Essential Steps To Turning Her On

Kevin Anthony 0:11
Welcome to the Love Lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man, woman, single, or couple, this is the show for you.

Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and Céline Remy and we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:27
Alright, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 193. And it’s titled essential tips to turning her on. What we are going to teach you in this episode is how to make her so turned on. So dripping wet, that she begs you for your cock.

Céline Remy 0:50
Wow, this is a big claim we’re making there, I hope we can deliver.

Kevin Anthony 0:56
Oh, we can. So you know, here’s the thing, one of the things that we encounter a lot when we are coaching men or couples, or even sometimes women, even same-sex women couples sometimes have this problem not as much, but sometimes, which is that they don’t really take the time to build up the energy to build up the desire to make her wet. Right? Just like well, okay, I mean, for guys, it’s generally pretty easy, pretty simple.

Kevin Anthony 1:31
You know, like horny, boner, let’s go. For women, it’s generally not as simple. But even you know, even sometimes women are kind of like, well, you know, this is the best I can get. So I’ll just go with it. But wouldn’t it be better if you had some really simple basic things that you could do, that would suddenly shift that entire dynamic to the point where she was like, Oh, my God, like, I need to change my panties right now.

Kevin Anthony 2:03
Like, it’s really not that hard. So that’s, that’s what we’re going to work on in this episode. So we’re gonna start by giving you tips about the types of things that women really love the things that really do it for them, then we’re going to give you the tips for what not to do the things they really don’t like the things that will dry them up, as opposed to make them wet.

Kevin Anthony 2:21
And then we’re literally going to give you the formula, the secret, step-by-step formula for how to do this. And of course, we’re gonna hear someone’s perspective as we go, she’s gonna tell us what, what her experience is and how these things work for her.

Céline Remy 2:39
There’s one story about being what to insert it little.

Kevin Anthony 2:44
Insert a little personal story about wetness?

Céline Remy 2:48
Well, it’s going to be juicy, pun intended. And I’m excited to be sharing that. But before we jump into today’s content, let’s give a big shout-out to our sponsor’s power mastery. So if you don’t want to join the secret club of men who are great in bed, then check out power and mastery at power and mastery.com. It is the most complete sexual mastery training for men.

Céline Remy 3:10
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Céline Remy 3:29
And by the way, I know that this episode is geared towards men, but I think as women, you might actually want to tune in and stay tuned because it might help you to see that you are absolutely normal. It might help you feel see that hey, actually, now I understand myself better because let’s face it, one of the reasons that men don’t always know what to choose is that women have no idea what they need. And they’re not asking the man to do that.

Céline Remy 3:58
So we’re not just saying that men are just clueless and don’t know what happens. A lot of them will have no idea either. And so it’s important to take the time to discover yourself know yourself. And I think also does come with age, that is one of the most beautiful things that come when you age your bed as a woman is that suddenly you’re not so shy anymore to say stick this here like this, do that.

Kevin Anthony 4:24
Yeah, it’s a great point that you make, which is that a lot of times, especially when women are younger, they actually don’t know what they need, and they don’t know what they really want. So yes, if you’re listening and you’re a woman, pay attention, because you might go, oh, yeah, you know, you’re right.

Kevin Anthony 4:40
If I had that, I would like this more, I would want this more. And hey, you know, there’s a lot of women who pleasure women as well. So, you know, you should be a little bit more tapped in because you’re a woman and you already kind of know what a woman wants, but you might learn some stuff here too. So.

Céline Remy 4:55
All right, well, let’s get into some of the things that women love. Let’s start With some nice positive things, and no, these are kind of some words and some ideas there about what we love as women. So women tend to like smooth, sliding, gliding, slipping in, teasing, enjoying in, slew, none the friction rubbing, opening up to you, dilating for you being filled when she’s ready, then delighting touch all over. And something that is more process-oriented.

Kevin Anthony 5:40
Okay, well, you just gave a lot of stuff there. So we better go back and cover a few more facts. unpack some of that.

Céline Remy 5:46
I have to say those are lovely because I was getting turned on just from reading those and imagining that

Kevin Anthony 5:52
a sexy voice you were using.

Kevin Anthony 6:01
Okay, so let’s, you know, let’s start with smooth sliding and gliding because they’re all kind of similar in a way. But what you’re really saying is, is that what women love is things that are soft, right? So let’s say you’re at the point where you’re going to use your fingers.

Kevin Anthony 6:21
And it doesn’t just slide right in, it’s not smooth, then you probably didn’t do a good enough job of building up but we’ll talk about it in our step-by-step right. So it’s a good idea to pay attention to are things smooth, but smooth could also mean simply touching the body. Are you gently smoothly touching things? Or you’re like,

Céline Remy 6:45
thank you. I did not enjoy this demo.

