The Truth About The Clitoris


Kevin Anthony 0:11
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Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and Celine Remy and we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:27
Now right Welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 142. And it is called the truth about the clitoral because that is the only way we can talk about it is truthful. Okay, so this is I think going to be a fascinating episode. I think both men and women really need to stay tuned to this, even though women own the equipment we’ll be talking about.

Kevin Anthony 0:53
It’s amazing to me how many women don’t know about their own body how many women have never even looked at their own vagina. And having worked with men and doing and we always do a piece on female anatomy, it’s pretty obvious that most men don’t know a whole lot about it either. So we’re pretty sure that if you stay tuned to this episode, you will learn something that will help you in the bedroom. So we were going to have a special guest on to help us with this topic.

Kevin Anthony 1:26
And we tried and tried and just couldn’t make it work. So we’re going to do a similar but not exactly the same show. But we’re going to pull on some of her work that she’s done. So we’ll mention her throughout the episode. And we’re going to pull some pieces that she’s talked about that are going to help illustrate the things that we’re talking about. We’re also going to pull other stuff.

Kevin Anthony 1:49
We’ve got our little clitoris anatomy, 3d printed clitter is here. We’ve got other great experts that we’re going to be quoting throughout all of this, so it’s going to be fun.

Céline Remy 2:03
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Céline Remy 2:13
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Céline Remy 2:26
I managed to go through this ad without laughing with Kevin stroking my 3d clitoris. Yes, if you’re not watching the video, you don’t know exactly what’s happening but Kevin’s being a little bit silly and I’m keeping it together.

Kevin Anthony 2:39
If you weren’t watching the video you missed me stroking silly hints glitter.

Céline Remy 2:42
Well, it’s my 3d printed collateral. So but and I was talking my own clearest this morning. I happen to have this extreme this morning when like well early on. And I woke up and I felt really horny. And we have this whole morning routine that we like to go through and I was like, Kevin just like, you know, hug me and then like it just still felt so like horny and sexy and he was looking so good like his body in his chest.

Céline Remy 3:08
I was like oh my gosh, so hot. And I was like you know if you go get the pad I’ll make love with you because I had just started bleeding so we needed to protect the sheets. And Kevin was thinking for about two seconds and he’s like you know waiting at between morning routine, love with my wife making love with my wife morning routine and knew he I have to say that he did choose the making love to my wife and

Kevin Anthony 3:31
it was a long deliberation it took approximately two seconds. As I looked at him it really it’s the first thing on a weekday work morning. Okay, I’ll go get the pad. That’s about what it took. It was a

Céline Remy 3:48
great start to the morning from some missionary than me on top and then me and doggy with clitoral stimulation. And that’s basically how today’s episode came to life. Because as I was stroking my clit and I was thinking we need to talk about the clitter is more it is so important. I

Céline Remy 4:06
hadn’t started to stimulate my collection during lovemaking until like, but five years ago, it’s like basically when you and I got together somehow I hadn’t really realized that I could do that. And that changed my life. But we will come back to what did not happen

Kevin Anthony 4:25
because I was stroking it on you while making love to you at one point and you were like, you know, I could just do that myself and you wouldn’t have to be in this awkward position.

Céline Remy 4:33
I don’t know exactly. I mean, not that I didn’t know it. And I mean, I had done it a few times. But now I can like really do it more intentionally and I think that’s really what I meant. Okay, so let’s dive into some of the things from today. So from a scientific perspective, we can see that male and female genital come from the same beginning, but we want to look a little bit at the similarities and differences haha

Kevin Anthony 4:59
we Wait, what? What do you mean? Do they come from the same beginning?

Céline Remy 5:05
Haha,

Kevin Anthony 5:06
maybe many people have never heard that before?

Céline Remy 5:10
Well, let’s talk a little bit about it and we’ll get a little bit geeky about some of these things because we like that. But every feeder has contained structures that are capable of developing into either male or female genitalia. So we start the same.

Céline Remy 5:24
And then something happens that we go one way or another, that notice that there are two genders. And I say that there are only two genders, and you can ever go one or the other, then your sexual orientation can be all over the place,

Kevin Anthony 5:39
but your sexual orientation? Yes,

Céline Remy 5:42
yes. So now that we’ve put that out of the way, let’s, let’s keep going a little bit. And so regardless of the complement of the sex chromosome, all developing embryos become feminized until masculinizing influences come into play at key times during gestation. That’s something that blew me away when I learned about that, well, when basically we women can only have girls because that’s what we make.

