The Art Of Cock Worshipping

Kevin Anthony 0:11
Welcome to the Love Lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man or woman, single or couple, this is the show for you.

Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and Céline Remy and we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:28
All right, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 214. And it’s titled The Art of caulk worshipping. Okay, don’t guys tune out. Ladies don’t tune out either.

Kevin Anthony 0:43
This episode is actually for both of you. So we’re going to start out first with, you know, sort of what do we mean when we say cock worshiping and, you know, we’re going to talk about why men don’t get as much cock worshipping as they wish they did.

Kevin Anthony 1:01
We’re going to talk about how you can get more cock worshipping. And that’s kind of like the guy’s section. Right? So if you’re over there going, Man, I wish my woman would worship my cock like that, why doesn’t she do it, we’re going to tell you why she doesn’t do it.

Kevin Anthony 1:15
We’re going to tell you what to do to get her to do it more. And then in the second half of the show, we’re going to talk about how to do it. So that’s going to be really for the women.

Kevin Anthony 1:27
Once you and women don’t tune out to the first half, by the way, because when you hear what we tell the man, you’re gonna go, yep, uh huh. Exactly. That makes it that’s it? Yep. Aha, right.

Kevin Anthony 1:38
So. So you’re going to want to hear that so that you can have these discussions with your men about hey, this is why because some of these things, when we go over them, you’re gonna say, yeah, absolutely. But you might also say, Ah, I never really thought about it like that.

Kevin Anthony 1:56
And I never put it in those words. So this is gonna give you words that you can use to have this discussion. Can the case, right? And then of course, as we said in the second half, then it’s going to give you the actual techniques that you can use to make it amazing.

Céline Remy 2:14
Yeah, how exciting. So before we dive into today’s super juicy content, and by the way, before you get all offended next week, stay tuned for the other part, the art of worshipping per se. It is coming. We are starting the cock. But the pussy is coming.

Kevin Anthony 2:33
Oh, yeah, we’d love it when the pussy comes.

Céline Remy 2:38
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Kevin Anthony 3:06
Yeah, and actually, we have a module in our couples program, not power mastery, but in our couples program, where we actually cover all of this. COC worshipping.

Céline Remy 3:20
Yes. And it’s funny because when people work with us, we always do a strategy call, because then we want to see like, Hey, are we a match? What is it that you’re looking for? How can we support you?

Céline Remy 3:33
And do we want to work with you? Right? Because that has to be fun both ways. And if it looks like we are a good match, then we kind of give them some outlines of like, Hey, this is what we’re going to cover.

Céline Remy 3:46
And one of the modules is called cock worshipping. That’s usually when the guy is sold out. Yep. Where do we sign up?

Kevin Anthony 3:57
Yeah, well, what guy doesn’t want his cock worshipped? I mean, come on. Really.

Céline Remy 4:02
This is a good way to maybe define what we mean by cop worshipping.

Kevin Anthony 4:09
Yeah, that’s a great place to start. So what do we mean by that? You know, unfortunately, the term cock worshipping can trigger some people, like, oh, you expect me to worship him.

Kevin Anthony 4:21
and all it really means is giving attention to somebody’s cock in a way that brings in the elements of, you know, of love, of appreciating appreciation of, you know, even at your leisure turn on, you know, all of that kind of stuff.

Kevin Anthony 4:46
So, you know, to properly cock worship and you’ll get at the end, you’re gonna give some techniques and principles of principles, but, but to properly do it, and this is going to go for the pussy worshipping as well.

Kevin Anthony 5:00
Well, but to really properly do it as like a cock worship means that you have to really enjoy what you’re doing, you’re not just going through the motions like, okay, he wants me to touch his cock.

Kevin Anthony 5:00
So I’ll do it, you know, you have to approach it from the point of view of, Wow, this caulk is amazing. It’s beautiful, it brings me so much pleasure, I love the way he uses it. I love the consciousness of it, like all of that stuff. And you know, you’d probably be a better one to talk about that. But,

Céline Remy 5:00
but I love this point. And I think also another aspect of God worshiping is the healing aspect of it. You know, most of the time, we touch a partner’s genitals without being fully present or having like a goal in mind. And it’s kind of like a fast food experience.

Céline Remy 5:51
And cock worshipping is taking that experience, that fast food experience and turning it into a gourmet that, you know, experience five meals course, that involves your senses. And that is actually enjoyable for both.

Céline Remy 6:08
And unlike fast food, where you feel full, and an hour later, you still starve when you had this gourmet five-meal course, it goes on for a while, which really satisfies you, on a deeper level. Yeah, and I think it’s important to see that, you know, your relationship right now may not be in a place where you’re like, I don’t want to do that.

Céline Remy 6:35
You know, like, he’s not showing up for me, or I don’t like him, or we have so much resentment and things, you know, but I want you to remember that this could be a practice that could bring you back closer.

