The 30 Day Sex Challenge

Kevin Anthony 0:12
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man, woman single or couple, this is the show for you. Because well, sex. We are your hosts Kevin Anthony, and Celine Remy.

Kevin Anthony 0:27
Now welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 60. And we have a fun show planned for you. This is titled The 30-day sex challenge. So yes, we had sex for 30 days, and you’re going to find out what happened.

Céline Remy 0:44
Oh, yes, so much that happened, we get ready to share that with you. But before we do so let’s just say a big shout out to our sponsor. This episode is brought to you by power and mastery, the most complete sexual training for men to develop your stamina, boost your confidence and enhance your sexual abilities. So if you are ready to seriously change your sex life, go to power and mastery.com and check it all out.

Kevin Anthony 1:11
All right, let’s dive in. So actually, before we even get started, if you’ve been listening to the show for a while, you know that in the past, we did a 30-day blow job challenge. That’s where obviously Celine gave me a blow job every day for 30 days. And we wrote down what happened each day and talked about you know how it was for both of us. And it was a lot of fun.

Céline Remy 1:32
For you.

Kevin Anthony 1:33
So you had fun too. Don’t lie.

Céline Remy 1:38
Okay, fine.

Céline Remy 1:42
Yes, I did have fun. It’s interesting because I had a different end-result, I really enjoyed doing the blowjob challenge. I have to admit, when the blowjob challenge was over, I was relieved. And Kevin was like, Oh, no, it’s my last day, so sad and I was thinking finally.

Céline Remy 2:04
But with the 30-day sex challenge? I was feeling like, Oh, it’s over one by so quickly. So it actually was a little bit easier,

Kevin Anthony 2:14
We will get much deeper into the differences between those two challenges. So okay, let’s start with why did we decide to do a 30-day sex challenge?

Céline Remy 2:25
Well, here’s the truth. Our sex life just wasn’t as active. I think we were down to about twice a week and maybe some weeks, even just once a week. And that was a big no-no. We were noticing that we were just busy. And working a lot and just not making it a priority as much to have sex.

Céline Remy 2:51
I think it really started with us talking after lovemaking. Wow, this is so great. And we just don’t do it as often as we should. And I think I suggested Well, maybe, maybe we should try a 30-day sex challenge.

Kevin Anthony 3:09
Yeah, that’s, that’s basically it, we just realized we were working too much. And we weren’t making enough time to connect. And so of course, this is the love lab, right? I mean, what better thing to do than to turn it into a challenge and then make it into a show.

Céline Remy 3:24
I have to say that added some extra motivation, because well, first of all, I’m super competitive. So knowing that I was going to have to come on air and talk about it. I had to collect data for you all listening. And it was really important. So that gave me extra motivation.

Céline Remy 3:43
But it was just really fun to recommit to our love, recommit to our sex life and take really good notes. Because just like with the 30-day sex, the 30-day blowjob challenge, we created a 30-day sex challenge book. And so each day we wrote down data has and if you’re watching the video, you see with these other booklets where we wrote the

Kevin Anthony 4:08
Here you can see.

Céline Remy 4:10
30- day sex challenge, right? And so every day, we have read the whole thing. So we each wrote, what happens, how we felt. And then what was really fun was, as we were prepping for the show today, we were going through it. And we were getting some data out extracting numbers of ejaculation and different things that you’ll be all you’ll learn.

Kevin Anthony 4:35
Yes, we will talk about that.

Céline Remy 4:36
Yeah, so that was pretty fun to go back to it. Because it’s easy sometimes to do a challenge. While we notice, it’s really easy to get caught up in life. Sometimes you don’t really remember what happened. And just going through it quickly this morning to pull out the data as I was like,

Céline Remy 4:52
Oh, yeah I had this thought. Yes, this happened. It was really quite fun. So it helps you to have that. And what’s good for us is we are actually going to keep this little work because it’s going to be a good inspiration for many years to come. Pun intended.

Kevin Anthony 5:12
For maybe the 30-day sex challenge, part two, who knows, we’ll see.

Céline Remy 5:16
Well, we did think of 365 days, but I don’t know that

Kevin Anthony 5:22
that would be that would be tough. Yes. But if anybody could do it, I’m pretty sure we could. All right. So let’s talk about the ground rules for the challenge, right? Because of every challenge, there are rules, there are certain things that you can and can’t do within your challenge. So for us, we’d like to keep rules to a minimum because none of us neither of us really like rules.

