Orgasm Unleashed with Eyal Matsliah

Kevin Anthony 0:12
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Kevin Anthony 0:28
All right, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 54. And it is titled, orgasms unleashed with Eyal from intimate power.com. I’m kind of excited about this one, because, you know, in the work that we do, you know, we talked to a lot of experts in the industry, we read a lot of books, we do a lot of research. And honestly, it’s pretty rare that we come across somebody who we feel is on the same page as we are a lot of the stuff we read, we’re kind of like, yeah, okay, he’s got some good points here. She’s got some good points there.

Kevin Anthony 1:02
But I often feel like they’re missing something. And, you know, when we were going through the book, you know, you would get all excited, like. Oh, I’m going to share this with you. And you would, you would explain it to me. And I’d be like, yeah, that’s totally right on. So I think this is going to be a great interview.

Céline Remy 1:18
Yes. And I was so excited. So I got the book. And I was like, Okay, this is going to be a great resource. And I could not stop reading it. I read it cover to cover. And I highlighted a lot, and I was a need to have Eyal on the show. So we made it happen. It’s all magical. And if you’ve never heard of Eyal, let me just give you his bio. Eyal is a tantric life coach, author, and speaker recognized as an international authority on sexuality and female orgasm. He helps holistic entrepreneurs to unleash their full potential in love life and biz.

Céline Remy 1:52
Eyal’s best selling book orgasm unleashed your guide to pleasure healing and power was endorsed by leading female sexual educators and described by them as the best female orgasm book I’ve ever read. And “my pleasure Bible”. And I can say that’s true. I was like, This book is awesome. And it’s all the information that you need. So we so excited to have Eyal on the show. Welcome, Eyal.

Eyal Matsliah 2:21
Hey, guys, thank you for having me.

Kevin Anthony 2:25
Alright, so let’s just jump right in with the questions. And, you know, I kind of alluded to this in the intro, which is that a lot of times I think that a lot of authors in this subject are kind of missing some important pieces. And what I was really curious about is, you know, how you got to where you’re at with your understanding and knowledge of sexuality, how did you come to be where you are now?

Eyal Matsliah 2:53
Not through studying this in the university.

Eyal Matsliah 3:03
So nearly everything I teach, not everything, and I aspire to be everything, but nearly everything, I teach you some things that I experienced with others or experience with myself. And also, I was always interested in helping women and healing women, and

Eyal Matsliah 3:20
I was reading books, but then I discovered this Tantra workshop and tantric studies, and I made love a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot. And it wasn’t just a numbers game. But there was really interesting to connect with, to understand to pleasure to heal, and to make love, you know, to have sacred lovemaking with his women.

Eyal Matsliah 3:39
I was sharing healing with them. And then after a few years of doing this,

Eyal Matsliah 3:49
And I’m saying this because you know, some people do a weekend workshop and think today. After years of doing this, women started telling me, you should offer this as a paid service to others. And obviously, I was like, oh, I’m not good enough. I’m not this, I’m not that. And then somebody told me already doing this. So just acknowledge it and do it. And then I started offering sessions and workshops and published a book and so on.

Eyal Matsliah 4:17
So actually, I come to this as a lover, first of all. Which is why my work is very much loved by lovers. Also as a very integrated practice and sexual healer, whatever the word is, sexual coach. This is how I got to this. And I’m still learning.

Céline Remy 4:41
We like to say that it’s a never-ending path. Like, we’ve been on this path for over 15 years, each one of us too. And it’s like, I still reach new levels, and I still discovering new places. I don’t think I’ll ever come to a place where I’ll be like, Oh, that’s it. And that’s the beauty of it.

Kevin Anthony 4:59
Yeah. Once again, we learn practice makes perfect.

Céline Remy 5:03
I did like that when you’re like, Hey, I made love a lot. Yeah, you don’t just become a great lover from reading in the book, you get, it’s like, okay, you get the theory, but then it’s putting it into practice that makes the difference.

