Listener Questions Answered: How To Talk To Women, Large Penis Issues & Attracting The Opposite Sex

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All right, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 299. Only one episode away from 300. I am excited about that. Today’s episode is titled listener questions answered. So I have not done a listener questions answered episode in a long time. And, you know, I always love doing these episodes, and we get questions. I just have not been very good over the last year and a half in keeping track of the questions that are coming in. Céline used to do a great job at that she would take them all and put them into a spreadsheet and then keep track of which ones we answered on the show and which ones we didn’t. I haven’t been particularly great at keeping track of that. It’s one of the few things that have kind of slipped by the wayside as I’ve been spending the last year and a half getting a handle on running all of this by myself. Celine was such a huge part of everything that we did, she wasn’t just a pretty face, or even just, you know, the coach who showed up for, you know, the sessions, she did a lot of back and work as well.

And, yeah, it’s been a bit a little bit of an effort to try and you get all the pieces together in a way that is sustainable for me to do. But I’m getting better all the time. And I’ve pretty much got it all running like a smooth machine at this point. And one of the things is getting back on the listener questions, everybody seems to like the listener questions answered episodes, they’ve done well, in the past, I have done one or two in the last year and a half. But we used to do them a bit more frequently. So that’s what we’re going to do. I got a whole bunch of listener questions more than I can actually answer probably in this one episode. But I’m gonna do my best to get through them, as many of them as I can, while still giving good answers without just kind of blowing past them.

Now, I will say also, that for every one of these questions I have personally replied to when people emailed I do my best to try to personally reply to people when they send emails and they ask questions. You know, if I didn’t, I may have missed it in the massive amounts of emails that come in, but I do my best to try to get back to everybody. So I have personally replied to people, however, there still may be some things in here, if you’re listening, and you’re like, oh, yeah, you’ve already replied to that. There may be some new pieces in here. So you might want to listen anyway. And I always think that you know, if somebody emails me about a particular issue, I know that there are a lot more people out there who are experiencing the same or similar issues. And so sharing this is a great way to help other people who are experiencing the same types of issues.

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All right, here we go. Question now. Number one, can you go over some conversation starters and conversation continuity with mild and moderate just wanted to get to know you girl kind of talking. So this came in response to a YouTube video that Selena and I did quite a while ago actually where we were giving some examples of like sort of dirty talk, you know things to turn each other on. And so this is a recent comment that came up. So even though the video was done a while ago, this is a recent question that somebody asked in response to that video. So, I’m going to talk about some different ways that you can start conversations with a woman. And what I did was in researching this, I went out and you know, there are tons of lists out there on, you know, how to talk to girls, or how to talk to women, or how to start a conversation. And, you know, most of them have pretty much the same types of suggestions. And I went through them, some of them I think, are great. And some of them, I thought were really terrible, and you should never do. So I went out and picked the ones that I thought were good.

And I’m going to give you a short list of them here. So the very first one is to simply ask a woman “do I make you horny?”. Okay, no, don’t do that. Do not approach a woman and ask her if you make her horny. Definitely not. But you know, we got to throw a little humor in there. Thank you, Austin for that. All right, no, but the first thing on the list is compliment her. Women love to be complimented. Of course, the compliments should be sincere. And you know, I would say just be cautious. Like, yeah, it’s sincere when I walked up to her and I said, Wow, you have the most beautiful boobs I’ve ever seen. Probably not the best compliment to start with when you’re trying to start a conversation with a woman that you don’t know. But find something else. It could be what she’s wearing, it could be her hair. It could be her eyes.

It could be you know, something that she’s doing in the moment. That was maybe impressive or something like that, but find a way to pay her a nice, sincere compliment number to refer to something in common that connects the two of you. So let’s say you’re maybe at a particular place, I don’t know, I’m gonna make this up. It’s gonna sound really dumb. But it’s the first thing that popped into my mind, even though it doesn’t really have any relevance at all today. But like, let’s say you’re both out and a bowling alley. I know the most ridiculous example ever. But obviously, you must both have some sort of interest in bowling or at least friends or family members who have an interest who brought you along, right? You get the idea. If you’re out and about and you’re doing something, maybe here’s a better example, you run into them at a concert, and you both share a like for the band or person that you are seeing here in this concert. So you know, make a comment that has something to do with that. And that’s it’s a way of establishing rapport. It’s a way of you know, obviously breaking the ice.

