How To Get More Foreplay, Spice It Up and Confidence

Kevin Anthony 0:11
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man, woman, single, or a couple, this is the show for you.

Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and Celine Remy. And we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:27
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 135. And it’s titled, how to get more foreplay, spice it up, and confidence. We’re gonna actually cover a lot of ground in this episode, but I think it’s gonna be really fun. And if you happen to be watching this on YouTube, you might notice for the first time ever in love lab history, actually wearing my hair down.

Kevin Anthony 0:55
You have probably seen a ponytail fly around in the back there, here and there. Maybe you haven’t. But we usually record first thing in the morning, and I’m right out of the shower. So I tie it back. But

Céline Remy 1:05
hey, it’s hanging loose.

Kevin Anthony 1:08
The way I like it.

Céline Remy 1:10
So today, it’s all about answering our listener’s questions. And that’s some of the subjects we’ve already covered in longer episodes. But these questions keep coming up over and over. And we love getting your questions and emails. And we wanted to honor you and go through these different questions and give you hopefully some very good answers to inspire you.

Céline Remy 1:32
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Kevin Anthony 1:58
Alright, so we are We love getting questions from our audience, from our clients, even from our friends sometimes. And, you know, we can’t answer literally everybody’s question all the time, because there’s just too much. So what we do is we kind of keep a file of them. And we answer them where we can. So sometimes we’ll put them together in a podcast like today, sometimes we’ll do a YouTube video on them.

Kevin Anthony 2:25
But that way everybody gets to enjoy the answer to and not just the person who asked it because so many people share the same problems. You know, it’s not like your question is 100% unique to you, even though you might think that it is. So we like to answer questions that way pretty frequently. So we have compiled a couple of great questions.

Céline Remy 2:44
So I’m going to read the first one. This one comes from Jen. And Jen wants to know, what do I do if I want more sex than him? Whoo, nice. Now there’s gonna be a little bit more. So I’m going to read that before we get into it. Don’t get me wrong. He loves a really good blow job and I love giving it to him. But then it goes on so long, and I never get penetration or anything I need even kissing on the neck breasts. I have expressed to him my needs.

Céline Remy 3:12
It took a while because I really thought that it was an exciting new adventure for him to have a woman that really loved going on with him. I mean, I really do. But now No matter how much have expressed my needs in a very gentle way, nothing changes. He says it will. But then in the act of complete horniness and passion, it is not. I don’t want to beg because I have learned that in a good and adult relationship you should not have to. It is degrading.

Céline Remy 3:39
But aside from expressing my needs, I do not know what to do, uh, where else to go. So thank you so much for listening, and also for everything you have taught me so far.

Kevin Anthony 3:52
Okay, so the first question I would ask Jen, is, it sounds like the way that they get started with sex a lot? Is her giving him a blowjob? Great. That’s wonderful. That’s a great way to start. But my question then is, are you taking that blow job to ejaculation? And the reason I asked that question is this because if the man is stuck in sort of the default worldview of like, Oh, you started giving me a blowjob or Oh, you got me hard.

Kevin Anthony 4:24
Now you have to finish my kind of thing. Of course, he’s gonna lose motivation and do all that stuff after he ejaculates. Especially if he doesn’t last that long. It doesn’t have time to really build up the energy. You have. She gives him a 20-minute long blow job of multiple waves, you know, along the way, then he can ejaculate he’ll still have energy and be turned on and still potentially want to reciprocate.

Kevin Anthony 4:46
But, you know, if it’s your typical, oh, I gave him a great blowjob for five minutes, and he ejaculates and now he’s just kind of like, I’m good. Not a whole lot of motivation there is there.

Céline Remy 4:57
Yeah. So it seems like there are a couple of things too because part of it is okay, I want more sex than he does. And there’s really not a single leg technique or cure per se for that. But communication and understanding. And then both partners have to be willing to either meet halfway or figure out strategies so that both partners feel fulfilled.

Céline Remy 5:23
But then there’s also the part where you’re talking about not getting what you want that that it doesn’t go to the penetration or to the things that you need.

Céline Remy 5:34
You mentioned something about the one student the flow of passion and horniness. And I have noticed that for some men, once they are in the throes of passion and horniness, there’s literally like a switch that happens in their brain where all the blood flow seems to be going down. It is not so much left in their brain, and it does happen.