Kevin Anthony 6:52
Yeah, so you know, for one, if you don’t want to do it, because of those other things, you’ve got some other work to do, right? So take care of those other things, so that you want to do it.

Kevin Anthony 7:03
But as Céline just mentioned, this could be one of those things that get you back to that place where you are wanting to do it, right, because it’s bringing you closer to you’re connecting, right? And then that gives you an opportunity to maybe let go of some of the resentments and all that kind of stuff.

Kevin Anthony 7:24
You also get to model to the other person, what you would like. Now, of course, these are conversations that you need to have. And I think maybe now before we go too far into that, let’s just kind of jump into why you’re not getting it, why you’re not getting it what you need to do, because we’re going to answer a lot of what I was just going to say as we go through

Céline Remy 7:45
that. All right, so let’s start with number one.

Kevin Anthony 7:50
Okay, number one is really simple. And it sounds ridiculous. You’ve probably heard us talk about this on the show before.

Kevin Anthony 7:58
But it is a complaint that we hear from women that we work with. Okay, what is it? Well, you are not getting your cock worshipped, because you are not well groomed and clean.

Céline Remy 8:09
And by clean. That includes your anus. Absolutely, because if she’s gonna go there, with anything hands, mouth, whatever. She doesn’t want to have smells dirty things or to spread the bush to find something. Yeah,

Kevin Anthony 8:29
I mean, so when talking about the anus, I mean, the reality is, is that if it’s not clean, you’ll smell it when you’re down. And it’s a massive turnoff. I’ve no, I told you this story once before.

Kevin Anthony 8:40
But, you know, back in the day, when there was a group of us who used to get together a lot and do massage oil parties, it wasn’t anything sexual. But you know, like, we would go hang out at a friend’s house, hot tub, whatever.

Kevin Anthony 8:53
And then, you know, somebody would lay down and everybody would give them a massage, and you’d rotate around. I remember one time there was this woman I didn’t know very well, but I knew her. And it was her turn. And so she laid down.

Kevin Anthony 9:07
And you know, people, of course, would always get naked before that. And honestly, you could smell it. But it was a major turnoff. I was like, Yeah, I mean, look, the reality is, you’ve been out all day long, you had to use the public restroom at work.

Kevin Anthony 9:22
Like there’s only so much you can do, right? But before you’re going to be in a sexual situation with somebody, you gotta take care of it. Like everybody’s butt smells from time to time, right?

Kevin Anthony 9:33
Like, I wasn’t judging her because she wasn’t clean. And she probably just came straight over after work or whatever. But you got to take care of those things. If you know you’re going to be in a situation like this.

Céline Remy 9:43
You know, I’ve worked with 1000s of men. I’ve worked in person. And I have to say that it is definitely a big problem. And I know it’s common sense. But somehow it’s something that I had to teach hundreds and hundreds of men and use a wipe. Use a washcloth. Just keep the area clean.

Kevin Anthony 10:05
Yeah. And so you know, we’re not even talking about just the anus either. There are a lot of guys that just don’t have clean genital, like if

Céline Remy 10:15
you’re not circumcised, please pull down the skin and wash out all of the little white discharge.

Kevin Anthony 10:23
You have to every single day. Yes, every day. And not only that, let’s say you shower in the morning, you do it in the morning, and then it’s nighttime and you’re like, we’re gonna plan a sexy night like, Go clean it up before you start. I mean, come on. Okay, we said it. We got that went over with right from the start. Great.

Céline Remy 10:43
All right, let’s move to number two. Number two.

Kevin Anthony 10:46
Number two. I want to slap guys all the time for number two.

Céline Remy 10:51
Do you believe if she starts you, she has to finish you?

Kevin Anthony 10:55
Okay, so here’s the thing, guys. We’ve said this so many times, but it bears repeating again, which is she doesn’t have to finish you every time she touches you or teases you, or plays with you.

Kevin Anthony 11:08
And the problem is, is that when you believe that that’s true, how you got me started, honey, I got a boner. Now you got to finish me. She’s not going to touch you and get you started.

Kevin Anthony 11:19
Unless she’s really in the mood to go all the way which is probably a fraction of the number of times that she actually would be willing to touch you. That is

Céline Remy 11:28
so true. So true. I hope you heard that. Because if there’s no pressure, she will be willing to play so much more often. Just as long as she wants. 510 minutes. 15 minutes, whatever.

Kevin Anthony 11:41
Yeah, you have got to drop this idea that every time your woman touches your cock, she has to make you come every time. It’s hard. Yeah, every time. Oh my god, could you imagine? Do you imagine if you had to make me come every time it was hard?

Céline Remy 11:55
Well, we wouldn’t get much work done. I’ve

Kevin Anthony 11:58
been ejaculating like 50 times. Yeah, well, that’s

Céline Remy 12:01
the problem, too. Which doesn’t really work for your energy.