Céline Remy 6:07
And then you can have a boy if like, the man is the one that determines whether or not you’re going to have the Y or the X chromosome, the additional one. That’s pretty cool to know that that was like, Oh, that’s kind of interesting. Anyway, I thought it was.

Kevin Anthony 6:25
So if you have sons, then it’s because you’re overpoweringly manly.

Céline Remy 6:31
Man, I think you’re going a little backward here. And that’s the kind of things we want to not talk about, again. Anyway, we found something fascinating, too. In terms of studies, there was a new study that was done in 2018, by the medical researchers, and they’ve made a new discovery about a baby’s sex that is determined.

Céline Remy 6:51
It’s not just about the X and Y chromosomes that we’ve been talking about, but it involves a regulator that increases or decreases the activity of genes, which decide if we become male or female. Mm-hmm. Wow, I find it pretty interesting. So we start out the same. There are different hormones that are happening in the body and expressions that make it that we go one way or the other.

Kevin Anthony 7:18
Yeah, no, what’s it what’s interesting about that is when we say we start out the same, and then the hormones actually decide which direction we’re going to go in. You have to realize, too, that what we really mean is there’s literally the same physical structure, and that the hormones then tell that physical structure to develop in a different way.

Kevin Anthony 7:41
But one thing that you can see, and we’ll talk about this too, but I’m going to hold up our little 3d printed clitter is here. As you might notice, some similarities between this and the penis and testicles of a man.

Céline Remy 7:56
Yeah, so everything more is more inside when it comes to cliteracy. So we don’t know that and people think that structurally speaking, all we have is a little button that push-button on the top. But this is really the tip of the iceberg and in the robot.

Céline Remy 8:11
This is just the tip of the iceberg. What you see that button is kind of like the head so it’s like the head. Same as the penis. Kevin will be demonstrated if you are watching the video. And if you’re not, please try to use your imagination as we are doing that.

Céline Remy 8:27
So we’ve got the head and it’s kind of like that button but then it has a shaft and then that shaft goes in and it has a divides into two legs, those crew raw or those legs that go on each side and straddle inside, and they straddle what we call the vegetable of Bob’s they are two bulbs inside that gets swollen when we get engorged.

Céline Remy 8:52
If you look at that, it’s us Kevin said it’s pretty similar to the way the penis and the testicle look it’s just inside so we don’t see that when we get in gorged and our clearances get engorged, they will start to swell. You literally get a lady boner like a mini erection. And there’s a there’s that border that happens is that’s left that happens to so everything changes.

Céline Remy 9:19
And you can see it with the naked eye that the clearer it is smaller and redder, pulsing. I mean, that’s how you know she’s in God. You could be stroking the clear. If you’re not doing a good job, you’re not going to see much of a difference. If you’re doing a good job. Her clip is going to start to pause to vibrate to swell up her legs are going to change colors, you’re going to see that you’re doing something right.

Kevin Anthony 9:42
And don’t forget to stroke her mind before you stroke her clit. Well,

Céline Remy 9:47
we do know about the importance of foreplay, and that’s not today’s episode that was taken here to that. of the clitoral.

Kevin Anthony 9:54
Yeah, and so you know, that’s, that’s really fascinating information if you’ve never heard it before because you know Most people assume that we were 100% different from the beginning, like, everything is different. And that’s not really the case, we started out the same hormones are what put us on two different paths. But what’s really interesting about that is that so we can very clearly see the differences. But we can also see just how similar we really are. And I think that’s a mind-blowing part for a lot of people.

Céline Remy 10:26
So when you think about similarities, and this is a tip for all of our listeners here to do their male listeners, you know, like, think of that clip of a mini penis, right? And I’m not going to do comedy skits, honestly.

Céline Remy 10:39
But what do you think of that clip cut off as a mini penis and some things that you do like to do on your penis can happen on the clitoral and feel amazing, like, you know, are you like blowjobs and sucking? Well, guess what? Our clearest and have to be sucked on.

