This Is What A Real Man Wants In A Woman & How To Find Her

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All right, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 237. And it is titled, this is what a real man wants in a woman and how to find her. Okay, so today is actually Celine’s birthday, it would have been her 40th birthday, it won’t be by the time you hear this, because this is pre-recorded, and it will be a few weeks after. But when I’m recording this, this is actually her birthday. And I was just thinking about her and reflecting on who she was as a person.

And, you know, a lot of people know that she worked with a lot of men, but they may not be as aware of the fact that she worked with a lot of women also. And she really worked with women to help them be obviously the best woman they could be, but also be more feminine, be more attractive to their male partners. And she had a whole curriculum around all of that. And between thinking about who she was, and what she used to teach to people, it really got me thinking like, you know, it’d be really helpful to do an episode on what men really want in a woman. Because of two things, number one, sometimes men aren’t really sure what they want, or they have this preconceived idea of what they want, which isn’t really what they want. So this I think, for the men listening will really help men get clear on what it is they’re really looking for or should be looking for. In a woman.

And for the women listening, I think it’s a really good opportunity to listen to this episode and self-reflect a little bit and go, am I that woman? Because I hear so many women out there saying, Where are all the good men? Right? Well, there are plenty of good men out there. But maybe it’s possible that you’re not attracting them, because you’re not the type of woman that they’re those good men are looking for. I’m not saying that that’s definitely the case. Because some of you, I’m sure are already yelling at the device, you’re listening to this on, going yes I am on this and that I’ve got a bit of a, you know. But just listen to the things that I’m going to put out there that men and women are sorry that men are looking for in women, and see how many of them you possess, and see how many of them you resonate with because some of them you might go I didn’t really realize that that’s what a man was looking for. And you might say, okay, great. Well, I’ve got that. You might say, well, I don’t but I could I just never realized that.

That’s what men were looking for. So I think there’s value here for both men and women and getting really clear on what it is they are looking for with their partners. So it’s going to be a loaded show. I got lots to say on this subject. So before we get started, how about a word from our sponsor? Do you want to join the secret club of men who are great in bed then check out power and mastery it is the most complete sexual mastery training for men. Whether you want to have harder erections last longer or increase your sexual skills. There is something for you at power and mastery.com. As you know, of course, this is our online men’s sexual mastery course.

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Because I could write a list of stuff that is really specific to me because we’re all going to have our own different likes and tastes. But I tried to only put things on the list that are true for the majority of men. So that goes for what they don’t want, as well as what they do want. Alright, so what don’t men want in a woman? Number one, a masculine woman. Now, a lot of men don’t necessarily realize that they don’t want this. In fact, I know quite a few men who are attracted to masculine women, because, you know, they want a partner who’s gonna go out and shoot guns with them, and go rock climbing with them, and go mountain biking with them and do a lot of those masculine activities. And so they are attracted to women. And of course, this isn’t always true, but sometimes masculine women, you know, they’re really into weight training, or, you know, being really fit. And so they have really attractive bodies. And so a lot of times men are like, yeah, man, she’s hot, she’s got this great body, and she’s like, you know, kick ass mountain bike, or rock climber, or martial artist, or whatever it is. And so that’s attractive to them.

What they fail to realize, however, is that (and this is not always the case, by the way) I’ve known plenty of feminine women who can do those things. But in a lot of cases, you will see that the reason why women are into those things is that they tend to be very masculine. And we have talked a lot on the show about the problems with overly masculine women, and the problems with overly feminine men as well. If you are a masculine man, and you have a, you’re in a relationship with a masculine woman, you’re going to lack polarity, and you’re probably going to be butting heads and competing a lot. And we’ll talk about competing in just a moment. So a lot of times men don’t realize that what they’re what they don’t want, is actually a masculine woman.

And in our society, today, society is putting a lot of pressure on women to be more masculine and men to be more feminine. And that is literally just destroying relationships, destroying polarity. And I know, polarity is a loaded word. Lots of teachers out there teaching stuff about polarity, and it’s triggering people left and right. And it’s creating a backlash against the whole idea of polarity. But polarity is real, it is true, it is something that exists, whether we want to admit it or not. It is a fact of the human condition. If we’re born into a masculine body or feminine body and we identify with masculine energy or feminine energy, then polarity is a thing.

And anybody who says otherwise is either ignorant or lying to you. So men do not want a masculine woman because a masculine woman is going to really wreck the polarity in the relationship and will often lead to the next four things that I’m going to talk about. Now, masculine women are not the only ones who do these four things. Lots of women do them. But we’re going to take them one at a time. They are actually what Celine used to teach. And she called the four C’s. These are the four C’s that women should absolutely never do, ever. Okay, here we go. Number one. So remember, this is a list of the things that a man doesn’t want. A woman who complains all the time, complains, Oh, you didn’t take the trash out. You didn’t do this. You didn’t do that. Or you didn’t do this right.

