Everything You Need To Know About Yoni Massage

Kevin Anthony 0:11
Welcome to the Love Lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man woman, single, or couple, this is the show for you.

Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts Kevin Anthony, and Céline Remy and we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:27
Oh right. Welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 182. And it is called everything you need to know about Yoni massage. This is going to be a fun episode, I have a feeling Selene is going to be doing a lot of the talking. Since he is more of an expert on this subject.

Kevin Anthony 0:50
However, I think I do a pretty good job with it. But we’re gonna cover all kinds of stuff today. We’re gonna get into some scientific stuff as well as some pleasure stuff and explain to you why you would want to do this, what the benefits are, how to do it, how to do it on yourself how to do it on partner tools that you can use to help with the process. So there’s a lot to cover.

Céline Remy 1:17
Yes, and we called it Yoni massage so that we were not going to get banned, but it’s called also evolve a massage, person massage, vaginal massage, there are a lot of names to describe the same thing. So it’s up to you to use whichever word you feel most comfortable with.

Kevin Anthony 1:36
I want to use yoni.

Céline Remy 1:38
Yeah, well, that’s the one we use. For those of you who have never heard the term Yoni, Yoni comes from Sanskrit. And usually, it is translated as a kind of sacred space or sacred temple. And so a lot of women like the word Yoni, because it sounds lovely, and it doesn’t have too much heaviness associated with it.

Céline Remy 2:04
And you know, for other words that are more charged, sometimes women don’t like to use them. So it’s up to you to choose whichever one you like. But we just wanted to define what we’re talking about,

Kevin Anthony 2:15
and YouTube and Facebook, and everybody else don’t like the other words, either.

Céline Remy 2:20
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Céline Remy 2:40
As a matter of fact, in that course, we have an entire module that takes you through a step-by-step tutorial of a Yoni massage for healing. And so yeah, that’s not something we can put on YouTube. So go to power and mastery.com and get the sexual mastery class if that’s what you want to learn. So let’s just quickly talk about some anatomy terms.

Céline Remy 3:07
Because the outer part of the female genitalia is called the Evolve up. If you’re watching the video, Kevin is holding one of our little vaginal puppets, and he’s showing the outer so anything on the outside is called evolve. Now, most people use that and call it the vagina, but really, the vagina would refer to the inside. So when we are talking about the outside, it is the vulva.

Céline Remy 3:33
And we are going to spend some time talking about the vulva because you want to awaken her you want to get the body prepared before there’s any kind of penetration. We have done several shows that we have done fantastic shows on the truth about the clitoris. And we’ve talked in the past about the anatomy and the importance of being encouraged before any type of penetration.

Céline Remy 4:00
And this is when the vulva mapping involves a massage comes in handy because you do want to create circulation engorgement before there’s any stimulation inside.

Kevin Anthony 4:15
Very important. Okay, so. So we understand what part of the anatomy we are going to be starting with. And we’ll talk about some other parts later on more towards the end of the episode, we’ll talk about some internal stuff, but right now we’re really dealing with the outside. And so there is a practice called vulva mapping, where, well, basically what I want you to do is explain to the audience what exactly this practice is and how you might go about doing it.

Céline Remy 4:53
Well, vulva mapping is a practice to help you learn the topography of the outer part of your genitals. Also, it is something you can do on your own. And it is something that your partner can do, I always recommend that you start on your own because you need to understand your body, you need to know how your body responds to how your body feels so that you can guide somebody else to do it.

Céline Remy 5:15
And if you always depend on somebody else to get you to a place of pleasure, then you basically don’t trust yourself or don’t allow yourself to get there and you put your power away into somebody else’s hands, literally. And so you want to be able to know how to get there on your own to do it to guide your partner. And you also want to enjoy it if your partner does it and does it well.

Céline Remy 5:39
So I want you to think of the vulva mapping kind of as a purposeful massage, we do not just like stroking without any intention, or like just kind of trying to do things. The whole goal is to explore what your body wants, what kind of touch you like, the sensations, discover the hotspots, and expand your orgasmic potential.