Kevin Anthony 12:05
No, no, you absolutely have to drop it. If you want her to just grab you touch your massage. You do things anytime, anywhere. You gotta let go of that. And then once that pressure is gone, she knows that that is not something that has to happen. She’s gonna want to touch you all the time.

Céline Remy 12:22
And you know, it’s interesting, because I think for women, it’s easier for us to just be like, yeah, pet my pussy for a little bit or touch me. And then we’re like, we’re done. Somehow, man, they have to work for more of a mental gymnastic to get there.

Kevin Anthony 12:37
The reality is, if you’re so horny after she touches you that you absolutely have to ejaculate just go masturbate, but don’t make it her job. She doesn’t have to do it, you know, the other day, because you know, it’s been very warm.

Kevin Anthony 12:50
And we walk around the house naked a lot. And so I was walking around the house naked, you were sitting in the chair, and I walked over to you to talk about something, I don’t even know what we were talking about. And you just gave me that look.

Kevin Anthony 13:02
And then you did a little like, come closer with your hand. And I knew exactly what you wanted. I walked over to you, you grabbed my cock and my balls, and you touched it for a little bit.

Kevin Anthony 13:11
And you were like, Oh, that was fun. And then I turned around, walked away, and kept doing whatever we were talking about doing. That never would have happened. You never would have touched it or even thought about it.

Kevin Anthony 13:22
If you were thinking, once I do that, that I’m gonna be stuck here for the next however long trying to make him come right like that. That just wouldn’t have happened.

Céline Remy 13:30
All right, let’s move on to number three. Do you want to just swallow? Guys, it’s up to her. If she wants to swallow or not. Or, you know what you want her to do? I don’t know, babe in your cup, whatever it is like lesbo choose what she wants to do with your juices.

Kevin Anthony 13:46
Yeah, so you know, let’s face it. We love it. When we can ejaculate inside her mouth. It feels great. It’s better than Well, it’s not the ultimate, but it’s better than the other alternatives. You know, like just jack elating you know, a towel or whatever, or even all over it right?

Kevin Anthony 14:09
So I can understand why guys want to do it. It’s the point. But the point is, that again, you make that an expectation. She’s not always in the mood for that. Sometimes she’s like, Yeah, give it to me.

Kevin Anthony 14:20
I want like 64 ounces of it, you know, and other days she’s like, I don’t want it anywhere near me. Right. So you if you always have that expectation that you know well, once she has to finish me and do you need to do it by swallowing then she’s gonna go nope, not doing it and then she’ll only do it when she’s in the mood which will be like four times a year probably. If you’re lucky if you’re lucky.

Céline Remy 14:47
Number four reasons why you ain’t getting the worshipping that you are looking for is because you don’t really reciprocate.

Kevin Anthony 14:57
Yeah, well that’s a harsh truth. And this really works both ways. We’ll get into that when we talk about pussy worshipping as well. But it’s not that it has to be 50/50 Get that out of your mind, there’s no such thing as 50/50 It’s not you gave me one I gave you one.

Kevin Anthony 15:15
That’s not what we’re talking about. What we’re talking about is that you do initiate from time to time and meet their needs as well. So that it’s not always just you asking and your needs getting met so that you do from time to time reciprocate.

Kevin Anthony 15:34
Because the reality is if you don’t resentment builds up, it’s like, he constantly expects me, you know, the to touches caulk and to worship it and give him a blow job and to do all this stuff. But he never touches my pussy, right? And the other way around happens to I mean, I had a girlfriend.

Kevin Anthony 15:52
You know, we dated for like, four years, I probably got like four blow jobs in four years. It just wasn’t her thing, you know? So I had to consciously really watch myself and not get into that mode because there were times when it’s like, Why do I want to reciprocate when she never really does anything?

Kevin Anthony 16:13
In that case, I was aware of it. So I was like, okay, don’t go there. And remember, this isn’t a tit-for-tat kind of thing. modeled to her what you want the behavior to be, right?

Kevin Anthony 16:25
And then if it’s not, it’s not, I mean, you need to have conversations about it or whatever. But just be careful about that whole reciprocation thing because it can really create resentment.

Céline Remy 16:36
Number five, you pressure her.

Kevin Anthony 16:40
Yeah, you pressure her in many different ways. So pressuring her to do it, to begin with, pressuring her to finish you pressuring her to swallow pressuring her to do it a certain way, pressuring her to come,

Kevin Anthony 16:52
pressuring her to get super turned down and come pressuring her to do it in front of your friends. I don’t know. Whatever it is, you know, the pressure never works with women. It just doesn’t

Céline Remy 17:01
ever stick where it’s like it’s a massive libido killer.

Kevin Anthony 17:05
Yeah, huge, huge.

Céline Remy 17:07
All we want to do is nothing is like, protect ourselves and be like, Screw you. Really? Yeah,

Kevin Anthony 17:17
that’s generally pretty true.