Kevin Anthony 10:54
That’s true. That’s true.

Céline Remy 10:56
So that’s a good move to pull on. b&o.

Kevin Anthony 11:00
Okay, so we’ve covered a little bit of the structures and kind of how we develop as males and females, and how the structures are similar and come from similar origins.

Kevin Anthony 11:12
That was kind of important to sort of lay down as our foundation because the next thing we want to talk about is how historically and some very famous people and famous researchers have often believed that the clearest was kind of lesser organ, if you will, then then the male organ

Céline Remy 11:35
or a useless appendix

Kevin Anthony 11:39
boggles my mind that in this day and age, medical science still thinks that there’s anything in our body that was useless and had no function. Like they still think that about certain things, there’s not a single thing in your entire body that doesn’t have a very, very intended specific function that you need.

Céline Remy 11:58
And you know, if you can think about your what’s being labeled as junk DNA, the 98%, that scientists have no idea that what it’s for, it’s just because they have no idea. It’s not because it’s not useful or has a purpose. It’s just because science and scientists have not yet caught up on that. So they just label it does useless junk by ever.

Kevin Anthony 12:21
the arrogance of mankind never ceases to astound me. We don’t know what it is must just be junk. Get rid of it. Anyway. Right? That’s an aside.

Céline Remy 12:30
So I’m going to talk about this one first because it’s a little bit of a French thing, so I’m going to pronounce it properly. So there’s this author, her name is Rosemont puja. And it’s fascinating because she wrote a book, are

Kevin Anthony 12:42
you saying I cannot pronounce Rosemont Cujo

Céline Remy 12:45
actually was really good. She wrote this book, and it’s in French, and it’s a pity booty burner, and it’s a little piece of happiness. And she’s 89 years old. I mean, she was she’s probably dead by now. Because that book was like in the 2005 ish or something when I bought it.

Kevin Anthony 13:01
Remember when Celine said, lady boner, and what this actually says the real translation is the little boner.

Céline Remy 13:07
No, that’s not what it means.

Kevin Anthony 13:10
But it’s right there look boner.

Céline Remy 13:11
but I’m gonna say that I love this book when I read it. Like I think this, this book was written in 2007. And so it’s pretty old. But that woman was 89 years old. And she put together this book with all different data and talking about the clutter errors, and some of her like, like friends talking about their masturbation habits and younger people, older people, women from all over the spectrum.

Céline Remy 13:37
And it was so mind-opening to read all different stories and to hear how many women do struggle with that piece of their anatomy, how the amount of shame that we hold, holds us back from experiencing pleasure in our whole pleasure potential. And one of her things that she was mentioned in her book is that the glitter has been repressed.

Céline Remy 14:00
And that’s a fact that we can all agree on. And whether it is through like excision, you know, when you cut the glitter is off, or when you simply cut the glitter is off the medical books and suppress it. That’s another way of continuing that repression and suppression and in her opinion, women have been robbed of their pleasure potential because of how things have been taught and passed along in medical books and science and all of that.

Kevin Anthony 14:30
Yeah, I mean, there’s no doubt that that occurred in the past. I don’t know that in today’s society. We really think of it in that way. But the effects of that still do reverberate through our society and some of the information that’s out there for sure.

Céline Remy 14:48
So some of the information we’re going to share Next comes from Natalie’s Dinsdale. And Natalie is the woman we were talking with and who was going to come on the show and wasn’t able to make it this time. And we might get her on the show at some point. But she has a blog, and now she’s working towards her Ph.D. She does like evolutionary science and different things like that. I mean,

Kevin Anthony 15:10
she’s pretty fascinating. We have spoken to her even though she hasn’t been on the show yet. Yeah, she’s a Ph.D. researcher. She really, she really dives deep into the research is actually a really good researcher. And that’s one of the reasons we want to have her on the show because she had some really fascinating information. But we have some of it here we have some of that information we’re going to share.

Céline Remy 15:32
Yeah, because she wrote different blogs and things on that. So we’re going to quote things from her blog here. And if you want to find more about her, it’s Natalie Dinsdale, and I think it’s natalio.com, I believe is her website. And you can, we’ll have the link in the description if you want to check out her article on that.