Or you didn’t do this well enough for this, that another thing, right? Nobody wants somebody to complain about them all the time, or even complain to them all the time, but it’s mostly about complaining about them about all the things they didn’t do, right or could have done better. Nobody wants a woman who complains all the time. You know, Celine really learned that one the hard way, not that she was a big complainer but in a relationship previous to ours, she had a tendency like most women honestly, to complain a lot more with her previous partner. And one day he just said, Look, I’m not going to stand for that, I will not allow that behavior.

To compliment her for who she was, you know, she had an amazing ability to take in feedback, assess whether or not it was really true and valid, and if so change, and she changed and I can honestly tell you, she almost never complained about anything. In fact, she would spin it around. And instead of complaining, like, I’m just going to make up an example, but instead of saying, hey, you know, if you didn’t take out the trash or something like that, she would spin it around and say, you know, I really love it when, you know, the trash in the kitchen or the bathroom is always like, I just look at it, and it’s already done. You know, so she would spin things around and say it in the positive rather than the negative. Okay, next thing a man doesn’t want someone who criticizes, right?

And this is similar to but different from complaining. So constantly criticizing the way that he does things. Well, you didn’t clean this quite the right way. And you didn’t use the right spot. You didn’t do this like and the constant criticizing who nothing will kill the love and the hardiness in a relationship faster than criticism. So, again, you know, if you need to get a point across about something, find a way to phrase it in the positive. Alright. Next, see someone who competes. Yeah, this is a big one, we should never be competing with each other in our relationship. You know, competing to, I don’t know, make more money or, or I don’t know, there are a million ways that that people tend to compete in relationships. Relationships are not a competition. Relationships are a team sport, I like to say, right, the team doesn’t compete against the other members of the team, the team competes against other teams.

Right? So in your relationship, you should not be competing with each other, you should be working together as a team. Next one, someone who controls Oh, no man like, Nah, man, there’s, there’s not much worse than a woman who wants to try to control every aspect of your life, your relationship, you know, and who you are as a man, whoa, massive, massive turnoff. Alright, so those last four that I talked about, complain and criticize, compete and control, those are the deadly 4 C’s as Céline would call them that women often do and that men absolutely do not want they are really, really detrimental to any relationship. So I got two more things on the list that men do not want in a woman. One is a woman who expects everything to be equal. Right now I hear I hear heads exploding.

What do you mean, of course, everything’s supposed to be equal. You hear this a lot on the left in the discussion about equity, equality, and all that. And honestly, they get the words, they use the words incorrectly, and they’re trying to champion the wrong thing. I don’t want to go into the geopolitical side of it. But what I’ll say about it, in regard to relationships is that things aren’t ever going to be equal, and they’re not supposed to be equal. But I like to use the word equitable. So what does that mean exactly? Well, okay, how about cleaning the house? Now, in most traditional male-female relationships, the woman does a much larger share of the cleaning of the house than the man does. I mean, that’s just the way it is. And so there’s this temptation to say, well, you know, I vacuumed the floor this week, you have to vacuum it next week, and I clean this, so then you have to do it next.

That is naturally not what we want in a relationship. But we don’t want it to be so uneven that you know, one person or the other is doing everything while the other one is being fat, lazy ass sitting on the couch. But what you do is you divide up the things in the relationship and you each do the things that you are best at and that you enjoy doing the most. And as long as you’re putting in an equal effort into the relationship and maintaining the home and raising the kids and all of that. It doesn’t have to be equal in the sense that we did I did half of this and you did half of that. No, you might do all of this. But then he does all of that. And in the end, we’re both putting in equal effort, right? So we’re not looking for a woman who wants everything to be always equal, well, I cook the meal this is, so you got to cook the next one. And I did this. And you know, we want equal effort, you’re both putting in the time and energy, but you’re doing the things that you’re best at, and that you enjoy doing the most.

So I always took care of anything to do with the outside of the house, whether it was fixing the outside of the house, or taking care of, you know, the landscaping, even though we had landscapers, there’s still a fair amount that you have to do on your own, as you probably know, taking care of the cars, mechanical things, stuff like that. Could she do those? Yes. Did she like doing those? No, not at all. But I did, I enjoyed that. And that’s where my skills were better. utilized, right, rather than, you know, I’m not the greatest laundry doer and, while I’m a good cook, I was not nearly as good as she was, she was a master in the kitchen, right? So we divide the things up and do the things that we’re best at and where our skills are utilized the best and the things that we enjoy doing the most. So we’re not looking for somebody that wants everything to be equal. And the last one, a woman who is emotionally immature, man, I don’t care how hot a woman is if she is emotionally immature, it is such a turn-off, I mean, a major turnoff, if she does not know how to handle her emotions, we might be okay fucking her a few times.