Céline Remy 17:19
Number six, let’s see you in the act. And it is something done by mouth. He put on our heads. Or you direct her, her hands are like, you know, she can breathe, and like holding her like circuit going.

Kevin Anthony 17:34
Okay, so 90% of the time, do not push on her head. Unless See ya asks for it. Because some women do like it. So if we tell you don’t push on our head, inevitably, somebody’s gonna comment and go.

Kevin Anthony 17:52
My girl loves it when I grabbed her head and shove it in the NRA. And there might be the women who never comment and say these things, but there are probably a few women who are thinking but I like it when he does that.

Céline Remy 18:03
Communication. It was clear something that turns you on

Kevin Anthony 18:07
that and that’s the difference. Know your woman knows what she likes and know whether or not that is something she would be okay with. Most of the time. Most women are not okay with it.

Kevin Anthony 18:20
They’re not. Now, they might maybe down the line once they get really turned on and kind of warmed up and their throat opens up a little bit or whatever, maybe, but don’t just like, start by grabbing her head and being like, yeah, it’s not a porn movie. porn movies are terrible.

Kevin Anthony 18:38
Is like, the worst place you could possibly learn about sex is from a porn movie. And they do that all the time in foreign movies. So stop it.

Céline Remy 18:46
And I seven, you haven’t made sure that she’s comfortable?

Kevin Anthony 18:50
Yeah, that’s a bit when we talked about this all the time when we talked about setting the scene. The reality is if you want her to keep doing something, she’s got to be comfortable.

Céline Remy 19:00
You know, bring a pillow, make sure her body position is good. Make sure she’s warm, you know, you know,

Kevin Anthony 19:05
basic, we all need to be comfortable. Like if I’m gonna go down on you for 30 minutes like I do need to be at least somewhat comfortable. But the reality is there is a difference between men and women.

Kevin Anthony 19:14
I am actually willing to be somewhat uncomfortable with that. 30 minutes. If it makes you scream come Wow! Well, you know, as guys, we’re just kind of like, I don’t know, we’re wired a little bit differently. And so sometimes I’m willing to be uncomfortable. I

Céline Remy 19:33
want the experience to be nice, so comfortable,

Kevin Anthony 19:36
but sometimes I’m like, Oh, this really isn’t the best position but she’s really liking it and it’s really getting turned on. So fuck it. I’m just gonna keep doing it. Right, but women, women are different. Women need it to be comfortable.

Kevin Anthony 19:50
Again, there’s probably a woman or two who’s saying yes, she’s just like me. She doesn’t care how uncomfortable she is. It’s suggested turn on and she’ll keep doing it. You are not the norm. Are you the outlier? That’s wonderful and most women are not you.

Céline Remy 20:05
Okay, last but not least, you don’t praise her enough.

Kevin Anthony 20:10
Yeah, you know if she is making an effort to do this somewhat regularly, and you just treat it as like, that’s what you’re supposed to do in my life marriage

Céline Remy 20:20
So yeah,

Kevin Anthony 20:21
that’s your duty, right? Like, if that’s the way you’re treating it, she’s going to become resentful like, wow, he’s I’m putting in all this effort and he’s not even appreciating it.

Kevin Anthony 20:30
Yeah. So yes, you have to praise her or appreciate her, you can use either word, the idea is that you let her know, I love it. When you do that. It’s so great. Or, you know, wow, you were such a trooper, that was like 20 minutes of amazing worshipping or, you know, whatever it is, let her know that.

Céline Remy 20:52
All right, so let’s talk quickly about what you must do because I’m gonna get into our how-tos.

Kevin Anthony 20:57
Okay. All right. So what you must do is mostly the opposite of everything he just told you not to do. But there are some differences as well. So Okay, number one, stop

Céline Remy 21:10
having an agenda.

Kevin Anthony 21:12
Right. So that’s kind of like the whole she doesn’t have to finish here. She doesn’t have to swallow like, there’s no agenda.

Céline Remy 21:20
Oh, you have to make it hard.

Kevin Anthony 21:22
Yeah.

Céline Remy 21:24
Like, it just doesn’t matter. You know, whether it’s 30 seconds, three minutes, 30 minutes, just let it go. Number two, stop being needy.

Kevin Anthony 21:34
This is the biggest turnoff for women in the world. A needy guy is like, I need this, I need this. I need. Like the unsexiest thing in the world. I’m

Céline Remy 21:45
so horny, I need you to help me with that.

Kevin Anthony 21:49
You got two hands, take care of it yourself.

Céline Remy 21:54
Number three, enjoy whatever she’s willing to give, no matter how short or long.

Kevin Anthony 22:01
Yeah, and you know, that’s the whole thing just be grateful that she’s touching you. Right? I mean, that’s the reality of it. Just be grateful that she wants to touch you and that she wants to play with your genitals.

Kevin Anthony 22:16
It’s really interesting, because, you know when you work with enough clients, and you get into enough people’s sex lives, and you really realized that a lot of people don’t have a lot of sexual contact or connection when especially if they’ve been in a relationship for a long time.

