The G Spot And Female Ejaculation Do They Really Exist?

Céline Remy 0:11
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Kevin Anthony 0:28
All right. All right. Welcome back to the love lab podcast. Today is episode number nine. And it is titled, G spot and female ejaculation. Do they really exist? Okay, this is going to be a very juicy episode pun completely intended. So, you know, it’s such an interesting thing, because everybody’s heard of female ejaculation. And yet, we still run into people all the time who don’t vote believe that they actually exist.

Kevin Anthony 1:02
And I’ve heard it from even friends of mine, you know, laughing joking. Like that G-spot thing, right? Hahaha. And there’s this belief that these things don’t actually exist. So we want to start off with a personal story, first of all, that helps illustrate what we think about whether or not they actually exist. And then we’re going to go into a little bit of the science of it.

Céline Remy 1:24
So are you saying that they real? I think so. Right?

Kevin Anthony 1:30
I was leaving the audience on a cliffhanger. So that they would pay attention to what you’re about to say. And then they would know whether or not it’s real?

Céline Remy 1:40
Well, I see you know, if you’ve been listening to our show, for some time, we have called it the love lab, because it is really what we do. We always do our little research and experiment. This is what we do in our love lab. And I have been a female ejaculating for or well over a decade by now. Some of the things that I love to do is like to geek out on things and be like, Okay, well, how do I do it? Or what’s happening? Is that really true? I mean, I question myself, am I peeing? Am I not peeing?

Céline Remy 2:14
And just in the last few days, we had a fantastic experience to prove that it is not P. Here’s what happens. We had asparagus that day. And if you’re familiar with asparagus, you know that it turns up in our pee, just after you have asparagus, when you go to the bathroom. There’s a very, very distinct smell in your pee when you had asparagus. So needless to say, we had asparagus says I had to go to the bathroom, I peed, and I could smell it. later on. We went into a lovemaking session and just had beautiful lovemaking that had a surprise, female ejaculation that happens and surprise. And there was no spirit p smell to it at all.

Céline Remy 3:09
A little bit after that I had to go to the bathroom again just to pee. And guess what it smelled like a therapy. So from this illustration here from this story, it really led us to believe that they are different things.

Kevin Anthony 3:25
Well, first of all, we knew they were different things Long, long before that. So. But when that happened, we were thinking because you know, our bedroom is the love lab, we’re thinking, Oh, this is a great story to share with people to help illustrate this point that we want to make. Again, there are a lot of people that believe it doesn’t exist. And one of the things that people say even sometimes doctors will say it’s not really into Jackie elation. It’s you’re just peeing, you’re releasing some urine from your bladder. absolutely not true.

Céline Remy 3:59
Thanks, actually. So I want to geek out a little bit because I’m a science geek. I love this thing. And I wanted to take you a little bit of a journey to understand a little bit more of the female anatomy in terms of the G spot and female ejaculation. So the very first thing that I want to clarify is that even though it’s called a G spot, it’s not a “spot” per se.

Kevin Anthony 4:22
You mean I can’t just push a button and

Céline Remy 4:25
not really I want you to think of it more as an erotic zone that’s filled with spongy tissues. Okay, so it’s an area and the real name really for the G spot is actually your referral sponge. So Spanish Bhanji tissue, it gets a gorge. Okay, so think of it this way. One thing to that, that’s really fascinating about the referral sponge is that it has a head, a body, and a tail. So it has three distinct special hearts towards enhancing the fact that it’s not just one button that you push because the erogenous zone or the area that feels more responsive will shift depending on your engorgement.

Céline Remy 5:13
So sometimes it’s a little bit more to the front sometimes it comes to the side sometimes it’s deeper as the whole tissues get in court and feel that it will change where you feel the orgasmic sensation as a woman so to really shift Okay, direct depending on your arousal and position.

Kevin Anthony 5:33
So what you’re saying is there’s a particular region inside the vagina that maybe has more nerve endings maybe that’s more sensitive.

Céline Remy 5:44
It spongy tissues, so yes, there’s different like nerves there. But think of it like as that sponge where it fills up and it gets engorged with fluid and blood. And then the more engorged you are, the more sensitive. If you’re a guy and you’re listening, you know that well, because when you get in engorged your penis becomes more sensitive. Exactly, exactly. So that’s the same thing that happens. We kind of have this kind of “lady boner” that happens inside that we don’t see but that’s the whole idea. And so they’re your referral sponsors is basically a tube that’s, that surrounds a tube of the urethra, okay, and it’s located at the roof of the vagina in case if you were not quite sure we are talking.