But eventually, we will get tired of that real fast, real fast. Okay, so that’s my list of what he doesn’t want. Now, sometimes when you’re making lists of things, you know, that are on one side or the other, you know, like you do a list of what he doesn’t want. And then the list of what he does want is just the reverse of everything that was on the list he doesn’t want. That’s not true. In this case, I picked a few specific things that I thought were really important to highlight as men not wanting, and the list of things that men do want, is significantly longer and rather different than that list. So, so don’t think you can just oh, okay, I get it, just flip all that around. And I know the other side. No, you don’t. And I also kind of broke it down into the must-haves and the bonuses. So keep in mind, this list could be in my opinion, a lot longer, but I just tried to pick some really big important things that I see a lot of things that I personally would want, and things that I see other men, you know, when I’m coaching men like what are they looking for? What are they telling me they want when they’re trying to find their mate? Or what are they telling me they want their actual partner to do? Because a lot of times men want these things. And they’re not necessarily dating, right? They have a partner, but they’re just like, Why? Why won’t she do this? Like, I just, wish you would do that. Right? So that’s where a lot of this stuff comes from.

Again, I could make a much longer list, but I think this will be this will be a pretty good start. Okay, so must-haves. Number one, she needs to be physically attractive to him. Now notice I said physically attractive, and I didn’t say she needs to be a model, she needs to have a certain color hair or a certain way or anything like that. No, because that type of stuff is specific to the individual. All I said is that she needs to be physically attractive to him. Now, do men sometimes be in relationships with someone they love that they’re not particularly physically attracted to? Yes, but that’s usually because the person becomes less physically attractive over time.

But you know, if you’re talking to a guy, and you’re saying, Hey, you’re looking for, you know, the one or they’re your next girlfriend, or even your next, you know, fling to have fun with, they’re always going to say, Well, yeah, of course, we want her to be physically attractive. So that takes me to the next one, which is men, it’s a must-have that a woman takes care of herself. And that means in all ways, really, it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s got to dress a certain way and put on a bunch of makeup, but she takes care of herself. She eats well, she doesn’t abuse drugs, alcohol, tobacco, you know, she exercises, you know, all that kind of stuff. She takes her time to do the things that she needs to do for her own well being right so especially if she’s a mom, right? She’s working really hard, but she makes sure to have a day here and there where she gets to just give herself a spa treatment or go to the spa or whatever it is that she takes the time to take good care of herself. I think that is absolutely a must-have in a woman.

Next is she’s feminine. Alright, so this one is the reverse of the first one on the list of things that men don’t want. But the reality is, is that the overwhelming majority of men want a woman who is feminine. And they won’t actually say it that way. When you’re asking them, you’re giving them guidance and coaching. They don’t say, Well, I just want her to be more feminine. What they’ll do is they’ll say, Well, I wish she would be like this. And then they give you a bunch of other words that all describe a feminine woman. So the reality is, most men really do want a feminine woman. And they don’t always necessarily know why. They just know that when they’re with a feminine woman, it just seems to work better. They feel better, the relationship is smoother, right? So most men are indeed looking for a feminine woman.

And well, okay, this next one is actually the reverse of the other one of the other list too, but is emotionally mature, or, as we like to say hasn’t high EQ, or, as we talked about in the episode on emotional intelligence has a high emotional intelligence. So this to me, I mean, this is an absolute 100% deal breaker, if a woman cannot show up as an emotionally mature high EQ, high emotional intelligence individual, there is no point in even showing up for the first day. And I mean, obviously, I personally would never get into a relationship with somebody who wasn’t like that. And believe me, I’ve learned that the hard way. Because let me tell you, I have had some partners that were not emotionally mature and did not have a high EQ. And, you know, a couple of times, I was super disappointed by it. Because you know, in one relationship, in particular, the one I had here for Céline. When I first was getting to know that person, she showed up as being very emotionally mature.

There were a couple of situations that were slightly challenging in the beginning, where she really liked she came through and I’m like, wow, this is amazing. She handled that so well. So I got hooked in because I was like, alright, this woman knows how to handle herself and, and behave as a mature, loving adult. Unfortunately, that didn’t last. And that was one of the main factors. That really was the main reason for completely ending that relationship, although it went on much longer than it should have. But I say that to say that, you know because I learned that the hard way, I would absolutely not accept anything less than that. So anybody that is not emotionally mature and doesn’t have a high EQ. Nope, nope, not just for me. I mean, when you talk to men, and when you talk to as many of them as I do. Again, they don’t use the same words necessarily that I’m using here.

