When And How To Talk To Your Partner About Sex

Céline Remy 0:11
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you are a man, woman, single or couple, this is the show for you. Because well, sex matters. We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and Céline Remy.

Kevin Anthony 0:28
All right. Welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 59. It’s a younger sibling of 69.

Céline Remy 0:39
Are you really going there, Kevin?

Kevin Anthony 0:43
It is titled, when and how to talk to your partner about sex,

Céline Remy 0:48
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Céline Remy 1:15
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Kevin Anthony 1:30
Alright, so. So we say very often in this show that we like to talk about topics that were inspired about in the moment because something happened in life or whatever. So we had dinner with friends recently, and this topic came up about when and how to talk to your partner about sex. We are inspired once again, by real life. And we decided that this is a topic actually that comes up quite a lot.

Kevin Anthony 2:00
Therefore we should really cover it in a show. There are topics that come up all the time in conversations with friends, they’re not necessarily all show-worthy, but this one definitely showed worthy.

Céline Remy 2:10
So we decided that we were going to break it down into really three parts. For those who are just dating, and they haven’t had yet sex, like, how do you talk about sex? We’ll look at that. And what do you say and all of that, then we’re going to look at Well, how to talk about sex when you’ve been in a relationship for a while, and maybe you want something different?

Céline Remy 2:31
That’s when it becomes a little tricky. And then third, we will look at you been in a relationship for a long time, and sex is more something of the past. And you’re ready to bring this back on track. So yes, there are some similarities across all three scenarios. And there are also particular strategies that apply with each one of these.

Kevin Anthony 2:56
Yes. So let’s start at the beginning. All right. You just started dating and you haven’t had sex yet?

Céline Remy 3:03
Oh, how exciting. You remember dating and you’re like, Oh, my, maybe it had been months since you had had sex. You were so excited because you were gonna finally get some.

Kevin Anthony 3:14
Yes, I do remember that. I also remember that back in those days, you were just happy to have sex You didn’t even think about maybe I should have a whole conversation first.

Céline Remy 3:25
One. And that’s funny you say that because I always had sex conversation. Because from a woman’s perspective, I always took full responsibility for the outcome of sex. And whenever you have sex, there is a possibility of pregnancy, there is a possibility of st eyes or anything like that.

Céline Remy 3:45
And because I invite somebody inside my body, I want to be very proactive about having the conversations that need to happen, so that I avoid scenarios that I don’t want.

Kevin Anthony 3:55
That is excellent advice.

Céline Remy 4:00
Know that it was a little awkward when I was you know, so I’ve never been on the pill. So I’ve always used condoms. And I’ve always tracked my cycle,  that’s how I know. So it works very well, when you are in a committed relationship, you’re taking your temperature, you’re tracking your cycle. I mean, this is something that maybe I hope someday we’ll do a full episode on that. But this is not we will this is like this is science-backed.

Céline Remy 4:24
And based on this, a lot of if you do it properly, you look for three, different signs it’s very solid. But the thing is, when you are not in a committed relationship, it’s a little bit more difficult to introduce that subject and to, you know, have the trust that comes with that and all this. So using condoms becomes really essential. But because it has always been what I’ve used, it’s a conversation I had to have. And in you know, when you like I only started I was a late bloomer.

Céline Remy 4:52
So I started having sex when I was 18. Like literally, two weeks before I turned 18. So I can say I was 18. And you know what it is like when you’re 18. You’re like awkward. And then you’re like, well, let’s talk about pregnancy, or what happens if there’s penetration? How do we deal with a condom that breaks? What are the steps because I truly believe that if you know ahead of time how to handle something that goes wrong, it makes it much easier to deal with it, because then you’re not stuck in the emotional of it of like, Oh, my God, oh, this happened. It’s like, Okay, what are our steps, we have the plan, and we’ll follow it.

Kevin Anthony 5:28
Well, it also reduces the chances that something like that will happen, right? Because what most people do, is they just kind of wing it. And they’re just like, I can’t wait to have sex. And then in the moment when it happens to her look her in the eye and go, should I use a condom? You know, on the pill,

Céline Remy 5:45
right?

Kevin Anthony 5:46
Yeah, or something like that. And then they’ll just go for it and wing it. And maybe it turns out good. Maybe it’s a disaster. Who knows. But that’s kind of how most people approach it. So what we suggest is something actually a bit different than that, which is that you need to have these conversations right from the beginning.