But it’s like an easy conversation starter. It’s not. It’s not challenging in any way. It’s not edgy, it’s just a way to start a conversation that should be really easy. No brainer. Similar to that yet different is to ask about her interests. So you know, let’s go back to the you’re at a concert scenario. And you can simply say, oh, you know, is this the kind of music that you really like? Do you see artists in this genre frequently, right? That’s something that you could do is ask about her interest that opens the door to her talking more about, you know, what she likes and who she is. You know, I did an episode on this podcast not too long ago called 12. Questions for love. And we talked about how to really form great questions. And one of the things that we talked about in that was to not make questions binary. So yes or no. So in other words, if we go back to our concert scenario, don’t just say do you like this band?

That’s a yes or no question. She might just say yep. And then not say another word. Now you’re in a really awkward position of like. Now, where do I go, right? Whereas if you did something like, Hey, you know, I really love you know, let’s say you’re at a good blues concert. I really love blues music, and, you know, do you have you seen other, you know, artists in this genre that you really like? You know, and that gives her an opportunity to be like, Yes, I like it. No, I don’t here’s who I’ve seen, you know, or maybe my preference is this other genre? Like, oh, you know, yeah, like blues, it’s pretty good. But really, I’m more of a, I don’t know, rock and roll person and say, Oh, that’s interesting. Well, you know, who are your favorite rock and roll, you know, bands or whatever, you can see that it gives you an opportunity to have more conversation, if you ask about her, give her an opportunity to talk about herself and make sure that those questions aren’t binary.

Next, be chivalrous, this is another great way to start a conversation, which is interesting because you don’t really see this much these days, you don’t see men opening the door for women, or, you know, giving them their jackets, or, you know, going back to our concert scenario, maybe she can’t see. So because they are all tall people, and maybe you put her in front of you where it’s easier for her to see. Maybe help her through the crowd a little bit. You know, that kind of stuff. You know, there’s been so much backlash in our society, about, you know, toxic masculinity, and you know, all this stuff, but in that, it’s a shame that we have actually lost some of the really beautiful things about, you know, interactions between men and women. And this idea of chivalry is one of them that I think is largely been lost, we’ve tried so hard to even the playing field, and make everybody you know, exactly equal, that we’ve lost that. And the reality is, is that my personal experience and this is not just with Céline, but more recently, with other women too, is that when you do things like that, for them, even you know, the ones that consider themselves, really independent, strong women, you know, feminist type of women, well, maybe not the hardcore feminist.

But you know, just regular women who consider themselves, you no more in that camp, they actually do appreciate it and like it when you do those things for them. So that could be a great way to sort of break the ice and start a conversation as well. The next one on the list, asked for her suggestion. So maybe you’re at a restaurant or a bar or something like that. It’s a very common place for people to go to meet other people. You might ask her, hey, you know, have you been here before? And if so, what do you recommend on the menu, just, you know, asking for suggestions, or, you know, really any type of suggestion, but then you can build off of that, and establish more of a conversation. And then the last one, a comment on something going on around you. So seeing what’s happening, architecture, you know, whatever it is. So those are some examples of ways that you can easily start a conversation. These are things that will not cause women to necessarily put up their guard immediately. They’re pretty easy entry points for conversation.

And as always, you know, don’t be creepy. That’s like, I think an obvious one, but don’t be creepy. Don’t be pouring your sexual energy all over them. I don’t care how desperate you are. I don’t care how long it’s been since you’ve had sex. Like, don’t be like pushing, just, you know, projecting all of that sexual energy on her, you know, keep that contains to yourself. Be polite, be genuine. Right? So do all of those things and you will help her feel safe, you will help her lower her guard and you will invite and allow her to lean in a little bit and open up a bit about herself. So those are some ways that you can start a conversation. And you know, the question was, you know, go over some conversation starters and conversation continuity. I didn’t really talk so much about the continuity. part but the the continuity part is in how you ask the questions and leave it open so that the conversation can continue. So rather than just no short, you know, binary yes, no type questions, keeping those questions more open will allow that continuity to continue.

All right. All right. The second listener question is, I would like to see you do a segment on how to solve the issue of trying to have pleasurable sex when your partner has a large COC and you have a small vaginal opening. I have seen many posts from both men and women asking for help with this issue because it can make trying to have intercourse very painful. And unfortunately, most lubricants missed the mark. Okay, Celine and I did do a video on this quite a while back, it was five tips for men with a large penis or something like that, going to give you those five. But I’m also going to give you a couple of extra things here. That was not in that original video, that original video was really aimed at men and what men with large penises can do. But I’m going to add a few things to specifically for the ladies and what they can do.