Like they, they’re not going to say, Man, I just wish he had a higher EQ. I wish he was more emotionally intelligent. That’s not the words that they would say normally unless they’re pretty developed themselves. But they’ll say things like, God, I wish he just wasn’t so you know, overly emotional. I wish she didn’t fly over off the handle. And I wish she wasn’t so jealous like we’re watching a movie. And I saw this pretty woman, and I commented on her dress, or that, you know, like, whatever. Those are all signs of emotional maturity. And so that is one of the main things that men are looking for, even though they may not necessarily use those words. And related to that is the next one on the list, which is hormonally stable. So we’ve done multiple episodes on this show about hormones.

We’ve had a couple of doctors on the show. We recently did another episode with Alicia Deva, where we talked about hormones, and they are critically important and unfortunately in our society today, there are so many hormone disruptors in our environment, in our food supply, and our water supply, that makes it really difficult for women whose hormones are already fluctuating just based on the fact that they are women and they have a cycle and those hormones need to Change to trigger that cycle to actually happen. So remember guys that hormonal fluctuations in women are totally normal, and they’re a part of the reproductive process to a point. And when they get too far out of balance, it’s a problem. And so yeah, we definitely have to have a woman who is hormonal II stable. The good news is, though, that with the technology we have available today, you can easily have that tested, and you can figure out if your hormones are where they are supposed to be.

And you can easily correct them if they’re not, nobody has to be in a relationship with somebody currently, who’s hormonally unstable, and nobody has to get into one. First of all, if you’re getting into one, and you realize that you should just not get into it, just go look somewhere else. Unless they tell you, they’re 100% committed to fixing it right off the bat. Which, if they were, they probably would have done it already. But if you’re in a relationship, and things have shifted over the years, because they often do, there’s no reason why you have to deal with that. And there’s no reason why that has to be a deal breaker in your relationship in the sense that it causes the end of the relationship because it can easily be fixed. Next on the list, oh, yeah, this is a good one. Loves sex and is good in bed. Okay. I don’t know a single guy out there that would say he doesn’t want a woman who loves sex and is good in bed.

Okay. I know, I don’t know any. I’m sure there are a couple of guys who have no sex drive at all. And sex is not a high priority for them. And they don’t care if a woman loves sex or is good in bed. You are absolutely the outliers. Trust me. You are the outliers, the overwhelming majority of men want a woman who loves sex and his good and bad. How do I know that? Because what’s one of the biggest things that men come to me for when they’re seeking sex coaching? Okay, yeah, they want to be able, maybe they haven’t trouble with erections. Yeah, they want to be able to last longer. They want to be able to please their wife, but a lot of it is about how do I fix their sex life? She doesn’t want to have sex anymore. Now, of course, you know, there are many reasons for that, many of which are on his end of the couple as well.

But in general, what that signifies is that men want a woman who loves sex, and is good at it. I mean, who wouldn’t? I mean, honestly, women want that, too. They want a partner who loves sex and is good at it. But the thing is, is, you know, in general, men just love sex. So women never say that because almost every man that they ever encountered loves sex. What they do say though, is they want him to be good in bed. And that’s where women have their number one complaint because so many men are not good in bed. And so many women are unfortunately going on satisfied. All right, this next one on the list, I’m admitting okay, this, this one might be a little bit more me. But again, I talked to a lot of men, and it’s pretty hard to find a man who doesn’t like this.

But men love a woman who loves to give blowjobs it’s just true. It’s a fact women if you’re listening, and you’re like, oh, that’s stupid, or why, you know, whatever reaction you’re having to it. It’s just a fact of life. We love a woman who loves to give blowjobs not just a woman who will give blowjobs In fact, if a woman is giving me a blowjob, but she’s not particularly happy about it, she’s just doing it because she knows I want it. It’s actually not even fun for me Don’t even bother. You might as well just stop let’s go do something else. But when a woman truly loves to give blowjobs it is so much fun. Because it’s been we love receiving them. Not only do they feel great, but for me, I know it was a huge stress reliever. In fact, Celine he would often say you’re too stressed, pull down your pants, I’m gonna give you a blow job.

Like she would do that pretty frequently because she knew what a major stress reliever that was. And for her, because she loved to give blowjobs It was fun for her too. So she never had a problem with it. And it really is a great simple way to just connect both physically and also emotionally. Now we did a YouTube video on how to get more blow jobs. I think that’s the title roughly. I don’t remember off the top of my head. And in that video, we talked about how obviously how you can get more blowjobs but there’s like a key part in how that works. So the thing about getting a lot of blow jobs is their kids it’d be an expectation from the guy that she has to make you ejaculate every time. And that’s the thing is, if you want a woman to just go down on you, whenever she’s inspired her in the moon, she can’t feel obligated that she’s going to have to do this for x amount of time, she’s going to have to make you come, she’s going to have to swallow you’re calm, or any of that kind of stuff.

