Does Sex Drive Decline With Age?

Kevin Anthony 0:11
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Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and Celine Remy. And we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:27
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 169.

Céline Remy 0:33
He just wanted to say that number.

Kevin Anthony 0:37
I remember when it was just Episode 69.

Céline Remy 0:41
And it’s all about the 69 positions that today.

Kevin Anthony 0:46
Now we’re 100 times 69.

Céline Remy 0:51
And this is why we’re gonna be talking today about sex drive. And wherever sex drive declines with age. All right,

Kevin Anthony 0:58
yeah, we have a packed episode for you, we might even have to go through some of it a little fast, we will do our best because we have so much information for you.

Kevin Anthony 1:10
So the question and the premise of this episode is, does sex drive decline with age, and it is generally believed that that is a normal thing that happens, you get older, and you lose your sex drive. And that’s that, well, we are going to bust that wide open with science today.

Céline Remy 1:31
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Céline Remy 1:49
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Kevin Anthony 1:59
All right, so we’re going to start out with a shortlist of reasons why your sex drive may be low. But I think we’ll probably just kind of quickly read them because we’re going to go into much, much more detail about each one of these things. As we go through the show,

Céline Remy 2:18
you have to understand that your body function as one unit, and it’s like it’s a whole system, when something in the body is not operating properly, it’s going to affect everything else. So when you are thinking about your libido, sometimes people are like, well, it’s just my sex drive.

Céline Remy 2:35
That’s just sad. But there are many factors that can have that can contribute to having a low sex drive, the most important one and the number one really is all about your hormones. And we welcome back and most of best specifically your testosterone. Now I’m going to say right now is testosterone while being mostly considered a male sex hormone is essential for women as well and is also responsible for women’s sex drive.

Céline Remy 3:01
But we’ll get back to that in a few minutes. And was just to give you a little teaser. Now, medications can affect your sex drive, as well as health issues. And you know, we separated this too, because some people take medications for like depression or different issues in their bodies, and that will affect them. But also health issues like high blood pressure, diabetes, all of these if your circulation is not working well.

Céline Remy 3:30
If your blood sugar levels are off, it’s going to affect your adrenaline it’s going to affect your hormones. So it’s kind of all tie in together. And of course, they are the outside factors like stress, which is going to raise your cortisol level, which then comes back to lowering your hormones.

Céline Remy 3:50
And then if you have mental things like poor body image, you have just like, you don’t really love yourself, you don’t like yourself, you know you are overweight, which could go into a health issue as well, but then you don’t like what you see. And last but not least, and maybe most important to the lack of use,

Kevin Anthony 4:11
use it or lose it. You know, I put that one on the list because, you know, I find that if we have a particularly busy or stressful period of time, you know, stuffs happening, and we’re not having sex as frequently, I tend to think about it less than one at less. I know that sounds counterintuitive because a lot of people say oh, she’s when I haven’t had sex in a while.

Kevin Anthony 4:33
That’s all I can think about. But that’s true when the reason you haven’t had sex in a while is simply that you don’t have a partner or you don’t have a girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever at the time. But like when life really gets in the way like when stuff gets, you know, pretty serious and you got health issues or family issues or you know, like serious stuff going on with work. It’s generally one of the last things that you think of and we’ll get back to Literally every one of these soon

Céline Remy 5:02
alright so now you know why your sex drive is low if you find yourself in there and as you can see it’s not just oh you’re aging not at all there are all these factors

Kevin Anthony 5:13
yeah so I found you know, rarely ever go to Wikipedia for anything because you know we call them fake a pedia but, but sometimes on certain subjects they do have some decent information. And I really liked how they defined what makes our sex drive so I’m just gonna read that to you real quick. So libido, also known as sex drive, is a person’s overall sexual drive or desire for sexual activity.

Kevin Anthony 5:39
In psychoanalytic theory, libido is a psychic drive or energy particularly associated with sexual instinct, but also present in other instinctive desires and drives libido is influenced by biological, psychological, and social factors. Biologically, the sex hormones and associated neurotransmitters that act upon the nucleus accumbens primarily testosterone, dopamine, social factors, such as work and family, and internal psychological factors such as personality and stress.

Kevin Anthony 6:14
So many of these can be affected by a bunch of different things. But the reason why I liked this particular explanation is that most people think of lack of sex drive as being associated with two different things, you get old, or your hormones are messed up. And if when you get old is because your hormones are messed up. So basically, people always think it just comes down to hormones.