Céline Remy 6:08
Yes, so volume I think in awaken new sensations teach you to take charge of your pleasure like I was mentioning earlier, and you might discover a new side of yourself in doing so. And have a true understanding of what you want and the band ultimately builds the confidence to go for it.

Kevin Anthony 6:25
Yeah, so right. Describe because I want to, I want to add a part for the men. But first, I want you to kind of describe, what would it look like? So we’ve explained kind of what it is. And you know how it can awaken things. But like, explain to a woman like if she’s sitting there listening to this, she’s going okay, but how do I actually do it? Right?

Kevin Anthony 6:46
So what does that look like a little bit? And then I want to kind of reframe, so you’re going to talk about it from the point of view of like a woman doing it to herself. And then I want to reframe it a little bit for the men listening.

Céline Remy 6:56
Absolutely. So the weather it looks like is I highly recommend that when you work on yourself to use a mirror so that you can see also what’s happening and what it looks like. But you want to know the anatomy a little bit. And this in a way, we’re not going to go all in-depth today about the name of every part and all of this because we don’t have the time to do that. And it’s a class in itself.

Céline Remy 7:22
But you want to look at your outer labia is in the labia you want to look at the shaft of the clitoris the herd, you want to look at the four sheds, you want to really start to use different types of massage to see when we think about pleasure. And we think about touching ourselves, we often think about well, this is the way that it works, I go to my clinic and I do a windshield wiper motion or a circular motion that gets me there.

Céline Remy 7:51
And oftentimes, we’re very much focused on the destination rather than the journey in itself. And we are not using the full potential of what our body can do. And so when you start mapping it, you start to deconstruct what your body how your body is built and every single part and you start to work on each one by working I mean stimulated so you could use upset up and down strokes, circular strokes, you want to use some oil and lube because you don’t want that process to be dry.

Céline Remy 8:23
Because there’s no lubrication on the outside. You want to make sure that you lubricate that you use some oil to make it really nice. And you want to explore what kind of pressure Do I like? Like soft pressure, lighter pressure? What happens if I press right there at the first shot, let that little piece at the bottom part versus the right side of my clitoris or left side of my clitoris?

Céline Remy 8:49
Or do I feel something in my labia, my inner labia? How is it on the outer labia I mean, there are so many variations you have to be curious and creative. And this is why I like to work with a mirror because you get to see what’s happening when you have a mirror because your vagina your vulva is going to start to shift a little bit like the coloring will be different the puffiness as you become more engorged, all of that will start to shift on the outside. And I want you to see that with your own eyes because it’s marvelous.

Kevin Anthony 9:23
It is marvelous indeed. So I wanted to reframe that a little bit because I knew you would do a good job of explaining what it would be like to go through the practice on your own. And I agree with you, every woman should start there. But it’s also something that a man can do for a woman. And the reframe is really this is when a woman is doing it to herself.

Kevin Anthony 9:46
She can feel like there’s an instant response. She presses here, right. She knows exactly how hard she’s pressing and she can feel it on her actual genitalia. So it’s pretty obvious you know what’s going on? what she likes and what she doesn’t like. But when you’re doing it on her, it may not be as obvious because you’re pressing and you have no idea what she’s actually feeling.

Kevin Anthony 10:10
So, a couple of things I wanted to point out for the men if you’re going to do this for your woman, number one, we call it a massage. But it is not like a shoulder massage. Right? You’re not getting in there digging in there with the thumb. You’re not sticking your elbow in there, right? I’m gonna get that but no, no, no, absolutely not. This is a gentle process. So that’s the first thing.

Kevin Anthony 10:36
The second thing is, are you really have to pay attention to how she’s reacting to it. So don’t get so lost down there. Like, this is so cool. Oh, and you’re not paying attention at all right? Do you need to be looking at what kind of facial expressions is she making? You know, is she like wincing? Like, that’s uncomfortable? If she’s starting to go into a pleasure response?