Because when she has that sort of expectation, see, like, she might not be in the mood to do it for you know, that long, she might not be in the mood to, you know, have your cum in her mouth, because she just doesn’t want it at that moment, right. And so, if she knows, that’s what you’re going to expect her to do, then she’s simply going to not do it when she even though she feels like she kind of wants to because she doesn’t want to do that last bit. So go listen to that video, there’s a whole bunch more advice in there. But that’s really the key to that. So if you find a woman, well, you should find a woman who loves to give blowjobs. And one of the ways that you can inspire that is by not creating a bunch of expectations about how that has to look. Okay, next on the list is intelligence.

You know, I don’t, I don’t really know any guys, like, I don’t really know any guys that want a dumb woman. I know men who have different ideas about what level of intelligence they would like, I personally require a pretty high degree of intelligence because I am an intelligent person myself, and I like to have intellectual conversations. And I like somebody that can follow along with what I’m saying. And we can have really deep discussions and have back and forth and she can contribute to that. And we can bounce ideas off each other. So to me, that is really important. I will say, though, that, you know, when a woman is really, really hot, but she’s dumb as a box of rocks, it is such a turn-off. Because you know, you’re not going to get much past the looks, and the looks aren’t going to last forever. And eventually, you know, you’re going to want more. So I think a must-have is that a woman should be intelligent. Now there are lots of different ways to measure intelligence, intelligence doesn’t mean she has to have a PhD. In fact, she doesn’t have to have a degree at all.

In my personal opinion, all degrees really mean is that you paid a lot of money you put in the time, you did the work required of you and you regurgitated all of the stuff that you were supposed to regurgitate. It doesn’t say that you have common sense, it doesn’t say that you have critical thinking abilities. And boy, can we see that throughout our society today, lots of people with very expensive degrees, and no ability to think critically about anything that’s happening in the world. So there are lots of different ways to measure intelligence, but it doesn’t mean she has to have a bunch of degrees. But she should be able to take in information and make intelligent assessments of that and come up with her own ideas and have conversations. All right, next, is capable of taking care of herself, but loves it when you take care of her. So as men in general, we love to take care of our women, we do like to be the provider, we’d like to take care of them. But we don’t want it to feel like a burden.

We don’t want to feel like we have to be the dad, or the caretaker, really. So we don’t want a woman who’s incapable of taking care of herself. But we also don’t want a woman that doesn’t allow us to take care of her that’s like No, no, no, no, I am a strong, capable woman and I can take care of myself and I don’t need your help because you’re a man like, No, we don’t want any part of that. So we want a woman that we know can take care of herself and has demonstrated that and that also will allow herself to sit back in her feminine and allow us to take care of her. I find that to be incredibly sexy. And again talking with a lot of men and they don’t use those words. But yeah, they get it on a on at least a subtle level that that’s what they are really looking for. Next on the list is she truly enjoys the feminine arts.

What does mean feminine arts? Well, it can mean a lot of different things. One of the things I mean, and you’ll trust me you will hear me talking about this probably until the day I die as far as the things that I loved about Celine. But one of the things that I loved about her was that she truly loved being a woman. And all that came with being a woman, even her cycle her period where so many women are like, Ah, I hate bleeding. Why do I have to do this? i This is the one thing I don’t like about being a woman Céline loved it and she cherished that time. But she also cherished all of the other things that it meant to be feminine. And the female is the caretaker, they are the nurturers, right, of the family of the children of their man. And she just truly loved being in her femininity and doing the types of things that feminine women would do.

Whether that was, you know, doing the laundry, I mean, how many people do you know today that actually enjoy doing laundry? And she did. She’s like, I love doing your laundry for you. She’s like, I love getting stains out of your clothes for you and making your clothes look really nice. And then when you put them on, you look really sexy. And if men are really honest, they also would love a woman who enjoys doing that stuff. I mean, that doesn’t mean you always love it. That doesn’t mean every time you put a load of laundry and you’re like, This is the greatest thing ever. Some days you’re like, fuck, I got so much to do like just one more fucking load of laundry, right? But overall, in general, she liked doing things that we would traditionally consider feminine roles. And that’s great as a man, that’s really what we’re seeking women who enjoy doing those things. They’re not just doing them because they have to, and they’re pissed off about it.

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It’s anything and everything related to that. And so that is Célineremy.com/go/warrior link is in the description. All right, let’s get back to the list here. Next on the list is supports his dreams and goals. Remember I said earlier in the show that you are supposed to be working together as a team. And that really is true. You’re not supposed to be competing against each other. You’re supposed to be working together as a team. And part of that is supporting each other’s dreams and goals. When a man is truly on his mission, when he is passionate about doing something or creating something in the world, we need our women to support us in that even if it means some sacrifices even if it occasionally means maybe a little time away from the family, maybe a little extra money that you know could be used elsewhere. We really need a woman who can see our vision and can support it.

