The Art Of Pussy Worshipping

Kevin Anthony 0:11
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Céline Remy 0:20
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Kevin Anthony 0:28
All right, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 215. And it is titled The Art of pussy worshipping. Okay, so we’ll see.

Céline Remy 0:39
Yeah, that’s

Kevin Anthony 0:40
pretty much well, let’s

Céline Remy 0:41
see.

Kevin Anthony 0:43
If you listen to last week’s show, we did the art of caulk worshipping. So to be fair, and inclusive, we thought we would do the other side as well. So today, we’re going to talk about pussy worshipping, obviously, we’re going to basically flip it around and do the exact opposite of what we did last time.

Kevin Anthony 1:05
So if you’re a woman, you’re like, Yeah, I wish you would worship my pussy. We’re going to tell you why he’s not. We’re going to tell you what you can do about it for the men and we’re going to give you tips and techniques on how to actually do it. So yeah, it’s going to be a packed show. As usual.

Céline Remy 1:21
You know, it was interesting as we were putting this show together in terms of what words we use? who uses pussy? Do is your vagina vulva yoni? I mean, there are so many names. And we just went with the easy one. So that it’s straightforward.

Kevin Anthony 1:38
Well, you know, we didn’t go with it. Because it’s easy. We don’t just take the easy path because it’s easy. But the reality is, is a lot of people don’t even know what Yoni means and don’t even know what vulva means. I think it’s a good car.

Kevin Anthony 1:53
And vagina is actually not the correct term. So it comes down to what term could we use so that everybody would understand what we’re talking about? Well, you know what? Turns out? It’s pussy.

Céline Remy 2:05
Yes. And we’ve said it probably never like dozen times. So at this point, we are in the explicit category. We have been demonetized on YouTube, it has happened.

Kevin Anthony 2:16
And we haven’t even started yet. Yay for us.

Céline Remy 2:25
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Kevin Anthony 2:56
Oh, right. So I guess the best place to start is, what is pussy worshipping?

Céline Remy 3:04
Here, because if you type this on a search engine, you pretty much only get Triple X stuff. I just have to give you a warning. This is why I was like he said, How are we going to call it because that’s all you see. You

Kevin Anthony 3:15
type the word pussy and yell or you’re gonna get porn. Yeah, I mean, that’s obvious. Yeah. But

Céline Remy 3:21
well, the act of policy worship is basically to get him or her like whoever is going to be worshipping the policy really, in a different light. And the idea there is that normally, let’s say in a normal heterosexual couple like the pussy is seen as well, we do something to it.

Céline Remy 3:43
And the end goal is the penis. Gotta put it in. This is about her, her pussy, and nothing else. This is about taking away any expectations. And it’s also about taking time to awaken everything.

Kevin Anthony 4:05
So, yeah, I mean, think about it. I mean, there are a few parallels that you could draw, but like, think about, you know, you want to give to your partner. And you know, a lot of people think, Oh, well, okay, I’ll give her a massage, right?

Kevin Anthony 4:22
And I’ll lay her down and get out the oil and do the massage thing. It’s similar to that in the sense that what you’re really doing, we call it worship.

Kevin Anthony 4:34
What you’re really doing is just giving for the pure sake and enjoyment of giving to an area of her body that needs pleasure that craves pleasure, that maybe she hasn’t looked so fondly towards throughout much of her life.

Kevin Anthony 4:57
It’s always amazing to me how many women think negatively about their own vaginas, pussies, you know, whatever word you want to use, how many women, you know, in their 40s and 50s, don’t even as they’ve never even looked at it. Right.

Kevin Anthony 5:12
And so when we say pussy worshipping, you know, what you’re doing is you’re selflessly giving attention and care and love and pleasure to a part of her body that really needs it. And part of her body that maybe has been hijacked through childbirth, or through abuse, or whatever.

Kevin Anthony 5:40
And there’s so so many women out there who don’t really see their pussy, for the beautiful thing that it is. And so by taking the time to really worship it, you can really, really help her reconnect with it maybe in a way that she’s never done before.

Céline Remy 6:01
Absolutely. I love that word selflessly. Like, it was a really good description there. So let’s maybe talk about why he isn’t worshiping you, per se. If you are in a relationship, and it’s not happening. There are a few reasons why.

Céline Remy 6:16
Number Why you have angry upset insecurities. It does start with you. You know, as Kevin said, how many women have fears, fears that they don’t look good, fear that they don’t taste good, but the adults smell good? Fears that it doesn’t look right.

Céline Remy 6:40
Like, we have so many insecurities when it comes to our policies. And I think that with time, we get better. But it’s pretty much something that most women go through at some point in their life, where we’ve been told, like, there are all these stupid jokes about how it’s was like fish or whatever else, you know, and it’s like, it puts these ideas in our head, that somehow it’s dirty.

Céline Remy 7:07
And for many, they still hold on to that. So having the thought that it’s dirty, and you have your own insecurity, you’re not open to receiving. So you’re not creating a space where you’re like, Yeah, let’s do it. Even if your partner offers it.

Kevin Anthony 7:22
Yeah, so how that often shows up is like, you know, he wants to spend some time down there. And she’s like, Oh, okay, come up here. Now, you know, like, she’s just uncomfortable with the fact that he wants to spend some time down there, doing whatever, whether it’s oral sex, or just hands, or just, you know, taking time to even look at it.