Kevin Anthony 6:49
See, see it both

Céline Remy 6:51
ways. Look at the reaction I would slap him. And we’re not even naked. Oh,

Kevin Anthony 6:56
it was a cute little massage. No,

Céline Remy 6:58
it was not welcomed. was not asked for. I liked it when it was smooth. The whole groping thing was not the right time. shut me down that

Kevin Anthony 7:08
There you go. So it was a very excellent demonstration. And

Céline Remy 7:12
I was gonna say to you about soft is something funny is that we like a soft and yet hard cock. And it’s a weird concept to understand. Because you like what, what do you mean, I’m like, I want to be hard. You know, it’s like, oh, stainless steel, like my rock-hard cork.

Céline Remy 7:29
And it’s awesome to be hard. But you want to have the energy that has a softness to it. You want to have the skin of the penis that feels soft to the touch. There is something about a cock that’s throbbing hard, and yet still feels soft and gentle. Where you like you want this if it’s this really an unwelcome back into what women don’t like, pointy, pushy thing. That’s like, only hard. It’s not as exciting. So you

Kevin Anthony 7:59
want a hard erection, but you want the surface of the penis to be soft and smooth. And the way he uses it to be soft, which is a big part of it. Right? You’re not poking and jabbing?

Céline Remy 8:14
Correct, correct. So if we look at the slipping into just teasing and edging in, they kind of all go together as well here. And this will go into much more detail when we get into the steps that we’ve put together for you. Because it is such a different way of thinking. Because it’s true that for most men, you love to have this direct stimulation on your cock, we go straight to the bull’s eyes, it feels great, and then you can go to the rest of the body.

Céline Remy 8:47
But when it comes to women, you have to reverse this thinking and you can’t touch her the way you like to be touched. You have to touch her the way she wants to be touch and you’ll have to change how you approach rings which are different than how you do it for yourself. And so this whole concept of teasing edging and, and going slow and going from the outside towards the inside is what really works for women. But don’t worry, we will come back to that.

Kevin Anthony 9:20
All right, let’s see next. Where did you end up?

Céline Remy 9:26
Well, I kind of stopped around the slow here so we kind of had the non-friction rubbing. I think that that kind of goes without too much explanation. I want to come back to the opening up to you and they leading for you. This is such an important concept. And I think that most women don’t even know about that because we are so used to being used whenever we’re not always ready or being probed and poked or entered wherever we go see a gynecologist whether it’s our boyfriend whoever we shove a tampon or anything inside of ourselves, we don’t always pay attention.

Céline Remy 10:09
Is my pussy ready? Is my porcine welcoming the touch? You know? Like, how can I bring it in? Like, how can you reverse the idea that it’s not just something that’s happening to me that it’s more something that I’m inviting in and opening up to, and this is such a different concept? And when you able to open up and bring him in and opening up for him and, and being totally filled up with, with all the fluids and pulsing energy, and you’re like dilating for him, it is so exciting, versus like, having to do out on somebody else’s timing. You

Kevin Anthony 10:51
know, it’s pretty exciting as a man to I mean, the penetration, as long as things are, well, lubed always feels great. But there is a moment, if you did a good job, where you can literally feel the perceived like grabbing you and pulling you in, like in these little muscular contractions where it’s just like, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, that is an amazing feeling.

Céline Remy 11:18
And it’s an amazing feeling for both. And it is something that most rushes through and most women are not aware of, it is one of the most groundbreaking concepts that I teach to the couples that I work with, when I teach them how to do that for each other, they go like, that was amazing. This was the most exciting part of lovemaking. And it really transforms how they have sex.

Kevin Anthony 11:43
Okay, so continuing on, in being filled, when you’re ready is kind of pretty much the same thing that we’ve already talked about. Tantalizing touch all over this, we’ll talk about some more when we get into the steps as well, because we’ll bring in sort of the levels of touch and stuff like that, but, but just understand that for women, they like to be touched, basically all over and not the genitals first.

Céline Remy 12:15
Yeah, that’s what I was talking about earlier, but not going for the bull’s eyes as you do for yourself. And then the idea of the process-oriented, I want to come back to that because as the masculine, you tend to be more goal-oriented, and it is fine. But you can’t always approach her if you want to stimulate her feminine energy in her juices, you got to focus more on the experience of the process itself on the journey rather than the destination. And you’ve probably heard that we’ve shared that many times on shows.

Kevin Anthony 12:49
Yeah, but it’s huge. You know, maybe we talk about it a lot. But you really do have to think about everything that is leading up to the actual penetration as a process, but not as a process. Like, oh, I got this whole big long thing I got to do. And this sounds like a lot of work and blah, blah, blah, not like that at all. You got to think of it as maybe the process isn’t the best word but like, a fun journey. Right.

