14 Ways To Add More Romance To Your Relationship

Céline Remy 0:11
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex whether you are a man, woman, single couple, this is the show for you. Because well, sex matters. We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony, and Celine Remy.

Kevin Anthony 0:28
All right. Welcome back to the love lab podcast. And this is Episode 51. And it is titled “14 ways to add more romance to your relationship”.

Céline Remy 0:37
I’m so excited about this episode of romance. Yes, it’s happening. And I really wanted to do this episode because when it comes to romance, there is a misconception that this is something that women want. And yes, we do want it. But guess what, guys, men want romance as well, they might want it slightly differently. And that’s part of what we are going to dive into today.

Céline Remy 1:04
We said 14 ways, 14 ways because seven ways of how to romance him, and seven ways on how to romance her. So we’re going to dive in deeper. The men and women perspective give you our opinions. Give you are what we do for each other, it’s going to get juicy and romantic. And hopefully, you’ll be magically inspired.

Kevin Anthony 1:26
And as always, whenever we give you a list. It’s not the full expansive list of every way that you could possibly romance somebody. They’re just a couple of the top ones and ones that we thought were fun. And you know, it’s also interesting, too, because yeah, there is a misconception about romance. And there’s this stereotype that it’s always the women who want romance. Mm-hmm. The men are like kind of just a bunch of big dumb idiots who don’t really care. And like many things, stereotypes, it’s just not true.

Kevin Anthony 2:03
Now, granted, there are many stereotypes where there’s some truth to it. I think where this particular stereotype comes from, is the fact that men simply want something different in their romance. So that’s something we’re going to talk about in this episode is the differences like what, what do we as men consider to be romantic versus what women consider to be romantic? And is there any intersection between the two?

Céline Remy 2:25
Mm-hmm, absolutely. And as we were getting ready for this episode, we were kind of like talking about it, and realizing that romance comes up when people really don’t experience it. You know, when it’s happening in the relationship, nobody really questions or thinks about it, it’s just it, right? But when it disappears, suddenly it becomes this big giant thing that’s missing.

Kevin Anthony 2:49
Yeah, well, so what’s really funny about that is that in the beginning of a relationship, when you’re in that new relationship, energy, and all the chemicals are flowing, and all of that you’re doing romantic things all the time without even realizing you’re doing romantic things.

Céline Remy 3:02
That is so true. Then somehow, I don’t know you lose it. That’s some of the things we’ll dive in and kind of like what happens. And one other thing that I wanted to mention is that Kevin, say, this is like a list of ideas. Our goal is to inspire you. Because ultimately, what makes romance so good, it’s when it’s tailored and specific to the person. It’s not because you read it in a magazine, or you heard it on the love lab podcast.

Yes, they most likely are going to work, but it’s better if it’s really targeted to the person that you are delivering it to. Yeah,

Kevin Anthony 3:41
So know your partner, right? Absolutely. And we’ve done multiple episodes that talk about communication. So if communication is an issue, in other words, if you’re sitting there thinking, I have no idea what my partner thinks, is romantic, then you need to up your communication game.

Céline Remy 4:01
And here’s the thing, you don’t have to figure it all out on your own. And it is something that I have a lot of the couples that come to see me do as one of their home play is to each create a list of romantic ideas of ways that they would feel loved. Because sometimes when we think of romance, you know, it’s also it’s really about generating that love, loving feeling, right? That’s why we want romance. And so I tell people to create a list for your partner, so they don’t need to try to figure it all out.

Céline Remy 4:35
And also pay attention to your partner. What kind of movies are they drawn to? Especially if it’s a woman, like what kind of books does she read? What kind of movies she likes? What does she go like? Oh, my God, it’s so romantic. When you hear stories of friends and stuff, and like take little notes or, or when I don’t know you guys are looking through a magazine or online or whatever. And just like, Oh, this is so pretty. And it’s like a piece of jewelry, put down into the list of things to remember. Because we get so busy sometimes like

Céline Remy 5:07
Oh, for sure, I’m going to remember what they wanted. And they liked and we thought, so those lists help us because it’s just like, it becomes easy. When we have a desire to do something for the other, then all we need to do is read the list and pick the one that inspires us in the moment.

