How To Make a Woman Weak At The Knees And Crave You

Kevin Anthony 0:11
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Céline Remy 0:20
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Kevin Anthony 0:28
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 108. And it’s titled How to make a woman weak at the knees and crave you. Oh, yeah. So you know, this is funny because we’ve all heard the term weak at the knees. And I’m not sure. So everybody understands what that really means. So I got the definition and then when I was researching the definition, I had this other idea in my mind that I want to share.

Kevin Anthony 0:55
So first the definition, we get the knees affected by a strong emotional reaction to someone or something in this usage, the reaction is usually positive and associated with romance. So that’s kind of where the term weak at the knees comes in. But then I had this other thought. And I’ll explain why this is relevant after I tell you what it is. There used to be this old saying or thing. I don’t know if they ever actually did it, but used to be this idea that a woman should hold an aspirin between her knees.

Kevin Anthony 1:32
And the point behind that was if she was squeezing her legs together to hold that aspirin, and she couldn’t spread her legs for any sexual activity. So what we did in this show is we kind of broke down the tips into before the bedroom and then in the bedroom. And so not only are you going to make her weak at the knees, in a sense that she’s going to wants to have sex with you. You’re going to Her weak at the knees so she actually spreads her legs.

Céline Remy 2:03
Alright. Well, that seems pretty juicy.

Céline Remy 2:09
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Céline Remy 2:31
So I’m loving today’s subject and topic for this show. And really, it could boil down to one word, which is presence is that’s it, we’ve given you the punchline. That’s the end of the show.

Kevin Anthony 2:47
All right. Bye, everybody. We know a great episode.

Céline Remy 2:50
If you’ve been tuning into the love lab, and you listen to the last week’s episode, we started talking about presence and that’s when Kevin was like, oh, While we should do an episode that’s dedicated solely on that around this subject, and while everybody understand some of the concepts of what presence is, it’s still something that is hard to grasp.

Céline Remy 3:15
And while it’s one word, it can show up in many ways and for different actions, and this is why we’ve broken it down in multiple ways that it could look like and show up so that you can start to practice more of this in your daily life.

Kevin Anthony 3:33
I have a question for you. Yeah, sure. Are you weak in the knees yet?

Céline Remy 3:38
Well, I’m just about to get there. If you keep talking to me like this. The way you looked at me there… Actually my nipples are getting hard.

Kevin Anthony 3:49
Alright, so here’s the thing. Yeah, yes, one-word presence, and it’s a very powerful thing. And I know a lot of people in their presence like whatever dude like, let’s just get on They’re like, how can I make her calm? How can I make her squirt out? Can I make or whatever you know. But the key to all of that really isn’t physical technique, like do the triple tongue twist, blah, blah, blah, flick this push this button thing.

Kevin Anthony 4:13
It really is with a woman it is presence. So we’re going to break that down into what we really mean like, it’s gonna get a really granular level of all the different ways in which you can increase that which will indeed, make her weak in the knees.

Céline Remy 4:29
So it all starts with you. Now you can be caring all the time about what she’s thinking about what she thinks about you, is she going to approve, like when you are in that state, you’re usually not putting yourself into a strong, attractive mindset. And so it starts with loving yourself first. There was this expression that I read the other day and it was really about you can’t feel like a beggar inside and then go For the gold, because you’re not matching the vibration, right?

Céline Remy 5:04
So if you like Céline, that sounds all good, but I feel insecure. There’s nothing that you can do unless you change how you feel about yourself. Because you’re just gonna put some icing over something that’s not really solid underneath. And as soon as there’s a little bit of heat, everything melts and it shows the ugly thing that was underneath. And being insecure will often lead men to go towards things like the poor community where they do like all of these like attraction things for women like you know, the whole dating scene of like attracting women and kind of like manipulating them

Kevin Anthony 5:49
pickup artists community. Exactly,

Céline Remy 5:51
yes, that’s what PUA stands for. And so, and let me be clear, there’s nothing achier than a guy who’s a pickup artist, it might seem like it’s working. But those who are pickup artists know that it only works to kind of like score maybe for one night, maybe if you’re lucky, but you’re not somebody who, who’s like can keep women they don’t work long term they don’t. And I’ve had more than one client who came from that world and was like, Okay, this didn’t really work. How can I learn? What can I do because you’re trying to compensate for something that you feeling inside?