Kevin Anthony 6:40
And what I liked about this definition is that it does a good job of explaining it’s not just hormones, so like we gave you in that little list, in the beginning, there’s a bunch of other things like social factors, psychological factors, as well as the actual physical, biological factors that can all affect your, your sex drive. And we’ll talk about it a little bit more as we get into the hormone thing. But because that’s coming up, pretty much Next, I wanted to sort of maybe warn the audience.

Kevin Anthony 7:16
Don’t get so caught up in the hormone thing. Okay. So like, we need to have a very short discussion about something here, before I let something really go on about the hormones. In modern science today, they will tell you that everything is you know, oh, it’s genetic. It’s genetic, it’s genetic, because we found the gene that controls this thing. Therefore, it’s all just genetic, there’s nothing you can do about it. Well, that’s not really true. That’s not the scope of this episode.

Kevin Anthony 7:47
So I’ll just leave it at that it’s not true. If you want to know more, send us an email, maybe we’ll do an episode on that. But the same is true with hormones. So science is going to tell you that if your hormone level is this, then this is totally what your experience is going to be. And this is how you’re going to feel things. And that’s not necessarily true either.

Kevin Anthony 8:06
And we have personal experience, having our home or hormone levels tested and having a say one thing, but actually having a real experience completely opposite of what the hormone numbers say. So I just kind of want to warn you that when we talk about this, yes, this is generally scientifically true when we talk about hormones.

Kevin Anthony 8:26
But if you hear something like, Oh, yeah, I had my testosterone checked, and it was low. So, therefore, I’m just never going to have a sex drive again, no, don’t allow your brain to go there. Because that part is the part that’s not true.

Céline Remy 8:41
You know, I want to bring the concept that your biggest sex organ is what’s between your ears. Again, I will say what we say all the time, you don’t have to be in the mood, you can create the mood, and that there is a correlation between feeling sexual energy and feeling energy period, like creativity, energy, and moving this energy in your body.

Céline Remy 9:02
So what I’ve noticed is when we do particular meditations, where we learn to circulate our energy into our bodies, we often feel aroused by doing this particular meditation and you’re like, well, you’re sitting down and meditating and using your mind to move this energy. How can that be? Well, because again, sexual energy is energy, right? And so when you start to create circulation and movements, then you start to feel some sensations.

Céline Remy 9:30
And then you don’t have to constantly base your sexual activity on your sex drive level, because again, you can simply be focusing on what lovemaking brings to you. And even if you’re not as horny, or as turned on, you can get there if you give yourself enough time and the proper environment.

Kevin Anthony 9:53
Yes, so let’s just talk briefly about the neurotransmitters near peptides and sex hormones that affect sex drive by modulating activity in or acting upon the pathways that generate sexual desire.

Céline Remy 10:13
Alright, so number one is testosterone it’s directly correlated, right, and other androgens, so androgens are more what would be considered the male hormones. And we all have the same hormones by the way men and women, however, we have different quantities of them, which is what makes a difference. And this is also why we have such differences between different men are different women because they have a different balance in their hormones.

Céline Remy 10:45
So then the opposite to the testosterone would be estrogen, which is related to other hormones that are female sex hormones. Let’s just go ahead read about the hormone, progesterone, which is fascinating. We will talk more about progesterone, we’ve been doing a lot of research on that and using things on ourselves. But again, there is a correlation with low progesterone, which also can create low testosterone. So all these hormones work together.

Céline Remy 11:14
And when one is off-balance, it will affect the other one. Of course, it’s the oxytocin, you know, the oxytocin is what you get when you share a hug with somebody. When you have that it’s kind of that bonding hormone. There’s serotonin and norepinephrine and acetylcholine. Oh,

Kevin Anthony 11:31
whoo. So those are, you know if you’re experiencing low libido, and you’ve ruled out things like social and psychological factors, and you think it might be a physical, biological thing, those are the places to start to look, what are your levels of those different neurotransmitters and neuropeptides. And we’re going to, we’re going to dive into them definitely a little bit more here.

Céline Remy 11:57
And also, when you’re playing with hormones, understand that it is not, it’s a significant thing, it will have repercussions. And it’s important to have somebody who understands hormones to support you through the process, it’s important to measure things and understand that there are different things like testosterone, there’s the free testosterone, I mean, there’s different levels, same with your estrogen through different estrogens.