Céline Remy 15:49
One of the things that she was talking about is that she thinks that we’ve swung too far in the direction of divorcing pleasure from processes of reproduction, in an attempt to compensate for past sexism and misogyny.

Kevin Anthony 16:02
Yeah, so basically, it’s like, you know, people had wrong ideas in the past. And in order to correct that we just have to separate everything and make it all very clinical and like, that really actually has, not served us well either. Okay, so there’s, I’m going to read this gets a little bit longer, but you’ll get the idea. So according to Natalie, back in the day, the occluders were seen as somewhat problematic. Its anatomy, which is largely subterranean with limbs involved extending around the vaginal canal was unknown.

Kevin Anthony 16:39
People like Freud believed that orgasms generated from clitoral stimulation represented developmental immaturity in women. And that imaginal orgasm elicited from penile-vaginal intercourse meant that a woman was fully mature, you know, so much of modern-day psychology still revolves around the ideas of Freud, but when you hear this

Kevin Anthony 17:03
And believe me, this is not the only example of some stupid shit that Freud said. And believe me, I’ve read a bunch of books on Freud I studied for it. I liked Freud at one point until I got deeper and I got the fucking you talking about?

Céline Remy 17:15
Basically repressed I think,

Kevin Anthony 17:17
basically, what Freud is saying here is that, well, if you stimulate your clitoris by yourself, then you’re an immature woman. But if the pain is stimulated, then you must be mature, this is the stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard.

Céline Remy 17:34
Well, I mean, in earlier times, he wasn’t the only one clinicians even practice surgical removal of the clitoris as a treatment for mental illness and hysteria. Of course, clitoral removals still occur today in cultures that practice female genital mutilation, a truly barbaric and terrible practice that must be stopped. Absolutely, by the way, in the fall.

Céline Remy 17:57
And so that’s kind of like, what you see is that we went from like, we don’t really know what that is too well, there is something we think it’s what makes you crazy because we don’t understand women.

Céline Remy 18:10
So if we remove that one thing, then you will behave better. I mean, it’s all about control and controlling women’s in women’s sexuality, because it’s true that sometimes women sexuality can be scary for men, like the way that we can go into like heightened states of pleasures and, and just be in touch with our bodies in ways that men need to learn to do. They are like, oh, wow, this is too much.

Kevin Anthony 18:36
Yeah, well, so part of it is about control. And part of it is just arrogance, in a sense that like, so the next piece is the function of the male orgasm is obvious. It provides a reliable mechanism for inserting semen that contains sperm into the female body. We know that women can get pregnant without orgasms.

Kevin Anthony 18:56
So basically, when it comes to the male orgasm, which, you know, we talk a lot on this show, like orgasm and ejaculation are not the same things. You can indeed separate them but they generally do in most people occur at the same time. So when a man orgasms, and ejaculates at the same time, it does perform that function.

Kevin Anthony 19:17
And I think the arrogance comes in where we go, Well, you know, it’s really all about like just getting an orgasm, the whole purpose of it is to just get a man to ejaculate and impregnate a woman, but they never really think about the other side of that. And, you know, if you’re, if you’re really a sexual Master, and you’re really good at paying attention to the woman, and all the signs throughout lovemaking, you realize she’s got all the same types of things. In other words, from an evolutionary biology point of view.

Kevin Anthony 19:53
We both possess traits that encourage us to have sex and to reproduce right so think about it this way it wouldn’t make any sense if the male was the only one that had the drive to reproduce and that’s kind of like the way the old theories where it’s like the man is the one with the drive to reproduce and he has to somehow force or trick the woman into doing it and she’s really not all that into it because it doesn’t really give much to her and she’s just happens to be the receptacle right this is complete and utter nonsense.

Kevin Anthony 20:24
If you’ve ever paid attention to a woman you can see that there are things that she does to literally help that process along I’ll give you a perfect example of that when we’re teaching men how to control their ejaculation right so we’re trying to teach men how to last longer one of the things that we teach them is the woman’s role in that.

Kevin Anthony 20:46
Women can literally energetically pull on a man and literally encourage him to ejaculate faster. A lot of women don’t even realize that they do this but they do well why would a woman do that what would be the point of that happening?