Kevin Anthony 5:46
But there had to be some so that we could keep the integrity of the challenge, right. So our rules were, there had to be penetration sex involved. So that means penis in vagina.

Céline Remy 6:00
know, somebody asked us to see and I was like, oh, what if it was anal? I was like, Well, I’m sure it would have counted. We just don’t do it all. Very often. Like, we actually have never done penis inside my anus. We’ve done but plugs and fingers, but just not the penis. So it’s just not a thing. Yeah, but it would have counted, okay.

Kevin Anthony 6:20
But for this challenge, it was only penis and vagina penetration. And the second rule, and there’s really only two rules here. The second rule is that penetration had to be at least 10 minutes. So not the overall sex, the actual penetration. There could be foreplay, there could be anything else. It’s just that the rules were whatever the lovemaking was, it had to be at least 10 minutes of penis and vagina penetration.

Céline Remy 6:47
Pretty easy peasy. We shook hands on it, and we signed up for it.

Kevin Anthony 6:52
Well, you know, we felt like we were setting a really low bar, right? Because we’re like, 10 minutes like it, we can do 10 minutes, any time, any day, there’s no big deal. It’s like, we basically considered that barely even allowed to call it sex. Like, that was kind of how we were looking at it. So during the challenge, we had some friends over for dinner.

Kevin Anthony 7:17
We were telling them that we were doing this 30-day sex challenge. So then we explained to them the rules as we just did to you. The woman said 10 minutes of penetration. in her mind, she was like, whoa, whoa, that’s a long time. And what was funny was when I was describing, and I was like, wow, you know, 10 minutes is, is it’s not even really sex honestly, in that short amount of time.

Kevin Anthony 7:44
But she was definitely like, Wow, that’s a long penetration. Now, obviously, if you’ve been listening to the show, we talked about this all the time that you know, we know the average, depending on which study you look at a man ejaculates in three to five minutes or others for five to seven minutes. In either case, Yes, they are. All the studies that we’ve read, are under 10 minutes.

Céline Remy 8:07
So speaking of a jack elation, I think it’s a good segue to talking about it. Because when people are thinking, are you had sex for 30 days? Oh my gosh, like, Wow, what a stallion? Yes, you are. Amazing. And we do not practice ejaculation every time. And so that’s one of the data points that we collected. But just so you know, when we have sex, we don’t have a jack elation.

Céline Remy 8:33
That means for us sex is done when we feel complete. And very often, Kevin will pull out with a throbbing rock hard erection. And that’s the end of our sex. It’s not an ejaculation, it’s not elliptic, it’s just we are complete, and there’s a pulling out and we just let it be. Usually with a snuggle or, well, if I was extra juicy, we wipe off a little bit. There was a nice little ritual that we created where I would get a little washcloth, and I would put warm water. Then I would just like, like wipe your penis and your balls and get you all nice. And then we’d like to snuggle up. That’s kind of how we would do it.

Kevin Anthony 9:12
Yeah. So you know, these subjects come up quite often in our shows. As I was saying, before, you know, we were saying, Oh, 10 minutes is like barely sex. And then, of course, you’re bringing in the fact that you know, there are very few ejaculations throughout that. These are things that a lot of times when we have these conversations with people, they’re like, wait, what, like, it’s actually hard for them to even comprehend.

Kevin Anthony 9:40
One, that’s short sex, and two as a guy, you don’t have to ejaculate. And so, you know, my advice to any men that are listening, is that if you really like if you really want to be good in bed, you have to learn to last more than 10 minutes. And you have to learn how to separate your orgasm from ejaculation. This is the only way a woman’s ever going to say you’re an amazing lover. You can have other tricks, you can be like, oh, wow, he’s amazing with his digits, and oh, he’s great with his tongue and blah, blah, blah.

Kevin Anthony 10:15
But and this has been our trend with every woman that we’ve talked to. It’s not that they say that the other guys are bad. It’s not that they’re like, Oh, he’s terrible in bed. But the way they describe somebody who’s good when they’re just kind of like, Oh, they do a lot of oral or a lot of fingers. And then they have super short penetrative sex, the big Oh, yeah, you know, we had good sex, or I enjoyed that, or that was great.