Kevin Anthony 6:05
Now, one of the things that we were talking about when prepping for this show, though, is like, okay, let’s say that you just met somebody, you’re going out on the first day, you’re sitting there at the restaurant having dinner, do you immediately want to go? So um, what kind of sex do you like? Like, is Angel in your repertoire is like

Céline Remy 6:31
vanilla.

Kevin Anthony 6:34
That may or may not be the most appropriate time to have that conversation. But you should at some point, like, you know, I think that as you’re going through that process, and you’re getting to know each other, there’s a certain point in time when you kind of make up your mind that okay, this has the potential for sex.

Kevin Anthony 6:55
Now, you know, they always say with women, right, as a woman knows in the first five minutes, whether it’s, you’re yes or no to having sex and everything you do as a man they’re after, is either helping that or, or hurting that chat. Right? So I don’t know if what you think about that. I know, I’ve heard that said many times,

Céline Remy 7:15
it’s probably to end it depends really, again, off the woman. But it’s true that we tend to know right away that this is a potential, this is somebody I would be open to having sex with. And then we start to like, look for signs or compatibility or for like, What is he doing is he like, you know, because you might be open to having sex with somebody, but then they do lots of stupid things then is it really worth it?

Céline Remy 7:38
If you’re just really horny, which has happened to me in the past, I was like, I don’t care, I’m just gonna have sex. And that worked out very badly, but good. You know, like, I mean, I knew I was going to not be good sex, but I just wanted to get laid, and it worked out.

Kevin Anthony 7:50
Well. So there you go, guys, which is that? If you knew each other already, and she agrees to go out on a date with you, she pretty much already has decided that she will have sex with you. And everything that you do from that moment on is either helping that or potentially destroying your chances. big responsibility, a big responsibility. But so anyway, the point is, is that at some point, as you realize that that’s getting close, you need to have that conversation. Now, you don’t necessarily need to jump in right away into the nitty-gritty of it. But you know, you could maybe just start to talk about it, at least,

Céline Remy 8:32
some of the things that are nice are like, if we were to have sex, like making it more as a potential possibility, you know, what would that mean to you? Like, does it mean we like, exclusive?

Kevin Anthony 8:47
This is a great question. So we’ve talked in previous episodes about the elevator speech, you know, and, and all the things like, what is your testing history by? Yes, we’ll cover some more of that in this episode, too. But, but what I love about what you just brought up is something that’s been added very recently, at least in our own community, in these conversations, is that very question of, if we have sex, what does it mean to you?

Kevin Anthony 9:12
And what’s interesting is even in a community full of like, really sex-positive people, this question, really got people to stop for a minute, and think about it and go, Oh, I never thought about it that way.

Céline Remy 9:29
Absolutely. And then you can make a decision, you know, sometimes you’re in a phase in your life where all you want is being able to explore sexuality, sexual expression, just want to be able to have no strings attached, and have as many flavors of everything as you can. And then there are other times where you really looking to settle with somebody or explore going depth and have had a potential long term committed, like a life partner.

Céline Remy 9:55
And you approach these two relationships very differently. In effect, what really matters is to know what you want to have clarity, and to take responsibility. So wherever your man or your woman, what are you looking for, and being very honest with it, and here’s the thing if the other person is looking for a very committed relationship, and that’s not what you want in this life, but at this time, you need to be upfront about it.

Céline Remy 10:22
And you need to gauge whether or not this is really something you want to explore or not, because there are so many people right now living on this earth, that it’s really easy to find a match to what you want. So don’t settle for something that’s not really what you want.

Kevin Anthony 10:40
Yes, one of the things we always say is that there’s somebody out there for everyone, there really is. And we’ve seen some really odd, unique people who you think, wow, I mean, they’re one of a kind, and yet they found a second.

Céline Remy 10:56
So you had a fun story that you are going to share with our listeners here to illustrate a little bit about what not to do and how we do that. Oh, yeah, that chick grabbed his day.

Kevin Anthony 11:09
That’s right. The chick who grabbed his dick. So I have a friend, and he’s younger than I am. He’s very much in the dating scene. And so we talk all the time about his dating life. He gives me updates a lot. So he was dating this new woman. It seemed like they had some pretty decent compatibility, there was definitely some attraction there. Every time that they would hang out, they would talk, they would do dinner, they would do everything, but anything sexual, right. Then usually about the time when he was realizing it was getting kind of late, and he should probably go home, she would suddenly, like, grab his dick, or give them a blowjob.