Céline Remy 11:57
So you have to be, I would say, supervised through that process, because if you want to be really successful, and look at the nitty-gritty, I want to come back to the testosterone because really, testosterone is what is essential both for men and women. And we’re gonna talk a little bit about the difference between men and women.

Céline Remy 12:39
So testosterone is mainly produced in the testicles for men, it starts at puberty, and the testosterone levels start to increase significantly in males. So during this period of growth, testosterone is responsible for the cracking and eventual deepening of a male’s voice, the growth of facial and body hair, the muscle mass, the increased strength, increased testosterone, are all the result of that increased testosterone during puberty.

Céline Remy 13:08
And you know, they all come at a different time. This testosterone is known as the male sex hormone magically due to its impact on male sexuality. So it plays a key role in libido, in sex drive, as well as erections, along with sperm and seminal fluid production.

Céline Remy 13:28
So when testosterone levels are healthy, a man can have a healthy sexuality, a healthy libido, and all of this, if they are too low, then it can affect a men’s sexuality as well as his moods, he may experience lots of loss of muscle mass and bone density, loss of facial and body hair, weight gain, especially around the middle, and fatigue or depression, these are all signs that men are low in their testosterone,

Kevin Anthony 13:54
you know, now would probably be a good time to talk about the tests that everybody has done for testosterone, in the sense that they don’t always test for the right thing. And so you’ll get a number back, that may be high or low, but it may not be telling you the whole story. And that’s an important point to make. And I mean, you know a little bit more about that as far as the free testosterone versus

Céline Remy 14:25
Well, the only thing to understand too, is that people usually don’t have a baseline. So most people don’t check themselves on testosterone when they are at their peak probably around their 20s, right? And so then they go to the doctor later in life, and they go like, well, you’re still considered normal, but there’s a wide range I forgot. If I think if it’s between 309 100 is still considered normal.

Céline Remy 14:51
Anything below is considered low, something like that. But the problem is if you let’s say you were at 800, and then you had 400 you’re happy Half of what you used to be, which is low for you. But if you used to be about 650, and now you’re 400, it’s not that much of a big jump. So it’s important to understand that, I mean, one of them like the sure tell sign is related to your erections.

Céline Remy 15:14
Do you wake up with a morning word, if you don’t, and you don’t have spontaneous erections, and that has doesn’t happen in the morning, then your testosterone is too low for you? I don’t care what the numbers say, if your body is not showing up if your body’s not responding, then the testosterone you’re producing and less time, or maybe you have too high levels of estrogen, which is inhibiting the testosterone or the process of how it breaks down.

Céline Remy 15:39
And when it is when the testosterone breaks down in a way that’s not good. It turns into estrogen in the body more of the female hormone. So there’s something happening that’s not quite right. Yeah, and

Kevin Anthony 15:50
that’s kind of the point I wanted to make is that you might get a test number that says low, but then we’ll look at what you’re experiencing. If you have six-pack abs, and you have no problem putting on muscle mass in the gym, and you wake up every morning with a rock-solid erection, and you have a desire for sex all the time. Don’t pay so much attention to that number.

Céline Remy 16:14
Now let’s look at the female counterparts. So the women produce. They produce testosterone in their ovaries, adrenal glands, and fat cell. But it’s different from how men produce a hormone. During puberty, women experience an increase in estrogen, which is the hormone responsible for all of their bodies change, you know, the hips, the breasts, and, you know, the fat the cellulite, though they do is to produce a level of testosterone, it’s only about 1/7 of the amount that men produce.

Céline Remy 16:44
The main function of testosterone in a woman’s body is sexuality, though there are a couple 100 of avenues for it. Just as with men, women who experienced low testosterone levels can experience low sexual arousal and libido. I wanted to quickly mention a study the study was performed in 2003. So it’s not recent by any means. And there probably you are other ones that have been done.

Céline Remy 17:08
But the study was performed in the compared women who were menopausal and had low libido and they gave them testosterone or estrogen, and then they looked at what happened. So the investigator found that boosting testosterone levels were associated with increased sexual desire in women who complained of menopause-related low libido and reduced sexual arousal.

Céline Remy 17:31
Women taking a low dose estrogen, testosterone combination treatment reported a two-fold improvement in sexual interest. Compared with women treated with estrogen alone. What that really means is, it’s not your estrogen, that gives you sexual desire, it is your testosterone when you address the testosterone, and yes, it is a male hormone, but it is part of what makes our sex drive happen.