Kevin Anthony 10:38
Until they tell you about somebody they had really great penetration sex with. And then they’re like, oh, my God, that was me, it was like the best sex in my life. Like the difference you hear, even if they say they were both good sex, the difference really is dramatic.

Céline Remy 10:56
In my experience,  I’ve had a lot of I’ve received lots of like, fingering sessions of like sexual healing and work that was done. And with Kevin, we use his penis for sexual healing. What I’ve noticed is, there is a difference, there is something different from when it’s just a finger, it’s not the same then when there is a penis, and there is a connection and communication that happens between the vagina and the penis.

Céline Remy 11:29
And there is a depth of connection and intimacy. And there is a ability to go deeper than you ever think is possible. In the two. In my experience, it has only happened with penis inside vagina, not with fingers, even though I’ve had like amazing g spots release and orgasm through fingering. And from a lot of women that I’ve spoken to, they have a similar experience. Now, again, it is my experience, maybe that’s not true for you. But keep that in mind.

Céline Remy 12:02
Because I know for a lot of men, they go like, Oh, I just want to get really good at making these tricks. And I think you don’t really need tricks, you really need to use your body and know how to move energy and how to really be comfortable with your body. And that’s really how you can go to higher levels.

Kevin Anthony 12:19
Yeah, exactly. And so, you know, we teach all of these things in our online courses. So we have in our master your ejaculation we teach you how to separate them, which will help you last longer, we also teach that in sexual mastery a little bit kind of we take it to the next step further from what we teach you in the master ejaculation. So, you know, if you’re listening, and you want to know how to really be awesome, like that, we can help you, we can help you.

Kevin Anthony 12:45
But that’s not really the focus of this, but it was just sort of important, because when you’re talking about and we’re going to talk about some of the different lovemaking sessions we’ve had, you have to understand, you know what the rules were, and then you know, how we went? Usually not you but many times above and beyond the roles like and it’s, you know, it’s funny, because I feel like I don’t have to give it that much sort of preface, right. Like, I don’t need to.

Kevin Anthony 13:13
But when you try to have these conversations with people, and you’re explaining this, they’re giving you the deer in headlights look, because they’re not comprehending in their brain, how what you’re telling them as possible. So we just had to lay that out a little bit.

Céline Remy 13:25
So what did we learn, of course, we want to dive into each one of us is the experience. But I think we I’d like to mention a few things. So one of the first things is, well, we learned that you know, we weren’t always in the mood. And like we always say, you don’t have to be in the mood, you can create the mood. And I think that was a huge one to realize that it really all happens in your mind.

Céline Remy 13:49
And if you have no choice when you’ve committed to doing 30 days, whether you want it or not, you’re doing it. And you can’t listen to you monkey mind telling you that in the mood, I would rather do this. So that’s it’s like, it doesn’t matter, you’re doing it. So that was number one. And number two, what we started to notice is the more frequently we did it, the easier it was to get in the mood. So what is that saying like whatever you don’t use, you lose, right.

Céline Remy 14:23
And so if we have sex, it’s the same where if you don’t really have sex, you don’t feel so sexual anymore, or your sex drive can go lower. But if you start having sex, you start to want it more have a higher sex drive higher libido. So it’s a very interesting dynamic to observe.

Kevin Anthony 14:40
Yeah, and you know, it just so happens. And this was a total coincidence. But it just so happens that when we decided to do this challenge, like my work got super busy, like really kind of actually overloaded with work to the point where I was like, I don’t know how I can even work this many hours in a day to get it all done.

Kevin Anthony 14:59
So I was feeling very stressed and very tired at the end of the day, which is not very conducive to getting interaction and having sex. Fortunately, getting an erection is not an issue that I have. So you know, I could be half-dead, and I’d still have a boner, but the motivation factor was different. Some days, I was so tired, that the idea of getting motivated

Céline Remy 15:31
to have sex and you’re like, oh, I don’t think so. Do you know?

Kevin Anthony 15:36
So, so yeah, so that that was a little trickier for me. But as you were, as you were correctly saying, you know, the cool thing is, is that you don’t really have to be in the mood. Hmm. And then, literally, the more that you do it, the easier it is. Yes, absolutely. I was finding in the beginning, like, especially the first seven days, each day built upon the day before it, and I was like, Oh, hell yeah, like, Let’s get it on, I’m ready to fuck, you know, like,

Céline Remy 16:10
I remember like, this is the best thing that’s ever happened. This is amazing.