Kevin Anthony 11:59
So of course, it would have a conversation, I said, Well, you know, that’s kind of aside. It’s kind of a sign that she’s sitting there waiting for you to make a move, and you’re not doing it. So right before you leave, she decides to grab your dick. But that brought up another point, which as I said, Okay, it’s obvious now that she wants to have sex with you. So the question is, have you had a conversation about it? Like, okay, what does sex mean? What do we want to get out of this relationship? What kind of sex did we like? And of course, the answer was, well, no, we haven’t yet but next time, and then the next time. Hey, did you have that conversation yet? Well, no, but you know, and so that went on and on. Yeah. And on.

Kevin Anthony 12:51
So the point of this particular story is, OK, so maybe not over dinner, and when you on your very first date, but if you’re dating and you haven’t had sex yet, and it’s pretty obvious that this is going in the sex direction, you need to have that conversation, you can avoid that. Okay, it’s one o’clock in the morning, and I have a meeting, and I really have to go home, and then all of a sudden, she grabbed your dick. Right? If you had had that conversation, she might have grabbed your deck at like 9 pm. And you could have played with it. Yeah.

Céline Remy 13:27
So really, having clarity before you having sex, you can avoid so many very uncomfortable situations. And I think it shows maturity throws responsibility, it’s very sexy, to be able to talk about those things that are the wrong comfortable. So remember that and then remember that oftentimes, when you are entering a new relationship, there’s this excitement, but there’s also like, the bodies need to get used to one another.

Céline Remy 13:56
So don’t put so much pressure on yourself for like, oh are going to be able to perform in the bedroom. And because it always takes some time for people to have their bodies that that start to really like, connect in a deeper level. So maybe commit to having sex for more than one so that you don’t feel so the pressure to have an erection or maintain or last longer. Or maybe if you’re women, like don’t feel so the pressure that you have to be able to have an orgasm and have like mind-blowing sex.

So these are really good points to bring up first to remove pressure to remove performance anxiety, to approach a situation with curiosity. And you know, you like okay, what do you like?

Céline Remy 14:37
Who are you show me what did you like games like show and tell this is how I like to touch myself. And then you can show the person and then they can try it on you. You know, like things like that are really fun, think fun, think games because that’s going to help you to release this the pressure and the stress and creates connection and intimacy.

Kevin Anthony 14:59
Absolutely. And I would add to that to that if, if you’re in that stage of the relationship where you’re just getting to know each other, then there are definitely some basics that you have to cover in these conversations. So some of the basics are, do you want kids? Or not? How would you handle it? If you didn’t want kids, at least in that moment? And somebody was to become pregnant? Have you had ST eyes or STDs before? Do you get tested on a regular basis? Do you want to be monogamous in your sex life? Or poly in your sex life?

Céline Remy 15:36
What are your sexual preferences? What

Kevin Anthony 15:38
are your sexual preferences? mean? All of these things are important to know especially in the beginning, you definitely don’t want to end up down the road, where you start to get really invested in a relationship. And then you find out that the other person is all about going to be DSM clubs. And you’re like what? No, not my thing at all right? So so you have actually had a lot more questions you need to ask in the beginning, you’re getting to know somebody, and they’re getting to know you,

Céline Remy 16:08
You are vetting each other,  testing and seeing if there’s potential. So let’s say you pass the test, and this has happened. And now you are in a relationship. And it might have been you know, a few months, a couple of years, and you’re noticing that sex is good. You love each other. And there are a few things you want different. Mm-hmm.

Kevin Anthony 16:30
We have another good story for this one, too, because we were having dinner with some friends.

Céline Remy 16:35
Yes, thanks for the inspiration.

Kevin Anthony 16:40
And of course, you know, when you hang out with us, you know, two people who talk about sex for a living. Sex will most likely come up at some point in the evening.

Céline Remy 16:51
Oh, yeah, it’s not a successful evening. If we haven’t brought up anything sexual? Well, it’s

Kevin Anthony 16:55
definitely your favorite topic. Oh, it is we could talk about all kinds of things, current events, whatever things I bored, but the topic of sex comes up and she’s, she’s on it. So of course, we’re talking about sex. And one of the things that came up in that conversation was that, in this particular couple, as a man and a woman, when they’re done having sex, she likes to just kind of stay in the flow and the bliss of that post-sex, euphoria. So she doesn’t really want to talk a lot, she just wants to get pulled back into her head. Whereas he wants some feedback, like, how did that go? Did what I do work? And we did it feel good, and try to do the same thing next time? Do you want something different?