Kevin Anthony 22:33
So they’ll have it, but it’ll be like, you know, maybe they have one night this month. And maybe they did a whole bunch of stuff that night. But then there’s not a whole lot that goes on in between.

Kevin Anthony 22:46
And so you know, you’ve heard us talk many, many times about the constant state of arousal, and how do you keep that fire going in your relationship? Well, one of the ways that you do that is by having frequent, smaller sexual contact throughout your day-to-day experience.

Kevin Anthony 23:03
But you can’t do that when you have an agenda when you’re being needy, any of that stuff. So wouldn’t you rather be touched on a regular basis, at least a little bit? Or be touched all the way to finishing the way you want to?

Kevin Anthony 23:21
Once a month or once every two months? I know which one I would choose. Yeah, me too. I’d take it more frequently. For sure. Yeah.

Céline Remy 23:29
And so I think the last three points that we have, we’ve already covered them earlier, but we want to repeat, but what you must do is reciprocate, right? You must praise and appreciate her.

Céline Remy 23:42
Because nobody wants to keep doing something. If they’re not being seen and appreciated for it in the long, long run. And then you want to make it about the fun. The connection, is not about ejaculation. Yeah.

Kevin Anthony 23:59
And that’s when we haven’t really talked too much about but remember, this is supposed to be fun. Unless you are specifically trying to procreate. Sex is supposed to be fun. It can be fun when you’re procreating, too, but sometimes, you know, sometimes it doesn’t pressure that, right?

Kevin Anthony 24:12
We worked with couples who are trying to conceive and it’s like, they start getting like really scientific about it, you know, and it’s it becomes work, you know, sometimes it loses a little bit of fun.

Kevin Anthony 24:26
Anyway, aside from that, sex is supposed to be fun. This is like the fun and games part of life. Right? This is where you get to have some pleasure, some enjoyment.

Kevin Anthony 24:39
You know, you get to forget about all the crap that’s going on in the world or all the stuff in your life that isn’t the way you want it to be. If you’re not making it fun and enjoyable. You are not doing it correctly.

Céline Remy 24:53
Well, let’s talk about the ejaculation part. from a woman’s perspective. You know, it’s sticky Sometimes it’s a lot of it can get messy. We don’t always want to have to deal with it.

Céline Remy 25:07
You know, like, sometimes we’ve prepared a washcloth or tissues. Sometimes we’re willing to be the tissue. But sometimes we

Kevin Anthony 25:19
just washcloth.

Céline Remy 25:20
Exactly. But sometimes we just don’t want to. And it’s nice to just skip it. Like it really is. And so if you can get there as well, that would go a long way. All right. All right. So

Kevin Anthony 25:39
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Kevin Anthony 26:58
Yeah, so we’re gonna give you principles and techniques, but there’s only so much we can show you on YouTube or even 20 minutes, 20 minutes. So yeah, make sure that you check out that course if you really want to up your skill level.

Céline Remy 27:14
Alright, so let’s start with principle number one of clock worshiping, full presence.

Kevin Anthony 27:21
Yeah, this is what we were talking about at the beginning, right? It’s like, you got to really love what you’re doing. You got

Céline Remy 27:28
to be there. You can’t be thinking about what you’re going to do next. You have to be there with your lover. Now it’s easy if you’re going to do it for five minutes. 10 or 15.

Céline Remy 27:40
So the harder if you go for longer, but commit to being fully there. You are not on your cell phone. You are not writing your shopping list. Not thinking about dinner or the kids. You are there. Your full heart, Percy with Hiscock.

Kevin Anthony 27:59
Yeah. Oh, I want some of that.

Céline Remy 28:03
Principle number two. Use your words. We talk about this a lot. But our biggest sex organ is between our ears. And verbalizing things can go a long way. And especially I think that a lot of men have insecurities when it comes to their penises.

Céline Remy 28:27
Am I big enough? How’s my girth? Does shitless you like it’s do I bend the right way? Did I groom well, like whatever? Like? They actually you know, is it hard enough to satisfy her? And when they can verbally hear that you totally accept their penises as they are?

Céline Remy 28:50
It starts to help them. So remember in the beginning, we’re saying that clock worshipping? Yes, it’s pleasurable. But it’s also a tool for healing. That’s one of the things

Kevin Anthony 29:01
Yeah. And you know, I will just add to that a personal story because I was talking with somebody recently a man who has always had a what’s the right word? I’m looking like an insecurity small penis insecurity.

Kevin Anthony 29:17
Yeah. And he was actually telling me about how I love her he once had was really the first woman that ever said, like, no, it’s perfect. It’s great. I love it. And it wasn’t really until that point that he was able to get past the idea that he had a small penis. I honestly have no idea if he has a small penis or not.