Céline Remy 6:34
When you feel for this year referral spawns. If you insert a finger with the pad pointing up, you have to go up towards her clitoral or pubic bond towards the app of the roof of the vagina. For most women, it is located fairly close to the entrance about a knuckle to a knuckle and half deep, especially at the beginning. So you can really find that because when you insert a finger you can find in feel different riches, the quality of the skin inside is different.

It feels a little bit different. It has riches it has it’s not smooth, like other areas inside the vagina. So that’s how you know that you are on that G spot area on that you referral spot. Okay, just take a little bit of a deep breath here. So when the years for a sponge, it’s also called sometime the prostates, the female prostate gland

Céline Remy 7:35
By the way, because they’ve seen a correlation between the urethral sponge and the male prostate, so you know, they’d like to use the same name since it’s it behaves somewhat the same. And so when it’s aroused and swollen, and it’s full of ejaculate, you can literally feel it through the vaginal wall. And a common sensation for a woman that has as that sponge what is important is to feel Iver a desire to pee or to have like a burning sensation. It’s kind of hard to explain but if you’re when you’ll know what I’m talking about that burning, tingling sensation that you feel like it’s kind of really weird.

Céline Remy 8:18
We’re ok so now we having a better understanding right of that G-spot area here. I’m going to add one more thing that’s fascinating because if you know about female anatomy, and you’ve heard of the clearest and the tip of the iceberg that we call the clearest the glitter also has like such good deep down inside the vagina. And those legs are basically the peripheral sponsor surrounds the clitoral nerve. So they’re really connected so even by stimulating the colorist and then the legs of the cleaners that are getting in gorgeous they all interconnected to with the urethral sponge, amazing.

Céline Remy 9:06
I’m totally like fascinated by it.

Kevin Anthony 9:09
Are you saying you’re getting a lady boner right now?

Céline Remy 9:11
Totally.

Céline Remy 9:13
I want to have just one more clarification around female ejaculation since I’m on my geeky streak right here. So the glands that are responsible for female ejaculation that produce ejaculate is actually called the skins gland or the pirate your referral glands. Okay, so these glands, the emitter prostatic fluids, it’s called PSA for a prostate specific antigen. It’s an alkaline liquid that is chemically similar to male seminal fluid.

Hence why when I female ejaculated, it was not as therapy it was a different smell and different labor. And then those glands they drain directly the urethra and near the referral opening. That means that when a woman female ejaculate, it is from her urethra.

Kevin Anthony 10:11
Hence why so many people are quick to explain it away by simply saying, oh, you’re just peeing. But as our asparagus story demonstrates, no, not the same source.

Céline Remy 10:24
And you also need to understand that because if you watch porn and you’re into female ejaculation, there’s actually a lot of it that is staged, where they will blow us like one of those things to blow water inside their blue water inside their vagina. And then at the perfect time release it and it looks like she’s gushing from her vagina, Which basically means it’s not female ejaculation because it has if it’s female ejaculation, it comes out through the urethra, through the pee-hole.

Kevin Anthony 10:57
Well, so this is another reason why there’s this middle that it doesn’t actually exist. And it’s all fake because so much of what you see if you actually are watching porn is you see this fake stage version of female ejaculation. So you see, there are massive amounts of clear liquid shooting out of the vagina itself. That’s a sign that it’s staged.

Céline Remy 11:20
So let’s say you really in gorged and you’ve been stimulated and those glands the Skenes glands are really like in gorged, then they’ll release into the bladder. And once it’s there, it has two things that can happen. Number one, it’s expulsed, it goes through the urethra, you experience what’s called female ejaculation. Number two, you keep it in the bladder. And then suddenly, after lovemaking, you have an urge to go pee.

Céline Remy 11:49
And if you look at it, often it’s not going to be as yellow as if it was just urine because it’s fields with this alkaline liquid and PSA and it has way different thing than what’s Uranus made off. That’s so that’s another way that you can know if you’re one of those women that always feels like she has to pee after lovemaking. It is like I’m pulling, I have to go release something and pee. Most likely, you are have just trained your body to clamp and keep it into the bladder and not ejaculate, and then you have to release it at some point. Yeah, fascinating.

Kevin Anthony 12:26
Okay, so let’s talk about that a little bit. We’ve already sort of dispelling the myth that these things don’t exist, right? So we know that they do. And then the question is, okay, so they exist. How does a woman do you? Like, how do you experience it? How do you access it? How do you allow it to come? And how do you female ejaculate and not pee? Like, how does all that work from a female perspective?