Céline Remy 17:55
When you correct that in very low dose again, supervise you don’t want to just like do it like this, because you can go too far the other end, it will increase sexual libido. And even though people are thinking, well, we don’t really know there’s no proof. There have been enough studies. And I think just try it with women, enough women who are seeing positive results for doing that for themselves.

Kevin Anthony 18:22
Yeah, and you know, we’ll get to it when we get more into what can you do if you have low libido. So I don’t want to jump ahead and go too much into this. But I do again, want to sort of caution the audience that the fix isn’t always going get pumped up with hormones, right? Most likely, what you need to do is address an underlying imbalance in your body that’s creating your hormones to be out of balance.

Kevin Anthony 18:46
So in other words, you know, if you have a low level of a particular hormone, the solution isn’t necessarily to go have somebody inject a bunch more of that hormone into you, because it doesn’t solve the underlying condition of why was it low, to begin with, right. And so we’ll talk more about that. But as we’re talking about all of these different hormone things, and potentially supplementing with hormone therapies, keep in mind, that should really be a last resort.

Kevin Anthony 19:12
And always, always, always done under the supervision of not just a medical doctor, but a medical doctor that truly understands hormones. And honestly, there aren’t very many of them out there. Lots of them will tell you that they do, but they really truly don’t understand how this works.

Céline Remy 19:28
So to come back to the question of today’s show, does the sex drive decline with age as you can see, we go through changes and fluctuations in life. So are things different? Yes, they are. We’re not going to say that it’s the same because even if you look at your body, the way you looked at 15 or 20, versus the way you look at 40 is not the same the quality of your skin, different things, but do you have to go downhill from there? Absolutely not.

Kevin Anthony 19:59
No, but there are some really great things I found on the effects of age, and your libido, and your hormones. Alright, so

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Kevin Anthony 20:55
Oh, okay, so let’s talk about what happens as you get older, and how that affects your sex life. Your libido, your sex drive, okay, so we don’t age? Well, I don’t. I’m 75 you wouldn’t even know it.

Céline Remy 21:12
You’re so not.

Kevin Anthony 21:16
Not yet anyway. Alright, so we got to start way back in the beginning. So the surgeon testosterone hits the male at puberty, resulting in sudden and extreme sex drive, which reaches its peak at age 15 to 16 and then drops slowly over his lifetime. So the reason why that’s kind of important to understand is that literally 15 or 16, you’re maxing out with the amount of testosterone, and then it’s going to slowly decline years.

Kevin Anthony 21:45
So if you’re 50, or 60 years old law way past 15, or 16, right? And so all of those years, it’s been dropping a little bit, especially if you have not maintained a healthy lifestyle. So that’s kind of something that’s important to know. In contrast, however, a female’s libido increases slowly during adolescence and peaks in her mid-30s.

Céline Remy 22:07
Well, I would, I would say, That’s true. I’m experiencing that peak right now.

Kevin Anthony 22:12
Lucky. Well, and that is actually really important to know. And you’re in society. You’ve heard this all the time, right? You’ve heard about the horny, you know, young teenage boys that just one fuck all the time, right? And then you’ve heard that well, you know, it’s really not, it’s the older women, the Cougars, right? They really want to have sex all the time, there is some truth to that, because of the way the hormones change and fluctuate.

Kevin Anthony 22:39
Actual testosterone and estrogen levels that affect a person’s sex drive vary considerably. This is kind of what we were talking about before, most people don’t have a base range, so they don’t actually know what’s normal for them. People in their 60s and early 70s generally retain a healthy sex drive, but this may start to decline in the early to mid-70s.

Kevin Anthony 23:01
So, you know, in today’s society, I mean, people are literally saying, like, by the time you’re in your 40s, you’re already like losing your sex drive and in decline. But what the stats tell us is that people still have a healthy sex life in their 60s and 70s. And it’s generally not until, you know, more like mid-ish 70s or so that they start experiencing a decline. But should

Céline Remy 23:27
there would be a correlation because that’s also when a lot of the half challenges are held by laughs and then it makes it you know because all the processes work a little bit slower. And if you have a fall or if you have, an A virus only thing, it usually takes you much more time to come back up to that strength. And then if you add to free things in a row, then you kind of like really down

Kevin Anthony 23:51
and the medications you take generally increased. So you actually just hit on my next bullet point, which is, older adults generally develop a reduced libido due to declining health, and environmental or social factors. So all this talk about hormones. And it turns out the stats actually say that older adults generally develop a reduced libido due to declining health, environmental and social factors.