Kevin Anthony 17:43
And the interesting thing is about this situation is that I could completely identify with both of those. So on her part, she’s thinking that it took her so long to just get out of her head, you know, probably the first 22, who knows, maybe even 40 minutes, I don’t really know how long they have sex, but but probably the majority of the time of them having sex was just her trying to let go and get out of her head. So now here they are, sex is over. And there are all these questions and like forcing her to get in your head.

So I completely understand how she doesn’t want to go there. But then, on his end, I totally understand where he’s coming from too, because he’s a guy, right? And we’re guys like, we, we want to solve things and we want to fix things.

Kevin Anthony 18:27
And we want to make sure that we did a good job, right? So like, Okay, well there, did you like to triple twist such and such, you know, blah, blah, blah, like, like, we want feedback, like, okay, you know, especially if, guy, I don’t know that this is necessarily his case. But you know, if a guy’s a little bit unsure as to whether or not he’s really that good, or whether or not she really liked it, like, let’s say, from our sexual mastery course, where we teach all the signs and symptoms to look forward to seeing where woman’s at, let’s just say maybe they don’t possess the skills. And they’re unsure.

Kevin Anthony 19:03
So they want to know this stuff. But the problem is, is it was causing a conflict, right? Because she’s like, No, I don’t want to talk about this. He’s like, but I need, you know. And so our advice to them was, there’s a simple solution for a scenario like that, which is, don’t talk about it immediately after, right? Stay in the posts, euphoria, go to sleep. And when you wake up in the morning, talk about it.

Céline Remy 19:28
They also had something else going on where the signs that she was giving him were hard for him to interpret. And she was doing certain things that he was saying, if I were to do this, it would mean I was bored. And she was like, Well when I do that, it means I’m getting into it. So it was a little bit difficult. And that’s something that you need to remember. So ask, ask your partner and that the person is going to be different that new if they’re saying, when I had, I’m really making it up.

Céline Remy 20:00
But when I scratch my nose, I’m getting close to having an orgasm, and you think it really when I scratch my nose, it’s because my nose is itchy or bored. And so remember that for them, this is what it means. And so that’s the tricky part of it. Like, yeah, I wouldn’t do it this way. But this is the way my partner does it. So just start to know that. So asking somebody, like, What are the signs? What? How can you let me know?

Okay, if I if I yawn, if I scream, if I stretch, if I laugh, this means that you know, and being okay with whatever answer they give you? Because if you know don’t give away that didn’t like, Well, when I do this, that doesn’t mean that so it doesn’t matter what you do. It matters what they do.

Kevin Anthony 20:46
Yeah. And you know, in, in our case, and we do both sometimes we talk even during but but but sometimes we talk talkers afterward. Sometimes we’ll talk the next morning. But you know, that’s kind of where the idea for this show came from. It was the start bedroom is the love lab, because we would sit there and talk about, oh, well, how did this go? And what you know, how did you feel when this happened? You know, we just single

Céline Remy 21:10
for us. Yeah.

Kevin Anthony 21:13
We’re dissecting and analyzing all of it. I know that doesn’t sound sexy. But we weren’t really doing it while having sex. Well, yeah, but full disclosure, but we thought it was sexy. So it was okay. But in their case, in their case,  you’re totally right, in that she had this signer or behavior where she would start to yawn. Now, I agree with him that for most people, they would think yawning is a sign of really being bored. Like, all right, there’s nothing really happened in here.

Kevin Anthony 21:48
But actually, that was not the case for her at all. In her case, she was just starting to relax from her day. And so that can happen. Like, think about it. When at the end of the day, if you’ve had a long busy day at work, you come home and you sit down and you start to finally decompress and relax. You will yawn. And so for her, it was all just about relaxing which and moving

Céline Remy 22:11
energy. She was saying when there’s more energy when I get more aroused and stuff that like I neon to move it back could be too. Absolutely.

Kevin Anthony 22:21
But yeah, we know that one of the keys to having great sex is to just relax. So that actually was a positive sign. But he was interpreting it as a negative sign. So what do you do about that? Well, one of the things you do about that is you have conversations about this. If you’re unsure The next morning, you say, Hey, I noticed you were yawning. Were you tired? Or were you not into it? Or were you just kind of distressing from the day like what was happening. And then she’ll tell you.

Céline Remy 22:52
So when you have been in a relationship like that things that are really important to remember is no matter how long you’ve been together, people challenge people like a different thing. And especially women, we what we wanted the day before may not be what we want the next day, what we wanted an hour ago could already be different. And so remembering to approach your partner with this curiosity, the same mind that you would approach a person that is just that just knew a dating, right?