Kevin Anthony 10:59
Is she giggling because it’s ticklish? And then pay attention to what parts elicit what type of reaction because you might find that some parts, she’s like, Oh, that feels so good. And then other parts, you’re like, oh. And that can give you an idea as to what parts need a little bit more help than others. Right. So you really have to be paying attention.

Kevin Anthony 11:23
This is, this is a process. It’s not like, let’s say, I don’t know, you’re making out and you’re fingering her and you’re just doing whatever with your fingers or, or you’re going down on her and you’re just kind of doing whatever, honestly, you should never really be just doing whatever. But the point is, is that you have to focus a little bit more here. There’s a lot of intention behind this practice.

Céline Remy 11:47
I like that you bring that up, Kevin, because having an intention before you even start is key. And we teach that a lot when we work one on one with people about what’s the intention for the practice? Is it to get to know yourself better?

Céline Remy 12:02
Is it to release past trauma, is it to build your confidence is it to find pleasure, like whatever that is, set an intention before you start a practice because it will take it from a mundane thing that you don’t really pay attention to, to something that you elevate that could be sacred literally.

Kevin Anthony 12:24
Yeah, and I would just add to that, that there can be a tremendous amount of healing that occurs. During this process.

Céline Remy 12:34
I’m going to talk about when we when I teach when I work with my clients, couples who come to me and we work in person and hands-on I basically teach them how to do this kind of things on each other. And most of the time, they were similar or disappointed when I explained to them that we’re going to learn the Yoni massage and take the time to work on the outside.

Céline Remy 12:58
And usually, we don’t even get to the inside until the next session. And you know, most of the men they go like, Well, tell me the button to press where to go. And I go like, you have to take the time to peel off the layers. Every woman I know has some kind of Iver trauma or shame, or just thing that could be considered negative that is weighing her down around her genitalia.

Céline Remy 13:28
And unless you do the work to clear all of that out every time that she shows up in the bedroom if you have not cleared that out, it is in the way, it is in the way of her ability to feel pleasure to become orgasmic. So unless it’s kind of like you need to learn how to clear the area how to sweep the floor really before it can get to that place of like, wow, like it’s so shiny, I can slide there.

Kevin Anthony 14:00
Yeah, I would say to that if you’re a woman and you’re listening to this, and you’re thinking law, I don’t have any trauma there. There’s nothing going on there. I would say you should probably take another look at that. Because Eskalene said,

Kevin Anthony 14:13
Honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman that didn’t have some sort of trauma, some sort of shame. I mean, unfortunately, our society, in general, shames women’s genitalia unless they’re trying to sell a product, but otherwise, they pretty much do. And then just about every woman has had some sort of traumatic experience through sex from the time they were young and started exploring and, you know,.

Kevin Anthony 14:42
The thing is, is, you know, are they major traumas were they rape or you know, assault of some sort? Not necessarily, but it could just simply be an immature boyfriend that said something like, oh, it looks funny.

Céline Remy 14:57
It could be a visit to the gynecologist I mean, they’re not fun, and they just shove things inside you before you’re ready. It could be you on staff not paying attention and shoving a tamp and then not paying attention, like all of these little things.

Kevin Anthony 15:13
Yeah, and they and you know, we’ve talked about this many, many times on the show, but those types of traumas those emotions get stored in the body. This is, you know, we talked about this, when we interviewed Ori, right when we talked about using the dance to get the trauma stuff out.

Kevin Anthony 15:31
And there was a great conversation if you didn’t listen to that episode, because we talked a little bit about the science behind that, and how those emotions actually do get stored in the body. This is hardcore science, like, you know, we figured out that there are receptors for these molecules of emotion that literally get stored throughout the body.

Kevin Anthony 15:51
So we know scientifically that this happens, and those traumas can absolutely be stored down there. And that’s why this type of work can be so healing and so beneficial.