Céline Remy 6:00
So what I would suggest I’m going to a little bit into my fixes here and suggestion, you are correct in saying hey, you don’t want to be begging, you don’t want to be nagging. But maybe number one is you can’t expect him to be a mind reader. So if you know that he gets lost in the passion at the moment, then you can direct him at that moment. It’s okay to be like, oh, let’s play a game. And it could be like, do everything that I do to you.

Céline Remy 6:31
Okay, mirror, what I do mirror each other. We’ve played that game where it’s like, okay, like, I’ll touch him, I’m going to touch exactly how I want you to touch me. And so you keep going back and forth. And playing that mirroring game. It’s a great game to also learn about how the other person wants to be touched.

Céline Remy 6:48
So what I would suggest is to bring in playfulness into the interaction, rather than complaining or not getting your needs met, because neither one of these scenarios is fulfilling and you’ll build resentment. How can you bring in inspiration and playfulness? Yeah,

Kevin Anthony 7:07
There are so many great things that you just said there. So I just want to reiterate a couple of them. You know, one is that if you have this discussion about what you want, you know, at the dinner table or the day before the week before, don’t expect him to remember that at the moment, right? Especially after you just gave him a great five-minute blow job. He needs to ejaculate. So it’s okay to remind him of those things.

Kevin Anthony 7:30
But it’s all about how you say it. Right? So it’s not so much what you say, but how you say, so rather than going, damn it. Again, I give you a great blow job. And you were still didn’t have sex, right? Like, that’s not going to go very far. But you could say it much nicer, like, well, I got so turned on going down on the new that I really want you to fuck me open, like wide open right now.

Kevin Anthony 7:55
Right, those two completely different things. So that’s a way of reminding him of what you want. But saying it in a way that inspires him to do it rather than, you know, it comes across as complaining and

Céline Remy 8:09
or shaming or anything like that. I love that you brought that up, though, Kevin, in terms of also leading with your turn-ons. It also brings up the question here, Jan, is how good are you at receiving? Is there a part of you who is resisting it because a lot of women say they want to receive or they want to receive more? But then once the men give to them something, they don’t always fully let go. Or they’re not letting him know how much they enjoy it.

Céline Remy 8:41
And so he doesn’t know that he’s doing a good job and therefore should keep doing it. Or sometimes they like okay, I’ll take it for 10 minutes, but then I have to go finish my to-do list attend to the kids. So whatever distraction and that’s a very common problem. So are you a great receiver? And are you giving him feedback, men want clear, concise, and direct. So you may think that you weren’t clear in expressing what you express, but maybe you weren’t as clear.

Céline Remy 9:11
It’s better to communicate at the moment, like Kevin said, rather than outside of the bedroom. So think about that. Number one, let’s recap everything we had. Don’t blow him during ejaculation because you want to make sure he saves some energy for you. And number two, don’t be afraid to ask at the moment be clear, concise, and direct.

Céline Remy 9:34
Number four, bring some playfulness and games like try the mirror exercise or you can do things like you know what I would love is if you did this and then you know when you receive this is like this feel so good and it’s not so good. Like oh, okay, this is good. But you know what would be better is if you stroke your hands down my thighs and then gently came back to with my pussy and then started flicking my clitoris.

Céline Remy 10:03
This is clear, concise, and direct. This is going to speak very well to a guy. So if you apply these things, it should work better for you in the bedroom.

Kevin Anthony 10:13
Absolutely.

Céline Remy 10:15
All right, so read our question number two. Hey, Kevin.

Kevin Anthony 10:19
All right, question number two comes from Tommy, I know that I have become bored with my love life, I have been married for 26 years. And now it’s like a routine and just the same stuff. I’m afraid that it’s become more of a quick, same repeat and nothing different. I used to be very adventurous and exciting at times waking each other up. But now it’s more of a set schedule, and just looking for some new and exciting ideas.

Céline Remy 10:47
Who where to start. So we do have a lot of different videos and shows on that. So there’s more than today’s show to go back to so I’d say like, number one new, exciting ideas, listen to the love lab podcast, you know because we constantly delivering good ideas. But I think there’s something that he hit on the head there about the creativity. And I know that that I’ve talked about this in several shows, but there is a link between your creativity, your creative energy, and your sexual energy.

Céline Remy 11:21
And so what that means is when you allow yourself to be creative, whether it’s creative in the kitchen, and creative in your art creative in many different ways activating that creative energy, it will fuel your passion in life, and you drive outside and inside the bedroom. So if your bedroom alive feels flat right now, does that mirror your life outside of the bedroom? Is the rest of your life feeling pretty flat as well?