Kevin Anthony 16:17
Yeah, it was pretty awesome.

Céline Remy 16:18
So we had that. One thing that I realized, too, was that I had less of that, oh, I need to fog type thing. I think that a lot of men listening can relate to that, you know, when it’s like, I really have to make that happen. And because I knew that I was going to have sex, I knew that it was happening.

Céline Remy 16:43
So I had less fixation or all this needs to happen. And I was more like, hey, it’s okay. Like me, I feel good. I’m not overly like, with high sex drive with not knowing what to do with myself. So that was that. And then I had a few little things. I call these my pearls of wisdom.

Kevin Anthony 17:09
There were only a few pearls this time.

Céline Remy 17:13
One of these is this, what I realized is that sex is not something that you do. It’s something you experience. And when you really realize that, and you, you understand that it’s not something that you do, it’s not a performance-based experience, it becomes something that you are simply present for and present with and something that you experience. It absolutely changes how you experience that sex. And so that was one of the pearls of wisdom.

Céline Remy 17:55
I realized that one of the keys to really amazing sacks has a lot to do with your ability to be in your heart and open your heart. And I’m a very happy person. A lot of things that turned me on is to talk is to have different things like that happened. And sometimes when you just talk, you can get stuck in just that headspace. But what I’ve noticed there was a correlation to the times we had fantastic sex versus just what we call mellow sex.

Céline Remy 18:36
It was all about how open I was in my heart How, how willing I was to be fully vulnerable to be seen. And that made a difference. And these were my two massive takeaway, I would say from the experience. So I don’t know if we ready for some of the data. So what do you think of it?

Kevin Anthony 19:04
Oh, yeah, let’s just jump into the data.

Céline Remy 19:06
Okay. And then I want to hear about your experience and my experience. I’m sure everybody’s like, Oh, yeah, we want to read a little bit of, of like, what happened, right. Some of our data here are… OK, let’s talk about ejaculation. So we had an ejaculation, Kevin had three ejaculations over the 30 days. He had sex 30 times. And he had to blow jobs. Oh, yeah. One thing you had a little less blow jobs in that month. You only got to blow jobs.

Kevin Anthony 19:36
Yeah, I know. That was a little sad. next challenge, I expect you to do a little better on that one.

Céline Remy 19:46
Yeah, right. So he had three ejaculations. One on day 7, on day 15, and on day 25. So that’s about one week or one every 10. And so I think it’s good to realize that because, in the Taoist philosophy and teachings, they really tell that the older you get, the less frequently you should be ejaculating.

Kevin Anthony 20:14
They do tell you that, but I have a different take on this. And this is something I’ve thought about a lot over the years. And so there’s, there’s this idea and they have an actual chart that you can look at it based on your age. I believe now that it all has to do with energy level. Because when you do ejaculate, especially if you haven’t taken the time to build the energy throughout the experience, it can be depleting.

Kevin Anthony 20:50
And if you do that enough, then you can wind up feeling super depleted, you can wind up feeling really low energy tired, you could even end up compromising your immune system. And so I understand from that point of view with the Taoists are talking about. Now, I’ve been aware of this chart for many years now. And I’ve gotten to observe myself over a couple of decades, especially sort of pivotal decades where things are changing in the body.

Kevin Anthony 21:21
And see how that relates to the chart. And what I found is this is that even though I choose not to ejaculate very often, it’s not because some chart tells me that I have to. It’s not because some chart says you are this old, and you’re only supposed to ejaculate this many times. And I know plenty of other guys who are my age or even older, who ejaculate pretty frequently.

And so what I’ve realized is it’s all about your energy level if you are healthy, and you are vibrant, and you are strong, you work out, you’re in good shape, you eat well, it’s completely different.

Kevin Anthony 22:02
And you know, some people just have naturally high energy and some don’t. But the idea is that don’t worry so much about how old you are what the chart says. It’s really based on how fit you are, what your energy level is, like, you know, I mean, I’ve seen people in their 60s who were running circles around 30-year-olds, you know, they’re lean, they’re ripped, they got tons of energy, they never stopped going all day long, like somebody like that. Yeah, they don’t have to worry about it.