Kevin Anthony 24:14
In contrast to common belief, postmenopausal women often report an increase in sexual desire and an increased willingness to satisfy their partner. Oh, wait a minute, does this mean that after you go through menopause, it’s not true that you no longer want to have sex. You just want to like, knit, and hang out with your girlfriends? No,

Céline Remy 24:37
it is but for others, it’s not. And the women often report family responsibilities to have relationship problems and well-being as inhibitors to their sexual desires. So when you no longer have the burden of being careful to be pregnant, suddenly, there’s a newfound freedom. When you no longer have your kids at home when you can find time for yourself. have self-care and stuff.

Céline Remy 24:59
Suddenly your libido returns because you have a little bit more energy for yourself that’s very fascinating. But what that means is whatever you believe to be true is going to be true for you so if you’re set on the idea that it is normal to age and that’s you’ll have a decline in libido that’s most likely what you are going to experience if you are set on the idea that well while my body will change maybe the way I make love will change my libido and my sex drive can remain and I can still have healthy sexuality that is what you are going to experience

Kevin Anthony 25:33
absolutely and so you know we talk a lot about you know, the hormones and you know the all the things that we listed at the beginning of this show, and all of that really comes down to it doesn’t have to be that way those things can happen and they can affect your sex drive but they don’t have to and I would say also that the people that are affected by them are probably significantly fewer than you think.

Kevin Anthony 26:01
And there’s still quite a few of them so I’m not making this out to be like you know, it’s rare that people experienced these things No, they experienced them somewhat frequently, but not as much as you think because in our commonly held belief it’s basically everybody that gets older goes through this and what the data really tells us is no that’s not actually true.

Céline Remy 26:22
So that begs the question What can you do to increase your sex drive if you like okay fine. Now I understand it doesn’t have to go down he’ll there be things I can do and I’m glad you asked because we have some answers for you.

Kevin Anthony 26:38
Yes, we do we have a whole list here of things that you can do to increase your sex drive.

Céline Remy 26:44
Number one, eat more fat Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we said it on the love lab podcast fat is an essential nutrient. In order to produce hormones, you need to have enough fat so all these low-fat diets are really really bad for you. Good healthy fat now we got to be clear, it’s not just to eat like tons of Bacon’s while they’re you know, there are some good fats. It’s better to go with

Kevin Anthony 27:09
it away from the process of trans fats, hydrogenated crappy oils, and all that stuff. healthy oils, olive oil, avocado oil, avocados themselves coconut

Céline Remy 27:21
oil. Yeah, ghee, raw butter, this type of thing will be really good for you organic, of course, especially with the dairies. Otherwise, it’s going to have hormones that are going to affect you on hormones.

Kevin Anthony 27:34
Yeah, that’s an important point to make is that almost all commercially produced dairy has hormones in it because in order to get the cows to overproduce, they pump them full of hormones,

Céline Remy 27:46
and mostly estrogen and bovine growth hormones,

Kevin Anthony 27:49
bovine recumbent growth hormone, which is really, really bad for you. And it’s pretty much in all the milk because you pump it into the cows, it ends up in the milk, just like anything you pump into a human mother ends up in her breast milk, too, right? So you got to make sure that you’re getting this stuff from good sources.

Céline Remy 28:07
And number two, sleep more sleep helps to regulate your hormone level, most people are sleep deprived, and usually, there’s like a correlation, because it gets so stressed, and when they don’t sleep well. And the quality of sleep is not good. And then their body can produce the proper level of hormones.

Kevin Anthony 28:25
Yeah, and I would add to that because I don’t think it’s on the list here. But to not to do screen time, for an hour or two before bedtime,

Céline Remy 28:34
the blue light because a blue light affects your melatonin production, which basically makes it that you won’t sleep as deep and you won’t be able to release all the cortisol. And then if you have that high-stress level, you won’t be able to produce the hormones you need to do.

Kevin Anthony 28:52
Exactly. So that’s that next on the list, lift weights. Obviously, men love to get toned and chiseled fatigue. Well, some do. I look around in society, and I go, not enough of them really love that. But some do. But regardless, both men and women should be lifting weights. And okay, I got to speak to you as a professional here. I used to work at a very high-end club spa.