Céline Remy 11:54
And if it’s Yes, and you need to start to bring back some excitement, passion, and creativity outside of the bedroom to start to fuel that passion.

Kevin Anthony 12:06
You know, a question I always ask when people say this because we’ve heard this many, many times for many different people that used to be a certain way. And now it’s not. So the question that I always want to ask people is why? Right? Because the reality is, I mean, of course, people change over time, but you’re basically still the same two people. So why did you do it, then? But you don’t do it now? That’s a valid question to ask. So if you used to wake each other up for sex, why don’t you do it anymore.

Kevin Anthony 12:35
There could be some valid reasons why you don’t do those things anymore. But most likely, it’s just because you fell out of the habit. And that’s one of the keys really to maintaining a successful relationship over the years, which is to not get complacent, to not just, oh, that was fun in the beginning, when we were super hot and turned on. But whatever.

Kevin Anthony 12:58
Now, you know, it’s like, if you want the relationships to be thriving, and exciting and sexy, and all that, you got to keep being thriving and exciting and sexy. as best you can, you know, the energy levels vary as we get older, sexy varies, but But then again, it doesn’t write like maybe it does physically on the outside, but doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s not just as sexy to the person as it once was.

Kevin Anthony 13:26
And if it’s not, there are things that you can do to change that, you know, people say, Oh, I’m not physically attracted to my partner anymore. And it’s like, okay, but what can you do about that, maybe you can change your diet, maybe you can start exercising some more, maybe you can learn to see things other than just the physical that is beautiful in that person.

Kevin Anthony 13:45
There are tons of ways to do it. I always just, I kind of shake my head, I’m like, it only changed because you allowed it to change. And what’s it gonna take for you to change it back again?

Céline Remy 13:57
Well, and the other part that I want to bring up too is that don’t expect your relationship to be static and be the same throughout all of the years. And sometimes people are like, well, this is the way it used to be. And like, they constantly want to go back to something that was but is no longer valid. So maybe you need to change your expectations. Also, in terms of you know, maybe when you first got together like 26 years ago, you didn’t know each other’s bodies went very well.

Céline Remy 14:30
Maybe you had sex three times a day and night as well as like there’s a lot of challenges. You may not want to bring all of the things you used to do because not everything is great anymore. But also, I think having been together for that amount of time. You should have enough communication and a foundation in your relationship or it’s okay to talk about these things.

Céline Remy 14:51
Have you had an honest dialogue and saying, I love you. I still want to have the great sex we used to be but what is it that you like right now because obviously, we’re not having as much. So maybe it’s because you’re not getting the sex that you want and like, like, be curious, be playful, like, show me how you like to be touched. Tell me, what would excite you? How would you want sex to be for it to happen once a week? What can I do to bring you more pleasure, like, be willing to listen to her because it is sexuality is very often woman LED.

Céline Remy 15:25
And to be honest, women don’t always know that they’re not satisfied in their relationship, they will be bitchy complaining and nagging or something is like you know, and that’s kind of what they say about the woman. But it’s often because the man was not giving them what they wanted. And the woman did not speak up. So it’s both of them are responsible. But they just planned to put it plainly they didn’t get fucked properly.

Céline Remy 15:50
So when that changes, the dynamic changes. And I was just working with a couple today and teaching them the last session we did we worked with doing a pussy massage and how to touch her and touching her for sexual healing and not just so focused on like the clitoral or the orgasm. And in that month that they’ve been practicing there, suddenly, she was feeling more confident and empowered, having more wanting sex more loving that it didn’t have to go anywhere. I totally changed how she felt about it, and then how much she wanted it.

Kevin Anthony 16:27
Yeah. And so you know, your question is kind of like, Well, how do you change it? How do you come up with new exciting ideas? Well, we have just given you some go to our YouTube channel, we’ve got tons of videos, find the ones that speak to that subject, because I know they’re there, we’ve done them. Look through our extensive library of now 135 podcasts because I know we’ve covered this several times. And that’s really not just a pitch to see our stuff.

Kevin Anthony 16:51
But it’s really because there’s great information in there that you could benefit from. Another one is to get on our mailing list. Because we send out we there are products that we promote, that are all about this exact thing, how to come up with creative ideas, how to do something different, whether they’re data ideas, or you know, questions to ask each other that are fun game, stuff like that. There’s tons of stuff that we put out there that could totally help you here. And if none of that works for you, just work with us.