Céline Remy 23:22
So if you remember that you want to create space in your relationship to be able to talk about these things, not just when you’re having sex, maybe you know you could schedule and if it’s not on the schedule, it usually doesn’t happen. So schedule it. It could be a date night, and every 10 first hour or half-hour of date night you guys talk about sexual stuff and things you want to try your fantasy you’ve had or things you’d like to do differently. So you know, there’s like or 10 minutes, whatever it is, there’s a timeframe that set to talk about this.

Céline Remy 23:59
Maybe it’s just every Saturday morning because that’s you know, you both don’t work over the weekend. And it’s a good time because you can lounge in bed, I mean, find times, but make that particular time as a as something to explore and even just be like, it doesn’t have to be it Please don’t make it about blaming and criticizing or anything like that. It could even be about all the great things that have happened all the great times you’ve been having sex. I mean, who doesn’t like to be praised for how awesome the sex was the other night? Like, it doesn’t matter. You could be praised 100 times about it you like yeah, give me some more.

Kevin Anthony 24:34
Oh, yeah.

Céline Remy 24:35
Right? So remember that when it comes to how and when to talk about sex, make sex appointments to talk about it. If you like us and you love and it gets it’s a turn on to talk about it during and it’s not always the case. But sometimes it does. Give yourself permission to talk about it. But make sure you don’t fall into just like then the headspace and then you’re stuck. And then you’re like, oh, I’m not willing to the experience.

Kevin Anthony 25:03
Yeah. And you know, when it comes to talking about sex, I think one of the things that would make it so much easier, is making it fun or sexy or turn on to talk about. And I know for so many people, it’s just not for so so many couples, it’s kind of painful. It’s something they dread, it’s the talk. They don’t want to have this conversation. It’s going to not go good. Like, this is how a lot of people approach it. And I would love if people could kind of turn that around a little bit and turn it into something that’s fun.

Céline Remy 25:39
Yeah, and you can create your own games. Oh, that was the game we did. Was it like pancake or something like that? I invented the game the other night to remember,

Kevin Anthony 25:50
You invent a lot of games.

Céline Remy 25:54
We were doing something about doing a different position. How many ways can we touch each other? And then we were like, touching and

Kevin Anthony 26:03
It was a version of like sort of naked twister. Hahaha. It was pretzel.

Céline Remy 26:14
I was like, how many ways can we pretzels and we take turns to pretzel each other and be all over each other. In different variations. We were, of course, naked in bed. And of course, that led to something fun. But it was funny because we were trying to do different position different ways of touching each other.

We just ended up laughing and from the laughter came the connection, the connection came to great sex. And so it does, it’s something really silly, I made up a silly name pretzel. That’s it. That’s it, that’s a pretzel, you can make up a game of like, let’s just share complete, like sexual fantasies.

Céline Remy 26:54
And it doesn’t have to be something you even really want to have happened. But what turns you on in you have, like, you can make so many different guidelines. You can play animals, where you like growling at each other and like, like getting all like, there’s no more talk. But that’s just sound, you can dance for each other, you can move I mean, there are so many ways. Just allow yourself to be creative, the more creative, the more sexual energy you will feel.

Kevin Anthony 27:22
Yeah, and you know, the topic here isn’t necessarily like how to build sexual energies, per se, we’ve got some episodes on that. So there’s way more if you dig back into the archive there about creating intimacy and constant state of arousal and all that kind of stuff. But the idea is just to try to make having a conversation about it normal and fun. So it’s not something that you dread. It’s not something that’s going to be stressful. Like, hey, yeah, let’s talk about our sex.

Céline Remy 27:49
Yeah. I mean, you talk about your schedule, you talk about your kids, some people talk about their poop. So I mean, come on.

Kevin Anthony 28:02
Talking about something fun,

Céline Remy 28:03
right. So let’s go to our third scenario here, where you used to have sex, you know, you’ve been together for quite a few years, now you’re out of that honeymoon phase, and you realize that you got to remember the last time you had sex or worse, like my client the other day, had had, they had had sex three times in 10 years. That’s, that’s, that’s the kind of thing we’re talking about here where it’s definitely been a long stretch.

Céline Remy 28:31
So anything where you go, like, long stretches, even if it’s just six weeks, to me, six weeks is a really long stretch, you know, of like not having sex anytime you have a stop in the activity in the sexual activity. So what do you do? How do you deal with that?