Kevin Anthony 22:31
But your average 60-year-old who’s overweight, who doesn’t exercise who eats poorly, you know, that is something that they would have to consider. Now, the final point I would make on that also is that a lot of it also has to do with the energy you cultivate during the lovemaking. So for instance, I find that if we have you know, what we consider short lovemaking, you know, 1015 minutes, if I were to choose to ejaculate would feel kind of tired afterward.

Kevin Anthony 23:03
Whereas if we have a more normal, 3045 hour, hour and a half, when we’re done with that session, I am energized. In fact, sometimes I don’t even lose interaction. Now, that’s something that usually only happens when you’re 20. Not when you’re more than double that. Right? So the idea that you could one last that long, then choose to ejaculate, and then still have interaction, and even keep making love if you want. It’s all because of the energy level.

It’s because you build so much energy during that lovemaking session, that just like not only are you not depleted, you’re buzzing.

Céline Remy 23:50
Yeah. And that requires the two of you to not chase orgasm because if she chases orgasm, then and go straight for the first level, it’s also not going to kill to the cultivate this really high energy that you’re talking about. So I want to make sure that both our women listener and male listeners are like, Yes, I get it that it’s our responsibility for each one of us.

Another really interesting data point, I had a lot of fun going for this is we had, okay, we had something that we called, I called it the best sex of the century.

Kevin Anthony 24:25
Yeah, so

Céline Remy 24:27
I realized, okay, we had this like, most amazing sex, best sex of the century, once out of 40 times. And so then I looked into the data, and I categorized it, we had mellow sex, great sex and the best sex of the century. So we had mellow sex 21 times. So I think it’s really important for people to understand that because people expect to have mind-blowing sex every single time, we only had like mind-blowing sex, really great sex seven times.

Céline Remy 24:55
And then like this best sex of the century, which is way better than mind-blowing stuff once. That means only eight of these times Really? Right? And it’s, it’s important to understand that because people have expectations that it should always be amazing.

Kevin Anthony 25:16
Yeah, that’s the big takeaway is that, yes. So many people think that every time they have sex, it has to be amazing, or it has to look a certain way. And so it was really interesting by going through these stats, is that yeah, it was different, like most of the time, and of course, you’re having sex every day, most of the time at the end of the day, because you’re tired.

Kevin Anthony 25:36
And, you know, it’s been a busy day. Most of it was what we would consider mellow sex. Somewhere between 10 and 20 minutes of the kind of slow, just mellow sex still great, by the way.

Céline Remy 25:49
Yes.

Kevin Anthony 25:49
And then seven times, were like in the Oh, that was great sex, good screaming orgasm being, you know, female ejaculation and kind of like, Oh, yeah, that was great. And of course, you realize that seven times over the course of an entire month,

Céline Remy 26:08
it’s like a third. Yeah, it’s almost, it’s almost like Actually, I made a mistake, it should be eight times and nine to go to 30. So basically, we had, we have the best sex of the century, it’s like nine times of like, really great sex, and the rest was mellow sex.

Kevin Anthony 26:21
Yeah. So that’s, that’s several times a week of having great sex. And then filled in with some very nice.

Céline Remy 26:31
I just thought it was good data. Because again, it changes how you approach if we hadn’t had sex, that often. I also think that the fact that we went to such high level and had the best sex of the century, is because we were practicing daily, and you don’t get to these places if you have sex sporadically.

Céline Remy 26:48
And that’s really also important to remember because if you only have sex, every now and then once a month, or once a year,  it’s going to be too difficult to get to these places. And it’s okay to have times where it’s not like that totally mind-blowing. It’s just nice and connecting.

Kevin Anthony 27:02
Yeah. And so the point is, and, you know, maybe there are some people out there who say, Well, you know, like maybe, maybe one in every 10 is great sex, and, you know, a few are mellow sex, and the rest is kind of not so good. Like, because we kind of hear that from people. The point is just that there’s a range, and don’t expect it to always be a certain way, you know, in some in some people’s sex life where they’re currently out at the moment, maybe some of them really aren’t good.

Kevin Anthony 27:33
And then maybe some of them are good. And then it maybe every once in awhile, there’s a great one point is just that it’s going to vary. Yes. Fortunately, for us, it varies from the goods to like, out of this world chart. So we’re, we’re fortunate.

Céline Remy 27:48
But we want it to be really vulnerable with you and share all the raw data because I think that’s how we can really connect with all of you, and it makes it more human. We don’t want you to think that we are superhumans and just have this mind-blowing sex all the time. So I’d love to share with you a little bit about my journey, because I’m just wanting to talk and then you can do yours, Kevin.