Kevin Anthony 5:22
And guys, it’s much easier now than it used to be. You have all the technology in the palm of your hand. Just make some notes. The notes application is your best friend.

Céline Remy 5:32
And Google Doc works very well to do remember at the beginning of our relationship, I made a romance document.

Kevin Anthony 5:40
You did you made a Google doc and shared it with me of an extensive list of all the things that you thought were romantic, honestly, it was quite helpful.

Céline Remy 5:50
And the thing is, the reason it was a Google Doc is that it’s easy to edit. We can both go on it. I told Kevin and said: “Hey, I’ll edit stuff as I think things through”. And it’s funny, it just popped into my head because it’s probably been years since either one of us went on those documents. I feel very much romanced and loved and desire. So the purpose has been achieved. Like you, you reached your goal of making me feel romanced and loved.

Céline Remy 6:20
Good job, Kevin. So we were thinking about romance. When it comes to the dynamic of men and women, there’s definitely an author, a man that has contributed a lot to our understanding of the dynamic. His name is John Gray. And you’ve probably heard of him read maybe his book. Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. And I mean, he’s got dozens of books.

Kevin Anthony 6:51
That’s probably his most well-known titles, yeah, he’s written tons of books on the subject.

Céline Remy 6:56
And they’re really cool. They give you a good understanding of what’s going on. And then you know, you can sit back and see how it applies into your life. Again, it’s not dogmatic. But he had some cool things to say about romance. And one of the things that he said was, the best way to increase romance and ecstasy in a relationship is trying new things.

Céline Remy 7:18
I don’t mean in the bedroom, although that can certainly help. I mean, your activities, planning dates to new places to new places and join new conversations or new experiences together as a couple. So as you hear it, the newness and that thing, that’s one of the struggles that most people get stuck in, when they’ve been together for a while, they stop bringing in new things.

Kevin Anthony 7:47
Yeah, they get too much into a routine, especially if you have kids, and you have busy jobs. And you just get sort of in that routine, where you’re just kind of like spinning around in circles doing the same thing all the time. So while breaking out of that routine, doing new things will certainly add romance to your relationship, it will have a ton of other benefits as well. It’s not good to get stuck in ruts, it’s not good to get stuck in physical ruts, it’s not good to get stuck in mental ruts.

Céline Remy 8:14
Absolutely. And that’s something I do you and I share. We like to take new roads like we’re driving, and yes, there is a way to go from point A to point B and then we’re like, Hey, how about like trying through this street or going that way? You know, it’s like, it could be really simple things that don’t really require you to spend a ton of money or like, you know, like think about it for hours, it’s it could be as simple as driving from your home to an event you going and be like, Hey, how about we try

Kevin Anthony 8:44
this street instead? You know, we totally did this. Just very recently, we were on our way to an event. And the way the GPS was telling us to go is like tons of traffic. And I was like, well, it’s probably been 10 years, but I think I know enough way and let’s try and you’re like what the GPS is I’m like, I don’t care what the GPS says. Like I know another way, just me.

Céline Remy 9:09
And that was fun. And so I want to finish one more thing about romance and what’s happening in the brain, according to john gray. Okay. He’s saying that it’s easier to bring back the newness in a relationship when you understand the brain chemicals associated with falling in love. Okay. So one of the things that happen when we fall enough is the dopamine levels in your brain that skyrockets, dopamine creates the feelings of pleasure.

Another thing that happens is serotonin level rises in the brain, the serotonin creates a feeling of optimism and helps you think positive.