Kevin Anthony 7:42
I’ve actually had partners in the past where I was like, I want to really, like look at it. Like, I want to check it out. I want to know the folds, I want to know the terrain and it made them really uncomfortable.

Kevin Anthony 7:53
And I think that was probably because they’d never actually done it themselves. Yeah, by the way, just a side note, you know, when you’re young, so you start being sexually active, probably at some point, when you’re a teenager, into your early 20s, maybe even up to 30 anything a partner told you about yourself during those years, throw it right the fuck out the window, because they were an idiot.

Kevin Anthony 8:20
They were immature, they had no idea what they were talking about. You literally if you’re still holding on to something that some fucking moron told you when you were 20 You need to let go of it now. Okay, because it has no basis in reality whatsoever.

Céline Remy 8:39
Nice. Alright. Number two, you haven’t told him about it. So maybe you guys are clueless?

Kevin Anthony 8:47
Yeah, well, that’s a pretty simple one. He doesn’t understand that there is such a thing. And it has never occurred to him that he might actually do this. So if he’s unaware, what do you think your chances are that he will actually do it? None. But

Céline Remy 9:01
he listens to all the way to the end of this show. He’s gonna have a lot of new ideas.

Kevin Anthony 9:05
Well, if he listens to this show, like all the other people who are currently listening, he’s obviously a genius and isn’t going to need that help, but

Céline Remy 9:15
never free. He has no clue about your anatomy. Maybe he is fumbling down there. But ain’t doing nothing for you.

Kevin Anthony 9:25
Yeah, and you know, and this is, this is an interesting one. We’ll talk more about it when we get to what you must do section. However, he probably has no clue about your anatomy.

Kevin Anthony 9:37
Why do I say that for two reasons? Number one, because it’s one of the major things that we teach all the men we work with, and every man that has gone through our section on anatomy has gone Wow, that was so cool. I didn’t know all that

Céline Remy 9:50
hate little plug for power and mastery.com You have a whole module on that. Left gendering

Kevin Anthony 9:55
Yeah, but literally every guy whether it’s me coaching you coaching Like every guy is like, wow, I really learned something there. Okay, so that’s the first reason.

Kevin Anthony 10:06
The second reason is that most women say the same thing. Wow, I learned a lot. I didn’t even know that like a lot of women don’t even know about their own anatomy. This as a guy has always been mind-blowing to me.

Kevin Anthony 10:23
It is because as a guy, we know every centimeter, millimeter of our penis forwards, backward, upside down. We’ve looked at it a million times, and we know everything about it, even if we don’t know the actual technical names for stuff we know about it. But women, not so much, honestly, for

Céline Remy 10:47
sure. That’s for sure. Number four, why it’s not happening, you might have a hard time receiving. This is a really tricky one. And I think we can talk about it maybe even later, a little bit more.

Céline Remy 11:00
But what I want to mention is, it’s normal that it’s going to take your time, please drop the idea that if he does any touching of any kind, down between your legs, you’re going to moan in pleasure in 30 seconds. That is just not how it happens.

Céline Remy 11:21
If you are comparing yourself to what you see, in porn movies, you’re going to fall short porn movies, or shows are there to entertain, not to give you the reality of what’s truly happening.

Kevin Anthony 11:39
That’s absolutely true. And what’s amazing is because so many people sort of grew up on porn, I don’t mean as children. But like, as they became sexually mature, they started watching porn, and they started emulating what they see in porn.

Kevin Anthony 11:56
And it’s really interesting because we were just watching a show recently from another person in our field, who has a TV show out. And it’s actually really good. We’re really enjoying it. But there was a couple in there, where the guy started to go down on the woman and she immediately went into like, ah,

Céline Remy 12:18
super high arousal and, and screaming, you know,

Kevin Anthony 12:21
yeah. And so So what did the coach in the show, say? Did she say? She said, Yeah, I know, you’re not having an orgasm. You’re like five minutes in. She’s like, there’s no way you’re coming in five minutes.

Kevin Anthony 12:33
And she’s absolutely right. We’re watching it saying the same thing. Like there’s, there’s no way like, sorry, that just doesn’t work like that.

Céline Remy 12:40
It’s funny, because if you’ve been to places where we have witnessed our people make love. That’s something that I saw right away that some women, literally, somebody would go down on them, or finger them.

Céline Remy 12:53
And in two seconds, they were already screaming. And that made me feel very inadequate. Because I was like, What’s wrong with me? How can they do it? I mean, I’m fairly orgasmic. So I’m like, what is happening?

Kevin Anthony 13:07
Performance? See, the thing is, is this what women think they’re supposed to be doing? This is what they think I’m supposed to be here. Yeah. So they actually ended up playing the role, rather than letting it happen organically and naturally as it would. So

Céline Remy 13:22
the receiving can come in different ways. You could be stuck in your head, not feeling your body. Or you could put so much pressure on the performance and not give yourself enough time.

Céline Remy 13:34
And then you’re like, Well, he was there for 10 minutes. That’s enough. And so you kind of cut it short. That was me for the longest time. I was like, Okay, let’s move on to something else. I don’t really like it.