Eyal Matsliah 5:16
Yeah, and not just, you know, not just a lot of sex, you know, because some people can have a lot of sex, but it’s still, there’s no growth in there. You know, certainly checking in with my lovers, every time we make love and checking in while we’re making love. Somebody wants says tantric sex is like normal sex or just much longer and you talk during

Céline Remy 5:38
sounds like our sex

Kevin Anthony 5:40
I think that it is a little more than that. But this is actually a great segway into the next question I had, which was, you know, we have conversations with people, whether they’re friends of ours, or clients of ours, about tantric sex and about what it really means to have tantric sex or to make love and that sort of stuff, sacred way.

And I can tell you that sometimes when we have these conversations, it looks like the people’s heads are going to explode. They can’t comprehend what we’re even talking about.

Kevin Anthony 6:11
And so I noticed in your book that you talked about different levels of orgasms and that you also talk about the possibilities that sex can be and so the question I have for you is, could you explain to our audience, what is truly possible through lovemaking?

Eyal Matsliah 6:32
Well, I want to be the first question. So I use the word Tantra a lot, but it means you know, many things to many people. And not it’s not just sex, you know, but tantric sex specifically. embraces everything that that you can possibly experience in life. So obviously, pleasure that you wouldn’t imagine you wouldn’t believe that is even possible. Both men and woman be orgasmic for hours and having different kinds of orgasms, and not ejaculating and still having amazing orgasms. Having every part of your body have pleasure.

Eyal Matsliah 7:03
I once rubbed one of my client’s teeth, and she was all gunning for me like scratching her teeth, you know, just show that all of your body is orgasmic. Know, so just on the level of pleasure of like, physical pleasure. It’s not just stronger, it’s not just longer. It’s also like different. Every time is different than on the level of love and connection, first of all to yourself, because like really good sex connects you to yourself, and connects you to your partner.

And it’s it again, love is such a general, what would that mean so many things, but, but you really start to experience lovemaking as you don’t know who is who and where your body starts in their body ends and, and literally, there’s a feeling of union, then there’s a feeling of sacredness.

Eyal Matsliah 7:53
So that’s union with the divine union with life, you feel like everything is perfect, the moment is perfect. You can either be, you know, thumping and pumping and you know, doing it more intensely, or as I really, really recommend having slower sex, which doesn’t mean that it’s not orgasmic. It’s much more cosmic. Then that orgasm becomes spiritual union becomes a spiritual realization, and actually, one of the practices in, in Tantra.

In traditional tantric sex is actually going into meditation during orgasm, and you know, an orgasm last four hours. That’s, that’s when it’s possible. And kind of like back to back to like the day today. tantric sex is also something that doesn’t end when you leave the bed, but the bedroom or the kitchen counter.

Eyal Matsliah 8:49
Something that stays with you throughout the day, even if you separate to go to your jobs or whatever. It’s like, there’s a spring in your step, there’s a there’s, there’s your confidence, there’s energy, there’s creative energy, there’s, you know, the ability to do things and manifest things in the world.

There’s the ability to accept things in the world, it’s, it’s really much more than just sex. So one of the things they say sexuality is not just about sex, and when you having the best sex of your life, your life is going to be better.

Céline Remy 9:21
Well, but that is awesome. And we were like, for all our listeners, like both Kevin and I are like nodding heads like, aha, aha, this is exactly it.

Kevin Anthony 9:31
From what we knew, as work before, we had him on the show here, I knew that he was going to answer that question in a way that we would be nodding our heads. In other words, that’s really why I asked the question because I think what you just told the audience is so important for people to understand, and we say it all the time. But I really wanted somebody else other than just us to reaffirm that that really, truly is the experience. And that really, truly is what’s possible.

Céline Remy 10:00
Yeah. So in you, in your book, you talk about letting go of limitations. And so now that we know what’s possible, let’s kind of see what’s in our own way. So we would love to hear more about how important it is to let go of limiting beliefs so that we can achieve our orgasmic potential.