Céline Remy 9:46
So remember, we’re always like to say that it’s kind of like a hormonal shower when people are what they call in love at the beginning because it’s all like these things happening within the body. And sometimes that’s what people get addicted to. But once you understand that, it’s those things that are being released those hormones, those neurotransmitters, and that dopamine, serotonin, all that is really essential, then you need to seek ways that will reactivate the release of these hormones in your body. And there certainly are plenty of them. Hmm, absolutely.

Céline Remy 10:21
Ultimately, romance will spice up your sex life. And it doesn’t have to be complicated. So I’m very curious, I want to jump in into how to romance a guy and what men think is romantic, Kevin, you’re going to be on the spotlight.

Kevin Anthony 10:41
This was actually kind of fun, sort of brainstorming a list of what men think is romantic and what women think is romantic because you started helping me brainstorm the men’s list. And what I was noticing was that some of your suggestions for what you know, man would think is romantic. We’re actually thinking that women think. And then I just threw out like a couple of things. And then I was like, that’s, that’s pretty much it right there. But that can’t be it.

And the reality is, is that as guys, you know, we’re pretty simple, we don’t actually require that much. And we’re pretty easy to figure out.

Kevin Anthony 11:22
So let’s, let’s jump into some of the things on the list here. Because we do have seven ways to romance a man. So the first one was one of the first ones that you talked about, which was to write him a love note. And, yes, as a guy, I do find that romantic, but honestly, I would not have thought of that and put it on the list.

Céline Remy 11:39
So funny. Because when I like when I leave you little notes in your lunch box, or on your pillow, or something like you actually keep them and you seem really happy. So I figured for sure I was going to score really high with that idea? Well,

Kevin Anthony 11:56
You do score high with that idea, when you actually do it, it’s just not something I would have thought. There’s like, the main things that, you know, a guy would definitely think of if you asked him what’s romantic, and then there’s a lot of other things that you might come up with that we still love and appreciate, we just wouldn’t have necessarily thought up.

That’s one of them. Yeah, when you leave me little notes, when you pack me a lunch, if I have a meeting or something I do very much appreciate that. It’s very cute.

Kevin Anthony 12:27
Next one is to compliment him. So this is this one was really high on my list of things that I think are romantic. And you know, by romantic, what are we really talking about, you know, we’re talking about things that make us love and appreciate the other person makes us love and appreciate the relationship that we’re in that makes us want to do things special for the other person and really nurture that connection, that bond between you.

Complimenting us as a man is one of those things that will really do it. In fact, you know, when teaching women what not to do, we have the opposite on the list, right? Which is the criticizing?

Céline Remy 13:07
Absolutely.

Kevin Anthony 13:08
And so, you know, when you do the criticizing thing, as a woman, you’re absolutely killing romance. I mean, you just hacking it to pieces when you do the criticizing thing. But when you do the complimenting thing, it’s amazing. You know, men are not perfect, and women are not perfect. And you know, we have our places where we can do better, you know, like we all do. But a lot of the time most men are genuinely trying hard. Even if they’re completely fucking it up. They’re genuinely trying. And when they get criticism all the time, it just destroys the romance.

Kevin Anthony 13:47
But if you compliment us, it’s like, like the skies opened up. light beams from God are shining down on us like that’s, it’s like, oh my god, she notices she cares. Like that little thing that I did when I picked the thing up or I fixed the whatever, she actually noticed in cares that That, to me, at least anyway, as a guy. that’s hugely romantic.

Céline Remy 14:17
So I have a question because we have two different things here. We have to compliment him as one way, and then we have to appreciate him as another way. And what I’m really curious is what is really the difference from you your perspective, because we put them as two different things. And at the same time, they kind of could be bundled together, and I can see how they not? Well, you know,

Kevin Anthony 14:43
yeah, there’s a little bit of overlap there. Uh-huh. So a compliment can be an appreciation, but an appreciation can be more than just a compliment. Hmm. Right. So So, you know, I love compliments, like, Oh, I really like how you did that, you know, that can that turned out really well, how you fix that thing or whatever.

Céline Remy 15:03
Thanks for making breakfast. It was so tasty.