Kevin Anthony 13:24
And too many men, this is one of the big problems is that too many men are so focused on the destination, they just want to like breeze through all that other stuff as quickly as they possibly can. So you know, the title of the episode is an essential step to turning her on. If you really want to have great sex, I mean, great sex, not just like, yeah, that was pretty good. Yeah, no, I wasn’t that into it. She wasn’t that into it, or you know, I was decent.

Kevin Anthony 13:51
But if you really want to have really, truly great sex, right, then you have to, you have to have that journey to get to that place where you can have great sex because of all of these things. Again, we’ll talk more about the steps. But all of these things are getting her to that place where she can truly open where she can just completely surrender to you and go to these levels of ecstatic bliss that are just unreachable without all that now, some guys listening are going, Oh, that’s great for her.

Kevin Anthony 14:28
But what does it do for me? Something that we also talk about all the time on the show is that the more she surrenders, the deeper she can go into her ecstatic bliss state, the better it’s going to be for you to you will feel more energy. She will allow you to do more things. You can go deeper with the rest.

Kevin Anthony 14:53
You can do all kinds of positions maybe she wouldn’t normally be open to you can go longer than you know she can have multiple waves of orgasmic bliss that just are like shockwaves through your body because you’re literally plugged into her. I mean, these are things that absolutely directly benefit you as a man. And if you can’t see that, you need to go back to like, lovemaking. 101 good, you got some stuff to learn.

Céline Remy 15:24
Let’s talk about what women don’t like, we give you what they like. And, you know, we won’t spend too much time on what we don’t like, but pay attention and really listen, because it’s important to not do these behaviors. Women don’t like feeling rushed, poking, begging, pushy, pressuring, shaving, grabbing, cramming friction, a pity party, and I’ll come back to that one fixing, prodding, and goal-directed. There’s a lot there.

Kevin Anthony 15:57
Yeah. So some of these we kind of covered already, right, you know, like, feeling rushed. Okay, that actually is one we didn’t really talk about. I mean, we said to slow down here. But we didn’t really talk about the idea that women often feel rushed in sex to get to a certain level at a certain point, whether it’s, I need to get turned on, I need to get wet, I need to be open enough for him, I need to get to my orgasm because he really wants me to orgasm or whatever it is.

Kevin Anthony 16:26
Anytime a woman feels rushed to get anywhere, it basically either shuts her down or at least slows her down. So the idea is, is like, you want to rush her to get her there a little faster. But the more you rush are, the longer it’s gonna take to get there.

Céline Remy 16:44
Yeah, let’s talk about the PD party, and the fixing and all of this. So pity party kind of comes when let’s say, you want to do something with her, you want to play a certain fantasy and she’s not into it. And rather than celebrating the fact that she said no to you, because hey if she can say no to you, it means you can trust her when she says yes. Right.

Céline Remy 17:08
So it’s actually a good thing. You go into, like, what’s wrong with me? Or she must not love me or with fine, we won’t do that. And then it’s kind of like that pity party, and then she kind of feels pressure like, okay, maybe I should have said yes to the fantasy or to the sex position that you really want. So I could make him feel better, you know, oh, that

Kevin Anthony 17:26
needy, like, pity party thing is a huge turnoff to me. Yeah, don’t bring that to the bedroom. Nothing will dry up a pussy faster than that. Absolutely.

Céline Remy 17:37
And that’s also is what the fixing is all about fixing is like, you know, it’s okay, if you have sexual issues, it’s okay if your body’s not functioning properly, but don’t try to process it in the bedroom with her or process it outside of the bedroom, process it maybe somebody else, you know, you can hire us, this is what we do all the time.

Céline Remy 17:54
But don’t bring that into the bedroom, and don’t try to fix her Ivor, this is not the time like to get into that, you know. So that attitude of either you having to be fixed, or her needing to be fixed is not at all sexy.

Kevin Anthony 18:13
Well, it’s really not. And, you know, again, if you’re a guy yet, you should really at this point in your life, even if you’re younger, I mean, it is 2022 at this point in your life, you should understand that women don’t always want or need you to fix whatever is happening for them most of the time.

Kevin Anthony 18:34
They just want you to hold space for them, and let them know that you hear them and you understand them. That’s it. Right? That’s Sounds simple, right? So so you know, if you’re in that place where you are about to be lovemaking, or you are lovemaking or you’re doing some sort of foreplay, something appears wrong and you all automatically as man, go into fix-it mode. Again, gonna drive that bus. Yep, real fast. Right?

