Last Updated on August 31, 2020

Having a good relationship is a start, but having a great relationship is everything.

I believe the purpose of a relationship is to become the best version of ourselves. Even if we do not have that intention, growing your relationship skills will make you a better person, for all the goals you hold dear.

For those reasons, the greatest approach to life is supporting each other in who we are becoming, so that together we are making a difference in the lives we touch and how we show up in the world.

Because you see, who we are becoming each day is based on the decisions that we are making and the actions we are taking daily.

It is our responsibility to make our relationships the way we want them to be. Are you showing up every day as your best self in your relationship?

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6 TIPS TO BETTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP

1. Make your relationship a priority.

Put your relationship first, prioritize each other. These are the keys to achieving the level of success and fulfillment you seek. Relationships are like plants. You know, for example, that when you get a house plant, you will need to place it in the proper environment, then water it regularly and fertilize it from time to time.

If you do these things, it will blossom and bloom, if you don’t, it will just die.

Your relationship is no different. You must create the proper environment, feed it regularly and now and then add a little special something to make it thrive.

Choose love above everything else and make your relationship the highest priority.

2. Ditch the criticisms.

When all we share is blame, shame, and criticism, we are creating deeper grooves on the path to unhappiness, and our relationship will not serve its higher purpose for growth.

What is the purpose of you sharing your criticism with your partner? Is it to bring the other person down, to prove that you are right, or is it bringing you closer? Before sharing, decide if it’s worth it.

So, build each other up.

3. Focus on what you already have.

Remember what you appreciate about your partner. Share daily gratitude. Speak your partner’s love language every day. Are you celebrating each other’s virtues and achievements?

My favorite game is the appreciation game. Each person shares with the other three things they love about them. This game is the best way to feel seen, loved, and heard, so give it a try.

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4. Keep it sexy.

Bring some sensuality back. Do you remember when you first started dating? You couldn’t wait to shower together, and you had so much fun soaping each other’s down while touching and massaging each other’s bodies.

Now, are you still doing that?

And if you are doing it, are you still doing it the same enthusiasm. So maybe it’s a shower, perhaps it’s taking a bath with candles. Find ways to be naked together in a sexy way. Do the things you did the first year you were dating.

Make sex dates, where the rule is to be naked with each other and touch with no-agenda. You never know where it will lead.

5. Ask for what you want.

You can’t expect your partner to be a Jedi mind reader. To get what you want – you need to ask for it whether it is in the bedroom or life.

Tell each other what you need, what you love, and what makes you shiver with excitement.

6. Work out together.

Exercising releases endorphins in your body; they are the body’s natural “feel-good” chemicals. When you move together, you release stress, and you shape a sexy body. Shall I mention that it also primes your body for sex and increase your endurance?

7. Do something new and experience activities together.

Often our creativity and sexual energy are closely tied together. When you explore something new and different, it fires new areas in your brain, and when you do it with your partner, it makes you bond and shares a special moment. Whether it’s a painting class, dance lessons, cooking, or martial art, anything can fuel your sexual energy.

Even the best relationship can use new ways to connect. You are now armed with new ways to take your relationship from good to great, no more excuses.