Kevin Anthony 15:06
Wow, the breakfast that you made for us was really amazing. So those are great. And those are appreciations too. But appreciations can be more about just appreciating who the person is, hmm, it doesn’t have to be about anything specific. I think that’s maybe one of the key differences, compliments tend to be a little bit more specific. And appreciations may be a little bit bigger, a little bit higher, like the bigger picture, you know, could just be I really appreciate the way you show up for me. Whenever I need your you’re here. And I don’t even have to ask.

Céline Remy 15:41
So also the different kind of appreciation. You can share how who the person is making you feel so good. And like how it’s making your life better, while in the compliment is the action. It’s the doing that you focus on, right?

Kevin Anthony 15:57
Yeah, more or less. I mean, these are not hard definitions that you can’t deviate from. But, but yeah, so you know, you can compliment somebody when they’ve done something that you like. Or you can even compliment them on their appearance or whatever it is. And you can also appreciate the person for who they appreciate them for the way they show up.

Céline Remy 16:18
Absolutely. Okay, cool.

Kevin Anthony 16:22
Get to our next one. Alright, so next on the list, doing nice things for us. So, so I personally find this to be extremely romantic, which is when you do little things, like packing me a lunch. Um, you know, there are many times when I know that you’re very busy. And I know that you don’t really have the time to do that. And I’ll even tell you, don’t worry about it, you know, I’ll figure it out. Like don’t stress yourself out, you know, there’s plenty food out there in the world, you know, I’ll take care of it.

And you’re like, No, I want to do this for you. Then you put little desserts in there, or a little note in there and stuff. I personally find that extremely romantic. And, you know, it’s nothing to do with the food. It’s just the fact that you care enough to go out of your way to do it

Céline Remy 17:19
could be things as simple as getting you your towel when you come out of the shower and wrapping you in your towel of prepping something for you. So yeah, you were like, okay, doing nice things.

Kevin Anthony 17:31
Yeah, and I think one of the keys to it is, you know, okay, let’s say, I mean, this would still be nice, but let’s say as a guy, I have all these tasks to do. And, you know, you might offload a little bit of my workload by helping me with a task that helps. But I find that when it comes to being romantic, it’s the little things that you just you don’t have to do and you just do for the sake of doing them.

You know, like putting the note in there getting the towel like, I mean, I can perfectly capable of picking up my own towel when I get out. Like that doesn’t save me anything. It doesn’t really help me in any way. But it’s really sweet. Huh? and romantic.

Céline Remy 18:16
Yeah.

Kevin Anthony 18:19
Okay, so we had random a love note, compliment him, appreciate him do nice things. Another one is acknowledging the hard work he does. So I guess you know, I, you’re seeing a theme here with complementing and appreciating and acknowledging those things really go a long way for us as men. Again, it’s like, most men are really doing their best. And we’re trying hard. And for the most part, we do do a lot. There’s a lot of little things that we’re doing as well.

I know that when we’re going: “Yeah, well, so are we!” Yeah, you are. Absolutely you are. And so are we, whether we’re taking out the trash or washing the cars or fixing them when they’re broken or fixing whatever is broken in the house all the time because there’s always something I’m

Céline Remy 19:10
doing like the last minute like a grocery run for, like something that was forgotten.

Kevin Anthony 19:16
Stopping on your way home from a meeting to get whatever’s needed. Or, you know, there’s a million things that we are doing, or at least shouldn’t be doing. That, you know, it’s nice to be acknowledged for.

So number six on our list, is, wear a sexy outfit or a nice dress. Yeah, I would say,  this borders on sexually stimulating, which is not necessarily the same thing as romantic but you know, either dressing nicely or doing your hair or making yourself look beautiful and kept. It is a to us a sign that you care about how you look, and how we perceive you.