Céline Remy 16:03
Yes. And, again, to come back to the story about the couples, once I guide them through that, basically, pretty much every woman ever cries or has a release of some type, the man gets to see a new face of his partner of his wife, he’s like, I’ve never seen her like this, or we touched a different place. The next time they make love, there’s something different.

Céline Remy 16:27
And then they hooked because they saw the value of it. But because in our society, we focus so much on the orgasm on the clitoris, or on the G spot or a spa or whatever sport you want to name that we forget the art of awakening a woman’s body, that just peeling off those layers again, and awakening, it will take you to much higher levels.

Kevin Anthony 16:51
You know that is a great segue because so far, we’ve really focused on the therapeutic value of it. But the next section is to discover how your body responds to arousal. So now we can talk a little bit more about the pleasure part and the awakening process.

Céline Remy 17:09
Yeah, a lot of women struggle with orgasms. And that’s usually why they come to me to work one on one with me because they either don’t have orgasms or don’t have them with their partners or something about that where they’re like, I don’t really know, I’ve never looked at my per se. I mean, so many things.

Kevin Anthony 17:29
I just need to interject there for just one second, I am shocked. Still, after doing this work for years, I am still shocked at how many women have not looked at their own vaginas. Like as a guy, we know every millimeter of our genitalia we have spent hours looking at it, touching it playing with it. I mean, y’all do it guys don’t say you didn’t, you know, that you did as a child, and even as an adult.

Kevin Anthony 17:59
So I’m always shocked when these women sometimes in their 40s or 50s are like, I don’t even know what my own vagina looks like. And you’re like, What,

Céline Remy 18:08
oh, it’s been years since I paid attention. So because of that, they seek help. And oftentimes, they find that they have only one definition of pleasure and orgasm. And they’re like if it doesn’t fit like this, and I’m not experiencing pleasure orgasm. And so when you take the time to do a vulva mapping and explore your body, you can start to realize that pleasure is always there.

Céline Remy 18:39
The way that I like to describe it is that it’s like a radio wave, meaning that it’s always there. All you need is to be able to turn up the knob in the right spot to hear it and to find it. And I find that with our pleasure, it’s the same. So when you start to explore your body and take the time you start to discover different things. Number one, your perineum area, the area between your anus and your genitals should be toned and pliable.

Céline Remy 19:08
It shouldn’t feel really hard or it shouldn’t be like or, like still pliable. Like I mean, so soft that you’re like, wow, okay. You wanted to be not holding tension. And you want to be able to release if there’s any tension because any tension that you’re holding there is going to get in your own way I want you to imagine when you have an orgasm is like this.

Céline Remy 19:31
There’s a rhythmic contraction of your muscles that happens. If the muscles are really tight and hypertonic. What happens is they’re not going to be able to do this beautiful contract, relax, contract, relax. That gives you a great wave and a great orgasm. If you’re holding that tension. It’s going to be short live, or it’s not even going to be able to give you that movement of relaxation and tension.

Céline Remy 19:54
And that’s why your orgasms could be not very fulfilling. What we aim for when we work with vaginal massage and with vulva mapping specifically is what I like to call relaxed arousal. And that is such a different concept. And that is something that I teach both men and women.

Céline Remy 20:14
Because I think most people don’t do that they just like tense up to Russian run towards pleasure and their orgasm. And relaxed arousal means that you are slowly building up without tensing up your body.

Kevin Anthony 20:29
Yeah, this is actually a difficult one for a lot of men, especially if they have any fear whatsoever about the strength and quality of their erections. They just tense, tense, tense, squeeze, squeeze, squeeze, squeeze, tense, hold everything in there. Hmm, not good,

Céline Remy 20:45
not good. So what you want to do is kind of ride the waves of pleasure rather than tensing squeezing everything to try to make it happen and then go nowhere. Because most of the time, the more you squeeze and contract and tighten, the less you get there. It’s counterintuitive actually learning to relax and open up is what will get you there.

Céline Remy 21:02
And especially for women, the act of surrendering, there is such a correlation between your ability to let go and surrender and your ability to feel pleasure. And that means in every way, in your head, in your body, in so many different areas. And I still struggle with that. Even though I teach this, even though I know about it.