So let’s start with number one, you have to make sure that she is fully engorged, fully turned on, and lubricated before penetration. So if you have an abnormally large penis, it’s going to take more time, you’re going to have to invest more time in the foreplay because she’s going to need to open more, she’s going to need to be able to relax more, so that she can open more, she’s going to need to be able to expand more. And so you have to be aware of that. You can’t just do you know, five minutes of foreplay, or no foreplay at all, or whatever, and expect to just like slap some lube in there, you know, and, you know, penetrate her with this huge penis that you have, it’s just not going to work. So make sure that she is really turned on before you even attempt any type of penetration. So that’s probably going to mean that you’re going to need extra foreplay.

Number two, I mean, use lube for sure. Now, hopefully, if you’re doing a good job with the foreplay, she will be well lubricated already, you know, as, as another prominent sex coach in the industry says, you know, a well thought well turned on woman needs no additional lube. I do tend to agree with that. That has been my experience. You know, even Celine when we first got together, used to say that, you know, she had a problem lubricating. And, you know, she needed to use lube. And I found that with us, that was not the case at all, she lubricated, just fine and a lot and we never needed lube, it just took the right relationship and the right person. So, in general, that’s true. However, you know, you might maybe need a little bit of extra, especially on the outside, if you haven’t done a good job of getting the internal lubrication all around the inner labia and outer labia to make everything really smooth. Use some extra lube, there’s nothing wrong with that at all.

And number three, you need to do a really slow and gradual entry. You see this in porn movies all the time, these guys with these enormous penises? Just jam it right in there. And it seems to just slide right in and you’re like, how come that’s not working for me? Or how come she tenses up? Or how come, you know, she complains when I do that? Because those are movies. And just like any other movie, they’re not real. In other words, they have had fluffers, so tons of warm-up. And they’ve already pre-lubed with, you know, extra lubrication, not just her natural lubrication.

And they do unfortunately in the porn industry use drugs and things to relax the muscles. So there’s a lot of tricks that go on there to make it look like you can just do that. But the reality is you can’t. So if you have an abnormally large penis, and or she has a smaller vagina, then you need to start with just a little bit of penetration. And maybe you’ve got just the tip and you’re just slowly moving the tip In and out, right, and then maybe you can go just a little bit deeper while watching her reaction to it the entire time and making sure that she’s not uncomfortable. And it’s not painful for her. But the slow and gradual entry is very important.

Number four, find positions that change the depth of penetration. So some positions will allow for a deeper penetration than others. So let’s say she’s on top, that’s going to be a really deep penetration. And that might be too much for her if you really are that long in size. But others like a side position, or potentially a doggy-style position, are positions that will limit to some extent, the depth of the penetration. So that can make it easier for her. And then number five on the list is similar, which is to use what’s called an ohnut. And so what is that exactly? Well, that is a ring, but it’s a thick ring, or sometimes a series of different rings so that you can adjust just how big or how small, the amount of length you are sort of taking up. But what that does is if you haven’t, or if you have a really long penis, and you have a woman whose the length of the vagina is shorter, then often what happens is he ends up you know, hitting the cervix, and he’s not all the way penetrating.

And so if he tries to penetrate all the way, you know, and get those pubic bones touching, which is also a very pleasurable experience, especially when your pubic bone tends to rub up nicely against her clitoris. It’s just too much for her to handle. So one of the big frustrations for men with larger penises is that they can’t really get full penetration. So something like a penis donut is something that you can slide over that allows you to then get you know, really press up against that pubic bone to pubic bone, sort of, you know, there’s a doughnut in between. But it allows you to really get that without bottoming out and causing her any pain or discomfort. It also allows you you know, if you really want to sort of pound so to speak, like really, like, you know, when you’re thrusting really like make contact with some women really like allows you to do that, which you know, if you’re bottoming out, you simply cannot do. If you go to KevinandCéline.com/products, there is a link in there to a company called Ohnut. Ohnut is a company that makes these penis donuts. So if you’re listening, and you’re like, I need one of those, go check that out KevinandCéline.com/products. There is a link in the description for our products every week in the show. That’s where you can find it and it’s called Onut.