Kevin Anthony 28:09
Great. Go for it. Okay, so take a break. I’ll be back in.

Céline Remy 28:14
So for me, when we started, I even do I’m the one who suggested we did this challenge. I was a little hesitant to commit to it. We did, we said we’re doing it. And then we really only committed to it, I think on day two or three. And there was like, I noticed that within myself, I had a little reluctance because I was concerned like, what if I’m not in the mood, I don’t want it to become a chore. I don’t want to end at the end of my 30 days and be like, I hate sex. I don’t want it again. So I had this fear.

Céline Remy 28:42
But then I decided, well, what the heck are the only way fruit is through, so I’m just going to do it. It was a very interesting challenge because we had sex when I was bleeding. Sometimes, most of the times when I’m bleeding, we take at least a day or two off, I have your day I have your flow.

This time I had to have sex when I was bleeding. I realized that it can be very pleasant to it’s very important to listen to what your body wants and needs. And I was like, Okay, I want to be in that position or this kind of sex.

Céline Remy 29:14
And I really stayed in tune. You know, it never was like something I didn’t like, sometimes I was just like, Oh my gosh, this is hard. But it’s still it was it forced me to be in touch with my body. And it was great to see that oftentimes I put roadblocks and it’s all myself. It’s all in my head. Another really cool thing that I noticed is that I like different things not just in and out. So we tried different types of sex. So we had one where we had this like vibration, and acid or vibrations feel amazing even be better than pounding and frosting. Like we both ejaculated.

Céline Remy 29:56
So we were playing simultaneous simultaneously. That’s true. We were playing with that. And that was really cool. Another really cool takeaway was that I realized that that one evening that if I didn’t have to have sex, I would have watched a video or a documentary-like, you know, spend times on YouTube. And because we had to do that we reprioritized. And I realized I was in my face, how many times I choose something may be meaningless over things that matter.

Kevin Anthony 30:26
Okay, this is a huge, huge point that needs to be reiterated here. So many people tell us that they don’t have time. Mind you, if they think that 10 minutes sex is long, you got 10 minutes, you always got 10 minutes, right? So the real takeaway here is that it’s all about priorities. And you know, do you prioritize watching your weekly TV series over connecting with your partner and making love.

Kevin Anthony 31:00
We don’t we’ve always prioritize the other way around, we generally make sex and connecting number one, which is why we have scheduled date nights and that sort of thing. But what this showed us was like, yeah, how many other times even though we have our, like scheduled dates, and I’ll do we go? Let’s do this, let’s do that. And we prioritize other things. So if you think you don’t have time, you do change your priorities.

Céline Remy 31:26
That’s good. Kevin. You know, I’m just browsing through the book here and reading a few things. And definitely some of the cool stuff. You know, we tried different positions, we were trying to be creative. Sometimes we were so not in the mood, I had to like get put on sexy underwear, like try to make things work. And it always worked. And even when Kevin was exhausted, and I had to maybe work a little bit of getting him hard.

Céline Remy 31:50
And it’s like, yeah, you take responsibility. And if one good thing is oftentimes if I was tired, he wasn’t when he was tired. I was and so one would just pick up women, I can’t I’ll do the work tonight, I’ll ride you, I’ll do most of the work, I’ll get you in the mood or massage, I’ll blow you out, you know, whatever. Right? And then it’s like, now you’re more in the mood and we took turns. It wasn’t like oh, I gave you a blowjob last night, two nights. Your turn. I was like, Oh, you’re tired. Let me help you get in the mood. So we’re a team.

Kevin Anthony 32:20
Yeah. And it really actually worked out exactly like that. Every time I was just super exhausted. You’re like, I’ve got energy. I’ll go for it. You know. And every time you were like, I’m super exhausted. I’m like, I got plenty of energy.

Céline Remy 32:34
Tonight. And I think one of the last things would be for me before I give the mic to Kevin was also like, I, I definitely felt more, maybe more wet throughout. Like it seems like you know, we talked about the constant state of arousal. So we were constantly cultivating put in energy. And I feel like I never went too much down into like, oh, it took forever to get me in the mood because we never had time to kind of like losing the energy. So that was a nice bonus side effect for me.