Céline Remy 19:03
You know, also, having some strong emotions can be not always but can be a sign of having really great sex and great connection. Because sometimes it is really healing to have beautiful lovemaking. And it will bring things up to the surface. And so you don’t need to be stopping like actually, a good cry can make everything flowing and juicy everywhere.

Kevin Anthony 19:24
Yeah, you know, the problem that happens a lot in those situations is most men aren’t aware of that. So they think of tears as something’s wrong. I did something wrong. Something went wrong at the moment. Crap, now I gotta fix it. gotta fix it. Right, and then they go into fix-it mode. Really? I mean, could there be something wrong, potentially, but not necessarily.

Kevin Anthony 19:49
First of all, if there isn’t really anything wrong, and it’s just that, you know, the process was so deep, the connection was so deep. You know, there’s, there’s a thing where literally, as you often say, saline issues get stuck in the tissues, right? Where literally trauma can be stuck inside the vaginal walls. I mean, if that sounds crazy to you just go research it.

Kevin Anthony 20:15
We’ve talked about it on the show before, how are the molecules of emotion are not just in our brain, they’re all throughout our body, our body can store trauma, whether you’ve had accidents, injuries, whatever it is, that stuff can get released. And if it does, and she starts to cry, that’s okay. All she needs is for you to hold space.

Kevin Anthony 20:34
And if you can do that really well, and you’re like rock-solid as a man, you don’t overreact to it, you don’t go into fixing mode. She and she sees that the level of trust, that she will suddenly feel for you and safety at that moment, will be immense. I mean, it’s a huge gift to her to be able to do that.

Céline Remy 21:01
Wow. Okay, we’ve already done a lot of fun packing, we’ve already covered a lot of grounds. And we are going to give you tips into action. But before that, if you like what you’re hearing, and you want more, of course, you do, who doesn’t want more, right, you’re ready for the hottest sex, deeper intimacy, and more orgasms pleasure, then join the passionate vault is our free library of videos, ebooks resources to help you bring your A-game to the bedroom.

Céline Remy 21:29
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Céline Remy 21:56
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Kevin Anthony 22:10
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Kevin Anthony 22:28
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Céline Remy 22:57
Alright, so I want to very quickly just talk a little bit about being juicy, what it’s like for women. And if you’re not feeling juicy, also kind of like what it can be like. Because for a guy, I think the basic, for women who don’t, is not able to be juicy or wet, like be wet the way she wants to be. It’s kind of the equivalent of a guy who’s not able to get a full erection in how disappointed she feels or how broken she might feel about herself, or how incompatible she might feel about herself.

Céline Remy 23:34
So just to kind of give you a little bit of an idea that it is deep, it is something that can be really profound for her where she’s like, hey, something was wrong with me or I don’t know what’s going on. Also understand that without lubrication, sex is not as pleasurable actually can become painful. And it’s also important to understand that women are at different times in their lives, get their lubrication can change, meaning that as her hormones are changing, it is totally normal, she could go for a dry spell.

Céline Remy 24:09
That also just means the hormones are out of balance. There is no shame in using lube, there is no shame in having some outside help in order to get to that lubrication. If she doesn’t lubricate well, it doesn’t mean you’re not a good lover. By the way. It could mean something is off, but it could also mean that she’s not getting what she wants and needs. Okay.

Kevin Anthony 24:33
Maybe, Celine, you might have a personal story to illustrate this.

Céline Remy 24:38
You know, we were talking about today’s show on a morning walk and what we’re going to do today and I was remembering that when I was younger in my 20s I actually thought that I was a very juicy woman because I wasn’t lubricating that much. And I just thought oh, that’s what it is. You know I just feel a little bit dry at first it hurts a little bit for the first few strokes and then I can get there.

Céline Remy 25:04
But what I understood later is that I just wasn’t being stimulated the way I wanted to be stimulated, didn’t have the right lovers at that time didn’t know what to ask for, I’m taking full responsibility for what I didn’t know, either. And that’s kind of what got in the way. And then, later on, I went through a time where I definitely was not lubricating enough and was always needing some outside lube pans.

Céline Remy 25:31
After, you know, like taking a step back, I was able to see that there were a lot of things in the way in the relationship that I was in, and I think our bodies were not so compatible anymore, and that it was really trying to tell me something, and I wasn’t really listening, you know, it’s

Kevin Anthony 25:48
like, the wisdom of the vagina.

Céline Remy 25:50
I know. And I was like, you know, it’s not really my voice. He was like, it’s not really doing it for me. I don’t think that’s what I want. You know, I know that yeah, no, whatever, you know, get make it work. Here’s the coconut or let’s make this work, right. And then what was interesting was when I got together with Kevin, and I was like, Well, you know, I don’t always know Ricky does match and stuff. And he was like, What are you talking about like you like, you’d like super weird, super juicy,

Kevin Anthony 26:16
juicy Lucy, that’s what we were calling you.