Kevin Anthony 29:20
As a personal trainer when I was in my 20s of my fellow trainers were literally Olympic athletes. We worked at that high of a level so I have significant experience here. And I can honestly tell you, I had so many female clients that will come to me and say, Well, you know, I want you to train me but I don’t want to get all buff.

Kevin Anthony 29:44
Like I don’t want to have giant muscles. I don’t want to look like a dude, you know, and I would put them sit through some pretty hard workouts and they would say this all the time. Like, are you sure I should be doing this? I don’t want to look like a dude. I can tell you that anytime you see. female body elders, or even female fitness competitors who have larger than normal muscles for a woman, had help in some way.

Kevin Anthony 30:11
And I’m not saying that they’re all on steroids, although many of the most likely is. You could, as a regular person eating a normal diet and going into the gym and working out hard on weights, you’re never going to bulk up like a man, you’re just not unless you’re one of those odd women, that naturally just happens to have an unusually large amount of testosterone, which some do that happens.

Kevin Anthony 30:35
But for your average normal woman, this is not going to happen. And if I wanted to train a woman to be that big, we would have to pull out every trick in the book, we would have to be having her take, you know, testosterone precursors, you know, things to help her body try to produce more, we’d have to be giving her tons of protein we’d have to, there’s a lot of things we would have to do to make that happen. And it is not easy to do.

Céline Remy 31:01
Let’s continue with our list of things you can do, you need to get some sunshine, because it will help you with your vitamin D. And we have talked about vitamin D in the past, and it’s pretty much everybody is kind of too low in their vitamin D. And the problem is even when you fall within the normal. So for example, when we tested our vitamin D, we had been supplementing, we do a lot of naked sun time spend a lot of time outdoor, but we still do work indoors.

Céline Remy 31:32
And I was very surprised that my level was basically at the bottom of the normal at 30. Like that the bottom part of it, I expected it to be so much higher because I took my supplements. And it’s only when I started to increase basically tenfold the amount of vitamin D that I was supplementing with that my levels have gone much higher. Yeah. So

Kevin Anthony 31:55
there’s a couple of things to say here. First of all, somebody just commented on one of our YouTube videos, and they said, Oh, only 40% of people are deficient in vitamin D, not true. In today’s present time, literally 100% of people unless you live outdoors, because you’re you live in a tribe somewhere in Africa or South America. If that’s not your daily experience, you are deficient in vitamin D. So we have to get that out right upfront, you are deficient.

Kevin Anthony 32:25
And how do we know that because we were literally supplementing with high-quality vitamin D, and we get outside every opportunity we can and our numbers still were not high enough? Now the other thing is, is, in order to get that 40% number, the range that they’re using for the level of vitamin D is extremely low. So what they’re telling you is when you look at like, say USDA recommendations for a particular supplement, how they determine what that number is, is basically how much do you need to not die?

Kevin Anthony 32:57
Like that’s how low the number is. And so when they say oh, well, you’re in that normal range, because that’s us you know, our da is blah, blah, blah, nonsense you need like, like Celine was saying, probably 10 times what they tell you that number is and so that’s how they get to a number like 40% only 40% no 100% are deficient because they don’t have anywhere near the levels that they’re supposed to have. Because we live most of our time indoors.

Kevin Anthony 33:25
Vitamin D is extremely difficult to get through food. And basically, you either have to be out in the sun a lot. But not only that, you have to have a significant portion of your body exposed to the sun. So being out in the sun with a T-shirt and a pair of pants on is not not really cutting it well you get a little on your arms and your face.

Kevin Anthony 33:45
That’s not enough, you actually you would have to be outside we figured this out one day it was like, like a diary, like eight hours a day naked every day in order to get enough vitamin D that that’s how much you’d have to be out there. So you just can’t do it without supplementing

Céline Remy 34:00
and by the way, a little side notes so vitamin D is not a vitamin. It’s basically a hormone precursor. FYI, which also, in turn, will affect how your hormones play and so if you have low vitamin D, usually you’ll have low hormone level as

Kevin Anthony 34:14
well because your body needs vitamin D to produce the hormone.