Kevin Anthony 13:47
You anymore. But you’re right, it was you would get very uncomfortable if I was down there too long. And then you’d get all in your head. And then you’d be like, it’s going on too long. And I’m not close enough yet. And the more that you would do that the further away from your orgasm. Yeah,

Céline Remy 14:02
of course. Last but not least, number five, you don’t appreciate it when he does any type of force shipping. And we’ll be clear on we’re not just all thing going down or fingers. Like there are a lot of different options, but you may not give him the feedback. He needs to want to do it more.

Kevin Anthony 14:25
Yeah, so you know, as men we generally play for points. Well, yeah, play for points. They wouldn’t. I wasn’t gonna stay that way. I was gonna say like, we like doing things that give you pleasure.

Kevin Anthony 14:42
Yes, we do. Granted, there are always some selfish men out there who it’s just all about them. Of course, right? But the majority of decent human beings who happen to be men, do enjoy doing things for our partners and not even just sexual things, but even things around the house.

Kevin Anthony 15:04
However, we really only enjoy it if we get some positive feedback, right? So if we’re constantly doing things for the other person, and they never appreciate when we do it, eventually we’re just gonna go on what the fuck am I wasting my time for? Why am I bothering you soon? Fucking care anyway? Right? So appreciation goes a long way.

Céline Remy 15:29
We talk a lot about appreciation. It’s essential. I think it’s like oxygen in a relationship.

Kevin Anthony 15:35
Absolutely.

Céline Remy 15:37
So what is it that you must do? If you are interested in busy worshiping? And you’re like, Okay, I’m not getting it. What are some of the steps? Number one, know thyself. And this is I put it number one on purpose.

Céline Remy 15:56
As Kevin mentioned earlier, most women have no idea about their anatomy. What makes them tick? What they like, what they don’t like, if you don’t know what you like, how can you expect somebody else to know? Exactly, I mean, it’s just it’s that simple.

Céline Remy 16:13
And you need to spend the time to look at it, touch it, smell it, taste it, to do everything with it, so that you know the ins and outs.

Kevin Anthony 16:25
Now you’re pushing them a little far with the tasting five.

Céline Remy 16:30
Essential you got to know

Kevin Anthony 16:32
but they least need to look at it touch it know what kind of touch they like, know what areas they like touched, know what type of touch they like, on certain areas, because it varies from area to area. They have to be really comfortable in their body. Basically,

Céline Remy 16:52
it takes time. But you only become you don’t become comfortable by reading about it. You stick yourself in front of a mirror, spread those legs, use those hands, that dildo, whatever. And look at it.

Kevin Anthony 17:08
That’s right. All right. Number two, be an advocate for your pleasure. So again, speak up for what you want and ask for what you want, and gently guide them in the right direction.

Céline Remy 17:26
And like the gently guiding them. Don’t do that. I don’t like it doesn’t really work. Sounds of pleasure. Like, oh, that’s it. Keep going. Or we’re like that? Or how about a little lighter canal and more pressure? Oh, that feels so good. You’re doing so good. You’re so great.

Kevin Anthony 17:53
Yeah, that kind of stuff works

Céline Remy 17:55
exactly. But it’s also speaking up for what you want. Because again, nobody knows yourself as well as you do know yourself. And so you can know like if you need 30 seconds of the same.

Céline Remy 18:11
See, one of the problems too, sometimes with guys is if we start to get too excited, the man will get too excited. And he’ll pick up the pace. He’ll do something different. which in turn, will set us back right back to 10 minutes ago. If she’s enjoying it. She’s liking it.

Kevin Anthony 18:35
Do not change. Yeah, you know, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. If it’s working, just stick with it. Yes, just keep doing the same thing.

Céline Remy 18:42
Number three, be groomed and fresh. I don’t care what your preference is in terms of full hair, no hair, or anything in between. But trimming goes a long way. You know the fact that he can still breathe through his nose when he’s down there helps a lot.

Céline Remy 19:02
And then fresh. All you need is a shower. The idea that you need to do and use sprays, special soaps, they’re marketing they usually actually detrimental to the good bacterias inside of your vaginal canal.

Céline Remy 19:20
And they can make things worse. Fresh on the means showered all in this water. If you really want to push it basic soap on the outside. You don’t need anything inside.

Kevin Anthony 19:33
Yeah, I think this one is less of an issue for women than it is for men. But it can still be an issue

Céline Remy 19:41
and you brought the bots cleaned up but

Kevin Anthony 19:46
definitely make sure we talked about that in last week’s episode and it was actually a woman the example that I gave so yeah, make sure the butt is clean. Everything

Céline Remy 19:55
is but you know it just helps to relax if you know that you’ve had a shower and Longer if you like, you just exercise I mean, then just ask, you know, your partner might love how you smell.

Céline Remy 19:58
You know, if you’re like, Okay, I just worked out and it’s like, I don’t care. I think you’re delicious. Like,

Kevin Anthony 20:13
sometimes that’s a huge turnoff. Like, yeah, I want that particular smell.

Céline Remy 20:19
All right, number four, give yourself permission to take your time. You know, 45 minutes. Okay.

Kevin Anthony 20:31
And probably necessary. Yes. For most women. Yes. Yeah, this is definitely a big one women have this fear in their minds that they’re taking too long.