Kevin Anthony 20:07
And I find that romantic, you know, you can say, putting on sexy lingerie, but it doesn’t even have to be that it’s just putting on a nice dress. Mm-hmm. Think about what that does. In your relationship. Think about if every day, all you do is get up in the morning, throw your hair in a bun put on your sweats and do your thing, not saying there’s anything wrong with that. And there are days where that is absolutely perfectly acceptable. But if that’s your every single day, seven days a week, 365 days a year, you might be missing something.

Céline Remy 20:40
And if the only time you get dressed is when you go see other people, you’re also like sharing a message here of like, Hey, I’m dressing up for people that I don’t care about. And then I don’t do anything for those that I care.

Kevin Anthony 20:52
Oh, yeah, that was a great meme that we had seen floating around with a woman who was like, basically a mess. I said this is how I show up for the person I love. Then she’s all done up with, you know, fancy dress and hair and makeup and all that. And this is how I show up for complete and total strangers. Yeah. Something’s a little backward there, isn’t it?

Céline Remy 21:12
Absolutely. So what’s on number seven here, Kevin?

Kevin Anthony 21:15
Number seven. Give us a massage. Yeah, obviously, this one was one that I put on the list. But I think I think that what should be obvious at this point in the list. And I admit, this is mostly just my point of view, things that I think I romantic. But I think what becomes obvious is that they really are little things. They don’t need to be grand gestures in any way.

You know, if we come home, and it’s been a long, hard workday, and you give us a five-minute shoulder massage, to me, that’s romantic, that’s a connection where we’re touching each other, and we’re just connecting in that way.

Kevin Anthony 22:00
Those are the things that do it for me. Anyway, it doesn’t have to be any grand gesture, you don’t have to buy me anything or just, you know, appreciate me compliment me acknowledge me, you know, maybe give me a little massage those things. Those things? What Absolutely. Make me why.

Céline Remy 22:22
How good. So there you have it seven ways to romance your husband, partner him basically. Let’s dive into the women now. One thing that I wanted to really share before we got into the different ways, is what women think is romantic, it’s kind of similar to what Kevin just said. It’s more about your actions than it is really just about what you say. So what do you, and it doesn’t always have to be those grand gestures.

As a matter of fact, it’s about meaningful frequent acts of love. So how, if you know your partner’s love language because again, it’s going to be different how the love is being received. So both ways, you need to know his love language, you need to know her love language, and you need to make a commitment to speak your partner’s love language every single day so that they feel loved.

Céline Remy 23:16
And ultimately, why does she wants romance from you? She wants romance from you because she wants to feel wanted and desired by you. She also needs to feel safe and secure with you. So you playing with these concepts of desires and passion and wants and safety and security. And that’s all about what we’ve been talking in several episodes of the polarity of playing with these energies. So remember that when you are finding ways to romance her.

Let’s look at different things here. Number one speak her love language and we had to put it there because I think a lot of things guys, they know what to do, but they just don’t do it. And if she told you that what she loves to be told she’s beautiful or is to get little gifts,  do those things.

Kevin Anthony 24:13
Absolutely do those things. And I think a lot of guys just don’t realize what it means to speak somebody’s love language. And I think what’s so great about the love languages, is that it frames it in a way that as men, we can understand it. In other words, you know, if a woman says that she likes a particular thing, like, okay, cool, we’ll kind of file that away at some point. It’s different than saying this is their love language.

This is the way they feel loved from you. Because then all of a sudden we go, oh, that means we need to it all the time. Because that’s, that’s the way she gets the signal that we love her and that we care.

Céline Remy 24:52
Absolutely, absolutely. Say I love you. And I know you say she knows I I’ve told her 1000 times. I don’t care how many times you’ve said it. I don’t care that she knows it. She wants to hear it. Yeah.

Kevin Anthony 25:08
And I don’t care how many times we’ve said it on this show. It needs repeating. It doesn’t matter if she knows it. Got it. How many times have we heard guys say this? Well, she knows I love her. I don’t give a fuck. You could have just told her five minutes ago.