Céline Remy 21:21
There are times where I’m stuck in my head, there are times when I’m like, given help me like it’s like, I like not able to let go today or it’s like maybe I could use my partner’s help. Maybe sometimes we just don’t get there. But knowing that that’s a huge piece. And so that vulva mapping allows you to build slowly the arousal without the tension and to start to, to let go a little bit more and then serve those waves.

Céline Remy 21:48
So rather than going straight for the destination, you can start to pay attention to how it feels in your body, and how empowered or refreshed you feel after different feelings, and how pleasure is showing up today. Rather than boxing pleasure in the sensations that it should be into one box on the one way you can be more open to how does pleasure want to show up for me today?

Kevin Anthony 22:10
Yeah, and as a woman, it could show up very differently every time. There’s, there’s no telling how it’s gonna show up in any given moment. Right? So yeah. All right. Before we go any further, we want to do a quick break for our sponsor, which I’m actually going to read today. Because you’re doing lots of talking, so I want to give you a little break. But I’m going to start with this one.

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Céline Remy 24:00
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Céline Remy 24:12
Let’s talk about working with discomfort and sensitivity. Because it’s a big elephant in the room. You know, when we talk about vaginal massage and evolve and Sarge and Yoni massage, and all of these good, yummy things. The reality of it is that a lot of women, number one, don’t feel anything, or I have a lot of tension and discomfort and would rather not go there because of that.

Céline Remy 24:34
And how I have one of them is very common, because there are two ways really, that you can deal with a traumatic experience or just, you know, like trauma in itself. Number one you can numb out so that you disconnect, so then that way you don’t feel any more or it becomes so sensitive that you don’t get to be touched again so that you don’t have to go there.

Céline Remy 24:55
So it’s the two ways that usually it will react and Unfortunately, when either one of these things happens, people stop touching because they’re like, Well, I don’t feel anything or I feel too much. So I don’t want to move there. And that reinforces the discomfort, the sensitivity, or the trauma. And so one of the keys rather than avoiding the stimulation is to go slow with that stimulation, if you started, it feels good. And then you hit a place where it just does not feel good.

Céline Remy 25:28
Rather than stopping right away is to slow down, pause, gently hold the place, and purposefully send your attention energy into this area and see if using your breath and your intention. You can allow it to open up to relax to soften, maybe you can start to feel if there’s something there, and don’t get attached to any of the stories like why, why is it this way? Why am I working?

Céline Remy 25:54
Why isn’t it working, it doesn’t matter the why just be present, I find that the more you’re able to just be with what it is without trying to change it. That’s when it happens. That’s when the change happens, the more you resist it, that resistance is what prevents the changes. And so just breathe with that. Stay with it, of course, adjust the pressure, because if you feel discomfort you want to back off, not well back up back down. And just kind of like stay with it and then come back and revisit a little bit later. Does it feel better? Is it different?

Céline Remy 26:27
And I think it’s a very important one to also bring into your relationship with a partner. When you do it for yourself. It’s easy, because you feel like it’s like touch and resolved right away and you know what’s going on. But if you are touching your partner, and she’s reacting in a way that you like, okay, it’s not feeling good. Don’t take it personally. Number one, it’s not about you.

Céline Remy 26:47
And number two, like, stay with it. Don’t try to like just our will, we won’t go there anymore. Stay with it hold space for her. It is your role as the masculine to hold that space, that container for her to transform to open up and surrender and don’t

Kevin Anthony 27:03
try to fix it. That’s the thing that guys always do. As soon as something’s wrong, we’re like, we can fix that. This is not a time to try to fix it. You don’t need to try to solve what’s happening or why you really just need to hold space.

Céline Remy 27:19
So now that you have a better understanding of that, let’s just quickly talk about why you would want to do this vulva massage. Why would you explore some of that? Well, number one, it’s a great way to reduce your stress. It’s a great way to connect with your partner.