Okay, number six. So those are things that the man can do, right? So the man can make sure that he does a really good job with foreplay and penetration. So before penetration, he can use extra glue, but he can go really slow and gradual when entering, he can change the position to minimize the depth of the penetration. He can use a penis donut, and so those are all things that he can do to make it easier for her to be able to take in a very large penis and have it be enjoyable. But I want to talk about two things in particular that maybe women can do. So what are the things that this particular listener slash viewer said, was that she had a small vaginal opening. Now I have no doubt whatsoever that vaginal openings come in a wide range of sizes. And in their default position, some will be smaller, some will be bigger. There’s no doubt about that. So I just want you to know I’m not questioning that at all. But what I will say is that vaginas have the ability to expand, think about this, they can expand big enough to birth a child. Now I know what you’re saying. There are chemicals produced during labor that allow that to happen. Yes, that is true. Those chemicals also work on other parts of the body, there are also changes to the bone structure in the pelvis to allow that to happen, that are, you know, chemically induced naturally like part of the body’s process of birthing a child.

But I will say this also is that if you really relax your vagina, if you feel really safe, and really turned on, and really focus on relaxing your vagina and allowing it to expand, it should be able to expand large enough to accept pretty much any size penis, I mean, there are penises. And then there are really big penises, but even the really big ones. They’re not that much bigger. I mean, yes, they can be obviously they can be longer, they can be thicker, but what I’m saying is, they’re not so big, that your average vagina can’t expand enough to receive them. My guess is if you’re having difficulty expanding enough to receive them, there’s something else in the way, part of it could simply be the anxiety of oh, this is going to hurt that’s causing you to tense a little bit. Part of it could be maybe you don’t feel really safe with that particular partner. But I would say that if you are a woman, and you’re feeling like you just can’t expand big enough, I would say okay, what is going on what is in the way, what is preventing you from really relaxing into the full expansion that is possible with your vagina.

And that could be lots of things, there could be trauma, stuff that has nothing to do with that relationship whatsoever. It could be, you know, past experiences with large penises could be you don’t feel particularly safe with that particular partner. But I would, I would suggest that you take some time to really go through the inquiry and figure out, you know, where is it that I’m sort of holding back? Where is it that I’m holding tension? You know, how could I potentially expand more into this experience? And I think if you can do that successfully, you’ll be pleasantly surprised with the expansion you get, and how much better the sex will feel. And lastly, I would say, if you’ve done all of these things, you know if he’s doing all those things, if you’ve done your inquiries, and you’ve opened as best as you can, and it’s still too much, then you may really just need to find other ways to get your needs met, then just penetration.

And I know, like the big issue often is is like, you know, women, they sort of yearn to be penetrated, they want to feel filled by you, you know, and that is if they, you know, are turned on by you attracted to you want you. And if it’s painful, if it’s uncomfortable, if it’s you know, just not working, then they’re never going to get to their orgasm. And that’s going to feel disappointing. So that’s where you may need to look for other ways to be able to get to your orgasm. That might mean using toys like wands, potentially vibrators, it might be oral sex, it might be, you know, he learns to master the use of his fingers, or his tongue, or other ways to get you, you know, to these beautiful, you know, just earth-shaking, multi-orgasmic bliss that you are capable of having. So, do all of those things. And, you know, if at the end of the day, you still can’t quite get there, find some other ways to do it.

So there you go. Those are some ways to deal with, you know, a partner who has a very large penis, and they’re out there, they’re definitely out there. It’s really up to you whether or not you want to be in a relationship with somebody who has an abnormally large penis. You know, it’s kind of funny because, you know, from the man’s perspective, you know, guys are always like, you know, I want the biggest penis I can have and there’s constant discussion about how How to Make the penis bigger and all this kind of stuff. But the guys who actually have really large penises will be the first ones to tell you, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. And it comes with some limitations, some limitations that are not just limitations for her, but for him as well. So be careful what you ask for. As always, you wouldn’t want a particularly small penis necessarily, or a particularly large one, you know, something that’s perfectly in the middle that satisfies both of you is probably the best. And at the same time, we don’t have any choice over what we’re born with. And if we’re born with a small penis, we can’t really make it bigger. I’ve done whole shows on that. So you learn to make the best out of what you have. And the same thing with a large penis, if you have an abnormally large penis, you can’t make it smaller. So you learn to make the best use of it, you can.

All right, we are halfway through the show, we’ve only covered two of the questions. That’s kind of exactly where I expected to be at this point in the show. So we’ll probably get through two more, I’m guessing. Yeah, and that’ll leave three more after that. But I can always do a follow-up episode for any of the questions that I don’t get in this episode. But it does mean that we’re halfway through and it’s time for a break for the second sponsor.