Céline Remy 26:20
And, you know, we are six years in six-plus years in and it is still the case, it wasn’t just a fluke that it did happen. So what that taught me number one is that the compatibility there is such a thing as genitalia compatibility, that sometimes you are just not the right match. Sometimes the relationship, there’s something deeper that needs to be looked at.

Céline Remy 26:40
And that’s one of the symptoms is the lack of lubrication. But really, there’s a whole lack of that lubrication of that juiciness in your relationship. And it’s showing up in your presets. And sometimes, you just need to know, like, what you want, and you need to find the right partner who can turn you on the way that you like to be turned out.

Kevin Anthony 27:01
Yeah, you know, we’ve, in the last year or so we’ve had quite a few doctors on the show, whether they were psychologists or they were actual MDs, and we’ve had a handful of those as well. And we’ve talked a lot about, you know, what happens when there’s something physically wrong?

Kevin Anthony 27:18
And what options do you have, especially recently, in the last few months, we’ve done quite a few shows on that, you know, whether it’s hormone-related or, and we’ve talked about a lot of that stuff, in our experience, and you can, you can tell me if I’m overstating this or not, but in our experience working with people, while there are some that have physical legit problems that do need to see a medical professional.

Kevin Anthony 27:30
The overwhelming majority of people that we see that we work with, it’s in, it’s in their head, in a sense that the relationships not functioning properly, they have their own trauma or whatever that’s blocking in the way, or they don’t have the skills to know what they are doing. They don’t know what they want.

Kevin Anthony 28:02
They don’t know how to ask for what they want or communicate, these are the things that really are the problems for the majority of people out there. And I think that’s important to say like, Okay, if you’re having this problem, you don’t lubricate, by all means, go to the doctor, have them check you out. If they come back and say, we can’t find anything wrong with you, then it’s something that we’re talking about here.

Céline Remy 28:28
And make sure you use lube, by the way, in the meantime, until you figure it out.

Kevin Anthony 28:33
Right, right. Okay. So now, let’s get into how to put all of this into action because we have an 11 step process for how to put everything that we just said, into action right away.

Céline Remy 28:49
Number one, make her feel safe physically and emotionally. This is one that most people are skipping. This is one that most women are not even aware that they need. And that’s a big one that we work on and with when we work with couples, or when I work with women, of having them understand that without that piece of the safety, and it’s physical and emotional.

Céline Remy 29:11
they are not able to surrender and to let go and that is the key to experiencing high pleasure and having that total opening up and juiciness and all of this happening come from that surrendering but without feeling safe you don’t get there.

Kevin Anthony 29:27
Yeah, and the quick note that I need to really make on that one is a lot of guys hear that women need to feel safe and they go well, of course, she’s safe. It’s not like I’m gonna hear anything this is ridiculous. Of course, she’s safe Have I ever even gotten you to know, like, that’s the way men think about the whole safety thing but you have to understand is it’s not just physical safety.

Kevin Anthony 29:48
Right, so she may know for sure that you’re not going to go and you know, hit her or physically abused or anything like that. But does she feel safe? Emotionally? Does she feel safe enough? To get really vulnerable, to really let go, to allow you to see her in the depths of her ecstasy.

Céline Remy 30:11
And that’s huge. That’s huge in it to see her in all of her emotions, the beautiful ones, and the ugly ones, all of that and that you’re still there, you’re not going to be afraid and you’re not judging her.

Kevin Anthony 30:23
Gonna make another generalization here. But I would say that the majority of the couples we work with most of women don’t feel safe enough to go there. Correct?

Céline Remy 30:34
Correct. It takes a strong man to be able to handle a woman. And in our culture, a lot of men are weak right now

Kevin Anthony 30:44
they have a truth bomb. I wish I had my sound effects. Again, true bomb. Yes, that is true. The majority of men out there sorry, man, but the majority of men out there are weak. And I know most of you are hearing that guy. He’s talking about somebody other than me. Might want to look in the mirror. Number two,

Céline Remy 31:01
and it’s okay, by the way, you can step back into that because also society has been really making it to try to destroy that core of masculinity so you can reclaim it. And I hope that this show helps you do that and we can help you and work with you given he can help you do that. That’s right. Number two,

Kevin Anthony 31:18
give her your full presence and attention. This is another one, if you really want a woman to open up to you, she has to feel like you’re 100% there with her not fantasizing about some threesome you wish you had or Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day because you’re trying not to go over your edge and ejaculate right away. You know, like, You got to be really fully there, she has to know that you are 100% with her on this journey.