Kevin Anthony 6:27
Well, yeah, it’s like, it’s like pretending to be a major league athlete, right? Like, you got the uniform, you got the equipment, you’ve got the looks, you know all the terms. But when it’s time to actually get out on the field, you ain’t got nothing, right? So it’s kind of the same thing. You can’t keep up that lie for very long. Eventually, they’re gonna figure out you’re just a pickup artist.

Céline Remy 6:51
I wanted to for a man and I’m gonna put you there in the spotlight given does it put a lot of pressure when are you hearing that? Hey, you got to feel good about yourself. Or confident like if there are areas where you insecure, you’ve got to address that. Is it putting a lot of pressure saying that guys have to be tough no matter what?

Kevin Anthony 7:09
Well, I don’t think we’re saying that guys have to be tough no matter what we’re just saying that they have to be confident in who they are. Hmm. So it doesn’t mean that they necessarily have to put on a hard exterior. It doesn’t mean that they have to be a manly man who’s out doing physical labor. Or that they have to feel confident in a fistfight. It just means they have to feel confident in whoever they are.

Kevin Anthony 7:36
And if they are, you know, I don’t know, a small skinny little bookworm. But a smart one who really knows his stuff and is extremely competent in his field, then that’s fine. Right? So it’s just you have to be confident in whoever you are. And the thing is, is that every woman is going to be attracted to a certain type of man. Right. So if you are the skinny little bookworm, there’s women who love that as women who are going to be so fucking turned on by your mind.

Céline Remy 8:11
Mm-hmm.

Kevin Anthony 8:12
Right.

Céline Remy 8:12
Oh, yeah.

Kevin Anthony 8:13
So it’s really just about being confident and comfortable with who you are.

Céline Remy 8:18
So how would you tell to our listener? Like, how did you build your own confidence and like feeling good in your own skin? Kevin throughout the years?

Kevin Anthony 8:28
Well, that’s a great question.

Céline Remy 8:30
I am totally going off script here by the way.

Kevin Anthony 8:37
Well, it’s a great question, because for me, what it was is any place that I felt like, I didn’t have the confidence I should have. I just decided to tackle it and be like, okay, you know, so, at one point in my life when I was very young, I wasn’t in great shape. And, you know, well, yeah, I was very active as an athlete as a kid. Then later on in like the early, like late high school, early college years, there’s a lot of partying in there. And I kind of let things goes a bit.

Kevin Anthony 9:07
But I remember being a freshman in college and looking at myself in the mirror and going this is not how I want to look. Mm-hmm. And so it did something about it. I started going to the university gym. no fucking idea what I was doing. Really, uh-huh. But I just went anyway, I had some basic ideas. I met people there who taught me stuff and then completely changed the entire course of my physical life. And give lots of examples of things like that. I remember in my late 20s not feeling really confident being able to defend myself. Mm-hmm.

Kevin Anthony 9:47
And so I started taking martial arts classes. Mm-hmm. And it was really just about like, Hey, here’s this thing that I wish I could do better.

Céline Remy 9:57
Mm-hmm.

Kevin Anthony 9:59
What is it gonna take to do that? And things you don’t have to become Bruce fucking Lee. You know, that’s not the point, you know, but the point is, can you do enough of it to feel like, Okay, I got this or Okay, at least I conquered that fear or whatever it is, you know.

Céline Remy 10:20
So really what you’re saying is that it doesn’t matter what it is, number one, it’s about paying attention to be, where are you at? And then where would you like to be and taking action. That’s really what changing changes things. I think that’s where a lot of people get stuck.

Céline Remy 10:36
And especially men, they don’t want to show that they feel insecure or weaker in certain areas, and the driver like pretend it’s not there, but it will always be there. So this is great, great, great advice there. Kevin. If that’s you today, like take an action like make a commitment today to take your first step in whatever direction you want to be moving from.

Kevin Anthony 11:00
And here’s the thing I love. I love that this has gone completely off-script. But here’s the thing, one of the reasons why women really like that is because it tells a woman that if there’s something that’s not right, or there’s something that needs to happen, that you are willing and capable of doing it. Mm-hmm. And that makes you feel safe.