Kevin Anthony 21:00
why because she’s helping that process along to she’s got all these internal functions that try to accomplish the same thing which is reproduced you know there was a time in the past where they believe that women weren’t really horny like women didn’t really want sex or have a need for sex any woman listening to this in 2021 is probably like they just spit up their morning coffee.

Kevin Anthony 21:25
right because they’re like that’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard but people believe that at one time you know everything that drives us as men to want to reproduce there is something some other similar function in a woman that drives her to reproduce as well and so when we’re talking about the clearest and what its functions are going to kind of bring this back around to the clearest it would be completely ridiculous for us to say that the male penis is built with certain functions to do that but the woman’s vagina slash clitoral slash basically anatomy wouldn’t have the same thing of course it does

Céline Remy 22:03
so one idea is that the female clitoral sensitivity and resulted orgasms are a byproduct of female sorry of male orgasms right that that was some of that silly theory and since males and females develop a someone by potential embryos strong selection on male erectile tissues and overlapping early development gave females a happy accident of orgasmic capable tissue manifesting as the clitoris.

Kevin Anthony 22:27
this is fucking nonsense

Céline Remy 22:30
Happy accident.

Kevin Anthony 22:33
your dude right if you’re listening to this show and you’re a dude right or actually women you should pay attention to but what happens if your woman orgasms before you do? pause for a second .what happens?

Kevin Anthony 22:48
so if you are even remotely close to ejaculating you know you’re on your arousal scale and you’re getting up in that seven maybe eight range your woman goes off into a big orgasm she’s most likely going to take you with her unless you’re really good at controlling it why does that happen well because it’s not the other way around it’s not your orgasm and giving her a happy accident right she’s orgasm being before you in the energy build-up from that is so intense that it can literally take you right along for the ride

Céline Remy 23:24
and let’s just mentioned just in passing that the clearest has around 8000 nerve endings while the penis has about 4000

Kevin Anthony 23:31
yeah so again if you’re going to try to make that argument that the woman’s biology is not evolved into something that would want sex to crave sex tried to make reproduction easier why would they have 8000 nerve endings it

Kevin Anthony 23:48
doesn’t make any sense. if she’s not supposed to feel pleasure here’s the thing if a woman feels pleasure and enjoys the sex that she’s having one she’ll want to do it more often which will mean she’ll have more children if you’re you know taking it that far in the past that’s generally what would happen and then she also like we were just saying she can then through her energy and through her orgasmic waves encourage the male to ejaculate

Céline Remy 24:20
and we’ll talk more about what happens when you have a clitoral orgasm and why you should have a clitoral orgasm in just a few minutes because it’s fascinating I can’t wait to share that with you but before we get there let’s do another little pause for our sponsors so today’s episode is brought to you by us aha well

Céline Remy 24:38
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Kevin Anthony 25:26
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Céline Remy 25:32
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Céline Remy 25:48
And if you get value from those 30 to 40 minutes, little show, imagine more how much more you can get in one on one private leg laser-focused sessions with us. Alright, let’s talk about clitoral stimulation and what happens to your brain when you stimulate your clitoris. So we’re going to assume that you know how to stimulate tickle ears, you know how to find that you’ve understood more of that.

Céline Remy 26:11
And now you are convinced that actually it should be stimulated. Okay. So there are a few things that happen when you do that. And this is all different data to that, that they found through different studies and researches that they’ve done. You know, sometimes they hook you up to machines and kgs and then so fair grammar, like all these different things, sometimes not, but it’s pretty fascinating. So

Kevin Anthony 26:35
yeah, there’s a whole bunch of physical changes that occur in the body as a result, a direct result of stimulating the clitoris and, and that’s what they’re able to measure scientifically.

Céline Remy 26:45
Well, they found that it enhances the vaginal blood flow. Yeah, you can feel that hence the lady boner and hamster changing colors and the redness right in the labor increases the vaginal lubrication? Yep, for sure. increases vaginal partial oxygen pressure. Hmm. Is that where a farting virginal 14 comes from?

Kevin Anthony 27:09
I don’t think so. No, no, I don’t think it’s related at all.

Céline Remy 27:25
That’s like the whole dreaded thing in yoga class. Like, okay, let’s do this. Like, like legs overhead. And you’re like, Oh, please, tighten my muscle. Right? Not please don’t fight.