Kevin Anthony 20:43
That’s the thing is, you know, when we go into the tips on how to do it, you know, one of the things is from from the guy’s point of view, it’s like, you’re not looking at this as, okay, this is some foreplay leading to penetration.

Kevin Anthony 20:57
And the faster I get through this, the quicker I can get to penetration. That’s not the way that you view this. The way that you view this is tonight, this is what we’re doing. And this in itself is the activity, the main meal, however long that takes,

Céline Remy 21:14
right. Oh, magic words to her ears. Take your time. Oh, yes.

Kevin Anthony 21:24
All right. So yeah, if you can do those things, ladies, you will radically increase the chances of getting some pussy worshipping.

Céline Remy 21:34
Yes. And again, as always, communication goes a long way. You know, so talk about it.

Kevin Anthony 21:41
Yeah, so we’ve covered why maybe he isn’t doing it, we’ve covered what she can do to help inspire more pussy worshipping.

Céline Remy 21:51
Let’s turn the tables around.

Kevin Anthony 21:53
And let’s talk about the principles of pussy worshipping. So what is the mean, just like we did last week, we’re talking about some sort of guiding principles for several concepts, right?

Kevin Anthony 22:08
And then after that, we get into sort of the nitty gritty of really the how to use. So let’s start with number one, full presence. Okay, what was I just saying a moment ago, this is not the prelude to the penetration.

Kevin Anthony 22:24
And if I can just hurry up and rub this way, and do finger this that way. And then I can get to the penetration, which is what I really want. No, that is not how this works.

Kevin Anthony 22:34
So full presence, we talk about presence all the time on this show, meaning you are giving 100% of your attention to this act. And really think of it as you know, something that is using all of your senses. So, you know, really look at it with your eyes.

Kevin Anthony 22:57
If it smells good, really take in the scent of it. What does it feel like when you touch certain areas, right? Maybe the outer labia versus the inner labia. Like there’s a difference in how they feel. And just really allow yourself to be 100% present in the experience of worshipping this pussy.

Céline Remy 23:18
Yeah, absolutely. Number two, it’s not all about penetration. And by penetration, I mean sticking anything inside, right? Focus on the outside. This is a lost art. When it comes to the vagina. Most men just want to stick it in whatever that is.

Kevin Anthony 23:39
They want to stick something in it fingers, tongs, penises, dildos, whatever they’re like, yeah, it’s a whole stick something in it.

Céline Remy 23:45
Yeah. But the thing is, we need to be in gorged, in order to feel more. So if you penetrate her before our erectile network of tissues is all in gorged. It’s the equivalent of you having penetration with a semi. Well, it works. Doesn’t feel great. Yeah. And,

Kevin Anthony 24:05
you know, that’s, that’s one part of it. The other part is, is that, you know, inside the vagina is not the only place that feels good. No. So it’s not like, well, we’re not, we’re not really, we’re not really there yet.

Kevin Anthony 24:20
Until we’re inside everything else is just like whatever. No, that’s actually not true. The outer labia, the inner labia, the perineum, you know, the clitoris, all these external features, you know, the pubic bone, the inside of the thighs leading up like all of these areas, are extremely sensitive and feel good and like to be touched and pleasured to it is not all about the penetration.

Kevin Anthony 24:45
If you’re thinking she’s not really going to like it, it’s not really going to do anything until I can get that finger in there and start hitting the g spot. No, that’s just not true.

Céline Remy 24:53
And also that makes it much easier to give it 45 minutes and Let’s face it,

Kevin Anthony 25:00
you don’t have to worry about your fingers being strong enough to go 45 minutes because you can do a lot of other things. I

Céline Remy 25:09
think that’s a good segue to number three from what you were talking about. Okay? Thinking bull’s eyes, okay, as a guy, you’re gonna go to your COC, give it some good attention, then you’re like, Yeah, let’s remember have a body.

Céline Remy 25:26
Sure. As a woman, it is the opposite. Meaning that her pussy is the bull’s eye. But you want to approach it from the external to woods, the insight.

Kevin Anthony 25:42
Yeah, something we talked about a lot, which is with men, it’s fine to just go straight to their cock. And you know, great. But for women, you always want to start basically, as far away from the physique as you can possibly get, and work your way inward. Yeah.

Céline Remy 25:57
And you know, like the little secret to is the way to her pussy is for her breasts. And make sure you give her breasts and loving attention.

Kevin Anthony 26:05
Yeah, but don’t go straight to those either start somewhere else, start on the shoulders, the arms, the legs, the feet, something like that, work your way into the breasts, and then from there to the policy, trust me, it is worth your time, she will respond far better to that than if you just try to go straight for it.

Céline Remy 26:25
You don’t really want to bring her to a place where she’s begging for you. If she’s not, you went too fast.

Kevin Anthony 26:31
Probably, you know, and it’s gonna vary from situation to situation, there might be times where you’re like, okay, they said, I got to start all the way out here and you’re like, rubbing a foot.

Kevin Anthony 26:40
And finally, she’s just like, fuck me, like, stick it in, you know that that can happen. There’s nothing wrong with that. But in general, she’s going to need a little bit more than he says you would as a guy, you know? I mean, like, as a guy, she’s, you know, rubbing your shoulders or touching your leg.

Kevin Anthony 26:57
And I think about this when she’s getting closer up, When is she going to touch my deck, right? But women, they’re not thinking that, trust me. They are not thinking that.