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All right, that takes us to question number three. My greatest challenge is that I’m not very good at attracting the opposite sex. Do you have any tips? Okay, how to attract the opposite sex. We’re gonna start talking about this sort of generically for both men and women. I will say it’s generally easier for women to attract the other sex. But I do hear that sometimes from women that you know, have challenges in this area as well. So we’re going to talk a little bit generically. And then of course, there’ll be a few things that are specific. Number one, know what kind of woman or man you want to attract. Okay, this is this is really important. And it sounds so simple, like, yeah, duh, of course. But the reality is, if you want to attract somebody, you have to know what it is they’re attracted to. And you can’t know what it is they’re attracted to. Unless you know, what the type of person is you’re looking for. And, you know, I could give many, many examples of that.

But let’s say the type of woman that you are looking to attract is, you know, a very athletic woman. Well, obviously, a very athletic woman is probably going to be attracted to a man who’s also athletic. Right, but what if you’re not that guy? What if you’re more or kind of like a round couch potato who doesn’t really exercise or do anything, there’s probably going to be a disconnect there, right? So if you’re, if you are, you know, that sort of rounds out of shape, you know, I don’t exercise guy. All right, that’s a whole other issue, there’s a lot we could talk about when it comes to that, you know, self-esteem issues or whatever. But the point is, if you’re, you know, watching your favorite movie, or a TV show, or you’re on the dating sites, and you are looking at all of these, you know, super fit, you know, with ripped abs women, you know, the likelihood of her being attracted to somebody who’s not into health and fitness, is kind of low, not impossible, but low. And so knowing what kind of woman you are looking for, will give you clues as to what it is she’s attracted to, and what it is you would need to do. So if you’re attracted to women who are really super fit, then you would know that, okay, you know, I need to get fit myself. Or, you know, I should develop an interest in, you know, working out or fitness or something like that.

Assuming, of course, that it’s something that you know, you actually are interested in, and something you actually want to do for yourself as well, not just for somebody else, because if you’re doing it just to get the woman, what will likely happen is you’ll get the woman but you won’t stick with it, you’ll revert back and then you know, she’ll end up being disinterested and unhappy. So number one is to know what kind of woman or man you are attracted to, that gives you a clue as to what they would be attracted to. So once you know who that man or woman is, then the next question is what kind of man or woman does this person normally date? I was just kind of talked about that a little bit a minute ago. But you know, okay, here’s the type of woman I want to attract. She meets this requirement, this one, this one, this one and this one. Okay. Well, what kind of a man with that type of woman be attracted to? I mean, that’s a valid question, right? Well, the way that you can answer that question is to look at women who meet your criteria and who are in a relationship with men, and just see what kind of men they date. And that gives you an idea of, you know, what it is, they would be attracted to.

So both of those things, number one, and number two, are giving you information that you can then use to do number three on the list. Number three on the list is how can you become that man or woman yourself. So going back to our fitness example, if you are irresistibly attracted to, you know, really fit women? How can you become the man that she would be interested in? You know, what can you do to get there? No, of course, inevitably, there’s going to be a bunch of people who comment on this and say, just have a big wallet, or just have a strong wallet, or they do something like that, meaning that all you need is money. That really is not true. Yes, some women are superficially attracted to money, but those don’t tend to be very deep, very loving, or long-lasting relationships. If you are looking for a deep loving and long-lasting relationship, you’re going to need more than just money. The idea here is though, you want to become the man or woman that this person would be attracted to, to like, give you another example. But I’ll flip it around the other way from the perspective of the woman. Let’s say you see a man he is a successful man in his own right, maybe wealthy, maybe not. But he knows what he wants. He goes out and he gets it. He’s very much in his masculine energy, but also in his masculine energy, say in a healthy way, not sort of an old school, macho asshole masculine.

What kind of a woman does that man want to be with? Well, this is a hypothetical situation, but most likely, he does not want to be with a hardcore feminist woman who’s going to constantly challenge him and butt heads with him. Most likely what that type of man is looking for is a woman who is really more in her feminine who approaches life and the relationship With a very feminine energy, a softer energy, she knows how to be powerful, but from a feminine place, not a masculine place. And that’s just one example of the things that this type of man might be looking for. But again, if you’re a woman, and you’re looking at like, that’s the kind of guy that I want to be with, then you got to look at yourself and go, am I the type of woman that that kind of guy would want to be with long term? And be really honest? And if you’re like, Huh, that’s, that’s not it? Well, then the next question is, is how badly do you want to be with that type of man?