Céline Remy 31:48
And you know, it’s not just in the bedroom is that when she wants your attention, you can give it to her as well, outside of the bedroom. If you are, let’s say, and this is your story, for a partner I was with I had just bought underwear and I was giving him an underwear show.

Céline Remy 32:03
He could not look up from his email to look at the new underwear I had just bought. And I think this is really ridiculous. It’s not like he was in the middle of work. By the way, you know, like he was in his office, he was just in the living room checking emails and doing stuff like that.

Kevin Anthony 32:17
Another pro tip for men. Women don’t just want attention. They need attention. They crave attention. One of the biggest gifts that you can actually give to your woman is to simply give her your attention. It’s not that fucking hard. Like it really isn’t. I don’t care what you are in the middle of, if you’re a woman comes up to you and says, I bought sexy lingerie. And I would like to show it to you. You go, Yeah,

Céline Remy 32:48
what a great idea.

Kevin Anthony 32:50
I get it, you could be in the middle of something dangerous you’re working on. Or you could have a meeting with a client or something that you can’t bail on. But short of something like that. You should stop what you’re doing, even if it’s only for two minutes, and just say, I’m really busy. I’m right in the middle of this, and I got to do this, this, and this, but I will give you two minutes of my time to appreciate you in that beautiful sexy underwear. And then when I’m done. Oh yeah, it’s on.

Céline Remy 33:20
Number three, turn her on with words before you even touch her. You know, tell her how beautiful she is. They’ll how much you want her to give specific things you love about her. The more specific the better. Because yes, every woman loves to hear she’s beautiful, but it would be more meaningful if you can admire how flowy her hair is today. And how bright her eyes are. Oh, yeah,

Kevin Anthony 33:46
this is another major pro tip. Because men are like, Yeah, you’re beautiful. Of course, you’re beautiful, you know, or whatever. The reality is, is Yeah, everyone wants to hear she’s beautiful. But at a certain point, if you haven’t been telling her specific things about her, she’s gonna think it’s just a script that you’re giving her and she’s not going to trust it.

Kevin Anthony 34:08
So she wants to know, how am I beautiful? How am I more beautiful than the woman who saw on TV or yesterday at the lunch place or whatever it is like she wants to know what is it specifically that you find beautiful,

Céline Remy 34:23
and that works well for her body as well. Especially being specific about how you can be turned on by her pussy, how you love how her pussy smells, tastes, looks the way that it changes and, and in gorgeous for you and all of these things. So the more specific, the better. And that whole turning her on through that mental because our biggest sex organ is indeed between our ears is our brain.

Céline Remy 34:48
This is what we talked about when we talk about the constant state of arousal. It is different. There is no one formula for every woman. So this is something you need to ask her to discuss with her to know what are the things that will do it for her. But these are essential if you can prep her before you’re into the bedroom. This is really what foreplay is. Right?

Kevin Anthony 35:10
Exactly. Now notice that there’s a progression here. So you make her feel physically and emotionally safe, you give her your full attention, then you use her and you start to turn her around with your words. The next one is to teach her with different levels of touch. And one thing that we often teach clients of ours is the levels of touch, there are five of them.

Kevin Anthony 35:32
So different levels of touch will mean there are five different ways you can touch yet from hovering over and barely, barely touching words, you just like, I think maybe I can feel you and it’s more energetic to lightly touch to gentle massage to deep tissue massage, there’s a whole bunch of different ways.

Kevin Anthony 35:52
And one of the things that you can do that really makes you a masterful lover is experimenting with those different levels, and mixing and moving them right. So a lot of times guys go okay, I’m supposed to start soft, and then I can get into the harder stuff, maybe, but you could start soft, then you could go medium, you could go back soft again.

Céline Remy 36:12
And there are areas that want deeper touch and areas that only want softer touch. So depending on where you are, you know, so you know, it’s again, there’s not just a 111 way of doing it, you got to pay attention. Pay attention to her and her reactions.

Kevin Anthony 36:28
Oh, yes, we’ll get to that as well. Number five,

Céline Remy 36:31
start furthest away from her breasts or genitals and work your way closer. So remember, we talked about that earlier when we started our show? About the idea that you want to bring the energy into wars or genital towards a hotspot, but you don’t want to go there straight at first.

Kevin Anthony 36:47
Yeah, completely opposite of men. Men are like, please, please, she’s like, she puts her hand on your knee and the first thing you’re thinking is, oh, yeah, please touch my cock. Yeah, uh-huh. Yes. Oh, yeah. Go she’s almost Oh, she’s getting Oh, no, no, no, she’s going further away. Damn it. That’s what’s going on in a guy’s mind. But in a woman’s mind. She’s like, hey, whoa, don’t slow down. Don’t go there right away. Like, let’s start somewhere else, you know, build up to it.