Kevin Anthony 27:07
If you’ve done a good job and started far enough out, and you’ve built up that anticipation, then she’s thinking about, Okay, I hope he gets there. I hope he gets there. I hope he gets there. But it’s gonna take more time.

Céline Remy 27:18
Well, first is going to take her to get out of her head, get the stress and all of her things like the diffuse awareness of thinking about a million things at once. To settle.

Kevin Anthony 27:28
Yeah, that’s a whole nother point.

Céline Remy 27:34
Number four, it’s all about rhythm. Not so much about technique when you are worshiping the per se. While the technique is important. Rhythm matters most. Why do you think women love vibrators?

Kevin Anthony 27:50
There ain’t no technique with a vibrator. There’s no special stroke or special move. It’s just rhythm.

Céline Remy 27:59
And it’s consistent. And it’s very close. The distance never dies.

Kevin Anthony 28:05
Yeah, so the reason why this is important, and you know why it’s on the list is that a lot of times guys want to know, give me the move, right? It’s the move. I know, I’m dating myself.

Kevin Anthony 28:18
But if you remember back to Seinfeld, you know, the move. Hey, that’s my move. Right? Everybody wants to know what the move is, you know, it’s not really so much about moves. It just isn’t. I mean, yeah, there’s some basic things, and we’ve talked about this, we did a show on the clitoris, and I’m sure we talked about some

Céline Remy 28:36
shows on oral sex, we’ve covered lots of so it

Kevin Anthony 28:39
doesn’t mean that you don’t need to know anything. There are some strokes that feel better than others. And there are some general techniques. But the idea here is it’s not all about technique.

Kevin Anthony 28:49
It’s not just about if you touch this spot and rub in this certain way, guaranteed every time it just doesn’t work like that. So focus a little bit more on Yeah, pick a good technique, and then focus on the rhythm of that technique.

Céline Remy 29:03
And stay with it. Number five, make it about her. This is huge. I think we need to spend a little bit of time on that one.

Kevin Anthony 29:13
Well, this is all about her. In fact, if it’s about you in any way, shape, or form, you ain’t doing the worshipping correctly.

Céline Remy 29:21
That’s just wanting to make her happy.

Kevin Anthony 29:26
Yeah, I mean, well, okay. We’re using the term worship, and honestly, we’re using it a little loosely. Right? We don’t mean to worship it as if it’s a deity necessarily,

Céline Remy 29:39
like in a DOM sub-relationship.

Kevin Anthony 29:43
But think of it this way just I’m just gonna I’m gonna try this analogy. It might totally fall flat on its face. I’m not sure but think about anything else that you would worship. Let’s say you’re a religious person and you are worshiping whatever

Kevin Anthony 29:59
God, it is. Is that what you worship? Is that about you at that moment? Or is it about that particular God? Right? So that’s the analogy is is that this is not about you? Right?

Kevin Anthony 30:13
And that’s the way you have to approach it. So you really want to make it about her. Because if it ain’t about you, then it’s got to be about her.

Céline Remy 30:20
Well, and making it about her is a fine line because a lot of men think they are givers. takers, yeah,

Kevin Anthony 30:32
we see this a lot. It’s like, oh, no, I’m doing it for her pleasure. No, you’re actually doing it because you are receiving pleasure from the giving part. And

Céline Remy 30:40
so what do we mean when we say we You take care? Well, you expect her to moan a certain way to respond to having an orgasm? To tell you, you’re amazing. There’s an expectation beyond like, behind what you’re doing, basically.

Kevin Anthony 30:58
Yeah. And it’s a fine line. This one, it’s a really fine line, because we’re not saying that you aren’t supposed to enjoy this. You are supposed to enjoy it. Yeah, otherwise, don’t do it. Right. Yeah. If it’s miserable for you, then this ain’t the right thing for you.

Kevin Anthony 31:13
But you are supposed to enjoy it. But here’s, here’s where it gets sort of tricky, which is that? Yes, you have an expectation, okay? But the other thing is when he constantly wants to give to her, even when she’s not necessarily wanting to receive it.

Kevin Anthony 31:34
Oh, no, come on. You love this. Oh, come on, just let me do this for you. Right, that shows that it’s no longer about her. And that it’s about you because you are receiving something from this that you want. And you’re just using her to get it.

Kevin Anthony 31:49
As opposed to you’re giving to her first and foremost. And oh, by the way, you are also getting some pleasure from it. I know. It’s a fine line. Some people listening are probably going I’m not really sure I understand the difference. But trust us, there is a huge difference.

Kevin Anthony 32:07
And I know that there are ladies listening right now who are like, Oh, I know. She knows. She absolutely knows the difference when it’s

Céline Remy 32:18
about her or about you. So when in doubt, ask her. Hopefully, she’s honest.

Kevin Anthony 32:25
Yeah. When in doubt, work with one of us as a coach, because there are a few women that could honestly say that without causing some damage.

Céline Remy 32:35
All right, number six, give it enough time. We’ve talked about this earlier. So I don’t think we need to do too much. But understand that if you are starting this activity, you can just breathe through it.

Kevin Anthony 32:48
No, this is all about time. You’ve time doesn’t exist. In fact, I highly suggest that any timekeeping devices are gone from the room. You should not be paying attention to how long it’s been you shouldn’t care how long it’s been you want to get lost in the portal.