Céline Remy 17:21
Ultimately do something and do something different if you want different results. All right, we’ve got two more questions. And we have a little sponsor break for today. We want to talk to you about vitamin D and Onnit. So do you know why you feel hornier in the summer compared to the winter? First, I thought it was because every woman’s wearing sexy outfits and stuff. And then I understood that it’s because of vitamin D. And vitamin D is kind of like the sexiest vitamin that you can have.

Céline Remy 17:54
And what it does is that it’s it can, it can help you with your sex drive with your mood with your immunity. I mean, vitamin D causes your hormone and your libido to peak during the summer month, it impacts your sex hormone your mood, and so much more. So it’s an essential vitamin, but most people have very low levels of vitamin D, it’s kind of an epidemic because we don’t really spend enough time outside

Kevin Anthony 18:25
Didn’t we were researching vitamin D very recently? And one of the things that you found was that you’d have to spend six to eight hours a day outside in a bikini in order to get an adequate level of vitamin D.

Céline Remy 18:37
Yeah, and even though we like to spend a lot of time naked in the sun, we don’t do that.

Kevin Anthony 18:41
Who does that basically, you have to be outside all day every day?

Céline Remy 18:44
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Kevin Anthony 19:24
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Céline Remy 19:36
So let’s talk about Paul. So Paul wants to know How do I get my girlfriend to be open to another woman or just fulfilling that fantasy of her not with another man again, but eating pussy are getting fingered by a female as a thinks she may enjoy. Maybe I haven’t gotten her in this mindset or presented the opportunity but I want your advice.

Kevin Anthony 19:58
I’m greeting over here as you’re reading that I’m like, this is every guy’s question. Every guy wants to know, how can I get my woman to have a threesome with another woman? I’m gonna let you start on this one. Because I mean, I have my own feelings on it. But I know exactly what you will say. Even though we have not rehearsed these answers before the show, by the way, this is all just spontaneous. I watch, I want them to hear it from you.

Céline Remy 20:25
Yeah, well, Paul, here’s the thing. If you want to have a successful threesome, the idea needs to come from her. And it has to happen on her own timing. And it’s not something that you can force, what I would recommend is also double-checking, like, have a conversation, snuggle up on the couch and say, What are your thoughts? Is that something you even want to do with another woman?

Céline Remy 20:49
Because maybe, maybe she has zero interest in going down on another woman or receiving touch from another woman? Maybe she does. Maybe it’s a fantasy of hers, too. But maybe she has some insecurities. It’s very big for women to feel insecure, especially if she’s never had a woman, female lover that, you know, what if I don’t know what to do? What if you do it better than me? with her? Do you know?

Céline Remy 21:18
What if then you and her get it on? And then I’m left alone? What if you prefer her over me? I mean, there’s a lot of fear and insecurity that can come up. And all of these need to be discussed prayer, the effects of the experience.

Kevin Anthony 21:37
Yeah, there are so many things here. So you’re absolutely nailed it with it has to be her idea. Now it sounds from the way you phrased the question that you’ve had threesomes in the past just with a guy so she may potentially be open to another threesome. But that doesn’t mean that she’s necessarily open to another woman. And here’s another caveat.

Kevin Anthony 21:56
We’ve talked about this on the show, too, when we’ve talked about fantasies, we did a couple of episodes where we talked about fantasy versus reality. And if when you’re talking with her, she’s fantasizing about it. Maybe you’re making love, and she’s fantasizing about her just talking about it. And it seems like it’s really cool. don’t interpret that to mean that that’s what she actually wants to happen in real life. Maybe, maybe not.

Kevin Anthony 22:19
There are a lot of fantasies that women enjoy that they don’t actually ever want to happen in real life. And then another point that you made is she’s gonna have to feel absolutely 100% secure that no matter what happens in that threesome, that you’re not going to leave her breakup with her cheat on her in the outside somehow thinks she’s less or not as good or anything like, you need to find a way to make sure that she 100% knows in her being that that’s not the case.

Céline Remy 22:55
Right? We’ve got some things in our passion vault where we have questions for a guide to opening up your relationship without destroying it. So I got some questions, some ideas because really, there’s no shortcut, but communication. And if you skip the communication part and finger winging it, or will get drunk and just go for this good luck

Kevin Anthony 23:19
with that one,

Céline Remy 23:20
don’t do it. Because then there’s so much more repair that needs to happen. Sometimes a trust gets broken. I mean, it’s so much more difficult to deal with a bad free some Aftermath than with insecurities. I would also recommend to if it is indeed something that she is also interested in, but feels insecure about it to take it gradually.