Kevin Anthony 33:05
Yeah, well, what we noticed with that, too, is like, it never really takes you that long to get going and get in the mood. But you know, sometimes it can take a few minutes here and there. And what we noticed is that the longer the challenge went on, the faster you are ready.

Céline Remy 33:18
Yes. I was out of my head and into my body. Yes.

Kevin Anthony 33:21
Yeah. Like, like, uncertain occasions. It was like, Okay, well, you know, it’s super late. We gotta have sex right now before we go to bed. It’s like, boom, you’re ready. Mm-hmm. Wow, that that didn’t take anything. Cool.

Céline Remy 33:33
So what about you, Kevin, tell us about your experience. And

Kevin Anthony 33:37
Ok, so my experience, I personally had a great 30-day blowjob challenge. And I love sex. I figured 30-day sex challenge, no fucking problem, I’ve got this. I really thought it wasn’t in the beginning. However, I wasn’t really sure how I felt about it, you know, 20 days. 25 days in, but my experience was in the first week. It was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I mean, we were having sex every day. It was good sex. It was awesome. And then the workload. Uh-huh. And then it became really hard to balance everything.

Céline Remy 34:23
Yes. But I think it’s helped us right. I think it helped us cope.

Kevin Anthony 34:27
I think it did to it. What’s funny is, I was so tired. It felt like this was one more thing to do. And yet, once I started doing it, I think it actually did help with the stress. I was kind of hoping that this is one reason why I might be ready for round two. But I was kind of hoping to do the experiment when I wasn’t so overwhelmed with work stuff. Because I’d be curious to see if I could keep that what I experienced in the first week. past that a week. Do you know that?

Kevin Anthony 35:00
Can I really carry that same energy, enthusiasm and desire to fuck every day? Like I had in the first? I don’t know, we’ll see. So you know, there was there’s sort of a middle point in the challenge for me, where I was really quite tired. But even still, I was always happy. Always happy to do it. never had any never had a problem getting it up. I mean, I could be half-past out in the bed, and gawkers rock hard and you’re on it. So that’s awesome. What else? What else?

Céline Remy 35:39
Do you have any regrets or things that didn’t work? I know you were hoping for a day of having sex twice. You only had a blow job and sex. Yeah,

Kevin Anthony 35:46
There were a couple of days during the challenge. Thank you for reminding me, where I totally wanted to have sex more than once a day. I was like, we’re gonna have sex in the morning. And that all right, yeah, let’s do a mid-day in the afternoon or let’s have sex again tonight. And in the beginning, and this was mostly in the beginning. I know you had a little fear. You were like, Oh my god, like, I don’t know if my person can handle.

Céline Remy 36:10
It was my energy. I was like, I don’t want to warm myself out. Like I was like, I want to make sure that I can but not physically, like energetically. I was like if I have sex twice, and it’s like 31 day six challenge.

Kevin Anthony 36:24
No, no. If it’s within 24 hours, it’s just one day.

Céline Remy 36:28
Yeah, so that’s how I was perceiving it. So?

Kevin Anthony 36:34
Well, definitely throughout there were a few days when I would have been happy to have sex more than once a day. Oh. So all in all, I had a very positive experience with it. And I thought it was great. I thought it even taught us some things. You know, if we hit another patch, where our sex life is kind of slowing down, whether it’s due to work, stress, or complacency, or anything else, we know exactly what to do.

Kevin Anthony 36:59
We know that we just have to say, Okay, let’s do it, no matter how we feel, no matter what mood we’re in because I know as soon as we do, we’ll be in the mood. And when we’re done, we’re going to go Thank God, we took the time to do that.

Céline Remy 37:13
Absolutely. That was probably the biggest takeaway, and that it’s all up to us to make it happen. And it’s nothing from the outside, it’s all in our head.

Kevin Anthony 37:23
And that probably is the best place to end this episode, which is that like everything else in this world, it is all an inside job. If you want to have a great sex life, it starts from within, within your own body and within your own mind.

Céline Remy 37:42
So we challenge you to go for 30 days of sex, whether or not you have a partner commit to 30 days of masturbation or 30 days of lovemaking with somebody else or a combination of both, and see how different your life becomes.

Kevin Anthony 37:56
Yes. All right, everybody. That’s all the time we have for this episode. We hope you enjoyed it, and we will see you next.

Kevin Anthony 38:09
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Céline Remy 38:16
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