Kevin Anthony 27:40
I somehow remember a very funny comedy sketch about that. But anyway,

Céline Remy 27:46
it partially neutralizes vaginal acidity. Fascinating to activates vaginal tensing and ballooning. Hmm. And we want to talk a little bit more about that in a few minutes and increases the vaginal temperature. Oh, yeah, that’s so so like, we can feel that when it gets hot in there. But I want to come back on the vaginal tensing and ballooning because that is so fascinating that tenting is this process of like, it kind of expands, right.

Céline Remy 28:19
You can really feel that where you might start in a certain way. Then you hold the original canal changes, it kind of changes, shapes and expands and you’re like, can even become like bottomless, like it’s pretty crazy what can happen. And basically, sexual arousal via clitoral stimulation creates multiple changes in the female genital tract that prepare her body for fertilization.

Kevin Anthony 28:45
Yeah, and you know, the majority of times that you have sex, you’re probably not thinking about actual fertilization. However, keep in mind that all of these changes that occur are generally pleasurable. So even though your goal may not be fertilization, guys, do not forget to stroke the clutter in many different ways to do that. And help your woman have all these changes and get in the moon and get all turned on and juicy and all that stuff.

Céline Remy 29:20
So let’s talk a little bit more about all these changes that happen in the body when you do clitoral stimulation. So we’ve just talked about some of them, but we’re going to talk a little bit more because really, the glitters, the glitter is is great for pleasure, but also it has way in the whole fertility too.

Céline Remy 29:42
And I think that saying that it’s only for one or just for the other. It’s like we’re not separated, right? It just works all together in conjunction and when you understand what happens it’s kind of fascinating. So number one, the vaginal secretions promote changes in sperm that makes them more

Kevin Anthony 30:01
Motown. Yeah, the same thing makes a movie like this.

Kevin Anthony 30:16
You know, I love that people mostly listen to this on podcast platforms, because I know that you have made way more opportunities to listen. But every once in a while you should watch us on YouTube. We do funny things on the video.

Céline Remy 30:30
Let’s talk about another one. vaginal secretions affect the sperm’s ability to fertilize, oh, it’s broadly called capacitation. By the way, again, everything that we’re sharing Here comes from Natalie Dinsdale to that she put she combined. She compiled that so we sharing that with you. Let’s talk about vaginal tenting here. It lifts the cervix away from the pool of semen and until the sperm are ready to fertilize.

Céline Remy 31:01
Wow. So you mean that tensing is not just so that I can be pounded more it’s also so that my cervix can be lifted up and it like I guess what it happens that correct. So if the cervix goes up, sperm goes in. But then because it’s higher on the best sperm that can go all the way to reach that when it’s ready can go there to that cervix, that’s probably what it is. So it’s like an even better selection, then it makes it a little harder to swim for them. It’s further away.

Kevin Anthony 31:32
Yeah, yeah. Well, then. So think about, you know, the fact that why is it some times of the month, you just want to be pounded, and sometimes you don’t because that process is happening. And sometimes it’s further away. And you’re like, yeah, pound me and other times you’re like, Whoa, no, you’re like pounding into my, into my cervix and it’s too much.

Céline Remy 31:53
Yeah, fascinating stuff. Okay, let’s talk about after orgasm or reduction in arousal, the cervix drops, and contracts. The ready-to-go sperm. Whoo. That’s fascinating. Okay, so you need that orgasm to left the cervix up and you need that clitoral stimulation realistically because that’s really what we’re talking about.

Céline Remy 32:14
You need to have that. And then you need the going down because whether or not you had the orgasm doesn’t matter, because it’s like when the arousal comes down, there’s a reduction, then the cervix drops again. It’s like a pump, basically.

Kevin Anthony 32:27
Yeah, kind of so. So in the tenting, it’s moving away a little bit. So it’s not allowing the sperm to reach it just yet. But then you have an orgasm and it drops back down and then contacts with the sperm and then allows them in so what’s interesting about that is again, there used to be these old outmoded ideas that women didn’t need orgasm.

Céline Remy 32:51
So it’s probably fake orgasms would make for order

Kevin Anthony 32:57
orgasms would actually increase the chances of conception.