Kevin Anthony 28:47
Yeah. And, you know, you’ll notice that there are a lot of things that are similar, no matter what stage you’re in, there’s a lot of communication techniques and things that are similar. But there are differences too. And I think one of the key differences, when you’re in this situation, is to not going to blame Hmm, right? Because a lot of resentment can build up, if one person wants to have sex, and the other one doesn’t, you’ve had sex three times in 10 years, like there could be a lot of resentment there.

Kevin Anthony 29:12
So the idea is, when you have a conversation about this, you don’t go into blame and shame. It’s not like, well, you don’t ever want to because you this and you that and blah, blah, blah, that is the worst thing to do to get what you want, which is more sex, more intimacy, more connection. So avoid going into that blame and shame and just talk about, very honestly, what your needs are.

Céline Remy 29:35
I mean, hopefully, you still have the love. Hopefully, this is just you know, because all couples go through like dry spells, or rough patches this time where it’s just not the same. And you have to course-correct, and we’ll tell you more about that in a little bit. But yeah, take responsibility, take responsibility for the fact that you haven’t shown up really, for your partner that you’ve been allowing life to take over, you’ve been so stressed, too distracted, you’ve been exhausted, you’ve been like, whatever it is, make a commitment.

Céline Remy 30:06
So it always starts with that communication, piece communication, where you are taking responsibility. Some of the strategies that I use when I work with couples, and I’m going to throw a few out there, and I want to say that if you are in this in this type of a scenario, I highly recommend getting some support, because it took a long time to get to where you are other to this dry land of sex. And having a third person can help you see perspective differently.

Céline Remy 30:38
And just like, get out of it quicker. Okay. But some of the ideas are that if if you haven’t had sex in so long, like, bring back the connection, bring back the touch, but take away the sex. And this is something you like, what what are you talking about today, you’re saying like to take away the sex if we haven’t had sex,

Kevin Anthony 30:59
once things should be easy?

Céline Remy 31:02
Well, you’d be surprised when you tell people they can’t have sex anymore, but they have to touch when you can’t have something you want it. There’s something that happens in the brain. So people start to think about it because they can’t have it. They start to become more creative and touching in connecting in building the energy. And of course, there’s only a timeframe, maybe it’s just for a month, you know, or like, it’s for three weeks or four weeks, whatever it is, but become more creative. How can you make love without like penis and vagina touching each other’s genitals? And like, get that creativity going again?

Kevin Anthony 31:36
Yeah, that’s a great idea. I mean, it takes the stress off, right? Because especially if you haven’t had sex in a long time, all of a sudden, you have a feeling and maybe a little stress, like, do I even know how any more isn’t even going to work.

Céline Remy 31:49
And you want to focus on the love. Because oftentimes, it’s like you emotionally feeling drained, you may not be feeling loved anymore, and your bank account in terms of like, the intimacy is like so depleted. And I’m like, focus on each other’s love language, focus on speaking each other’s love language, focus on creating time to gather that cultivate the relationship and bring the relationship back into the awareness. Because we always say relationships are like plants. You can’t not water them, they will wither and die.

Céline Remy 32:30
So you have to constantly do a little bit of eating and watering. And if you start to bring that into the awareness, things will change. Absolutely. Yeah. That’s what we’re doing for us. What do you want to listen to next? Because

Kevin Anthony 32:48
that’s, that’s true. Next week is drumroll, please. The 30-day sex challenge,

Céline Remy 32:59
like we said, said, Everybody goes through times where they like, sex may not be as good or as often, that was us a month ago. And we decided to take on a challenge for you to report to all our listeners, yes,

Kevin Anthony 33:12
we take the lab very seriously. What we noticed is we were working a lot, and therefore we weren’t having sex as frequently. And the quality wasn’t as good as it once was. So we had a very candid conversation about that. And one of the things that we decided to do to change that to shift that was to do a 30-day sex challenge. So we will explain Of course, exactly what that means in the next episode. But so far, it has been awesome, and fun and funny and everything. So you want to listen to next week’s episode and

Céline Remy 33:53
until then put into you put into place all the advice which is shared with you. Remember to talk about sex to make fun and enjoy to fly.

Kevin Anthony 34:02
Yes. All right. That’s all the time we have for this episode. And we will see you next week.

Kevin Anthony 34:14
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Céline Remy 34:21
And if you want more, we have an entire digital library with the best sex tips and Relationship Advice at CelineRemy.com. That’s kevinanthonycoaching.com So join us in the sex vault to continue this adventure. Thanks for listening. And remember, you’re amazing.