Last Updated on August 31, 2020

When it comes to penis size and whether it matters, you’ll hear all kinds of opinions. Everyone has different answers to this one, so it must be frustrating when you want to know the truth. Well, here it is. To answer this question, we need to look at different factors, because it isn’t a straight yes or no answer.

The fear of being small is so widespread that it can’t be ignored. For most men, just thinking about the size of their cock brings them anxiety, while for others their cock is a source of pride.

Unfortunately, our society is putting so much pressure on a man’s penis size and performance, and expectations of what a “perfect” penis should look like, that most men feel inadequate, no matter how large or how well you perform. 

Penises come in all sizes and shapes, so no matter what, let’s celebrate the diversity and embrace your uniqueness.

Remember this: The size of your penis does not change the amount of pleasure you can experience. And the purpose of sex is CONNECTION. 

SO DOES ONE SIZE FIT ALL?

You can’t be everything to everyone. Especially because every woman is unique, just like every man. Some women have more profound openings and enjoy a long cock. Other women feel pain with a bigger cock and enjoy a shorter one a lot more.

Some women do like a big cock. They know it, they crave it, and they believe that’s all that will satisfy them. Others like a smaller penis, because it fits them better, giving them more pleasure and less pain.

If you’ve been turned down by a woman because of your size, remember this… For every woman who prefers a larger cock, there’s one who prefers a smaller one and anything in between. So don’t take it personally and keep looking.

No matter how “hot” and desirable a woman might seem to you, the heat will fade if the match is not there for longterm sexual compatibility. Seek that, be patient, and you will find the pussy that fits you, as well as the woman that fills your heart with joy. 

So what does all that mean? It means that genital compatibility matters more than size. You have to find the right fit for you, literally. 

LISTEN TO EPISODE 29 OF THE LOVE LAB PODCAST: DOES SIZE MATTER AND OTHER PENIS RELATED IDEAS

THINGS THAT DO MATTER

There’s more to your penis than just its length.

When we fixate solely on the length, we sometimes forget other factors to take into consideration.

1.  The thickness of your dick.
2. The softness of your penile skin.
3. The amount of pubic hair.
4. The texture of the hair.
5. The general appearance of your penis all together including your balls — are all factors of desirability. 

The good news is that you have control over some of those.

For example, you can trim, shave, or wax your pubic hair, depending on what your partner might like the best. When you trim the front yard, suddenly your penis stands out and looks much more substantial.

The skin on your penis loves to be fed, so applying coconut oil, vitamin E, or cocoa butter will leave your skin softer and smoother.

The smell is another critical factor. It can such a major turn-on as well as a massive turn-off. Taking a daily shower with warm water and a mild cleanser that you lather up will keep you fresh. 

Your penis is part of you, so love it, love yourself, and be proud, because there’s only one of you. Plus when you treat yourself nicely, your body shows up for you. 

SEXUAL SATISFACTION

In addition to all of that, you can also learn to be skilled at satisfying a woman in many different ways. Learning to use your penis with greater dexterity is one of the best skills you can cultivate. Experiment with things like tempo awareness, alternating between shallow and deep strokes or using circular motions rather than just thrusting in and out. 

READ THIS: HOW TO USE YOUR PENIS PROPERLY 

It’s about learning to work with what you’ve got, and that will set you apart. 

Also, instead of being fixated on your penis size, use your energy to develop other intimacy skills, from your ability to create an emotional connection with your partner to your ability to use all of your body to satisfy her (including your lips, tongue, hands, and fingers, for starters).

Having a big penis is not a prerequisite for great sex. And having a smaller one does not determine the amount of pleasure you or your partner can experience either.

SCIENCE TO BACK IT UP

A study published by the Journal of Sexual Medicine revealed that women find general cosmetic appearance the most crucial aspect in terms of a good looking penis, while shape and size are less important. The penile length was only rated as the sixth most important aspect, while girth was rated third and surprisingly pubic hair was rated second. 

My advice… Measure yourself by the size of your heart, and the depth of your connection, rather than the size of your cock.