Kevin Anthony 29:37
But I’m pretty sure he doesn’t. I think it was mostly just in his head and he just needed somebody to reassure him that everything was fine. Yeah, this is what happens when you don’t spend a lot of time on nude beaches or at sex parties, right? You have no idea

Céline Remy 29:51
because you don’t see other people make it. And then if you only compare to like, the giant horses in porn, of course, you look small, right? So, if you’re wondering, what does it look like?

Céline Remy 30:03
We’re going to give you a few examples. Okay? You have to be genuine in your compliments, okay? You can’t lie. But there are multiple ways you could say things like, I love how you cook feels in my hands.

Céline Remy 30:18
Or I love how you can caulk bends to the right, or to the left. Or it’s the perfect angle to hits my G Spot. Whatever that is. I love how hard your cock is.

Kevin Anthony 30:38
We’re gonna have to hurry up and finish the show.

Céline Remy 30:41
I love feeling your throbbing hard cock between my hands. Oh,

Kevin Anthony 30:48
yes, yes. Yes.

Céline Remy 30:53
I love how you cook feels when it’s in my mouth. I worship your cock. I love everything about your cock. I love how you taste. I love how you smell. I can’t get enough of you. Give it to me.

Kevin Anthony 31:11
Okay, all right. That works.

Céline Remy 31:13
Yes. I think if I turned myself on, I show it to and Kevin all the audience it will turn down. But you got the gist of it. And don’t just say things, but also show him. Like if you grab his cock and caress your face with his penis.

Céline Remy 31:34
Give yourself a facial like that on massage like you just showing him. Not only with your words, but your actions. How much you love his cock. This is so funny. Good. All right, so let’s move to principle number three.

Céline Remy 31:54
Take your time. This is a hard one because, honestly, I have been teaching sexuality for basically at this point, it’s coming down to 20 years. And I did different types of things over the years, from having group workshops, to have private one-on-one with couples and different things.

Céline Remy 32:15
But one of the things that always surprises me is how fast and hurried people are when they touch each other.

Kevin Anthony 32:25
Yeah, this one is funny, because you might be demoing something and say, Okay, I want you to touch him like this, and you’ll go nice and slow, very deliberate. And then you go, Okay, it’s your turn.

Kevin Anthony 32:38
And then they’re like, go really fast. And like, they’re not really paying attention to what they’re doing. They’re not realizing that their partner is going like, ah, oh, that’s not really some of it, I’m sure his nervousness of having to do it in front of the coach.

Kevin Anthony 32:53
But some of it also is the fact that they’re not really very conscious of what they’re actually doing.

Céline Remy 33:00
And so if you slow it down, and you take your time, your touch will instantly become better. So you don’t even have to change anything. You just change how you do it, not what you do.

Céline Remy 33:14
And it’s going to be perceived very differently. And this has an effect, this is the one thing that makes the biggest difference. So give yourself permission to slow it down. Also, when you slow it down, you can start to feel everything.

Céline Remy 33:31
And it becomes fun for you. While you’re pleasuring him. It’s also something for you. And I’ll come back to that principle later. Okay. Let’s move to my number four, which is about savoring every inch. Show him you love Hitchcock.

Kevin Anthony 33:52
Oh, yeah, every edge. Totally agree.

Céline Remy 33:57
But again, you know, when you go slow, you can work every inch. When you go fast, you cover a big area. When you go slower, you take your time, you kind of like, dig in and observe and feel and just,

Kevin Anthony 34:15
yeah, something a lot of people may or may not be aware of, but there are different parts of the penis. Yes. Right. So there are different areas that feel differently to different types of touch.

Kevin Anthony 34:28
And so if you just treat it as all one big thing, okay, that’s somewhat okay. But the idea is if you really understand the anatomy of the penis and go, Oh, wow, this part, the friend who’s really sensitive to this kind of touch or this part likes a more firm touch or this like this stroke or that stroke.

Kevin Anthony 34:47
There’s, there’s a lot to it. And so if you’re savoring every inch, you’re paying attention to those different niches, and how you might approach each one differently.

Céline Remy 34:57
I love that you brought that up, Kevin. So would be the head frenulum kind of the body of the penis, the base, and then the testicles, and even the perineum.

Céline Remy 35:11
Yeah, so let’s get a few zones too. And then you can do anus if you want to. But these would be huge zones. All right, number five, make eye contact. I don’t know if I need to say more.

Kevin Anthony 35:27
Well, I would just say that, you know, it’s great either way if a woman is worshiping you, but if she’s just kind of like, not paying any attention to anything other than your cock, sometimes you’re kind of like, are you here with me? Yeah.

Kevin Anthony 35:42
So the eye contact just establishes that connection? And let you know that yes, indeed, while she is mainly focusing on your cock, she is there with you too.

Céline Remy 35:53
Absolutely. Number six, enjoy and embrace his scent and taste.

Kevin Anthony 35:59
assuming he’s groomed properly, and the scent and taste are good. Yes. For sure they should be. Remember, you need to work on that.