Céline Remy 34:17
You want to avoid plastics to minimize the estrogen which comes directly with the testosterone. So anything that’s, you know, BPA for and all of these things. This is a whole episode and nothing we’re just going to

Kevin Anthony 34:31
it is. I will say this is a silent epidemic is literally a silent epidemic. You are exposed to massive amounts of Phytoestrogens which means plant estrogens and xenoestrogens which basically are manmade chemical estrogens. They’re in everything everyone can basically you know everyone went crazy in this fad. It’s all BPA free now so you don’t have to worry you realize there’s literally and I’m not joking I’m not making this up

Kevin Anthony 34:58
BPA bc D, E, F, G, and so on through the alphabet, and most of those other ones, A is the only one they took out. They just replaced it with other ones that were they because the public only knows a, so we just tell them, there’s no more an in it, what about B or C or D, right? So you’re exposed to massive amounts of these things, and they are messing up your hormones big time.

Céline Remy 35:22
Want to talk about not going too much for steady cardio for most people, cardio is detrimental and they would do much better with high-intensity training or weightlifting in order to because again, we are looking at what can increase the hormone what can create the body to produce more sex drive. And that’s this type of activity that would do that.

Kevin Anthony 35:46
Yeah, that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with cardio, and judging by the size of most people I see walking around in the streets, they need some cardio, but excessive cardio could actually deplete your hormones.

Céline Remy 35:57
Yes, you want to look at things like reducing your exposure to radiation, or like EMF electromagnetic frequencies, if you are subjective to that as well, because again, most of the time, the EMF will mess up again with your sleep cycles and with your melatonin production. And it just, if you think about it, we are in the physical body, but we are made of like, everything is electricity to electrical right.

Céline Remy 36:25
And those ways they are messing with our electrical bodies. So for sure, some people are more sensitive than others. And so it’s important to understand that like probably wearing your cell phone, on your breasts, or in your pocket by your penis, all of these things will affect and make a lot of radiation in areas that you do not want to be irradiated.

Kevin Anthony 36:48
This is yet another silent epidemic. I mean, literally an epidemic. Everything is wireless, you refrigerators wireless, now your washing machine is wireless, everything is wireless, you are completely inundated with electromagnetic frequencies. And as Celine rightly pointed out, your body is electrical.

Kevin Anthony 37:10
And all of those frequencies are messing up with your body’s ability to function the way it’s supposed to function. And they know it, they absolutely know it. And they just won’t tell you because they’re they’ll lose millions of dollars because you’d have to get rid of all this great technology.

Céline Remy 37:24
We’re going to go quickly because we’re getting close to the end of the show. A few more things that you can do are look at the micronutrients and minerals in your diet because the soils are now depleted, most of us are depleted and we need something supplementing to help us with that balance.

Céline Remy 37:39
So there are some fantastic tests. If you work with a naturopathic doctor or functional medicine doctor that can help you go through that and test your own levels. Again, there’s no one size fit all everybody processes things differently, you may be exposed to the same food, the same environment, and yet your bodies react differently. So it’s important to be able to understand yourself and know yourself.

Céline Remy 38:00
I’m going to talk about alcohol because alcohol is really bad for your testosterone level. I know some people say drink your red wine that has got to resveratrol it’s got all of these sayings. And you know, I’m not a big fan of that. And so especially say no to beer, because if you want to have a flat stomach if you do not want to have excess estrogen, you need to stay away from the beer because it’s loaded with Phytoestrogens.

Kevin Anthony 38:26
I hate to tell you this guys, but the beer, you know, thanks guys say go, you know, the more beer you can drink the more of a man is it’s actually totally the opposite. The more beer you drink the less of a man you are because you get higher estrogen levels and lower testosterone levels. And while there are benefits in red wine, such as resveratrol, just keep in mind that any benefit that you get is outweighed by the negative effects of the alcohol itself. So get your nutrients elsewhere.

Céline Remy 38:59
And then we go on to talk about and to not be injured at night, literally pretty much after 7 pm it’s best to give your body a rest, avoid your body’s going to spend the night digesting the food you’ve eaten late at night. And it’s not going to do the whole digest repair the body that is needed.

Céline Remy 39:18
And you’re going to start to run low on your battery. And of course last but not least, getting plenty of rest, which is probably one of the hardest things we’re having this conversation this morning. And like I have to try so hard in my life to be unbusy because the world we live in is designed to make us constantly react to have distractions to have things competing for our attention and energy.