Unknown Speaker 10:22
Yeah, so

Unknown Speaker 10:24
I work with the body, I work with energies, and I work with the mind. And the mind specifically for Western people is a very strong tool. And it can also be a very strong limitation. So if you believe you know that as a man, you have to ejaculate every single time you have sex. That’s a limiting belief, and you’re not going to have deep experiences. If you’re addicted to education. Most men in the world I addicted to education.

Eyal Matsliah 10:49
As a woman, if you believe that there’s only one kind of orgasm, you’re going to have only one kind of folders it. If you believe that sex is dirty sex is a sin. If you believe that you had some sexual trauma, you might actually have had some sexual trauma. But if you believe that means that you are not orgasmic and will never orgasm, that’s a limiting belief. If you believe that you are 50 and us you know you’re not going to because you know, it’s impossible, you’re not going to orgasm.

Eyal Matsliah 11:03
That’s a limiting belief and all of those beliefs by the way of false, it’s not they’re not just limiting. So the first thing is to understand that everything is possible. I literally had from 80-year-old women, that they became orgasmic. I heard from women who went through raping multiple rapes or multiple sexual abusers, and they became orgasmic. You know, I heard from people who had complete transformations after practicing this. And also, so doesn’t mean to an end.

Eyal Matsliah 11:49
By the way, if you think that you’ve reached the orgasmic potential I have some women tell me it’s like, oh, I can reach a multi-orgasmic I can reach no seven orgasms in a row, you know, there’s no problem. And I’m like, darling, you have no idea what’s up.

Céline Remy 12:03
That’s what I love. You know, Kevin, and I think our sex keeps getting better over the years. And that’s, I really feel that and that’s like, you know each other’s body more, you know yourself more. And then you can dive in deeper and we always one of the things that I love about our lovemaking is Kevin has no expectations of how my pleasure should look like I have no expectations, it’s I think sometimes it’s easier for women to get there and a lot of guys are like, I must make her calm or, or like must provide her pleasure.

Céline Remy 12:34
And when that is being removed, so the fact that he shows up in the bedroom and allows me to just be exactly who I am in the moment and he’s not loving the let’s say the the super loud woman vocal woman more than the super quiet like oh, I’m going into a meditative space more you know than the other and it’s it really gives me permission to explore all the different facets of my pleasure and my personality IT and all the different Yeah, potential for orgasmic sensations.

Céline Remy 13:08
So I wanted to help our listeners since we do have both women and men in the audience, I wanted you to tell us more about the difference between a women’s arousal and, and a men’s arousal. So how different is a woman’s arousal from a man’s arousal?

Eyal Matsliah 13:30
Yeah, great question and a big source of misunderstandings and, yeah, so immense, starting with the men because it’s easier. Men’s arousal starts from the genitals and moves outwards. And by the way, men are also we can say the masculine and you know, sometimes it will be I would be more in the feminine even though I’m a man but generally generalizing a man’s or the masculine arousal starts from his genitals and goes out to words, which means if I’m making out with a woman, and a woman touches me all over my body all over my body.

Eyal Matsliah 14:05
Oh, everybody, she doesn’t touch my cock. I’m like, Hey, hello, my cock is here. It wants to be touched as long as the woman is okay with that. Okay, but, but, but you know, once you touch my cock, there’s kind of like, finally she calls, this thing exists. And no, it’s like, if I go to like an erotic massage, you know, as early as possible. If he touches my cook, then you build energy in the cook in the genitals and then you spread it around.

Eyal Matsliah 14:32
Obviously, if a man has you know, premature ejaculation there’s like there’s slightly different than but generally with most men, it’s like this with a woman it’s exactly the opposite. And I asked you selling obviously not with Kevin but before him. Never happened to you that men kissed you too early. Too fast that your breasts too early too fast. fingered you too early, too fast tried to penetrate you before you’re ready ever happened to you?

Céline Remy 14:59
Of course. Yeah.

