Last Updated on August 31, 2020

Most people think that struggles, drama, and pain are essential for our growth. I believe that we grow faster from pleasure than we do from pain. It is time we change that old paradigm that suffering is necessary.

Experiencing the joy of life and activating our pleasure is part of our purpose. It brings us closer and improves the quality and vibrancy of all of our relationships.

Being deeper in our bliss and happiness gives us the energy to pursue our passions.

Bliss is contagious, passion is attractive, and confidence is radiant. We tend to compartmentalize the different aspects of our life, but in reality, they are all interconnected. Pleasure not only is felt in the moment. It can also be used to fuel our wealth, health, success, happiness, and relationship.

LISTEN TO EPISODE 31 OF THE LOVE LAB PODCAST: THE PLEASURE PRINCIPLE WITH AMY WATERMAN

THE PURSUIT OF PLEASURE

Often we look outside ourselves to feel good. In search of bliss, we fill ourselves up with comfort food, information, meaningless activities, or relationships. Even after spending the entire day in pursuit of these things, we only end up tired, sad, and lonely.

The pleasure from comfort factors is short-lived, leaving us hollow and hungry for more. Those default habits, the things we reach for when we are missing the bliss we want, only provide us comfort, numbness, and distraction from our pain, and they add no presence or consciousness. They are not bringing true bliss, which can only come from the quiet pulsing of our passionate goals.

Often our emotions, beliefs, and stress crystallize in our bodies, creating a sense of heaviness, tension, and suffering.

We repeat unhealthy patterns even though they don’t bring us what we want: PLEASURE.

Our habitual thoughts and behaviors create specific neural pathways in the wiring of our brain. The more we act and think repetitively, the stronger the neural pathways become, just like a stream with constant water supply will turn into a river. The more you think and act in one way, the harder it is to think and act in a new way.

Research on the brain shows that when you make the necessary changes, to think, feel and act differently, your brain changes and rewires itself, creating new pathways, defaults, and habits. It just takes repetition of the new pattern, over and over. Then the new habit becomes just an ingrained as the old one it replaced.

By realigning your center, re-igniting your passion, and making small changes over time, you can break through the limitations preventing you from truly experiencing supportive love and pleasure.

TRUE FULFILLMENT

If we don’t feel there’s enough pleasure in our lives, it’s because we’re not looking.

Pleasure is more than just physical. It can be emotional, sensual, even spiritual.

You need to understand pleasure as an “internal switch” that you can turn on at will. Anything can become pleasurable when you chose to.

The key is to slow down and pay attention. When you are immersed in the experience, it becomes deeply satisfying.

According to Dr. Christiane Northrup, ” Pleasure is an essential nutrient that you need, each and every day, to become and remain healthy.”

When we embrace pleasure, it boosts our production of nitric oxide. Nitric oxide is a neurotransmitter that is essential for the regulation of blood flow and blood pressure. Sounds familiar? Drugs like Viagra are designed to do just that.

The higher your levels of nitric oxide, the better you feel and the healthier you become – all you need is pleasure.

READ THIS: 3 WAYS TO EXPERIENCE MORE  PLEASURE IN YOUR LIFE

The first element to manifesting and experiencing fulfilling and satisfying relationships — is to start with you. Create real bliss in your life. And when people see you, they cannot resist what they see. There is nothing more attractive than the radiant charm of a blissful, confident person.

Being sexual, whole, healthy, alive, empowered, fulfilled, and ecstatic is our true nature. So embrace it fully.