Céline Remy 36:10
Number seven, communicate. Now or the communication? Remember, it’s about him. So if you’re not sure, you can ask him what does he wants. Or how does he like the pressure, anything different he would like, or something like that, get some feedback, and adjust the communication, you don’t want to be too heavy.

Céline Remy 36:36
You want to see within the experience, but sometimes a little course correcting or adjustments can take the experience to the next level. And then number eight, only do what brings you full pleasure.

Céline Remy 36:55
No more, no less. Don’t do it out of obligation. Don’t do it out of pressure. It’s only pleasure. Your touch is only going to be as pleasurable as you’re able to enjoy it.

Kevin Anthony 37:10
Yeah, you know, maybe a guy who’s starving for touch is going to take and enjoy anything, even if it’s not all that, you know, present or, or whatever.

Kevin Anthony 37:21
But the reality is if you really want it to be good if you really want to enjoy it, then yeah, only do what brings you pleasure, because that’s going to bring me more pleasure.

Céline Remy 37:32
Absolutely. And that also means that you are in charge, when it starts when it ends. And if you can make it a practice to celebrate.

Céline Remy 37:45
when you’re done independently of whether or not there was an orgasm or an ejaculation that we celebrate, that we worshiped cock that we gave the cock the attention that’s gonna change the quality of the interaction. That’s going to make it that you’ll want more of it. He’ll want more of it. It looks both ways.

Kevin Anthony 38:12
We all want more of it. All right, well, so there you go. Those are the principles. Now, principles are sort of like guidelines of general ways in which you want to approach this particular act. But there are also techniques and a little bit more specific techniques.

Céline Remy 38:36
Yeah, and, you know, within the podcast, we can only give you so much. So again, if you want more, go to Céline remy.com, forward slash go forward slash touch of love, you will have an entire course, broken down. step by step.

Céline Remy 38:52
I think I’ve can’t remember how many moves there are over this eight or 10 like a lot, but we want to give you some to get you started.

Céline Remy 39:03
So when you think about cock worshipping, there are multiple ways to do that with your hands your mouth with various body parts, you could use your feet, your breasts, you could use your entire body that you lubed up to massage him and you know emphasize the penis area.

Céline Remy 39:29
And when you are in this area, do not forget the testicles plays include the boss. I know it can be scary for some guys. But it feels really good to have the balls included. Always touch the balls lightly, and gently but they can take a lot.

Kevin Anthony 39:56
Well yeah very similar to you know when you are giving into a woman start gently and then you know, if he’s like, Oh, yeah more, pull on my balls or whatever, then go for it.

Céline Remy 40:08
So fake like, what is it that you want to play with your mouth, your hands, you know, we’re gonna give you a few things to maybe get to start with your hands. For example, in your hands, you have your thumbs, you could use your thumbs to dig in, and massage the perineum.

Céline Remy 40:31
When you use your hands, please use lube or oil. Okay, anytime you get to the penis, please use some form of lubricant. If you’re going down on him, it’s your saliva. But otherwise, please don’t just give him a dry one. I mean, unless it’s to the second squeeze, okay, but otherwise, he’s some sort of favorite coconut oil. It works well.

Kevin Anthony 40:55
It works for blue jobs, too.

Céline Remy 40:57
It does. If you like change your mind about what you want to do. It’s delicious. But use your thumbs. Use your thumbs to massage the perineum. Dig in there release tension. Use your entire hand to do some long strokes.

Céline Remy 41:21
Use your thumbs for specific areas, like what Kevin was talking about with the frenulum. So just massaging the head, use the tip of your fingers. All right, I’ll show you something. So use the thumbs on the frenulum, right? Use the whole hand for an up and down motion. Use the form flat on the head.

Kevin Anthony 41:57
Okay, that’s probably enough, simply because we’ll probably get back demonetized on YouTube. So

Céline Remy 42:06
just to give you some ideas, you have more things you can do than you think. Be creative. If you have fingernails, you can play with them. But be careful. Let your lover inspire you. I create new moves all the time. That’s true you do just based on the joy of paying attention to how he responds.

Céline Remy 42:36
And what I’m liking doing at the moment. Did you have a particular move? Or anything you would want women to know when it comes to copper shipping? Does the technique even matter?

Kevin Anthony 42:51
I mean, the great technology makes it a better experience. There’s no doubt about that. But I think what’s most important is that she wants to worship macaque and that she does so somewhat regularly, you know, and that she’s really present while she’s doing it.

Kevin Anthony 43:08
That’s probably the most important thing to me, more so than the individual strokes or techniques. But having said that, obviously somebody that knows what they’re doing, and is using, you know, proper strokes and techniques will definitely make it for a more make it a more enjoyable experience.

Kevin Anthony 43:29
So, yeah, I don’t know, I don’t know that I would give like do this exact move. I would say do it. Do it because you love doing it. Do it frequently be present while you’re doing it, and experiment do different things. And yeah, pay attention to you know how I’m liking it and, and what I’ve responded to, and don’t be afraid to experiment and create new moves.