Céline Remy 11:26
Absolutely. And there’s something about a man who’s willing to pursue mastery in whatever area that is, that’s very sexy. And I think it’s also about a woman like, but today’s episode is really geared towards men. So we’re going to be specific with that. But when I see a man who is passionate if I couldn’t care less about what he’s passionate about, seeing that he’s investing time energy, and has an aliveness, about that, and that then he’s building confidence for himself about himself is super sexy.

Céline Remy 12:05
And I think that’s kind of what makes a difference with what we call the overly nice guy versus like a great guy. And that’s one of the other trap is the overly nice guy is going to do things to try to please her. Okay. And like he’s over doing it overextended and the woman feels that.

Kevin Anthony 12:28
Yeah. And maybe if we could define that a little bit better. It’s like, yes, you want to do things to police your woman, right? Yeah. But when you constantly do it at your own expense, then it becomes a problem. Then she starts realizing you don’t have a fucking backbone. Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 12:45
Yeah, there’s something that I wrote a little bit later here and there that I’ll put it in here. It’s there is an art for a man to being able to make a woman feel seen and important without losing herself in her. And if you’re able to do that you will not fall into the nice guy but you also will develop that confidence in you because it’s not sourced upon what she does towards you. It’s all about yourself. And so you women can be emotional or have ups and downs because we most of us have that every now and then.

Céline Remy 13:24
It won’t affect you the same because you really solid within yourself and that again comes back to that presence. And if we tie it to the word again of presence, being present with where you’re at, and being willing to be comfortable in the uncomfortable meaning if you see areas about yourself that you are not quite 100% liking, but being okay to be present with that and then take action. This is the essence of one way that presence can show up within your value like your character, your morals,

Kevin Anthony 14:00
Yeah, and you don’t necessarily have to have it all figured out. I think what’s more important is that she sees that you are willing to tackle these things when they come up. You know, so you don’t have to be the perfect representation of yourself right from the start. But she just needs to see that you’re willing to do what it takes?

Céline Remy 14:20
Absolutely, absolutely. And I think that in life, we have a choice, every step we take with either brings us closer to that goal and that vision of this higher version of ourselves or to stay the mediocre version that we are sometimes or worse. I think that most people are too afraid to take that step. Then you just get stuck on average, and you really want to move into that next level for yourself.

Kevin Anthony 14:48
Nobody wants to be mediocre now, and what’s interesting is sometimes we hear people say they do. That’s true. Sometimes they say they’re perfectly content being mediocre. But that’s usually coming from a place of fear.

Céline Remy 15:01
That’s true. And if

Kevin Anthony 15:02
they were really honest, they don’t really want to be mediocre. They’re just too afraid to try and not be. Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 15:11
So I love that you brought the fear idea here because I think another aspect for the masculine that will drive women weak in the knee is really about, it’s not about being totally fearless. But there is this and I think I’m linking it with confidence. But this ability to even if there’s fear, you will take action. That is so so, so sexy.

Céline Remy 15:39
And one way that it could show up also is in things that you do so, one of our neighbors, he is 81 years old. He’s been married for like 50 plus years to his wife, right? Or is it 60 I forgot a really long time. And one of the things that he’s always like he was watching us walk and he stopped us, Kevin, you gotta put her on the inside every time you walk because she needs to be protected by you.

Kevin Anthony 16:09
Oh, yeah, we’re gonna get Yeah, we’re gonna get into a lot of that. So, by the way, for those of you listening, just so you know, he and I had a little chat about the different theories about which side of the sidewalk the woman should be on this kind of stuff we talked about with our neighbors. His thought, which is one that’s been around for a long time, certainly in his generation, was that the man is on the outside.

Kevin Anthony 16:33
So if a car comes in splashes, he’s the one that gets splashed, or, you know, whatever, like she’s safer on the inside. And technically, he’s totally right on that. And at the same time, there’s this idea. Well, two other ideas. One is masculine and feminine energies, and how the man should technically always be on the right side.

Céline Remy 16:54
Yeah, this is good. I want to say that again. Where do you position yourself when you With your woman, make sure you put yourself on her, right? Because that’s like, I’m taking charge and I’m in the masculine pole of the relationship while she can be on the left on the feminine pole of the relationship,

Kevin Anthony 17:14
and yet there’s another reason. Mm-hmm. Because most people are right-handed. And the right hand is your sword hand or nowadays, maybe your concealed carry hand.