Céline Remy 39:40
And sometimes just have to say, Enough slowdown. Like I want to have this more like unbusy like slower-paced life, but it’s hard because it’s going against the society and the environment that we live in and we have to work on being relaxed and unbusy

Kevin Anthony 40:01
Yeah, so all of these things pretty much that we talked about here and ways to increase your sex drive are ways to get your body back into balance so that it can produce the hormones that it should be producing. And in the proper proportions. Now, you should be doing these things no matter what. But there could potentially be situations where this is not enough.

Kevin Anthony 40:22
And you might need to seek help in balancing those hormones from a medical professional. So just keep that in mind. The place to start, like if you’re listening to the show, and you’re going well, yeah, my sex drive really isn’t what it used to be, before you run to the doctor, assuming that you don’t have any major medical issues. Try this first, like really commit to changing your lifestyle and see what effect it has.

Kevin Anthony 40:48
And if you’ve really done all of this in good faith, like you really gave it a shot not just I tried it for a week and I didn’t feel anything kind of bullshit. But if you’ve really tried it, and it takes time, like months of doing this to really get in the routine and start to feel the benefits, if, at that point, something hasn’t shifted, then you might need to look elsewhere.

Céline Remy 41:09
Absolutely, and I think really you start with moving differently introducing the weightlifting cleaning up your diet, and paying more attention to your sleep to have better sleep these free changes are can be incredible in what they can do for yourself.

Kevin Anthony 41:29
Alright, so we have a bonus who we love bonuses

Céline Remy 41:34
if you’ve made it all the way to the end of today’s show we’re going to give you a few things I can food increase your sex drive you know a lot of people talk about aphrodisiac and it’s there’s a lot of controversy about it has more to do with you had that anything else and so aphrodisiacs a little bit different like real substantial food can have effect again on your body.

Céline Remy 41:56
I want to say you want to before we tell you which one to eat let us tell you which one to not eat sugar like throw this one away like sugar is just not good for you and sugar is in everything especially why to sugar and processed food,

Kevin Anthony 42:13
sugar processed foods beer alcohol, in general, those are some of the top ones

Céline Remy 42:22
like white flour and all of these types of things but that would be like anything that comes in a package that’s very different from its form that it would look if it was in nature you should question whether or not you should put that in your body

Kevin Anthony 42:35
yeah and you know certain things like you know soy and beer and stuff like that have high levels of estrogens in them so you want to stay away from that kind of stuff.

Céline Remy 42:42
So let’s give you a few things to eat Eat some seafood like tuna and you know sardines and anchovies. You can even have cod liver and things like that any fatty fish really look at egg yolk so some people are just like oh just want egg whites but really what you need is the egg yolk.

Céline Remy 43:02
You can do things like venison and B for some meats, especially that’s like organic or free-range you want to have super high quality. You want to increase your leafy green vegetables so essential and things like also your cruciferous vegetables and your beans and also your spices like ginger, garlic and a lot of other spices.

Céline Remy 43:29
My Ayurvedic physician used to say that one of the biggest problems here in the West is that we are spices deficient. The only thing we use is garlic and salt and pepper. And it’s like what about turmeric and cumin and coriander and fennel, like all of these different things that people have no understanding like spices are really essential.

Kevin Anthony 43:48
herbs and spices are powerhouses they’re literally medicines. medicines. They’re not just oh it makes the bland thing that I’m eating taste better. Yeah, it does that too. But they’re literally medicine. And again,

Céline Remy 44:01
there’s not a one size fits all we’re giving you this list but you’ve got to know your body of Gunny know yourself there’s no one diet that fits everyone. But nuts and seeds are important there’s a lot of research done on pomegranates that could be really good for the body.

Céline Remy 44:16
And whey protein for those people who can digest that is a good one to do help to build some of the muscle mass and the testosterone for people so this food again like the good fats and the high-quality protein and including the veggies and some nuts and seeds will help you boost your sex drive.

Kevin Anthony 44:37
Alright, like we said we have a packed show. We didn’t even have a lot of time to go into the social or psychological factors but they’re definitely there. You know people’s attitudes towards sex at certain times in life and you know, stresses and things that they got, those all have effect as well. We just didn’t have time to get into it all we wanted to cover kind of the most common and easy to correct type of things, but just know that there are other factors that you may need to look into.

Kevin Anthony 45:08
And really, that’s all the time we have for this episode. If you have any questions, send them over to us and maybe we can do another show and go deeper into some of the other topics. But that’s all the time we have for this episode, and we will see you next week. We hope you like this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe. leave us a review and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 45:37
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Céline Remy 45:51
Thanks for listening. And remember, you’re amazing.