Eyal Matsliah 15:04
Any of you listening, you know, it might have happened to you as well, that men were usually getting to wherever they were going, you know, again, mouth breasts, ass, vaginal penetration, all of this stuff too early. Too strong, too fast. And usually it’s like changing things all the time. And this is why men touch women as if they were men.

Eyal Matsliah 15:31
By the way, everything that I’m saying I’m not just you know, have the experience I have experience because I’ve done all the mistakes. I am programmed that when my kids are they want to penetrate. When I’m around, I want to touch whatever it is that I’m looking at. Okay? The thing is that women are programmed or the feminine is programmed exactly the opposite of men. So with the woman always go circular, don’t go straight to the mouse, but, you know, hover around a mouse be close to the mouse. Instead of going straight to the breast go around to breast to go in the chest and the shoulder in delta belly.

Eyal Matsliah 16:06
Instead of going to penetration touching all around her ass all there on her hips all around her thighs. And, you know, go all around the entrance before you penetrate so many zeros from the center outwards, a woman is aroused from the extremities of the body inwards, from up downwards. Okay, so that’s you start with you know, the face and the mouth and then you go south. So yeah, that’s again, generalizing that’s the difference in arousal.

Eyal Matsliah 16:38
I used to say, you know, that women go from soft, to hard. And I actually believe that men should receive this as well from soft go a little bit, not hard, but more intense. Because I see many people touch with intensity, but without softness, without sensitivity without subtlety. And also, it’s really important for both men and women. cultivate that softness, and that feeling through the hands and through the body.

Kevin Anthony 17:04
Absolutely. See, I knew this was going to be a good interview. So in our online courses, we actually have a part that is all of the places you should touch on a woman before you get to her genitals. So your answer was absolutely perfect.

Céline Remy 17:20
And, and I love the whole thing about you know, like imagining that your hands have eyes to see when you touch and in that, you can walk is becoming this wonderful light or this energy. And it’s like you can start to feel through all these different body parts and it really takes the lovemaking to the next level.

Eyal Matsliah 17:42
You can endure generally your life to the next level. You know, it’s like I’m a dancer as well. That’s one of the main things that I do actually in life. When I dance with a woman on the dance floor. I know exactly which muscles in her body are tight because I can feel everything without needing to see it now you need to look at her body. And also once you develop this, these capacities, you become sensitive to people’s movements to people’s sounds to people breath to people’s like everything.

Céline Remy 18:11
I am so excited Ayala to you here and saying that when men come to see me, they all want to be like, teach me the buttons. I need to press on a woman and I’m always like, let me teach you first you know, how to receive and listen to your body, slowing things down, learning about your body and I’m like, why do I need to learn about myself? I’m gonna learn about her.

Céline Remy 18:33
Once you feel yourself from the inside out, then you can you literally feel the other person like within your body. And so I love that you’re saying that because I’m like, Yes, there’s more of us teaching this because it’s needed.

Eyal Matsliah 18:48
Totally, totally. And you know, the first button you need to press is is chilled the fuck out.

Kevin Anthony 18:58
You know the thing that I always like to try to say to men too, and I don’t know, maybe I’m just kind of the weird one. But like so many one men, they want to go straight for the breasts or straight for the vagina. And to me that’s like, it’s like, you know, you’ve got a cake and you just go straight for one little piece of it. When you’ve got berries on it over here and icing on it over here.

Kevin Anthony 19:22
You’ve got all these things that you could potentially enjoy all these flavors, all these tastes and things and you just go for just one like, you know what I’m really making love to a woman I want to experience every part of that like I’m not going through the motions gone touch your thigh because I know she wants me to touch your thigh. Like I’m touching that side going that is the most spectacular sight I have ever touched.

Céline Remy 19:49
I’m wearing a short dress oh yes you feel it? It’s getting hot in here.

Eyal Matsliah 19:57
Yeah, so so exactly. Can we look at the finger? Can we look at the hand can we look at the curve of the neck Can we look at you? I get turned on by you know small scars that women have which they have like whatever it’s like they get self-conscious about you know the belly after pregnancy and whatever and I’m just there like admiring that belly that created the few children or whatever and also can we transfigure.

