure.

Fast forward past that first experience. I was now one of the “real” girls. You could tell I was sporting a bra under my shirt and I felt all grown up. Finally, the day came when I graduated from the training bra and was able to get my very first pretty A-cup bra.

At 18 I “accidentally” discovered boutique lingerie. A woman took my measurements and brought me the perfect bra for my petite frame. I never looked back. I became obsessed with sexy french lingerie.

Everything had to match. Push-ups and underwires were my best friends; they gave my breasts the spotlight for the very first time.

For the sake of fashion, I wore tight bras that created chafing. I had red marks underneath my breast and on the side of my torso. My neck and head hurt. Sometimes it even changed the way I held myself and my breathing.

As much as I loved how my breasts looked, it felt so good to take those bras off.

The Turning Point For Me

I went to a Yin Taoist workshop and learned to cultivate my sexual energy, pleasure, and vitality. One of the core practices was Taoist Breast Massage. I was told that in time it’s secrets would unfold to me — and they sure did.

When I made the breast massage part of my daily routine, within weeks, I grew one cup size. I was so delighted to make it to a B cup finally. Picture happy, bouncing breasts and girl.

Before you freak out, stop reading and ditch the practice because you don’t want your breasts to grow, hear me out. My mum was at that workshop with me, and she has really big breasts ( D+ cup). The regular breast massage did not increase her breast size; it increased her skin tonicity, firmness, and allowed her to feel more comfortable to go bra-free.

That’s one of the magical properties of the massage. It activates your body’s wisdom and balances only what needs to be balanced. Now that we have that settled let’s continue.

As I genuinely connected with my breasts through my daily practice, I started to realize that wearing a bra did more harm than good. So I decided to ditch the bras. That was not so easy to do.

I had spent hundreds of dollars on beautiful underwear. I even went on a special Paris trip to buy my sexy lingerie. Also, society tends to frown upon you if you choose to go braless. But there are benefits to not wearing a bra.

The Benefits Are Bountiful

Through my regular massage I started to feel more juicy, radiant, my periods got lighter and I no longer had PMS. I carried myself better, my breathing deepened, and my breasts have been keeping their youthfulness and perky shape.

Being in my mid-thirties now, I often have people asking me whether my breasts are real or not. I attribute it to ditching my bras and massaging my breasts.

Breast massage is one of the foundations of a woman’s self-care routine. Massaging our breasts daily helps to harmonize our hormones and open our hearts. It also improves circulation and prevents the formation of lumps, therefore reducing the risk of breast cancer.

READ THIS: 8 TIPS TO KEEP YOUR BREASTS HEALTHY 

Challenging The Status Quo

To tell you the truth most of the time I don’t care what other people think when they notice that I don’t wear a bra, but some days it does burden me. When I hear comments that I should have the decency to cover them or catch a dirty glare aimed at my free breasts it hurts.

When that happens, I focus on the benefits I gained from freeing myself and my breasts from tight, restricting clothing. I hope that I do inspire other women to be freer in their expression and with their bodies. That wearing a bra becomes a conscious choice and that more women stop abusing their bodies in the name of fashion.

If you still have doubts, then believe Professor Jean-Denis Rouillon, an academic at the University of Besançon, France, who conducted a 15-year study on the effect of bras. His findings – bras make breast sag and are a false necessity.

If you are not quite ready to go braless, opt for no underwires and get fitted, so you don’t wear a size that is too small for you. Take your bra off when you are home and start giving your breasts some love by massaging them daily.

And if you feel inspired, take the “bra-free for a week challenge” and tell me about it in the comments below.