Céline Remy 37:15
who this is, this is good stuff, by the way. Like just put that into practice and see how she reacts like you basically want to bring her to a place where she is kind of begging you to do her.

Kevin Anthony 37:28
Oh, yeah. There’s nothing hotter than a woman is like, I need you in

Céline Remy 37:34
me right now. Yeah.

Kevin Anthony 37:37
If you follow these 11 steps, that’s what will happen.

Céline Remy 37:40
Well, why don’t you lead us into number six? Number

Kevin Anthony 37:43
six, when you get to her genitals start very lightly. Don’t go straight for penetration. So here’s the thing, guys, they spent a lot of time may be doing all this other stuff. And it’s like, I finally made it to her pussy. Boom, we’re in, right. It’s like, whoa, whoa, whoa, slow down. stroke it gently, touch it, massage it.

Kevin Anthony 38:05
Move around the outer lips, the inner lips. gently brushed the clitoris. As you know, you may think that touching all the other parts of the body. Got the pussy ready, and it did to some extent. But once you actually are touching the pussy itself, it’s kind of like, oh, yeah, no, there’s a little touch here. Okay, pet

Céline Remy 38:26
the beast. Well, and think about it too, that you want your water policy to come to that place of like, being so in gorged you know it’s just like you when you if you don’t have an erection, it makes the penetration not as pleasurable it is possible to have soft penetration and soft lovemaking. But the sensations for either party are not as good, her erections happen but they are all internal.

Céline Remy 38:57
And if you don’t do the stimulation, the massaging, and the engorging that happens, then for her, it’s going to be the equivalent of you having sex with a softy. So the more you can get her to be all indoors and throbbing and pulsing and ready, that’s going to feel so much better for her and for you as well. And that leads to number seven, which is to do some foreplay with your hands or oral or even using the tip of your penis, the whole like, and I don’t even know if it’s foreplay or just massage or activation.

Céline Remy 39:32
And if you want to go more in-depth and in detail about how to do that on the outer labia and evolve on the outside, and then also show you some of the insides we teach you all of that in our course sexual mastery that you can find at power and mastery.com. There is a guided demo too, that you can watch, do and learn. So make sure that you go check it out because that skill of being able to prep her to tease her to such a level is not something people do.

Céline Remy 40:08
She doesn’t even do that on herself. When she masturbates most of the time, she just goes straight to her clit knows what to do, or sticks the vibrator and knows how it works. But the experience is so different. If you take the time to awaken your entire body to awaken and massage some of the outsides, you’ll feel so much more.

Kevin Anthony 40:25
Yeah, you know, that’s an interesting tip for women too, which is that if you tend to masturbate by just going straight for the cut with you know your fingers or a vibrator and blasting off with your first orgasm, take the time to do all this stuff to yourself, and see how much deeper you can go, how many more waves of orgasmic bliss you can have and how much more powerful they are later on down the road.

Kevin Anthony 40:49
I also want to say for number seven, you know, you know, I wrote the word foreplay, but literally one through seven is all for play. But most people consider for play to be like, oh, now I’m using my hand. Now I’m using my tongue, whatever, but it’s actually all for play. That’s for sure. Number eight, okay, when it is time to penetrate, penetrate her very slowly let her pussy pull you in. I love that feeling.

Céline Remy 41:18
So I will talk more about the filling in and then you’ll talk about number nine. After that opening, they go in really well. So the pulling in is really this idea that rather than just shoving your clock inside her as soon as you start the penetration is that you allow her pussy to slowly open up to draw you in, she might use her own muscles and squeeze and relax and squeeze and relax.

Céline Remy 41:42
And the penetration can take a little bit longer. It could be anywhere from 30 seconds to minutes, five minutes, the idea there is that it’s only going to happen at her own pace whenever her pussy is ready. And this is so empowering for women to be able to do that. And it is such a magical experience as a man when you know you’re not pushing harder than she is willing to be at that point. And then it’s all as she is opening up and she’s taking you in. That’s, that’s really yummy. Oh,

Kevin Anthony 42:16
yeah. This leads us to number nine is once you are in pause and feel her energy. This is yeah, there’s if you’re really in tune with your partner, and you’re in tune with your own body as well. Do you really feel sex-like? Like it’s electricity that’s flowing through your body, you really do. And so, you know, if you’ve done steps one through eight, and you’ve done them well.