That is an absolute must in a relationship. Next works collaboratively to create a future together Yeah, this is definitely something that is a must-have with a woman she needs to want to sit down and say okay, we’ve committed to each other and let’s vision for our future and what can the both of have us do to achieve these goals that we’ve set. So that one is really important, really big. You know, as men Yeah, we often do feel like wow, we can do it ourselves, we’ll make it happen. But there’s nothing more beautiful than the synergy that happens in a relationship when two people share the same goals and work collaboratively to create them together. All right, next is dedicated to him and only him. Now, this is something a lot of guys don’t necessarily I mean if you’re traditionally monogamous you do. But these days, those sort of relationship boundaries are getting a bit more fluid.

Yes, I use that term on purpose, because they’re constantly pushing, everything is fluid. Now, not everything is fluid. Some things are fluid, and some things are not. But in any case, we really do want a woman who is dedicated to us, who is like I am all in just like when we did the show about how to be the man that she wants, one of the things she wants is him to be 100% committed and all in well, we want the same thing, we want to know that she is our queen, and she is not going to leave this kingdom. Because she is dedicated to being the queen of the kingdom. This is a fun one seduces him on a regular basis. This is somewhat part of what we always talk about with the constant state of arousal, right? We do want a woman who Yeah, seduces us. And what do I mean by that? It means that she’s not always walking around in dirty sweats with her hair masks, right? That she’ll actually put on some nice clothes. Or maybe she’ll walk around in her underwear and tease us a little bit, you know.

And Celine used to do that all the time, she would intentionally put on the sexiest thing that she had, and then just go prance around the house. And just tease me. And it’s great. I loved it. I absolutely loved watching her do that. And of course, that created a lot of desire in me, so I was constantly chasing her around the house. And she loves to make that little game, right, she wanted me to chase her. That is another thing that women want, by the way, they want you as the man to chase them. And they want to play a little hard to get eventually, but eventually, they do want to be caught. All right, next, oh, this is a good one can rock some outdoor gear in the day and a sexy dress at night, we absolutely love that we love a woman who you’re doing a home project and she can throw on the old t-shirt.

And, you know, get out the paint and paint the room, you know, in some creative way that only she can do. And at the same time, she can clean up do her hair, put on a sexy dress, and look absolutely stunning in the evening. We love a woman who can do it all. Absolutely. Next gives you the space to pursue your hobbies and interests. And I should also add dreams and goals in that right. So sometimes it takes space to do those types of things. And a woman who’s always controlling. Remember we talked about one of the things we don’t want. We don’t want a woman who’s trying to control us all the time and tell us what we can and can’t do. No, no, we want a woman that gives us a space to pursue our interests and hobbies. Next does not get jealous if you notice a beautiful woman because she is secure and also sees that woman’s beauty. So we definitely need a woman who is secure and is not jealous.

And yet another thing that was amazing about Celine is I felt 100% free to comment if I saw a beautiful woman I could totally, you know, turn this thing and say, Wow, did you see her ass that thing was amazing. And she would totally go I saw her before you did it was awesome. So and she never got jealous about that, because she knew that she was totally safe and secure in the relationship. And she knew that I thought she was absolutely gorgeous and was super attracted to her. So she never got jealous about that. And we as men look, even though we’re 100% dedicated to you, even though we think that you are the sexiest thing on planet Earth, it doesn’t mean that we’re not going to notice other women. Like that’s just going to happen. That’s just part of being human. Unfortunately, most men feel they have to stuff that down and suppress it because I can’t I can’t notice another woman and she’s gonna get mad or she’s gonna get jealous or she’s going to give me the cold treatment for the whole day.

No, no, we don’t want any of that we want a woman where we can both appreciate the beauty that’s around us in the world, whether it’s male, female, you know, nature, whatever I need to be able to say Wow, did you see that tree was amazing and at the same time also go bad. Did you see her boobs? They were like, perfect. So yeah, we definitely want that in a woman This is a good one to: a woman who understands her own body. This is really important. One of the things that Céline spent a lot of time doing when coaching women was literally teaching women about their own bodies. I have always been shocked and amazed at how many women don’t even know their own anatomy. It’s shocking to me like as men, we know every bit about our penises forwards, backward, upside down, you know, you name it, we have looked at it touched it, whatever, every which way you can think of and so many women haven’t.