Céline Remy 17:28
Whatever you use to defend yourself,

Kevin Anthony 17:30
yeah, but that hand is free because if she’s on your right and you’re holding hands, then that arm isn’t free to actually protect and defend. So that’s, that’s the place I was coming from. I’m like, then I need my right hand. My right hand has to be available. So you know, one way to fix that is just cross didn’t go to the other side of the street so that she can still be on the right side.

Kevin Anthony 17:52
I can still have my right hand. Yes. But this was the whole debate that we have we even checked in with your dad who’s a shaman what did the shaman say? The energies and all this kind of stuff is a fascinating conversation Anyway, let’s not get too far out of it. Let’s dive a little deeper back into that word. presence and how that shows up. Cuz we just talked about one, right. So one of them was was that sort of idea of who you know what side of the sidewalk around but we have other things here on the list too.

Céline Remy 18:21
Yeah. So doing little small acts of chivalry like opening the door, holding her hand. And you’re like, how is that tying up to presence? Well, it means you are paying attention

Kevin Anthony 18:34
and to where she is what she needs, anticipating what she would need and showing up care and giving her that solid hand and making her life easier.

Céline Remy 18:39

I mean, we are perfectly capable to open our own doors, or get out of the car in and out but boy, isn’t it nice to just not have to touch the dirty like a handle or like have somebody to give you their hands and you can just go step out of the car. I mean, I love it, I love this. Absolutely.

Kevin Anthony 19:04
Yeah. Most women do that. I’m sure there will be some women listening to this going, Oh, fuck that shit. Right like I’m sure there are. And if you really touch base with yourself like deep down inside, most likely you’ll come to a place where you realize, yeah, I kinda like it. Where a lot of women decide that they don’t like it is that hole I don’t need it. Yes, we understand you don’t need it. That’s not the point. And the thing is, I think even another big point that you brought up is what it really demonstrates is that you’re paying attention and that’s actually what she really wants.

Céline Remy 19:42
Yes.

Kevin Anthony 19:42
She doesn’t really care about the door like yeah, maybe she doesn’t want to touch the dirty door handle at the same time. She’s like, whatever I touch the dirty door handle every day. I get in the car when he’s not around, right. But what it really says and shows is that he is paying attention he’s thinking about, oh, let me get that door because you’ve got this long flowy white skirt.

Kevin Anthony 20:00
And I don’t want you to get it dirty, right or something like that. Just those little things that show that you actually are thinking ahead about her and her needs. I want to add two things that I think will really charm women. One is about laughter So making her laugh, bringing in some humor into life because life

Céline Remy 20:20
is hard times life can be difficult, life can be heavy and being able to bring in the element of humor and playfulness will go a long time being able to laugh off the difficulties in life will bring you guys closer and just make life just easier. And so if you can make her laugh, then she knows that you can go through anything together through life, right? And that’s a really important thing.

Céline Remy 20:49
This is why sometimes you see some men and women will you like looking at them like what does she sees in him, but it really has to do with how she feels when she’s with him because He makes her laugh and he makes her feel beautiful. And that’s really what matters most and how he looks.

Kevin Anthony 21:07
Yeah. So all right, let’s be honest. Sometimes he’s got a big dick and he’s getting worse. Sometimes he’s just got a big wallet in his pocket.

Céline Remy 21:15
Except that the big humor,

Kevin Anthony 21:17
Excluding those two things. You’re absolutely right. It’s really about how he makes her feel.

Céline Remy 21:23
Yes,

Kevin Anthony 21:24
absolutely. That’s why you can often see really mismatched looking couples where you’re like, What in the world is she doing with him? Well, here’s what I would suggest. If you see a really hot woman guy, and she’s with really not so good looking guy. Figure out what he’s doing. He’s either got a big penis, a lot of money, or he’s got some other Mojo going on. He makes her laugh. He cares for whatever it is. You figure out what he’s doing because it works. Absolutely. Last but not least, I want to bring some room adds to the list

Céline Remy 22:01
here for you to bring in. And I’m not quite sure yet how to tie romance and presence together. So if you’ve got some thought there to get like,

Kevin Anthony 22:13
one Are you kidding me?

Céline Remy 22:15
Okay, go for it. Yeah.