Céline Remy 43:54
So really, this is why we spent more time on the principles. Because what you’re saying is the principles and how you do it matters more than what? Yes. And so I’m curious too about any words for our male listeners on how you were able to turn that switch off that you had to come? How did you get there?

Kevin Anthony 44:18
I’m not sure that I ever had that switch, honestly, like I never really understood that when guys said that I’m like, Look, you know, there is actually no, we’ve covered this in shows there’s no such thing as blue balls don’t.

Kevin Anthony 44:32
This is ridiculous. Yes, you can have a ton of energy trapped there that you can’t move. Right? And it can feel like pressure and you’re like, I gotta do something with all of this, right?

Kevin Anthony 44:42
The reality is if you know how to move energy through your body, you can move that energy and use it in other ways. It doesn’t have to be like ejaculation is not the only way to get the energy to move through your body.

Kevin Anthony 44:53
Right. So I don’t know, maybe it’s martial arts or something else I’ve done In my life, tantra or whatever, I’ve just, I can move the energy, it’s not a big deal. I don’t need to have an ejaculation.

Kevin Anthony 45:06
And honestly, if I’m training really hard physically that week, or if we’ve made love a few times, and I’ve already ejaculated, I don’t even want to ejaculate again, because it’s like, it just doesn’t want to give away that energy.

Kevin Anthony 45:21
Now, I know, there are some people in the industry, including some acquaintances of ours, who will argue, I can go, I’m 50 years old, and I can come as many times as I want, and I never feel any, any loss of energy or depletion, this is nonsense, this tensor stuffs a bunch of crap, right?

Kevin Anthony 45:41
What he fails to realize, and I’m thinking of a particular individual, is that because he and his partner know how to make love reasonably well, they know how to build energy, and move energy. And they

Céline Remy 45:58
make it long enough that he’s been able to circle up a lot of energy, right?

Kevin Anthony 46:02
So if you build up enough energy, you don’t feel that they’ve lost. But here’s the thing is like, you know, I mean, I’m, I’m almost that age now.

Kevin Anthony 46:13
And you know, I trained pretty hard physically, as well, as, you know, making love and doing stuff like that. It’s like, sometimes my body’s tired, like, and it’s not because I didn’t build up enough energy in the lovemaking. It’s because it’s Thursday, and I’ve already had four workouts a mountain bike ride, and work.

Kevin Anthony 46:33
God knows how many hours a day, and I’m tired. Like, sometimes that’s just how it is. And I’m like, even if I build up all the energy, I don’t really feel like I want to build up that energy so that can replenish the energy that’s already depleted.

Kevin Anthony 46:50
From the work stress and training, right? So yeah, so for me, I don’t know, I’ve never really had I guess that switch, at least not in any recent time, I can remember.

Céline Remy 47:02
And I think it’s important, just thanks for sharing your experience. For all the women listening to that, please, don’t tie yourself worth in your ability to make him come, please, like, separate these. It’s gonna make your experience so much better.

Kevin Anthony 47:17
You know, I, a lot of women do this. And this is something that we work with women a lot on. And this is actually something we work with men on because when men are experiencing premature ejaculation, we can’t just look at what’s going on with them, we have to look at the dynamics in their relationship, right?

Kevin Anthony 47:34
And a dynamic that often comes up is that she’s intentionally Well, I should I say, intentionally, but subconsciously, intentionally doing things to make him come faster.

Kevin Anthony 47:45
And so we have to reteach her. Here’s what you’re doing that is basically creating the outcome that you don’t want. Why did they do that? Even subconsciously, because they’ve tied it into their self-worth about their ability to make him come. Ladies, let me break it to you. Okay.

Kevin Anthony 48:02
Making a guy cum is about the easiest fucking thing you can do on this planet. This is not something to tie yourself worth to. Anybody can make a guy come Okay, there are a few guys who experience actually delayed ejaculation. Aside from them. Anybody can make a guy come this is not some Herculean task, right? So just stop it

Céline Remy 48:23
and let it go. Yeah, you are perfectly worthy. Without that. Right? There was a lot that we covered today.

Kevin Anthony 48:31
Yes. And stay tuned for next week’s episode as well, where we will do the counterpart to this, which is pussy worshiping. And you’re going to hear our perspective on how to do that. And it’s going to be the same basic idea, which is we’re going to tell women, how to get more of it, why they might not be getting enough of it, and how they can encourage their men to do more.

Kevin Anthony 48:54
And we’re going to talk to the men about how they can be better at it and how to really do it. Well. All right, everybody. That’s all the time we have for this episode. And we will see you next week. We hope you liked this episode of the Love Lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe. Leave us a review and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 49:17
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Kevin Anthony 49:31
Thanks for listening. And

Céline Remy 49:33
remember You are amazing