And if you really do, then how can you become that type of woman? A few pointers on doing these things that we’ve talked about thus far. Number one, be yourself. Super important to just always be yourself. If you are putting on any sort of a facade or a pretense, you won’t be able to keep that up long term, eventually, people will see through it, and they will not be attracted. And worse than that, they might actually be angry with you, when they find out that you are just playing this role in order to try to get the girl or get the man. So always be yourself, it is the most sustainable and easiest thing to do. Now, if you say to yourself, well, I don’t want to be myself, because myself is not the type of person that could get that man or woman, then I strongly suggest that you do the interpersonal work to change yourself and become the person who when they are their natural selves is the person that they would be attracted to and want. Next is to have confidence, you have to have confidence.

This is especially true for men. Women are looking for a man who is confident without a doubt hands down, women love men who are confident. So if you are not showing up with confidence, then it’s not going to be very attractive, and worse yet, if you’re so you know, you can, you can show up as being very confident, you can be kind of somewhere in the middle, or you can show up as really lacking confidence. If you’re really in the lacking confidence place, that’s gonna be really unattractive to most women. So you definitely need to work on your confidence in that case, and you know, and if you’re in the sort of medium sort of middle ground, I would say at least bump it up a notch or two, into the slightly more confident area. And you know, that’s probably going to take some inner work to because you can’t really fake confidence, at least not for a long period of time. So you’re gonna have to do some work to figure out how you can show up as a confident person. And I would say that for women confidence is important. Also, it just shows up in a different way. You know, I would say that for women.

You know, an idea I have is like, how can a woman show up with confidence without being overly in her masculine? I would say one way is to have confidence that her femininity will actually land the man. And that is something I think that a lot of women struggle with, you know if there’s somebody that they really want to date, they start going sort of into the masculine mode of forcing it, how can I make this happen? Right. And I just don’t think that is a woman’s biggest strength that forces and makes things happen. I think that if a woman simply has enough confidence in who she is, and her value, as a woman, as a really high-value woman, and knows that her more feminine approach will actually work. I think that goes a long way. And I see that as a form of confidence as well. And lastly, don’t be afraid to fail. And that’s really important. Just don’t be afraid to fail. You know, when it comes to attracting the opposite sex, it’s going to require you to do a lot of interpersonal work. It’s going to require you to put yourself out there it’s going to require you to fail at times.

And you’ve just got to be okay with that. You know, the despair Usually these days, it’s like, there’s so much pressure on us to do everything perfectly. And that’s because what we see projected in our media, whether it’s movies, TV shows, you know, magazines, whatever it is, is, you know, perfection all the time. Now, the reality is, is that perfection rarely ever exists, if at all, it just looks like perfection, because we are airbrushing everything, you know, putting a facade basically on everything. But the perfection doesn’t really exist. So I think it’s important to just have perspective and realize that you’re not perfect, nobody else is perfect. You’re going to make mistakes, you will fail from time to time, and that’s okay. You just put yourself out there, and you do it anyway. So, yeah, just don’t, don’t be afraid to fail. So there you go. Those are some ways that I think you can attract the opposite sex. You know, what kind of man or woman you want to attract, know what kind of man or woman this person would normally date or be with how you can, you know, figure out how you can become that man, be yourself have confidence, don’t be afraid to fail.

Obviously, there’s a bunch of other smaller things in there, like, you know, dress nicely, groom yourself, take care of yourself, you know, show up, you know, as if you’re a man, a masculine man or woman, a feminine woman, assuming of course, you will want to date the opposite sex and half polarity. You know, though, there’s lots of those little things that are important also. But the sort of bigger picture is what we have talked about so far. All right, well, I don’t have time in this episode to get into the next question. And I have really three more on the list for more on the list. So I will have to do a part two to this listener questions, answered episode. But I hope that you found that helpful. I hope that you enjoyed it and also found it entertaining. And please, by all means, send me more questions, email at Kevin and Céline dot com. You could potentially also send it to support at the Love Lab Podcast. And yeah, ask me questions. I love answering listener-viewer questions. It’s really actually a lot of fun for me. And I know that it helps directly. I mean, I love doing topics that I choose and having guests on and all that because I know there are people out there that are interested in those. But I always love doing these shows too, because I know that there’s somebody specifically out there that wants to know the answer to this. So happy to do that. And, yeah, reach out through one of those emails and send me your questions. All right, everybody. That’s all the time I have for this episode. And I will see you next week.

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