Kevin Anthony 23:43
You just did what I was gonna say. Please continue. But I love that we’re always on the same page.

Céline Remy 23:48
The thing is, it doesn’t have to be that you guys are going to go all the way. Maybe she’s not comfortable with you having intercourse with that person. Maybe she’s not comfortable, herself touching the woman but would like to watch. I mean, there are so many scenarios and my recommendation is really to go as slow as she needs to be if you want to ever go there.

Céline Remy 24:13
So if all she really needs and wants right now is to be a witness and nothing else just celebrate her and that or if all she really wants and needs right now are threesomes with other guys and you keep showing up and loving her and that she can see that she doesn’t feel attracted to another guy that like what I’m trying to say is if she experiences for herself that having sex with another man makes her love you more and opens her sexuality up then she will also have that element of safety within herself that okay if that does that for myself, then it will be the same for my men.

Céline Remy 24:52
And maybe she just needs more time when the other situation before she can open up to the one on two female and one man.

Kevin Anthony 25:00
Yes. All great advice. What I was gonna say, also was basically the same thing you said, but I’ll just say it a little differently ask and say, Get just it doesn’t have to go straight to sex, right? So just start with something really simple, like, have a female friend over Yeah, and do a massage party where the three of you just get together, get naked and just massage with no agenda, right?

Kevin Anthony 25:21
There’s no, in fact, you can even set the rules, this works really well. And you set the rules, you say there’s not going to be any sex tonight. Like, that’s not the point of this. We’re just going to cuddle, snuggle massage, just, you know, be sensual. It’s a great way to get started.

Céline Remy 25:36
Yeah. So apps, absolutely. And then, you know, accept it. If it’s not her thing, some women are just not into it. I’m not into another woman. And sometimes you just really need time, the safety element is huge. So you need to create a container where she feels safe. And from that place, slowly, but surely, she will open up but you can’t have an agenda.

Céline Remy 26:01
The more you try to do something to get something else, the less likely it will work. So speak up for what you want, say what you want, and communicate with her and listen to her to what she wants and needs, and then see where you guys can meet somewhere in the middle.

Kevin Anthony 26:16
Somehow, we need to take this little segment of the show and plaster it everywhere. This needs to be heard so many times. Okay, we’ve got one last question for this episode. And it’s from Matthew. Matthew says I’m still afraid of being judged going into sex toy stores wanting to buy a flashlight. watching porn is also a big one. So I guess I just have to accept these things that I want. But how do I go about doing that? Guys are supposed to not even have this issue.

Kevin Anthony 26:47
So why do I have it to almost the extreme? Oh, and also how much if that is true? is too much porn to watch? And is it okay to like porn and have favorite stars? Thanks so much. Okay. There’s a lot there. The first when I read this question, as we were putting them together, the first thing that popped into my mind was going into a sex toy store is kind of like going to a nude beach. Right?

Kevin Anthony 27:16
So the classic thing that people say when they’ve never been doing nude beach, it’s like, I could never go to the nude beach. What if I ran into somebody I knew there. And then you just look at them and you go, they’re naked too.

Céline Remy 27:28
their door to that’s

Kevin Anthony 27:30
exactly it, right. So if you go to a sex toy store, the people that are working there didn’t just pop in on a whim, they work at a sex toy store. And they actually generally love it. Every time I’ve ever been to a sex toy store. They’re so happy. They want to show you every model and everything and like, it’s it totally makes their day. So. And if you see somebody else in a sex toy store,

Kevin Anthony 27:54
Yes, totally normal, their sex toy stores everywhere. They wouldn’t be everywhere if people weren’t going to them all the time. And if you see somebody there, that’s there is a sex toy story, too.

Céline Remy 28:05
And you know, I’d say like, do those things that scare you a little bit that is outside of your comfort zone, like the sex story, the flashlight, because this is how you become comfortable is learning to be comfortable in the uncomfortable. So you’re like, wow, the first time you go to a sex toy store is like, Wow, my heart is racing a little bit. And then you normalize that.

Céline Remy 28:28
And same when you go to a nude beach or anything like this, that’s a little bit edgy. Give yourself permission to what you want, and not judged it. And then do it. Do it in a way that is playful, that is joyful, that feels good for you. Because the only way to get over it is fruit. And you just have to do what basically

Kevin Anthony 28:56
Yeah, just you know, everybody always thinks that their thing is so rare or different or weird, or whatever it is. And it’s not. It is not, I can guarantee you at any given moment during the day that somewhere in this country, there’s somebody sitting in their car outside of a sex toy store, afraid to go in. It’s totally normal. That happens all the time.