I talked about this, I was on a podcast with what was her name Dr. Moali, I believe. And we talked about pussy worshipping. And this was a big part of that is like how many women don’t actually know their own body or their own policies very well. So as a man, we want a woman who really knows her body, who knows every bit of it and understands how it works. Because the better she knows how it works, the better she’s going to be able to use it. Not just for our sake, but for her sake as well. Right? We want our women to have orgasms, we want them to have orgasms all over the place. We love it when women orgasm, right? So if she doesn’t really understand her body and how it works, you might not know how to get to her own orgasm, and you might not know what’s in the way of her orgasm, right? So we want a woman who really understands her body. And I’m not even just talking about just her pussy, right? The whole rest of her physical body to

next is generally happy with a pleasant disposition. Yeah, we want a woman who’s happy. I coach, a fair number of men whose wives are kinda like a Granted I’m hearing it from their perspective because I don’t always get to work with a woman. But the way they describe these women is they are some grumpy bitches. I mean, they really are some grumpy ass pitches. And who wants to be in a relationship with a grumpy ass bitch? Nobody? Absolutely nobody. So you know, I mean, life is gonna throw, you know, challenges at you doesn’t mean you’re gonna be happy all the time, and bubbly and giggly. But in general, yeah, a woman who is generally happy and pleasant to be around. And the last one on the list would be or is a great mother to your children.

So if children are part of your path in this lifetime, you definitely want a woman who’s a great mom, not a woman who’s struggling to be a mom who doesn’t really like all the things she has to do to be a mom and he’s just getting by and is miserable because of it. Because if she’s miserable, trying to raise the children most likely she’s going to pass a lot of that misery along to you. So yeah, if children is something that you want, creating a family is your thing, which it is for most people, I understand people like myself are the outliers. But if that is part of, you know what you want in life, then you definitely want a woman who wants to be a mom and enjoys being a mom, I would even kind of put that under enjoys genuinely enjoys the feminine arts, right? I mean, being a mom raising children, it doesn’t get much more feminine than that.

So all right, that is my list of things that are must-haves. Again, way more things you could put in the list. The list is not in any particular order. It’s not, you know, highest to lowest, it’s just a brainstorming list of qualities that I think based on my own experience and coaching men that men want in a woman and there are things that I’m listing as kind of must-haves because if they’re not there, you probably shouldn’t be in that relationship. But I got a couple of bonuses. There are a couple of bonuses that aren’t really must haves but once I had them I realized how much I really enjoyed them. The first one is a great cook. This was never like I actually created before Selena and I got together I wrote down an entire list of everything that I wanted in my partner and this was definitely not on it but let me tell you after having been with her for so many years and having her be such an amazing cook, I truly appreciated that so much and yeah, definitely something that is a bonus.

Enjoys simple housework like laundry we talked about that before. You know the feminine arts thing is a must-have I don’t need and most men wouldn’t say that they have their wife has to like housework or laundry but if she does enjoy doing those things, because you know something genuinely enjoyed taking care of the house. She liked creating a beautiful home in a beautiful space and keeping it that way and I Again, it’s something I never thought that I would want in a woman until I had it. And then I went, This is freaking awesome. Has hobbies or interests of her own, actually, you know nothing to think about, I probably should have put that one on the must-have list. It’s really important that it to have a healthy functioning relationship, that both parties have their own hobbies and interests and things that they pursue so that they’re not in a codependent situation where like, their whole happiness and existence relies on the other person, they should have their own as well earns her own money.

This is a good one. I put this as the bonuses because I used to think for many years that in a relationship, we should both earn the money and both contribute. Because that was what was fair. And in today’s society with women having pretty much the same opportunities that we do. I know some people would argue with that. But the data, data says that, you know, basically, most women have the same opportunity to get out. I don’t want to get into that debate. While there are exceptions to that, in general, that is true. But again, being in a relationship with Céline, seeing how much she loved keeping the house and doing all of those types of things. And she had said to me numerous times that even though she loved the work that she did, you know, if we could live the lifestyle that we lived without her having to earn money, where she could just work with clients here or there when she wanted to, she would have been perfectly content, just taking care of all of those other things. And the thing is, is I saw how much those things would light her up. And I really wanted to give that to her.

Unfortunately, we were never able to quite get there. We were getting close, but we never quite got there. But I told her that if I could provide for her the lifestyle that she wanted with just me working, I would have been happy to do it. So earning her own money, to me is a bonus. I don’t need her to. I mean, obviously if we need it to survive, which given the current economic climate in the last several decades, that has unfortunately been true for most people. But if that’s not the case, then yeah, her earning her own money is just a bonus to me. And the last one I put on here, I’m being somewhat cheeky. And yet at the same time, it is kind of a nice bonus is open to an occasional threesome. Let’s face it, guys, number one fantasy is to have a threesome, although most of them have not thought it out well enough, because they don’t understand the challenges and the potential downsides of a threesome. They only in their mind, think about all the ways in which they fantasize that it worked out perfectly. And everybody had a gazillion orgasms. And it was great. And it was always two women. And he satisfied both of them. And they both looked at him like a god and all that rarely how it actually happens.