Céline Remy 33:02
Yes. And because of what happens, I think it does make it that because it moves away and back, like maybe it makes it for better sperm quality because it’s like what we read at the beginning that it changes, it makes them more tile, and it affects the sperms ability to fertilize. So maybe it just makes the sperm even better.

Kevin Anthony 33:25
Yeah, no, don’t think because you didn’t have an orgasm that you can’t get pregnant. That would be foolish. There’s a lot of unsatisfied, unsatisfied women who didn’t have good orgasms and then suddenly ended up pregnant but what you can see is that you know, having good orgasms is going to and of course, you know, stroking the occluders doesn’t mean you’re going to have an orgasm necessarily

Kevin Anthony 33:49
but stroking the clitoris, getting it engorged, having a good orgasm, those things are going to increase the chances of that happening now a lot of people are going

Kevin Anthony 33:59
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, I do not want to increase those chances. Like I don’t want to go that but remember, it also is increasing the pleasure for the woman as well. So, you know, do whatever form of birth control you need to do. And then make sure you stroke the glitters and give your woman some good orgasms.

Céline Remy 34:19
Let’s just finish that in terms of the gap in time from ejaculation to capacitation prevents semen components from breaking down the ovum and also prevents too many sperm from penetrating the ovum.

Kevin Anthony 34:33
Well, there you go. Uh-huh. This

Céline Remy 34:35
whole explanation

Kevin Anthony 34:37
so actually it’s kind of what you were saying is correct that process actually makes it so that only the strongest fittest best, actually make it

Céline Remy 34:49
Yes. See how you just did like I’m a female with a clitoris…. or something.

Kevin Anthony 34:55
Oh, yes, you are. I checked this morning.

Céline Remy 35:00
So the infrastructure of the cluster also becomes larger in volume prior to ovulation further supporting the role of clusters in conception. Fascinating. Oh my gosh, I’m going to have to pay attention. Am I having a bigger clit lag prior to ovulation? Or is it easier to access orgasm prior to ovulation or not studying that mean, we need to put that into practice, given lots of research and data exploration,

Kevin Anthony 35:29
I’m gonna have to get a new set of calipers. Because mine are currently metal and they’re gonna be a little too cold. But we’re going to have two very scientifically measured the size of your clitter s throughout your cycle. And we’re going to need very precise instrumentation to do this.

Céline Remy 35:48
I’m slightly afraid not quite.

Kevin Anthony 35:54
You don’t want the tip of your fingers squeezed miscalibrated

Céline Remy 35:59
not excited about that prospect.

Kevin Anthony 36:01
Hey, maybe we could get some research funding for this.

Céline Remy 36:06
Then donate to us. Okay, so what can we take away from today’s show? We showed a lot about the clitoris and there is still so much more but if there are just a few things that you can take away is number one, it is not just a button, but it is a whole structure that goes deep and in nerves and goes inside the vaginal canal and that the glitter is essential not just to the woman’s pleasure, but also to have a better chance of fertilization and conception and that it’s not just a little accessory that kind of can be used here and there.

Céline Remy 36:39
It’s actually something that should be stimulated I find that it makes my ability to orgasm vaginally like it makes it easier when I have my clitoral, as that feels alive and throbbing. And so every now and then a good little like clitoral stroke. I don’t even have to go to an orgasm but just kind of use it as a fire Stoker to get the inside of my vagina like so turned on and ready really works well. And so understand that about the clearest that it’s been misunderstood and it’s not just something that you should live up to chances I think you should pick the matter in your own hand very regularly.

Kevin Anthony 37:17
Excellent advice.

Céline Remy 37:20
And remember to suck on that clip. Flick it and play with the shaft. Remember many pianists it gets a boner lady boner.

Kevin Anthony 37:32
There you go, man. And ladies, you know if you’ve never done anything more than maybe just a little bit of a stroke in the end, and now you’ve got some other techniques you can use as well.

Kevin Anthony 37:42
All right, well, we hope that was enlightening and fascinating for you and that you learn something about the clearest that you didn’t know whether you are a man or a woman and now take this knowledge and use it to create more good in the world and more orgasms. Alright, everybody, that’s all the time we have for this episode. And we will see you next week. We hope you like this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe. leave us a review and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 38:17
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Kevin Anthony 38:32
Thanks for listening.

Céline Remy 38:33
And remember, you’re amazing