Last Updated on August 31, 2020

These nine tips will help you instantly improve your relationship. Sometimes we get too caught up in the day-to-day life and forget what truly matters. By making these actions a priority, you will soon experience more connection and fulfillment.

1. Share Your Appreciation.

Take 3 minutes today to think of something you genuinely appreciate about your partner. Then ask for a moment to share something important. If this is a new practice for you, make sure she/he knows it’s a good thing, or she/he might be afraid of “the talk.”

Sit down with your partner, take their hand, look her their eyes, and share your feeling about something you appreciate about them.

There are real art and science to effective appreciation. Examples are:

  • How proud you are of their achievements at home, office, or hobbies.
  • That it warms your heart to see the love in their eyes every morning when you wake up.
  • How it charms you when she bounces through the room singing with joy.
  • That it fills you with inspiration when she jumps up to hug you when you come home.
  • How much you love the freedom he gives you to be yourself in this relationship.

Don’t wait for your partner to offer you something after you share. Don’t expect anything in return. It might even be useful to express that you do not need anything in return.

The idea here is about you giving to your beloved. And in that giving, they will know you have seen them and know their value, and that is enough. Your gift is the improved connection over time, and nothing else is on your agenda.

Tip: “You’re great!” does not cut it as an appreciation that helps a relationship. Make it something meaningful, observant, and something you have not said often. Make it something that they feel strongly about, and rarely gets an appreciation for.

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2. Listen To Understand.

The next time your beloved is feeling scared, small, or limited. JUST LISTEN, and share what you heard them say, in your own words.

Giving your man a safe space to be vulnerable, where he doesn’t always need to perform and be on top of his game is essential.

Providing your woman a place to be heard, without trying to fix her is a game changer.

This one is critical for men to get. When you listen, without trying to fix her – or the things that affect her – she will know you care about her feelings. Feelings are more critical than fixings. Feelings should come first since anyone’s greatest need is to be heard and understood.

Once you have communicated that you have listened to her, and she knows that you understand her feelings, THEN you can jointly move toward solutions and fixing the situation, IF she wants that. Sometimes, she will not even need you to fix anything at all, and the whole mood and problem will dissipate, just by sharing and knowing you have listened.

Creating an emotional connection is one of the most crucial steps to improve your relationship.

3. Give Support.

When your partner has a rough day ahead, think of something, they need to make the day less stressful. Examples can be something as simple as offering to make lunch or bring takeout, or hiring help, or cleaning around the house before company comes over.

The idea here is about being a team player and work as one unit.

4. Dream Together And Take Action.

Take time to dream together about your future. What countries do you want to visit? How about hobbies you always wanted to pursue? Have you always wanted to play a musical instrument?

Then, take action to help your partner achieve those dreams. Hire a voice teacher if he wants to learn to sing. Buy (or make her) a belly dance costume if she intends to belly dance. In other words, find out their dreams and take action to move forward. Growth and progress toward your goals are sexy!

5. Follow Your Bliss.

Be honest with yourself, discover what brings you bliss, and pursue it.  When you do what you love, you get fired up and passionate about life. And the effect is that your passion and energy flow back into your relationship. It increases your polarity when you are in your power, and it keeps your sex drive high.

So pick a passion, any passion, and follow it. Get good at it. Make it a habit to be in your bliss. HINT: Bliss is VERY attractive.

6. Don’t Be Nice. Be Real, Nicely.

Being nice can be a huge mistake when being authentic would mean saying or doing something different. When you get the choice between being kind and avoid all conflict or being real and make some waves, then always choose what is true to your heart.

Say what you feel, mean it, and be sure it is important to you. And, do it nicely, meaning do it with compassion.

When you are feeling unsure about something, dig deeper into your reasons, and act authentically, with kindness and understanding about the needs and wants of your partner.

7.  Share Adventures.

Be daring and find new things to do each week. Find new restaurants, new places to hike, new people to meet, new hobbies to do together, fresh foods to make, new businesses to create, and even new sex positions (and don’t make that the first and only new thing you try!).

Shared adventures are a powerful way to increase polarity, connection, and intimacy — all of which increase your attraction and enjoyment of life together.

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8. Talk About Sex.

Make time to talk about your sex life together. Far too often, couples avoid talking about sex, and all the details, emotions, and feelings around it.

Talk about what works. Discuss what doesn’t work for you, with kindness and compassion. Ask questions about what your partner wants. Answer their questions. Consider their suggestions and requests. Be open-minded. The more you can open the topic of sexuality and make it a regular, beautiful act of love, the more sex and better sex you are likely to enjoy together.

9. Random Acts of Love.

Every day, offer at least one expression of love, in their love language.

Little things can make a huge difference in your connection. The more reminders your partner hears about your love, consideration, support, and appreciation, the more they will feel confident in the relationship and be willing to make a mutual investment in something this good.

  • Make your partner their favorite meal.
  • Put a romantic card or note under their pillow to discover at night.
  • Get her favorite movie, even if it’s a romantic girlie flick, and watch it with her, no matter whether it’s your favorite or not.
  • Bring home some potted African daisies, and plant them out front or bring flowers back.

The ideas are endless, and a lot of great ideas will only take 3 minutes. There is no excuse.

KEEP GROWING

There are dozens of fundamental, crucial principals for achieving one or more fulfilling relationships in your life. These are nine good starters to improve your relationship. And make sure you are creating a foundation of mutual appreciation, respect, and support.

Couples who grow together, stay together.