Eyal Matsliah 20:26
Can we see the divine the attractive the feminine you know whatever you want to call it and love every part of our our bodies by the way and apartments bodies both men and women know because when you do this is something that is arousing when you look at somebody with so much appreciation and so much love and so much you know it’s like

Eyal Matsliah 20:49
and you can enjoy you know with your eyes and you can smell nice men women making as you know, don’t take a shower before you come to see me you know I don’t want you clean. Your deodorant even if it’s made by virgin nuns in the Amazon.

Céline Remy 21:13
So, okay, I know I’ve been asking you a lot of questions. I’m gonna ask one more questions and then I’ll let you because I am really excited about this one here. I’ve been like since I read the book, I’m like, this is what I want to talk about. Okay, I have to say you are probably I think you are the first person that I have read about who really understand truly the female orgasm and the difference between an impulsive orgasm versus an explosive orgasm. And so I really want you to tell us more about this impulsive orgasm and I might also share some of my experience but please share your wisdom with us all

Eyal Matsliah 21:55
Yeah, I I’m you know I’m kind of like proud and stuff that I’m you know, the only one to you heard about the talk about this thing and I’m also sad because there are so many people that you know, study psychology and whatever, you know, go to university and medicine and whatever and nobody knows about this stuff. Nobody talks about this stuff. So generally speaking, there are two kinds of two major kinds of orgasms explosive and impulsive. So so I’ll ask you something like back in the day when you are receiving clitoral stimulation and you had a clitoral orgasm you clit became hypersensitive

Céline Remy 22:34
I might be an oddball because I think I taught myself very quickly I had to do an implosive orgasm So

Kevin Anthony 22:42
okay, so for most women

Eyal Matsliah 22:47
They call it a bad good example.

Eyal Matsliah 22:52
So for most women, you know, if they have clitoral stimulation and they have a clitoral orgasm, their clitoral become hypersensitive, it’s kind of like, Don’t touch me, you know, lay off my hands now, lay your hands off my clit now. I was very surprised as a young man discovering this because I would go down on the woman and she would orgasm and then she would push me away.

Eyal Matsliah 23:12
And I would kind of like try to hold on to him too much. And also have this after we after a chocolate sometimes during the declaration. Its kind of like the head of the coke becomes hypersensitive, it’s like it’s pleasurable, but it’s kind of like to shop that the feeling is too sharp. So that’s one thing. It’s kind of like, there’s pleasure, but the pleasure feels like an explosion that is followed by a very quick decline kind of like a drop. So not just not feeling satisfied, it’s kind of like a very shallow level of satisfaction. It’s more like depleted and done. And sometimes even energetically, kind of like energy drop tiredness, some women say that they even feeling sad, frustrated and angry.

Kind of like this, it was there was a build-up towards something, but then we didn’t experience this. The orgasm feels more like my orgasm. And it’s usually focused on declared something that can be in, you know, like waves around the body. But it’s generally coming from the clit and it’s, it’s focused on that area.

Eyal Matsliah 24:20
And some women can have a few of them, some women can only have one and then they can’t have one for I don’t know minutes or hours or longer. Okay. And that sounds similar to a man’s orgasm, which are men sorry jack relation, and Jacqueline your orgasm, which is also explosive, okay, so, so it feels nice for like, no five seconds, and then you lose your action and it takes some time to build it up.

And once you get into your 30s and 40s it takes hours sometimes to build it up to you know, to have a strong erection and to be able to come again So, so this is the explosive orgasm and it’s called explosive because the energy explodes and you lose the energy.

Okay, so that’s it explosive org in August. The other kind is impulsive, which means that first of all, there are many different kinds of pleasure if the explosive one is generally like the same kind of orgasm with impulsive one, there are a million different kinds of orgasm which are possible. It takes longer to have an impulsive orgasm.