Céline Remy 12:55
Funny you ask Kevin, I have some stories to tell again. So and also, we were talking about this subject yesterday with some friends at the beach. And so I’m sharing some that is, from my personal experience, and also from other women that were with us and told us about their experiences. So what’s really crazy about female ejaculation is that it can be experienced with or without an orgasm. Okay? So you don’t have to be fully having orgasms to ejaculate. They don’t always go together, just like with male, orgasm, and ejaculation.

Kevin Anthony 13:37
They’re just separate things. There

Céline Remy 13:38
They are two separate things. But we’ll talk about this in another episode. And the very first experience that I was aware of female ejaculation actually happened in a totally non-sexual setting as I was walking down the street, and I experienced a moment of tremendous connection with everything. I remember looking up the sky, and just, I don’t know, feeling a rush of love and gratitude. I mean, I’m, I know, I sound a little bit horrible here. And then all of a sudden, it kind of felt it like from my hair and going down. I basically had this gush of liquid down my legs.

Céline Remy 14:18
I was like, What just happened? Did I just peel myself or like what happens? And so I was on my way to the train station to catch a train. And I’m in Switzerland there and we have those fancy trains with nice bathrooms I went in, and then I was like, Oh, my God, how embarrassing. Did I just be on myself? So here I am smelling my underwear, like observing everything, and I’m like, it really doesn’t smell like pee, I have no clue what happened. So then I go back to sit in, and just like cross my legs, I pray that nobody’s looking at that, and then go home and get changed.

And I kind of forget that that whole experience. Fast forward about three or four years after that.  I am at a friend’s house and we are watching female ejaculation movie by Deborah Sundahl, which I absolutely recommend, by the way, it’s a little old now, but it’s still very pertinent information.

Céline Remy 15:09
And as I’m watching this, I’m like, Oh, my God, this is amazing. I want to do this. So I’m just like, totally excited, I go home. I decided to self-pleasure and do a combination of using external stimulation on my clitoris. Using internal stimulation using my wand. Later, I also used my jade egg, so that it had stimulation on the whole urethral sponge.

As I am doing this, and experimenting with breathing the energy up my spine and moving. So I’m doing all these different techniques that I’ve learned that I do still teach and do. And then it just happens in gosh is out of myself. And I was able to make it happened.

Céline Remy 15:53
From what I what I experienced, it’s like once you have it happen. And that was a conscious decision that I did this on my own, I found that switch that on switch on-off switch. And that’s really what are our friends were talking about, once you feel that it’s really that simple. It’s finding how to flip that switch. And then it’s easy.

Kevin Anthony 16:15
Yeah, so it’s like a new capability of your body that you just realized you could do. But what’s interesting is when we talked to different women about it, they’ve often had different triggers for what allowed them to be able to access it.

Céline Remy 16:31
The key from my personal experience was to have different stimulation. So multiple erogenous zones at once, the clit, the inside using breathing moving energy, so not just making it about getting an orgasm, but like how can I gorge myself and feel more sexual and then you need to have somewhat strong muscles because they need that your pelvic floor muscles will expose the as ejaculate. But the key for me was really in the relaxation and in the surrendering another woman and what she said was it was giving herself permission to let go.

Céline Remy 17:12
And to, to go beyond what you know, because it’s easy to go for a clitoral orgasm all for that sensation that you know, and then you like you can feel that if you do something different, there’s something bigger, there’s something scary that you might not know. And so you’re like, well, I’m going to stop it. I’m not going to, to surrender into it. And so once she learned that it was okay and that she let go. So I call this surrendering and relaxing. She called it more letting go and, and embracing that unknown that that happened for her.

Kevin Anthony 17:47
And what was interesting about that case is that she was having difficulty orgasm prior to that, and what she realized was that she had always had had this sort of urge a desire to female ejaculate. But in her attempt to sort of shut that down, she was actually also shutting down her orgasm. She was holding back, she was holding it all back. She was like stuffing it all back inside. And when she finally gave herself permission to you know, just let it all go. And not only did she female ejaculate, but she also started orgasm in regular.

Céline Remy 18:25
Yes, because female orgasms are messy. They while they’re passionate. They’re crazy. It’s not so much like what you see in porn and what you think we women have the potential to tap into sets, powerful realms, and if we give ourselves permission to let this wild side be totally expressed, it’s like, you can’t contain it anymore. But it’s the beauty of it.