Kevin Anthony 22:18
It’s again showing that you care. Right. So here’s the thing. All right, romance, right. Bring her flowers. Mm-hmm. Everybody thinks everybody basically agrees that is a romantic thing to do right to bring her flowers. Why is it romantic? Okay, yes, flowers are technically the sex organs of the plant. Okay, gray. Yes, they’re beautiful and she appreciates beautiful things. Yes, they’re delicate and she appreciates the delicate beauty and all that kind of stuff.

Céline Remy 22:47
So romantic, Kevin

Kevin Anthony 22:52
is she’s getting weak in the knees. But here’s the other thing is if you were out and about on your day as a man doing what you do, whether it’s going to work, you know, running the errands afterward, whatever it is you’re doing. The fact that you had the thought to stop and get the flowers means you were thinking about her and you wanted to do something nice for her. And that’s the essence of it right there. That’s why it is such a romantic gesture. It’s because you thought about her which is presence.

Céline Remy 23:24
And it also means that I got it another part of it that you are able to be mushy, gooey with her be present with her in this emotional thing without being uncomfortable and stay present with her as she ensures the romance of it all because we all know women seem to enjoy romance more, but actually a lot of men do like romance. So give yourself permission to enjoy the romance as well you know, and then we are going to give you one question, one question that you can ask her that will transform Your relationship.

Céline Remy 24:01
If you ever asked her, how does that make you feel? And then pause and listen, be present with her. She will feel seen heard and like she won’t believe how attractive you are and how amazing that you caring so much and that you can listen to her.

Kevin Anthony 24:23
This is exactly what we tell women not to ask men. The other way around. It works really great. So watch. I’m gonna try this. Alright, listen. So tell me slowly. How does that make you feel? I think I just heard that aspirin hit the floor.

Kevin Anthony 24:44
Did you all hear that? Something just hit the floor.

Céline Remy 24:56
It’s my jade egg that just popped out. I was wondering what you were up to there Kevin. Very good, I am totally weak Kevin.

Céline Remy 25:04
I am blushing. I have to admit, I’m having a little heat going on here. So something is happening.

Céline Remy 25:12
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Céline Remy 25:50
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Kevin Anthony 26:24
Yeah, and if you’re doing oral sex, the knees are already spread. All right.

Kevin Anthony 26:30
So this is like, how do you get there? How do you get to that point?

Céline Remy 26:33
Yeah. So the first one I want to bring and it’s kind of an in-between because I want to really strive the importance of physical touch. It’s super important to touch a woman during the day and you have a lot of little like sensual or sexual acts that are without an agenda. And we talked about this a lot in many of our shows. I mean, come on, we are Episode 108. We’ve probably said that at least 50 times more,

Kevin Anthony 26:59
probably 108 times.

Céline Remy 27:02
No agenda part is so important. If she links that you only touching her or kissing her a certain way when it’s going to have to lead to sex, it’s going to shut her down sexually, she’s going to be like he wants something from me. Remember at the beginning where we’re saying you can be like feeling like a beggar and then going for the gold. That’s kind of you feeling like a beggar when you like kissing her in the hopes of getting laid or getting something from her. And so being able to simply like just surprise her sometimes they will want to like sometimes he will want to go further.

Céline Remy 27:32
But sometimes it’s just about the physical connection, and that she doesn’t always associate with like I’m touching her that means this is the signal. Now we’re going to go through our free positions and we’re done in 20 minutes. This is going to go a long way for her to feel more attraction towards you and crave you more. Mm-hmm.

Kevin Anthony 27:52
Absolutely. So the next one that we have on the list is to be confident and comfortable with your body. So we talked at the beginning of the show about being confident in who you are. But also being confident in your body. Hmm, whatever that might be, again, doesn’t have to be a bodybuilder. Right? It just means you have to be comfortable that like, you’re when you look in the mirror, you go, yeah, this is cool. I have no problem taking my clothes off and jumping in bed with her.

Céline Remy 28:19
Absolutely. And if you don’t like what you see, do something about it. And you know, again, as Kevin said, it doesn’t have you don’t have to have a 12 pack. I mean, even if you have a little pouch, just love your little pouch. You know, that’s just how it is, you know? And maybe you’re like, yeah, I’m not 20 anymore. And this is the best I can get right now. Or whatever that is. So if you’ve got scars, you know, or something, because you had surgery, or, like, just love the sport, don’t just like be like, oh, I’m so embarrassed.