Céline Remy 27:38
You can learn to release if there’s pelvic pain and move you know past that, especially for women who have discomfort during penetration if you can start to learn to relax that tension and open up slowly and surely because most of them will just go too fast. And if we give the body enough time, without any agenda or pressure to happen, a certain weight will change.

Kevin Anthony 28:04
You know there’s actually a much higher number than you would realize women who experience pain or discomfort with sex and this is could be a great way to relieve that. And there’s a number of conditions that can potentially cause that pelvic pain, everything from endometriosis to sexual trauma, interstitial cystitis anxiety, irritable bowel syndrome, musculoskeletal imbalances, vulvodynia, right.

Kevin Anthony 28:32
So there’s like all these things that can potentially cause pain and discomfort down there. So one of the major benefits to this work is if you are one of those women who experiences that this could potentially relieve it.

Céline Remy 28:45
I always recommend that you learn from somebody who knows what they’re doing first, just so that you can do a better job. And so you know, whether you work with us or get to our online course or work with somebody else, we’re not the only people teaching that but it’s a good idea to be shown the technique first and really see it and understand it first and then you can continue on your own.

Kevin Anthony 29:10
Alright, so another benefit is that some woman reports stronger or more frequent orgasms following regular Yoni massage.

Céline Remy 29:19
Well, do we need to go more in detail?

Kevin Anthony 29:24
That’s all the reason you need.

Céline Remy 29:28
And the Yoni massage allows you to explore your body in a slow, methodical, and sensual way without the pressure to perform or without having to do something for a partner. I mean, it’s really all about you. And when I teach this practice to my couples, it really is it’s not about we end when she comes in we end when she feels complete.

Céline Remy 29:51
Maybe we say we’re going to give it 45 minutes to just have you relax and open up and won’t go anywhere else. It’s just about this was great. You know, and it doesn’t end in penetration just because you gave her a nice massage and she’s open wet, and ready doesn’t mean you have to slide in. Actually, you shouldn’t, the practice in itself should be a practice of its own, you should close the container.

Céline Remy 30:13
Remember how we talked that you had to have an intention first, then close that container, do something else for like 510 15 minutes, and then see if you want to come back to doing something different afterward. But don’t just try to cram everything in literally.

Kevin Anthony 30:31
Okay, so there’s one last aspect to this that we want to talk about. And so far, we’ve talked about whether you’re doing it on yourself, or you’re doing it on a partner, it’s basically using your hands. But there are other tools that you could potentially use to explore this.

Kevin Anthony 30:50
And then you were actually hired by a company to help create a program for them, specifically using utilizing their tool in order to do this. So I’m wondering if you might describe to our audience how you might use a tool how that might benefit them in this practice.

Céline Remy 31:13
Yeah, a couple of years back, her company reached out to me and they called Zoom, yo, and they create these vibrators. If you if you’re watching the video, now I have one here, I’ve got one of the purple ones. And one of the big things about those is that it’s a rotation, not a vibration, meaning there’s a really fine little tip and that you can use to explore very pinpointed, right, and I know it’s running, you can hear that, yes, it is a vibrator.

Céline Remy 31:45
And it’s running, there are different speeds. But what’s awesome is when you explore with that tool and let’s say you put more pressure, it stops to it becomes deeper. So you can really explore and use it in you have a finger to do all of that and see like, do I like deeper pressure Do I like faster, do a leg slower, and that can give you a good idea and could give you hands a little bit of a break too. And so Zuma is a great toy, I usually don’t like vibrators very much.

Céline Remy 32:18
This is really all for external stimulation, and you can use it anywhere on the body, you can use it around your nipples, I do that sometimes you could use it, the back of your neck behind your ears, I mean, we have all these different points so you can explore that. And we have a little link for you. It’s our affiliate link.

Céline Remy 32:39
So if you go for this, we get a small commission for it. If you go to kevinanthonycoaching.com/go/zumio, you’ll get to our link, but the link will be in the description below. And I know that if you purchase any of their tours, right now, you will still have access for free to the guide, the vulva mapping guide that I created for them in conjunction with them.