Céline Remy 25:23
Tell her again and be creative. I mean, don’t always just say love you. You know, like it’s that short end of the I love you but like, I don’t know, get a towel and make a heart on the floor. Or write something on the shower, mirror in the bathroom on the shower glass panels. So when it gets steamy, there’s a heart or an I love you. Be creative.

Kevin Anthony 25:46
Those are all great ideas. And I know half the guys here are listening and going shit on never remember that sounds hard. Now that sounds like work. So if you can remember those things great. And rather than say love you on the way out the door that just say like you mean it. That’s all you really have to do if you can do those other things great. Otherwise, just say like, look her in the eye and say it with some feeling and emotion. Yeah, that’s all you really have to

Céline Remy 26:14
do. Number three, write a little note. You know, whether it’s how she inspires you to be a better man, whoever how beautiful she is with her about your undying love. wherever it’s a beautiful poem that you just read. You don’t even need to come up with some cool stuff. Get some good lyrics from a song and give her the song and say this made me think of you. You know, like those are exactly so the song could have been made for us. So whatever, like take somebody else’s great work and say that it just what you wish you could have said to her.

Kevin Anthony 26:47
Yeah, yeah, it works well. It’ll make her instantly win.

Céline Remy 26:52
Okay, so number four gift her flowers, or something beautiful. That reminds you of her. And other flowers sounds good shape, but they really work.

Kevin Anthony 27:01
Yeah, they do. So here’s, here’s the tip that I learned within the last year or so as you go find where you’re like, local discount bulk, you know wholesale flower place is because you can get them way cheaper than anywhere else. And they’re usually fresher to you know,

Céline Remy 27:22
and then last longer and they figure like, like much more flowers. So it looks like you get like so much.

Kevin Anthony 27:27
Yeah. Just kind of put that in your loop of your travels, you know, once every two weeks or something like that.

Céline Remy 27:34
Yeah, but a little alarm, you know, and then it comes up. It’s like a flower day. So think of it as a recurring alarm every month or every two weeks, whatever you want to commit to

Kevin Anthony 27:43
try to mix it up though, so she doesn’t figure out what the pattern is. She doesn’t know every third Thursday, you that would still be better than no flowers. Yes. But you know, mix it up.

Céline Remy 27:55
Okay, number five, dance with her slimmed down in the kitchen. Fast dance in the bedroom, whatever. Tap surfer. Why do you think we love to watch those movies where there’s like balls and like these big like elaborate things, people when they go around, sliding around the floor. And then he takes her neck gets this move where she just archers her bag and he brings them back up and it’s like, it’s awesome.

Kevin Anthony 28:34
Alright, guys, don’t worry, you do not have to live up to any movie scenes. Just Just give her a few steps in the kitchen. It doesn’t matter how bad you are. Just try not to step on her feet too much. And show love is so much that that’s all it takes

Céline Remy 28:47
and just lead her. You know truth be told Kevin’s not really a dancer. Actually, he doesn’t like it. But he does is it nearly every day. And we found ways to dance in a way that and like he said it like he pulled out a few moves. I bet he studied them. And I know he’s got them and they rock.

Kevin Anthony 29:09
Oh, I think dancing is never been my thing. It’s never been something that I’ve been particularly interested in. Which people kind of laugh at because they’re like, you’re a musician. I’m like, Yeah, I want to play I want to make the rhythm. Somebody else can move to do it.

Céline Remy 29:24
Yeah, the funny part is that he also he does martial arts, right. A lot of the moves that he shows me and I go like he just did if you put the dance moving, it is so graceful. You don’t even want to dance. And I’m like, this is like being a tall guy and not playing basketball.

Kevin Anthony 29:39
Yeah, well, you know, from my very practical male point of view, I go Yeah, but there’s a point to me doing it when I do it martial arts, there’s a use for it.

Céline Remy 29:48
But now you have a use for dancing because it brings tears into my eyes. And I just love it.