Kevin Anthony 33:07
That is the pussy Hmm, it’s a time warp. You have no idea how long it’s been. You’re not even sure that you’re in the same reality anymore. That’s how it should be.

Céline Remy 33:18
Like I think even number seven, pay attention to her body’s response.

Kevin Anthony 33:26
I mean, this goes for anything anytime you’re doing anything sexual whatsoever. But yeah, you’ve got to pay attention to how she is responding to what you’re doing.

Kevin Anthony 33:35
Remember, this is supposed to be worship. This is all about her. And it’s not about well, I like this technique. This is cool. This is fun. And she’s over there got burning, like, Please stop, right?

Céline Remy 33:49
Yes. Now stop assuming that she has to orgasm from anything you’re doing. Take the pressure away, stop pressuring her.

Kevin Anthony 33:59
Yeah, I mean, as a guy, you should stop assuming you got to organize. But it works both ways. But especially with women. Women’s orgasms are strange and interesting things. Much like women, they’re unpredictable.

Kevin Anthony 34:14
Sometimes they show up, sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they show up in multiples, sometimes in singulars sometimes not at all sometimes in the beginning sometimes way at the end sometimes when you think it ain’t gonna happen it’s a habit like it’s just you just got to let go of all of that.

Kevin Anthony 34:32
And it happens however and whenever or if it even happens.

Céline Remy 34:37
And then you gotta give without expecting anything in return.

Kevin Anthony 34:42
Yeah. This is like we said earlier, you know this is the thing that you’re doing. Yes, there is no other like, Okay, once this is done, then we’re going to go could something else happen after this? Yes, but do not expect that. It’s going to Do

Céline Remy 35:01
as a matter of fact, I would say it’s better to kind of close the scene, take a little break and then see if you still want to do more. Like you really want to make it your thing of its own. It should

Kevin Anthony 35:14
be a thing of itself. It should be. But you know, I mean, we’re not going to fault you. If she’s like, wow, that was so amazing. I must have you now. I mean, just roll with it.

Céline Remy 35:27
All right, there are two more principles here. Number 10. Love what you’re doing. I mean, it’s pretty self-explanatory. As we said earlier if you’re not enjoying it, how can she?

Kevin Anthony 35:39
Yeah, and you know, I’m going to use another analogy, because I like analogies, and they generally help people. I’m going to use a music analogy on this one.

Kevin Anthony 35:49
So there’s a difference in how you feel the music that somebody else is playing, based on how they’re playing it. So what do I mean by that? Okay. There are a ton of amazing musicians out there, who are technically extremely proficient, and they can do things on the guitar that most people would never be able to do.

Kevin Anthony 36:12
Like, hell, like, you know, guitar gymnastics, you know, because it’s like, how in the world did they even get their fingers to do that? Right. And it’s technically amazing. But it doesn’t move you then you can have somebody come over and play the most basic pentatonic blues scale.

Kevin Anthony 36:31
Like the first thing that you learn when you learn to play the guitar. And it can make you want to cry because it moves you because it’s the emotion behind the playing. It’s what did I put into that note? versus how many notes did I play?

Kevin Anthony 36:47
And did I play them perfectly evenly and blah, blah, blah, all that kind of stuff, right? So it’s the same thing here. If you’re just going through the motions, no matter how technically proficient you are, it’s just not going to be that good for her.

Kevin Anthony 37:00
And you could be maybe not that great at it, and maybe not even know that much technique. But if you’re pouring your heart and soul into it, and thinking of it, as I am literally worshipping this amazing, beautiful woman in front of me, it’s going to feel so so much more to her.

Céline Remy 37:22
So, number 11. Last but not least, it could have been one of the first ones, you must create a scene.

Kevin Anthony 37:30
Yeah, probably shouldn’t be one of the first ones. But since you started the list that I just kind of added on to the end of the list, but okay, what do we mean by creating a scene? I don’t think we really talked about this when we did the COC worship one.

Kevin Anthony 37:46
Because honestly, guys don’t care so much for the most part, as you could be like sitting in the car, you know, or he could be driving and he’s like, Yeah, worship my god, honey, you know, like, and he’d be fine with that. Women are different.

Kevin Anthony 38:02
I don’t care how much society tries to tell you. There’s no difference between men and women. They are different. Right? Truth bomb, they are different. They like and want different things. And really, to make this truly special for her.

Kevin Anthony 38:19
You’ve got to create the scene. What would a woman want? She wants the lights down low. Maybe she wants some beautiful soft music going in the background. She wants the temperature, right? She wants whatever space she’s in to feel like a warm cocoon of softness, and she wants textures. She wants the smell good in the room.

Céline Remy 38:42
So thank senses. Yeah, anything like that. And also think safety. Where she can totally relax and let go. There’s not a pile of laundry that’s bringing her back to reality. There’s not a door open that’s threatening her. It just is a safe, beautiful, inviting place.

Kevin Anthony 39:05
Yes, yes. Yes. Remember this is worship in any other place where you worship anything. It’s always a place of beauty. It’s always ornate. It’s always just they’ve gone the extra mile to make it beautiful.

Céline Remy 39:21
Hopefully, that’s your bedroom.