Kevin Anthony 18:52
So there can be a lot of different ways to access the ability to female ejaculate. Hmm. We’ve talked about a few of them. Obviously, there are many more paths that women take to finding their G spot and finding their ejaculation. But from the male perspective, like what are some things that men can do to help facilitate this? Like how can we get in there and in support that either helps them relax, do it technique, like,

Céline Remy 19:25
the very first thing is to be curious about it, but not be so focused on it. So having a conversation with your partner, like I’m like, I’m curious if you can do this, I want to support you with that. But don’t pressure her to perform as a guy, you know what it’s like to be pressured into performing, and it never works well. So it’s the same in reverse here like we can’t make this about, you have to ejaculate, this has to happen, okay. And then you want to have patience.

Céline Remy 19:58
Because for me, most women, it can take up to 40 minutes to reach real engorgement, like full engorgement. So this is not a quick, let me finger you and think that it will happen. Okay, like it’s like it has a space holding it has a patient’s to it.

Kevin Anthony 20:19
And if you remember from one of our previous episodes, what women really want and Ben, remember, she already wants you to slow down. So just slow down, just go slow, don’t have an agenda,

Céline Remy 20:36
then you want to include the G spot stimulation. And sometimes there’s a whole technique in having free erogenous zones were with your fingers, you can stimulate the colorist, the inside of like the G spot, and even the anus. And it takes some practice and dexterity. So maybe start with two, start with one and have her stimulate her own interests. And sometimes it’s hard for us as women to stimulate our G spot because of the angle. So if you were to focus on one thing as a focus on the G spot, your referral spawn stimulation.

Kevin Anthony 21:16
So this was a debate that Celine and I are having just before coming on the air here and recording this show, because I was of the opinion that there’s no like magic technique that you can do as a guy, that if you just do A, B, C, D, and E in that order, and you perfected the triple finger tickle move, that all of a sudden she’s going to start ejaculating all over the place. And

Céline Remy 21:46
it’s not an exact science. So I agree with you on that. And if you have a stimulation of the euro for all Spanish and it stimulated properly, if you usually have resolved, however, what’s more important is not so much your technique, it’s your ability to create a container for her and to hold space, a place where she can be not pressured to have to reach any destination, a place where she is welcomed to be all that she is, in all her messy Glory, glory, and a place where she feels safe, safe to let go. Safe to relax, soft, safe to just be fully in her orgasmic response.

Kevin Anthony 22:37
Yeah, and so you know, in the Tantra world, there are people who teach like, here’s the technique, like, here’s how you do it, here’s how you do G spot release work. And here’s what will happen. And they often something often makes it sound like if, again, if you just do steps a through, you know, he, boom, there’s a magic result that happens. But as the story of our friend who we had a conversation with said, it wasn’t until she gave herself permission, that it actually happened.

So while as a guy, there are techniques that you can learn and that you can do to support her in this. But if she’s not going to allow herself to do it, if she’s not going to relax into it, then it’s probably not going yeah,

Céline Remy 23:24
so I always say that orgasms are not like flowers and chocolates, it’s not something that you just give to somebody. an orgasm is something you allow yourself to experience. So no matter how, how much somebody is doing things to you, if you do not leave giving yourself permission to let go and get into that. It’s not happening. Okay, so it is an inside job.

Kevin Anthony 23:44
Exactly. And having said that, our other friend that we were speaking with this weekend, talked about how in her first experience with female ejaculation, she was able to access it because the man she was with the time did some techniques with her that she had never experienced,

Céline Remy 24:02
got pulled out of her like that was that the kind of free spots digit combination that really made it happen. So one of the things that you can really do as a man and I want to add that one that is really important is that you know, massage because no matter how much you are going to stimulate her your urethral sponge if her vagina is holding so much tension and trauma. It’s or it could be numb or like like a shield like it’s not really like it’s just she doesn’t feel it doesn’t matter what you’re doing. If there’s all of that’s being held, it’s going to be in the way of her pleasure.

Céline Remy 24:44
So you need to to help her to release the trauma, the tension that is being present within her tissues. So maybe just by helping to bring life back into her pussy is the number one step really.

Kevin Anthony 24:59
Yeah, that’s, that’s, that’s a great place to start. So there you have it, folks.

Céline Remy 25:06
Well, I’m curious too about what’s your experience as a man like to experience to be with a woman who female ejaculate?

Kevin Anthony 25:17
That’s a great question. I’m glad you threw that in here. I guess we’re nearing the end of our episode. Because, you know, obviously, there’s a whole genre of porn called squirting, right. So there’s a ton of people who are into this thing, whether it’s real or not real as far as how they do it in the movies. But I would say that a lot of guys who’ve never experienced it before might have in their heads a certain idea or concept of what it’s actually like. And the reality might be a little bit different.