Kevin Anthony 29:54
that case, I do it. All right,

Céline Remy 30:00
Six, sing her song. And if you really don’t know how to play her song, like you remember those times. I’m sure our listeners are old enough of like, when you made mixtapes for each other, you know,

Kevin Anthony 30:15
some of our listeners understand that the other was a tape. Just make a playlist,

Céline Remy 30:22
Okay playlist, a Spotify playlist, whatever that is, you know, but make something with songs wherever you sing it, where we whenever you create a compilation of your favorite love songs. It’s just like, anytime you do an action that creates motion, it brings the romance and music and movement like this create as emotions.

Kevin Anthony 30:45
Yeah, as you pointed out before, one of the great things about playing a song that somebody else has already written, they’ve already done the hard part. They’ve already created the romance. You just have to reuse it, knock it.

Céline Remy 31:00
And then number seven, take her out, plan little surprises. You know something that’s cool too is there’s something that happens when there’s anticipation that’s being built up. And I know for me, it works really well. If I know that there’s like Kevin tells me, okay, we need to be ready at seven on the first day and put on a nice dress. And I’m going to take you somewhere, like the whole excitement and build that is in this anticipation of what’s going to happen.

I think I get even more from that than I do from the actual event. And so think about what you didn’t really make it last a long time. Because you could be sharing something that’s a week ahead.

Céline Remy 31:41
Then she can I can start nurturing this idea and talking about it a little bit. When that happens, she’s already extremely ready for that because she’s been prepping herself in her mind rehearsing lots of scenarios and stuff, and it works out really well. And when you take her out, and you take the lead, and you’re in charge. She can relax. So remember those feeling safe and secure with you. That’s really what happens. She can just be like, wow, he’s got me.

Unknown Speaker 32:08
Absolutely. And it’s powerful.

Céline Remy 32:12
I wanted to share one more thing as we coming close to the end here about why you want to do romance. Yes, it’s for the other, but it’s also for yourself. There is a teacher of ethical behavior in England that wrote in 1930. His name is Eliyahu Dessler. No clue if I pronounced it properly. But listen to what he said.

“Love flows in the direction of giving.”  “Love and giving come together”. What that means is the one who gives gets to love. So when you give it, its fastest the love you feel for your partner. And so she gave her attention and little gifts if it continues to create those feelings. And if you allow her to give to you because some guys are like, well, I don’t need those things. I don’t need to be romanced, I don’t need to have those action.

But if you don’t allow her to give to you, whether it’s a bit like creating a beautiful meal for you, or massaging your whatever that is, she doesn’t have the opportunity for the giving to cultivate her love for you.

Kevin Anthony 33:21
Well, I don’t know who Dazzler is, but I’m going to quote somebody that I do know and appreciate. And it’s and in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make. That’s the Beatles.

Céline Remy 33:36
Oh, I had no clue. He’s my musician, again. It’s really, really important to remember to be givers at all times in your relationship, especially as you’ve been together for a long time. And again, if you’re not sure what she wants, and what he wants, take the time, each of you to write today down on the list to document and share it with each other. And then take action and do those romantic actions. Yeah,

Kevin Anthony 34:07
I love the idea of the list. Because I know a lot of guys find this romance thing kind of hard. And I know I know a lot of women just like think the guys are mind reader’s and they automatically know what’s romantic. We probably don’t, don’t assume that we do. And if you want more romance, simply have a conversation. Sit down, write your lists, and then make it a point to do something from the list every now and again.

Céline Remy 34:31
Absolutely. And then some I can say some with the guys. You may not think like some of the ideas like oh no, oh, he likes the massages or he likes that it’s so much easier to just give him exactly what he wants.

Kevin Anthony 34:43
Yeah. We like that. You’ll never be disappointed if you give him exactly. And if you already have the cheat sheet, it’s pretty easy. Do it. All right, everybody. We hope that was helpful. That’s all the time we have on this episode. And we will see you next week.

Kevin Anthony 35:07
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Céline Remy 35:14
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Kevin Anthony 35:31
Thanks for listening.

Céline Remy 35:33
And remember, you’re amazing