But anyway, as a bonus, it is nice if she is occasionally open to you know, a threesome or something similar to that just as a little fun to spice things up. All right, so those are my bonuses in addition to the must-haves. Again, you know, guys, I hope that helps you go, Oh, yeah, you’re right, you know, I never really thought about that, that that is actually something I would really want. So hopefully this has helped you guys get clear on what it is that you are seeking if you’re looking and what kinds of qualities you would like to help your partner develop if you’re already in a relationship. And some of these things are lacking, you can help them develop some of this stuff. And then of course, for the ladies listening again, now you know what men are looking for. So if you’re out there going, Wow, where are all the good men? It’s like, well, they’re out there, but you just might not be attracting them. So take an honest look at yourself and go, you know, do I meet these criteria? And if not, how can I  know, how can I make myself the best version of myself and incorporate a lot of these things into who I am as an individual and thereby attract the type of man that you are looking for?

Okay, so in the title, I also alluded to the fact that not only were I going to tell you what real men were looking for in a woman, but also how to find her so I do have a couple of tips on how to find a woman like this. Number one, become the man that can attract this kind of woman just like I was saying to the Women, I did an entire episode it was episode 232. And it’s titled this is the type of man she wants and how to be him. So obviously this episode is kind of the reverse of that. Not exactly, but similarly, go listen to that episode, everything is an inside job. If you want a woman who really possesses all of these traits and lives them, and it’s part of who she is, and this is just how she shows up in the world, then you have to be the type of man that she would be with.

So go listen to that, for more on how to do that. But just know, you’ve got to step up your game as well, guys, if you want to score a woman who is as amazing as all these things that I just mentioned. Next, be yourself don’t have any pretenses or create false personas. And I even had, somebody told me this recently when we were talking about this very subject. And he said, Well, I feel like I gotta like, you know, be somebody else, you know, or put on like this persona in order to attract a woman like this. Absolutely not. Because that’s never sustainable, it doesn’t last, you won’t be able to keep it up, but eventually, she will see right through it. Know, your key is authenticity, and being yourself. And if yourself is not the kind of guy that could attract this type of woman, then go listen to episode 232. This is the type of man she wants and how to be him.

Alright, next, try online dating. But be very specific with your criteria and your own profile. Okay, so I was having a conversation with a woman the other day. And we were talking about dating. And, you know, I was basically telling her, man, over the years of doing this work, I have heard so many horror stories about online dating, I was like, I don’t want to go anywhere near that. And she said, Yeah, I hear you. And she said, that it has been amazing for her because she has been able to meet so many amazing people that she never would have come in contact with in regular life. If it weren’t for the broader net of online dating, I said, Okay, you have a valid point, I see that.

But I think to really get the best out of that, you have to be extremely specific and even though it seems like you’re going to be really limiting the pool, you’ve just got to put it all out there on the line and your profile, all of the must-haves and the deal breakers and all of that kind of stuff, you got to get it all out there. Otherwise, you’re gonna waste a lot of time with people who are not right for you. Next, go out and do things that you enjoy doing that a woman like this would be at. This is always my number one, sort of, like, how do I find the one thing is like, well go to the things that you love and enjoy and that light you up and that you know, the type of woman you want to be with would also be doing.

Because that’s where you’re likely to meet somebody that has similar interests, right, and is more aligned with you. Next is don’t compromise. If you see the red flags, right from the start, if you go well, she’s got like, you know, 80% of the stuff on my list. But there’s a couple of really key things that aren’t there, well, maybe I can make it work, maybe she’ll change maybe, you know, just don’t compromise. I know, it’s tough, especially if they really did have 80% of the stuff on your list, that’s gonna be a tough one to let go of it’s easy when they’re only 20 3040 50%. But if they’ve got that close of compatibility to you, it’s going to be tough to turn that away. But you still need to, I learned that when the hard way to I was in a relationship with a woman who we were so compatible in so many key ways we had so many values aligned.

But there were just a couple of things that were off and I thought wow, but we’re so compatible and so many other ways. And those incompatibilities, of course, reared their ugly head multiple times throughout the relationship, and eventually, it didn’t work, then that’s generally what happens. And lastly, listen to your intuition. We do not give enough credit to our intuition. These days, everything is about science and data, nothing wrong with science and data. That’s great. And there are sometimes things that science and data can’t tell us that our intuition just knows it just intuitively knows. So listen to it, pay attention to it. If you’re really looking for an amazing woman, really listen to what your body is saying how your physical body reacts, and how your nervous system reacts.

And you know, don’t overlook the things that your mind will bring in as well. And now the mind is less reliable than your physical body, your nervous system, and your intuition But pull all of those things together and really make good decisions. All right, that’s all I got for you on this one. I hope it was helpful for both the gentleman and the ladies out there. It is, of course, my goal to help everybody have the most amazing relationships be as aligned as you can possibly be, have the best, most amazing mind-blowing, out-of-this-world fucking sex that you can have. And all of this stuff is a big part of achieving that. So I hope it was helpful. That’s all I’ve got for you for this episode, and I will see you next week.

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