Céline Remy 25:51
I want to show something here in terms of what it looks like. Sometimes it can be a little droplets. And sometimes it could be like, glasses, cups gun,

Kevin Anthony 26:00
it’s the great flood Yes. I, I have had multiple lovers throughout my life that we’re able to access their female ejaculation. One, in particular, she would always show up to my house with her own kit for how to like handle the ridiculous amounts of liquid that would come out, she was actually a little bit embarrassed by it. I didn’t have a problem with it at all. in most respects, it was a turn on.

But for her, it was pretty much a short thing every time we made love. And it was a large amount of liquid. And I have to admit that at some times, I was like not so much in the mood for the gigantic flood.

Kevin Anthony 26:51
But other than that, really it was totally fine. And since then I’ve had other lovers. And that was not maybe not quite as much value and it was totally fine. For instance, with you and I. Sometimes you ejaculate sometimes you don’t sometimes it’s really big. Sometimes it’s just a little bit. And in our relationship, I actually find it to be quite a turn on. whenever that happens. I’m like oh yeah, really working? Yes,

Céline Remy 27:20
I’ve actually mastered the art of it, where I can choose when and if to ejaculate. This is the beauty of it as a woman where you can reach that stage with your body because it’s your choice, you can do it if you want or not. That’s where you know, sometimes it’s just not convenient. Sometimes you don’t want to just have to do the extra steps which will tell you like what to do and how to prepare and just a few seconds. And sometimes you want to be able to fully experience it and let go. So I love to be able to pick and choose.

Kevin Anthony 27:52
That’s sort of the mastery level of it right? When you’re going to get to choose when just like with a guy when you’ve reached the level where you can choose whether or not you ejaculate. That’s sort of a mastery level technique. Because honestly, there are times where it’s just really not convenient to either male or female. So if you can decide, okay, in this moment, no, this is not going to happen now. That’s great.

Céline Remy 28:17
Awesome. So we want to leave you with a few things on how to prepare for female ejaculation. Because honestly, that’s you need to have a little bit of preparation. Well,

Kevin Anthony 28:27
I know it’s kind of my fault. Like, guys, if you’re really into this, but you haven’t really experienced it yet. I give that word of caution of Be careful what you ask for. Make sure that you prepare properly.

Céline Remy 28:41
Yeah, so prepare the bed. We like to use something like a sheet saver pad. And you can find those different companies. There’s a company called Venus matters that has really nice beautiful high-end organic cotton pads that are displayed signs for when sex gets messy. And there’s also lots of other places that you can find online where you could get like bedsheets, the same thing as you use for babies, or for older people that basically have bladder issues and can’t hold it through the night.

Céline Remy 29:21
And I like to use those more than disposable because I get to wash them, it’s more eco-friendly. And they feel better. They’re not like you know the disposable ones. I mean, they work really well. You could basically get the other ones if you have pets and you training your pet to not pee inside and you put those pads and like big giant squares. That’s what you can get for yourself as well.

Kevin Anthony 29:43
Yeah, not that’s what one of my past celebrities, but they’re little crunchy, crunchy. Yeah, so

Céline Remy 29:48
They are practical if you are just, I don’t know you’re traveling, you don’t have access to a washing machine, you just take three or four with you and you’re done. But when you’re home, like it’s nice to have the nice ones and you just watch them. Usually, it’s better if you have more than one because then you can rotate and because you don’t have to just like wash right away, but prepare the bed. that’s essential.

Kevin Anthony 30:08
And if at this point in the show, you’re still thinking that we’re full of shit, you realize there’s a whole industry around making products to support this.

Céline Remy 30:19
You want to you know, you want to have that you want to have ways to stimulate the referral spawn Weber with a want. There are G spot ones that are specifically curved and pointing up so that a woman can self-pleasure easily and reach those areas. Or that a man could use on her. You could use your own penis in especially if you point upward. Or you could use your fingers or you could use the toy on her as well.

Kevin Anthony 30:48
Lots of different ways to stimulate.

Céline Remy 30:50
So the bottom line is yes, G spot and female ejaculation are real. And now you need to go experiment. Haven’t found them yet. Go for them.

Kevin Anthony 31:04
All right. No more needs to be said. Go practice now. We will see you in the next episode. We hope you liked this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoyed this show, leave a comment and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 31:24
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Kevin Anthony 31:41
Thanks for listening.

Céline Remy 31:42
And remember, you’re amazing.