Eyal Matsliah 25:21
Okay, so maybe you need a little bit more stimulation, maybe you need to relax more also, the explosive on comes from rubbing and intensity and pushing and friction. And the impulsive one needs to be some kind of relaxation and surrender know that to get there. The pleasure is stronger, The pleasure is longer. So it takes more time to wake up but then you stay on that orgasmic plateau for a while. Okay, orgasmic state for a while, and then when it dissipates, it dissipates might slow and literally can the whole day you can still feel your whole body tingling.

Your whole body becomes orgasmic. It’s not just focused on the genitals, then the orgasm feels more like our orgasm, it’s engulfing both of you, you feel more connected to your body, to your femininity to life to God, whatever you want to call that.

Eyal Matsliah 26:17
It’s very healing, as well. So the explosive one is actually if you do it too much, it’s actually depleting your energy. But the impulsive one is actually healing for the body healing for the heart healing for the mind. It’s more you can say emotional, which is it’s bringing up whatever it is that you’ve been hiding, or suppressing, okay, which is why some people men and women would stop sometimes sex because sex becomes too emotional, and they can’t they don’t allow themselves to express it. So yeah, this is, you know, some of the differences between the explosive and impulsive.

Kevin Anthony 26:53
Well, I think that’s actually a very good description, but I’m also curious something from your perspective, how you experienced.

Céline Remy 27:01
So very similar to what al just was explaining. But in my words, I definitely know the impulsive orgasm, the more I relax, the bigger and I don’t really have control and it takes over and my whole body will just kind of get into these movements. That as it takes over. While the explosive, it’s like I’m making it happen. And definitely, it’s it’s really like, you know, eating like fast food versus like a gourmet meal and and you’re like, Well sure, I’m fed with the explosive one, but like half-hour later, I’m still hungry or like go like or you don’t have all the nutrients that you really need.

Céline Remy 27:50
One thing to that I know for sure is is Oh, it’s about the clearest is actually how you can your interest for me, I always see it as a fire Stoker, not really as the thing I have to use all the time ignites the energy gets it started. And it’s kind of like you know since the glitter is is not just the head, it has legs and it goes all the way inside the vagina. You stroke it on top, it ignites the fire and then everything inside is lit up and then it can start to move from this inside out and spread throughout the body.

Eyal Matsliah 28:27
And something very important to say is that it’s not saying that you know the clip is bad or you know, clitoral orgasms are bad. I’m always asking myself what is serving? What is empowering? What is holistic, what is harmonious to the body into the energy system. Okay, so there’s nothing you know, bad about the clip. It’s just let’s use our body as a musical instrument. Let’s use it like, like, a sacred tool. Let’s use it like, Yeah, something magical. I like that.

That example. It’s being aware of you know, the clit has pleasure, but as you said, the clit goes all around the vagina. But it doesn’t mean that you will have a clitoral orgasm because it feels totally different.

Eyal Matsliah 29:12
So it’s, it feels really, really different to stroke, the clitoris itself outside. And it feels really different to bring some stimulation to the chessboard to bring some simulation to any part of the body. And so so, you know, people bring out an anatomy chart and say, you know, show this diagram it shows that colored you know, is all around the vagina. I mean, that’s true and what you said is true, but also it’s a different experience. It feels different. And I would say that these people need to have if women need to have clitoral stimulation in order to come. There’s something to look at. Because no I talk with women over Skype sometimes and the orgasm.

Eyal Matsliah 29:54
Okay, when you’re not rubbing the clit. Orgasm comes from relaxation, it comes from awareness, it comes from like you said very beautifully. It doesn’t come from pushing out all the very deep orgasms and expensive orgasms don’t come from pushing it comes from relaxing and allowing the energy to move through you. Which is always my suggestion for both men and woman.

I’m not asking you to be completely passive. I’m saying relax so much that energy can move your body and I can move your body. Kind of again, the same thing with dancing. And yeah, maybe another interview. We can talk more about that.