Kevin Anthony 39:23
It should be so yeah, make sure that you do that that you create a scene Okay? Who we covered a lot of ground already we still have the tips on technique.

Kevin Anthony 39:35
But before we do that, we’re going to take a quick break for our sponsor, which this week again is my last week it was you this week it’s me All right guys. Do you know what makes a man great you know the kind of masculine men that women are irresistibly attracted to and want Is it money job title his body?

Kevin Anthony 39:55
Is it because he’s great in bed has a big penis has great pickup lines or anything else like that? Hmm? Is it? Is it really? I don’t think so that I don’t think so either.

Kevin Anthony 40:07
And besides, what if you don’t have all of those, or what if you only have some of those, what if you’ve had a string of failed relationships or are embarrassed by your bedroom skills, doubt whether you can rise to the occasion, worry about lasting long enough, or are always stuck in the friend zone. I am here to help you.

Kevin Anthony 40:27
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Kevin Anthony 40:58
I said this last week, I’ll say it again if you’re not interested in being a warrior, that is okay. We have to call our programs something. But what it is going to do is teach you how to show up as a man for her in all the ways that she wants you to show up and in all the ways that are healthy for you to show up.

Céline Remy 41:18
So good. So we’re gonna glaze through the technique. People like what now? I think, just like last week, the principles are more important than the technique. And I want you to remember that you can use your hands.

Céline Remy 41:37
You can use your tongue and you can use your eyes, giving brother a really beautiful point where it’s just about staring into the universe. there staring into that place. That in itself, if you do it with love and adoration and reverence can be healing.

Kevin Anthony 42:02
Yeah, there’s actually a tantric practice called Yoni gazing up, of course, being the word for vulva vagina, pussy, whenever, where you as a man just sit there and stare at it.

Kevin Anthony 42:14
And I know men who’ve done this practice and you know, we’re not talking five minutes, like it’s like a half hour. And some men literally just after a while, they just break down in tears. It can be that powerful.

Céline Remy 42:30
She can break down in tears. I mean, nobody probably ever spent that much time. Yeah, you know, you can worship her too, with your words. You can let her know what you see. The folds the crevices, what you like, especially if she has insecurities. She’s gonna really like that.

Kevin Anthony 42:53
Bonus points, if you can point out how it resembles a beautiful flower or butterfly or something like

Céline Remy 42:59
that. They often do. Yes, absolutely. Okay.

Kevin Anthony 43:05
Let’s dive into the tips on technique here.

Céline Remy 43:09
Remember, start from the outside and do what’s in. Now, let’s pretend we’ve done that. We are in mean meaning. Seven sides, right?

Kevin Anthony 43:22
Okay, number one. Don’t just get close and stick your tongue out. Okay, so what we’re talking about here is if you’re using your mouth, the difference between porn oral and real oral. And we had a, what was his name? The porn star that we

Céline Remy 43:40
had on? Remember?

Kevin Anthony 43:43
Darn. I can’t remember his name. Oh, he had such a good name. Good was funny. Poor names to Everhard. Eric Eric Everhard. Yes. Thank you for remembering that Eric Everhard and I actually talked about this. It was a great interview, you should go look for that episode.

Kevin Anthony 43:57
If you haven’t listened to it. It’s a while back now. But, you know, he was basically saying the difference is like, you know, in porn, you have to be able to see what’s happening. In order for the camera to get there, get in there and see you’ve got to create space. Right? And this is why they always do the tongue sticking out oral thing.

Kevin Anthony 44:17
Because otherwise all you see is a face buried in a vagina and you have no idea what’s happening, right? But that’s what feels good. But that’s what actually feels good for a woman. So don’t do the porn oral thing. Really get down in there. It’s easier for your tongue anyway.

Céline Remy 44:36
Absolutely. Remember that? The clit is pretty much key to everything. You have to find it. You have to stimulate it. You have to give it enough time. Now there are other areas that can feel good.

Céline Remy 44:51
Kevin mentioned things earlier like the labia as the perineum, and the fourchette which is kind of at the bottom, like at the beginning of the insurance is the entrance. There’s the urethra, just below the collects. I mean, every woman has different zones, and you gotta find them.

Kevin Anthony 45:14
Once again, power mastery.com for your full in-depth course on female anatomy if you don’t know what some of those words are that she just used, that’s where you’ll learn what they are.

Céline Remy 45:27
clitoral legs. Just throwing a few up there.

Kevin Anthony 45:30
We actually did do an episode on the clitoris. Yes, here on this show. Go back. I was looking for earlier truth about the clitoris. Yeah, I think it’s like episode 140 something 142 144 Somewhere around there.

Kevin Anthony 45:45
Will we actually hold up little models here on the show if you watch the video on YouTube, and you can learn all about what the clitoris actually is not what you think it is. Yeah, but the

Céline Remy 45:58
thing is, without good stimulation, your chances for orgasms are pretty. No.

Kevin Anthony 46:06
Yeah, I mean, most women need some quick stimulation. Yes, for sure. Not all but most do.

Céline Remy 46:14
And evenings to get things started.

Kevin Anthony 46:16
Even again, the goal isn’t to make her orgasm, she’s just going to enjoy it anyway,

Céline Remy 46:20
sensitive spots. So you want to include it. But you don’t want to always just be there. Like, imagine if you’re on the clit. And then you go back to another area. And back to the collective.