Céline Remy 28:45
I don’t want to take my shirt off. I mean, there’s nothing more exciting than a man who’s confident who, who loves his body and is not afraid to just mount it and just be like, yeah, let’s get into it. When we were writing the notes for this show, haven’t actually asked me like, what is it that you want? He was like, I can’t really write this and I say I can from a men’s perspective, but I want to hear from a woman. So this was like, What do I want? And I’m, you know, I’m sure a lot of other women want that as well. And I also want you to know that we are all different.

Céline Remy 29:19
So paying attention to her is going to be key. And asking her things you don’t have to be as we always say, a Jedi mind reader, right? Simply ask her what is it that she likes? Or how does she like to be touched? What does she like you to do? Maybe there’s a particular dance move that she loves you to do? or something you know, so don’t be afraid to ask her also what she wants or what will really turn her on. And then I’m going to talk about the appreciation of her body.

Céline Remy 29:50
This is really key. I think a lot of women also hold a lot of shame or embarrassment when it comes to their bodies, and especially We are aging and maybe going through different things in life from like pregnancy to menopause, things will look and feel different. And sometimes we might miss the way we did look before you know, or how things are different.

Céline Remy 30:17
And even though we might still like ourselves the fact that our man especially if you’ve been together for a long time, is still able to look at us and be like, I want you I desire you, you are beautiful. will really help us will help us to begin to feel seen, but also like to see your desire when she sees your desires in your eyes desire for her exactly as she is. It will help her get in touch with that within herself.

Kevin Anthony 30:49
Yeah, and if you notice things that you like, verbalize them, speak them out, let her know that you actually saw that or notice that or recognize that If you guys have been together for years, and you’ve had sex many times, and you go, hey, I’ve never seen this mole before or this thing before she’s gonna go. You see me naked 1000 times you’re obviously not paying attention, right? So you definitely want to pay attention to it. I mean, if she’s your long term partner, you should know every inch of her body like the back of your own hand.

Céline Remy 31:25
And it’s okay if you discover new things you could be like, I’ve never seen how beautiful you are when the light hits this way or this girl. Wow, as you know, whatever that in

Kevin Anthony 31:34
a certain position and all of a sudden you see a curve or something that you haven’t seen before? Of course, of course.

Céline Remy 31:40
So I’m bringing this up for presence in the bedroom because I want to make sure that you are not coming up with the idea being present in the bedroom means I have to sit cross-legged and ohm 3 times. Because this is what you think presence is.

Kevin Anthony 31:52
Eye gazing, a few breathing exercises. Some tantric touch

Céline Remy 32:00
Yeah, well, these are all great. And I’ll teach you these things. They are great tools. That’s not the only thing, right. And there is a very important aspect that we want to bring here, our notes towards the end. And I hope you stuck all the way to the end to listen to this because this is a really important piece. It’s about your ability to take charge in the bedroom, while also at times being willing to let her take charge.

Céline Remy 32:25
And it takes a very strong man to be willing to like, Oh, I’m going to lead I’m going to take the lead this is great, but to be willing to let her take the lead when she wants and that you can become this receptive mode masculine, while she gets to truly explore more into that doing phase and that will be very attractive to her because again, that will help to play with different energies.

Kevin Anthony 32:49
Yeah, we gave a talk a few years back a live in-person talk called the dance of the masculine and feminine and, and it’s just such a great analogy. The idea Like the dancing part because as a guy, you really have to learn how to lead and then occasionally be led. And it’s that dance back and forth between like being the strong man who’s going to lead and yet also giving her space when she wants needs to also take the lead.

Céline Remy 33:20
And that’s really what being an evolved couple really is about. We’re going beyond just like gender roles per se but each finding your place of power and allowing each one of you to express it at different times. So you out of being like a macho asshole or a manipulative, feminine, but you really are each finding that beautiful place of co-creating the dance.

Céline Remy 33:43
So remember that the one word that will make her we get the knees and crave you is your presence. Your presence can show up in so many ways from paying attention to the details to how you show up to how you feel about yourself. But ultimately It comes down to your ability to be here with her in the now.

Kevin Anthony 34:06
Mm-hmm. If you can master that skill, you will definitely make women weak in the knees. Mm-hmm. All right, everybody. That’s all the time we have for this episode and we will see you next week. We hope you liked this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe, leave us a review and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 34:30
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