Céline Remy 33:05
So it’s really cool because it’s like it’s got the drawings and more information about what we just talked about. But that’s a good tool to use. And I’m sure there are avatars out there. But I like that one because of that pinpoint. And because of that vibration, rotation, sorry, rather than the vibration. And so you can do more and explore more.

Kevin Anthony 33:26
If you happen to have T Rex arms, you know, really short arms, it gives you a little bit more reach to get down to those bottom places.

Céline Remy 33:34
So we’ve talked a lot about the outer parts. And really, I think that it is really that important. This is why we gave it a whole show before you go inside because you have to understand that this allows the body and the vagina to become more engorged to create that process of tenting of expansion that happens. It will make the woman have better orgasms. I mean so many things that happen.

Céline Remy 33:59
So you should never penetrate a woman unless she is totally engorged I’ve always been the equivalent of having penetration with a softy. And so it’s like you want to show she’s got a hard-on right. And you don’t want to just give the clitoris on the spot and all the attention you want to give all of the other parts attention.

Céline Remy 34:18
But I quickly want to talk about being inside and the concept of clocking the Yoni clocking and this is practice again that you can find if you go to Baron mastery.com and get into our sexual Mastery program and it’s in detailed step by step tutorial you’ll see it in life on a model. So yeah, it’s absolutely worth it. But what you want to think about is that the inside of the vagina is divided into quadrants and sections. And rather than just always aiming up towards the pubic bone, that’s 12 o’clock point.

Céline Remy 34:54
That’s kind of the G spot area. You want to give the entire vagina some attention So if we were to divide into four quadrants, and you want to give that upper right, that lower right and lower left and upper left areas of good attention, and then you want to be like massaging it gently, you want to explore is there tension in that area or not. And that also will help to awaken new areas, I think what happens is that most people always stimulate one area that works for them.

Céline Remy 35:25
And then you know, whether they’re male or female, doesn’t matter. They like this is how I do it. This is what works for me. And the thing is, we’ve got multiple nerves that give us pleasure that in nerves that go from our genitalia to our brain in different areas of the body. And if we only use the same pleasure pathways, we kind of lose our ability to do the other ones.

Céline Remy 35:46
So re exploring new pleasure pathways and giving other pathways a chance to awaken because here’s the thing, sometimes it’s won’t be as pleasurable as what you know, because it’s just dormant, it will take a little time. But the concept of the Yoni clocking is that you’re not going to go there to give her an explosive orgasm, you’re going to go there to release any tension that is in the way of her being able to experience orgasms. I don’t have time.

Kevin Anthony 36:13
Mm-hmm. That is a very powerful practice. I mean, the vulva mapping on the outside is already powerful. And then when you actually get to the internal clocking, it can be super powerful. And combining

Céline Remy 36:30
the two are like, wow, okay, now that’s a whole new thing.

Kevin Anthony 36:34
Yeah, this. I don’t even know if we can possibly overstate just how powerful these particular practices can be. So if you are interested, if you’re a guy, and you want to learn this, for sure, check out power and mastery. If you’re a woman, and you want to learn this, you know, reach out to Celine, these practices can actually transform your life.

Céline Remy 36:59
Yeah, but get started. If you sign up for the vault, we’ve got free stuff to get you started, use today’s show. It gave you lots of pointers and tips and start exploring. Start looking and shift your focus from having to go somewhere to choose to be feeling exploring, being in the moment and that will transform your sex life that will transform how you show up for yourself and how you show up in the bedroom.

Kevin Anthony 37:26
All right, well, we hope you got a lot of value out of that. I know if you’ve never done this and you try it you are going to be completely blown away. So please, please do and that’s all the time we have in this episode. So we will see you next week. We hope you liked this episode of the Love Lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe. Leave us a review and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 37:54
And for more free exclusive content. Join us in the passion vault at kevinanthonycoaching.com/vault.  Thanks for listening. And remember, you’re amazing