Céline Remy 30:37
We could talk for hours.

Kevin Anthony 30:39
Well, yeah, I love that. And, you know, from my perspective, when we’re making love, I can very easily tell the difference between the two. I mean, obviously the explosive, super easy to tell that’s usually when you’re screaming that’s when they’ll often be ejaculate. Like there’s for guys out there who are listening and thinking how do I know the difference? You know, the explosive orgasm like that one, you know, that’s pretty.

Eyal Matsliah 31:03
Also sorry to interrupt you, Kevin. I feel it in my body. No, I’m you know, pretty, pretty good with controlling matriculation. And still when a woman is giving herself or I know we rubbing each other or whatever, and she has too much clitoral stimulation. I feel it in my clock. I’m getting close to the point of no return. For woman is having impulsive orgasms, it’s much actually easier to move the energy because the energy well, because the energy is moving.

Kevin Anthony 31:28
Yeah, absolutely. And that’s, that’s the next place I was going is that so you, then the men might be thinking, Well, how do I know if she’s having an impulsive orgasm, and I can actually feel the influx of orgasms as well. In fact, one day, we were making love and I just said to myself, wow, I just felt like, like your vagina just opened up, like huge and just swallowed me whole. That’s kind of like the way, the way I described it. And I just felt like, everything just expanded and just I sunk into you. And it’s like, we sort of merged and became one.

Eyal Matsliah 32:05
And I know, that’s not that’s, that’s a lovemaking technique. I know, I used to technique with kind of, like, you know, with air quotes, which is, you know, people, you know, don’t come as soon try and all of this positions and sector, six doors and whatever, that if you really allow your body to relax, there are some areas in the vagina, the vagina doesn’t allow you to go to and unless you’re both relaxed, no, I know that I tried to penetrate, you know, and I move around, you know, a woman’s vagina, very, very combination of consciously and intuitively, you know, but there are some places that they feel that she’s not, she’s not letting me through, you know, and the need to like.

Eyal Matsliah 32:43
Wait very patiently and go around and, and be very relaxed in this and then suddenly, her body relaxes, and I managed to go deeper into her and not by pounding and pushing the just by, just by being there, on by, suddenly the vagina goes like, Okay. Same thing with deep throating. Which is another very, very beautiful practice.

Some women, they love it, and they push my car into the, into the throat and actually, it hurts my coke was my Coke is extremely sensitive. Okay, and I tell them, you don’t have to push me to thank you very much for you know, wanting to have me in your throat. Because, you know, the women who like really understand they’re not doing it for the men are doing it for themselves.

Eyal Matsliah 33:29
Because the measure is deeper, and it’s different than anything else. So, so you don’t need to push anything, it’s about arousing the throat, arousing the mouth to actually relax and receive the cork inside. And then it slides in, you don’t have to push in. And in. This is the same with life. You know, in my life, I’m again, I’m talking from experience, I used to do all of this stuff. And I used to push and I used to stuff and, and what I’m finding is by connecting more to the feminine connection, more to flow, relaxing, rather than trying to do, everything is happening, you know, it’s like my business is easier than then ever I’m making more money than ever.

Eyal Matsliah 34:08
I’m doing better work than ever. I’m happy with my life than ever. And, and I’ve literally taken my hands off the reins. Yeah. And just so you know, where the where life is taking me and, and what’s already going and where my heart tells me to go. And so yeah, tantric sex is related to eating is related to creativity is related to your mission in life is related to your spiritual practice is related to what you’re doing the world. No one

Kevin Anthony 34:41
Indeed they are.

Céline Remy 34:41
This is beautiful. So I hope that all of you listening are inspired and tell our listeners where they can find more about you and you work. And actually, maybe before that one more question. What can they do? And let’s say for the women listening, what’s the first step that they can start to take today to start to explore further their orgasm?