Kevin Anthony 42:49
By the time you enter her, it should be this massive rush of electrical energy. Just pause and feel that both of you can feel that she’ll feel your heart throbbing cock inside her you’ll feel her wet, soft, throbbing pushy around you and it’s just it’s amazing. It really is almost done with this episode.

Céline Remy 43:17
And then we got to go get VC right now it’s and unless she asked for it. Don’t go for hard frosting right away. Please, please just don’t start slowly. You know, here’s the thing. A lot of guys are afraid that oh my gosh, I’m gonna use lose my hardon better use it and do her right away.

Céline Remy 43:35
And when we do love to be pounded we do love to be taken at a certain time. It is usually not how we like it to get started. We tend to enjoy a little bit more working out to that speed to that depth.

Kevin Anthony 43:48
Well, wait a minute I’ve seen in porn movies that as soon as the guy penetrates or she wants to be pounded like a jackhammer. Yeah,

Céline Remy 43:58
well, do you remember when we said about what women don’t like in the beginning? Oh, yeah, there is a time and place-bound, but it’s not as soon as you

Kevin Anthony 44:09
write and that’s what this one you know, if we read this word for word, what we wrote it’s unless she asks for it, right? So there are always exceptions to everything that we’ve said here. There will be times where the two of you are so hot that she’s just like, penetrate me now and pound me down. I know, like that happens. Of course, it happens.

Kevin Anthony 44:25
But it’s not. It’s not what happens the majority of the time. And that’s why we’re going into so much detail here about what you need to do really, most of the time. You just met somebody, you just came back from the bar. It’s hot and heavy. You rip each other’s clothes off, you go straight for penetrating, penetration, and your fuck her great, okay, that’s not the experience that most people have the majority of the time, the rest of the time when they don’t have that situation. Follow this.

Céline Remy 44:55
And the thing is that if you go slow, you can really help to build up the Liberty cation. Both of the genitalia are kind of like communicating and like hello, hello, let’s slide in together. And then it’s like, as things get more and hotter and hotter, things get more lubricated. And that’s how it works out too.

Kevin Anthony 45:13
Okay, so that brings us to number 11. Which is to pay attention to where she is at and how wet she is. So, okay, you penetrated her slowly. You paused. You started slowly, you didn’t go straight into the heading, now you’re going to pay attention. Where is she at? What is she enjoying in that moment? Does she want a little faster? A little harder? Does she want to keep it slower for a little while? What positions is she into? Like maybe the position you started?

Kevin Anthony 45:48
And she’s kind of like, Yeah, this isn’t really working for me, and you need to change positions, you should do all of those things. Because remember, she’s a woman, right? So what this means is, you could have done everything right up until number 11. And then at number 11, you’re not paying attention. You’re not giving her what she wants. And basically, you just erased all the progress of one through 10. All of it gone terrible out the window. But true, is it not?

Céline Remy 46:15
There’s a lot of truth to that. I have to admit.

Kevin Anthony 46:21
That’s why we could not put this on the list. Because, you know, you think once you’re in there, and you know, things are happening. Okay, we’ve accomplished getting her turned on and getting her wet. Yeah, but you can do the reverse simply by not paying attention and giving her what she wants throughout the rest of the lovemaking.

Céline Remy 46:41
You know, the other thing that comes with paying attention to where she’s at is also that you’re present with her, which is kind of where are we’re on step two, I believe that being present. And if you are present with her, you can notice like, what does she want right now? Does she want deep kissing, intimacy, like looking into his eyes or talking dirty? Or like whatever it is that is present for her in the moment?

Céline Remy 47:08
And how can you create deeper intimacy and connection because ultimately, yes, you can get all hot and bothered by each other? But it’s not always sustainable in the long term. That’s not the only type of sex she wants. She wants that sex that is all about you about her about the US that team. And if you can pay attention, that’s how you can build that creates that intimacy.

Céline Remy 47:32
And if you get to her heart, the heart is that that direct connection and pathway to her pussy. So if she opens her heart to you, that she per se will be open to if her heart is closed down. No matter what you do to her pussy. It’s not going to open to its full capacity because her heart is not open.

Kevin Anthony 47:53
I sincerely hope you paid attention to every word that she Wine, wine. Alright, well, okay, so those are 11 steps on how to put everything into action, right now to really turn her on and make her wet. If, if you missed any part of that, please go back and listen to it again. If you take these 11 steps and you apply them you are guaranteed to get a good result, guaranteed. And if you get really good at applying them, you’re guaranteed to get spectacular results.

Céline Remy 48:30
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Kevin Anthony 48:33
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Kevin Anthony 48:49
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Céline Remy 48:56
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Kevin Anthony 49:10
Thanks for listening. And remember

Céline Remy 49:12
you’re amazing