Kevin Anthony 29:19
So just realize that that, you know, the things that you’re afraid of that you think maybe are weird or strange aren’t really and lots of people struggle with them. And that’s okay. And the best way to get over it is to just do it.

Céline Remy 29:32
Let’s talk about exactly.

Kevin Anthony 29:35
Now let’s adjust the porn piece of it. We’ve done whole episodes on port multiple episodes on porn. We’ve interviewed porn stars on the show. By the way, I still want to interview a female porn star. So if anybody knows of one that would like to come on and talk about the female perspective, I would love to have that on the show. But it’s just talking about porn, first of all, go go back and find those episodes, because there’s tons of good information in there way deeper than we have time to go into in the show.

Kevin Anthony 30:07
Second of all, I would just say that it’s totally fine and totally normal to watch porn, it’s fine to have your favorite stars that you like, and maybe you tend to watch that particular person over somebody else, you know, just like you have different things that you’re attracted to in real life, you’re gonna have different things that you’re attracted to in porn movies, in general, it’s not a problem.

Kevin Anthony 30:28
As long as it’s not abused and overused and starting to lead to sexual problems like premature ejaculation or even inability to get turned on and get interaction in real life when there’s an actual person. So there are some potential problems, just don’t get caught there

Céline Remy 30:45
technically, go without porn for a week. And if you struggle, and it was really hard, then you have a problem, you should be able to just go with audits and be okay. And sometimes use it sometimes not, you should also be able to masturbate without it, not just depend on it every single time. So if you only do it one way, and if you don’t have it that way, then it’s impacting you, then you’ve gone too far with it. And you need to adjust that.

Céline Remy 31:12
And that’s something that by the way, we can help you you can work privately with us. We do that all the time. And then, you know, how much is too much? You know, like, are you spending six hours of your day? Is it basically the other question I want to say is like, do you wake up every morning, filled with like, energy, desire to climb mountains and get after your goals? You get shit done? Do you like making things happen? Or are you using porn as a distraction, and you’re living a mediocre life.

Céline Remy 31:51
And so if you are not using if you are having a mediocre life, not going for your goals, not having motivation, then it’s been impacting you way too much. If you feel like you’re thriving, and you’re happy, and you’re still watching porn, no problem.

Kevin Anthony 32:04
Yeah, I always kind of felt like, like porn was that thing, every once in a while when you were bored, like, you know, if I were single, or, or just dating somebody, and they weren’t available, and that was just like, happened to be a Friday night and I was home by myself. Maybe I’ll watch a little porn, but you shouldn’t be waking up in the morning going, Oh, I can’t wait to watch that porn every day. know if it happens once in a while.

Kevin Anthony 32:27
Okay, that, but that’s kind of how I see healthy porn you so they get every once in a while you’re in the mood, hey, and do something different. It’s kind of like us with movies, right? Like we don’t, we don’t tend to watch a lot of movies or tv or anything. But every once in a while we go, Hey, you know what we’d really like to watch a movie. And so we do. I think that’s more of a healthy example of it.

Céline Remy 32:48
And then really remember that porn is entertainment and not education. So don’t watch porn to learn about women or learn about becoming a better lover, because it’s really not going to teach you the proper things.

Kevin Anthony 33:01
If you want to learn from it, and Matthew, please go to power mastery.com. That’s how you’re going to learn how to be good in bed.

Céline Remy 33:10
Yes, and not from porn. But if you use porn for entertainment sometimes and you don’t need it all the time, then you’re good. And it’s okay to have some preferences. So that your habits, we really love having your questions and appreciate any time that you send us questions. We may not always be able to answer everyone. But we do our best to really address your questions and give you some good advice.

Céline Remy 33:37
So feel free to email us anytime we have the link to our email in the description or if you’re on the site, there’s a contact form where you can do it directly from there. So we love when you contact us and share your questions. And we hope that today was helpful and inspiring.

Kevin Anthony 33:54
Absolutely. You know, when you get your answer your question answered, and everybody else gets to benefit from it. Right. So you’re sharing, you’re helping to facilitate the sharing of information around the world. Wow.

Céline Remy 34:10
great pleasure. Wow, how kinky

Kevin Anthony 34:15
Alright, everybody, that’s all the time we have for this episode. And we will see you next week. We hope you liked this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe. leave us a review and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 34:32
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Kevin Anthony 34:46
Thanks for listening.

Céline Remy 34:48
And remember, you’re amazing