Eyal Matsliah 35:13
Great question. And I am very practical in my approach and my book and my programs and everything. So it’s really nice that you asked a practical question. Start with yourself stop waiting, both men and women stop waiting for you know, the perfect lover or for your lover to you know, learn the tricks or whatever. So dedicate time, if possible every day to self-pleasuring without to go into those explosive orgasms which means without ejaculation, and for the women without clitoral orgasms, you can have a little bit of clitoral stimulation, that’s okay. But not to the vibrator. But with your fingers. And over the deal, though.

Eyal Matsliah 35:50
Try to get the dildo inside you and do it every day. Explore, don’t worry about having this kind of orgasm with that kind of orgasm, you know, but really explore your whole body, obviously, your breasts, your thighs, everything and also your genitals. See how you can connect with yourself, to pleasure yourself, arouse yourself, heal yourself by yourself.

The same thing for the men. I can say that, that I had women who are literally frigid came to me and they said think they’re frigid. They don’t like sex, they don’t enjoy sex, anything. They did this practice, and after a month or six weeks, they became multi-orgasmic.

Eyal Matsliah 36:26
I had 60 something-year-old women who didn’t have sex for years, with the same experience I had, like I said women will who are raped women who abused women who went through mastectomy women who went through the removal of the cervix and the womb, you know, even without a woman they become became multi-orgasmic. So this is the first practice.

Céline Remy 36:52
So where can they learn all of that, I know that because you explain it much my new book. So definitely get the book, orgasm unleashed.

Eyal Matsliah 37:04
We put out the book at the same time.

Eyal Matsliah 37:13
The book orgasm unleashed your guide to pleasure healing and power. It’s a real book, it’s 260 pages. And literally, you can use the practices in the book and practice for one hour a day. And you can have enough practices for a year. Okay. So get the book on Amazon. Or get the book on orgasmunleashed.com. So that’s one thing that you can do it, there’s a program for men and couples and also for women who want to share this with them. And the program is called awakening female pleasure.

Eyal Matsliah 37:46
I actually show on a woman what I’m doing, how you know, how you can become orgasmic before you know, unit massage before all of this stuff. I explained a lot about female orgasm, how to make it work, want to feel safe and seen and appreciated, how to create a safe space communication. And then also actual massage breast massage, whole-body massage rather than massage externally, internally. A little bit of healing. But again, it’s not about the techniques, it’s really about the approach. So you can find more in awakening female pleasure.com My website is intimate power.com that that’s intimate, like intimacy, not like the internet.

Eyal Matsliah 38:35
There’s also an ejaculation control program teaching men how to not just last longer, but use the sexual energy to change their lives. And yes, and I work with very, very few people in the year. Okay, so people who are already somewhere in life already, you know, have an ability to do the things that I shared with them, and then doing something to change the world. I’m very happy to work with this with these people. So you can reach out through the website as well. And finally, I invite everybody who, like you has a platform has an audience, podcast, whatever that is, I’m very happy to share that this information. Actually, the majority of my work these days is is showing this through these platforms, because because

Eyal Matsliah 39:24
I like my work to be really easy. And it’s very easy for me to talk. Yeah, I’m very happy to be a guest. And I’m very happy with this interview. Thank you for having me. And yeah, relaying this information to your audience and for the work that you do, guys.

Céline Remy 39:44
Thank you. Yeah, thank you. It’s wonderful having you here today.

Kevin Anthony 39:48
Well, I mean, we have just barely scratched the surface. And I really wish we had more time, but we are actually over. Thank you so much for

Eyal Matsliah 39:58
That’s tantric sex, you know?

Kevin Anthony 40:00
Yeah, exactly.

Eyal Matsliah 40:01
Exactly. somebody tells his partner: Let’s have sex. And she says, but we only have two hours.

Kevin Anthony 40:18
All right Eyal. Thank you so much for being on the show. You’re very welcome. And we see we’ll see you all next week. Yeah, yes. We hope you liked this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoyed this show, leave a comment and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 40:38
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Kevin Anthony 40:55
Thanks for listening.

Céline Remy 40:57
And remember, you’re amazing