Céline Remy 46:33
This is kind of like a technique to help re-sensitize different areas. teach that to my clients. We can teach you that more in-depth. But think about it. Use that clit

Kevin Anthony 46:46
Alright, number four, we talked about this earlier, women prefer rhythmic motions to constantly changing. Yeah, the

Céline Remy 46:53
The alphabets ain’t cool. Stick with one. Rhythm is key. And pressure. It’s always better to start lighter and slower. Because you can increase. If you start too fast too soon, there’s no room for growth. You hit a wall, and then you’ll need more and more, which may not even be physically possible.

Kevin Anthony 47:16
Yeah, and, you know, we say don’t keep changing, but the reality is, you need to be watching her reaction. Yeah. Then you try something.

Kevin Anthony 47:26
And if there’s really not much reaction there, try something else when you hit on one that you can tell for sure that she’s enjoying, then stick with it, and then keep the repetition.

Céline Remy 47:36
And you know, there are signs Okay, she can fake an orgasm, but her body can’t fake it. her clitoris will literally be getting engorged and swell up when she’s turned on. You might see it pulse.

Céline Remy 47:52
You might even see the labia as will change color and be like more in gorge too. So you want to look for all of that. Yeah, so

Kevin Anthony 48:01
that’s number five, which is paying attention to how she reacts to what you’re doing.

Céline Remy 48:05
Yes.

Kevin Anthony 48:07
Number six. If you find a move that’s working, stick with it. And this may vary from session to session, possible moment to moment. Yeah. We say this may vary. I’m gonna cross out May and right this will vary. Yes, it will vary woman 100% it will vary.

Céline Remy 48:29
You know, she might be ovulating and very horny. And then she’s done and she wants something different. And what she wanted yesterday won’t work today. I mean,

Kevin Anthony 48:38
yeah, and even less, it says moment to moment, you’ll find something she’s really liking. And you’ll keep doing it. Keep doing it. Keep doing it. And she’ll be building, building, and then all of a sudden, it’s just not doing it for anymore.

Céline Remy 48:48
Yeah. Okay, try some notes. So we’re gonna give you a few little ideas about the clit. And then maybe a few moves with the hands and nothing that will kind of like wrap it all up very nicely. Circle the clips. Flick the clips,

Kevin Anthony 49:05
lightly light, the light, none of this thing, right like it. Very just gently,

Céline Remy 49:16
lightly suck the clips. I love clip sucking is really nice. It’s not a move that many No. And they’ve created new toys. Now that will do that. So it’s becoming more popular.

Kevin Anthony 49:28
I’ve been doing this for decades, you were ahead of the curve given and they’re finally now just making toys to simulate that and in fact, we have some on our website. If you go to our products page on Céline remy.com and look for current body.

Kevin Anthony 49:48
There is a company called current body that is making really high-end vibrators and they have those suction-type devices there.

Céline Remy 49:57
Yeah, so check them out if you need something there. You know you can use different things when you’re on the Eclipse. You can use sensations like feathers, or things that are hot and cold.

Céline Remy 50:13
But you can combine it with a finger inside. You can use your voice to create vibration. You can also use your tongue and see pointed versus flat. How does it feel?

Céline Remy 50:30
You got to be creative. And one thing that I really love and I wanted to mention is using the thumbs to massage around the sits bones, the perineum, stroking the thighs, like using your hands all over her really works

Kevin Anthony 50:51
power mastery.com A full demonstration of how to do an external pussy massage.

Céline Remy 50:58
We also have internal Yeah, that’s true, both because I mean, come on. Good. Give it all right. So these are kinds of ideas. Remember, use your eyes, your hands, your tongue, a gumbo of everything.

Kevin Anthony 51:15
Don’t forget to ask her what she likes and what she wants and then be creative. Have fun with it. You’re supposed to be enjoying this as well.

Céline Remy 51:22
And if you use anything internally, please use lube. Please, please, please.

Kevin Anthony 51:31
If you’ve been doing it for 40 minutes and then you go inside she’s probably already pretty lubed up but if you’re going in early for sure, use some lube it but you

Céline Remy 51:41
know what? Don’t make the assumption. And especially if it’s an older woman, things are different. Well, that’s true. And it’s nice to just have you can never have too much lube anyway.

Kevin Anthony 51:55
No such thing as too much lube. Except when you make a mess all over the sheets.

Céline Remy 52:00
Prepared. Reading the scene. Well the towels have the lube

Kevin Anthony 52:05
and a mess shouldn’t be a problem because you should be on a six blanket. Which we have on App Store to yes we do. We have several in our store. We empty to

Céline Remy 52:14
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Kevin Anthony 52:18
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Céline Remy 52:21
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Kevin Anthony 52:28
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Céline Remy 52:31
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Kevin Anthony 52:36
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Kevin Anthony 52:45
And that’s how we can keep putting out free shows and videos and everything all the time we give you great information. You get to buy some cool products. You have a whole lot of fun in the bedroom and you keep the circle going. That’s how it works.

Céline Remy 52:59
So thank you. All right,

Kevin Anthony 53:00
everybody. That is all the time we have for this episode and we will see you next week. We hope you liked this episode of the Love Lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe. Leave us a review and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 53:19
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Kevin Anthony 53:31
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Céline Remy 53:35
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