When You Wish She Did That, Small Cock Syndrome And Prostate Orgasms

Kevin Anthony 0:11
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Céline Remy 0:20
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Kevin Anthony 0:27
All right, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 219. And it’s titled When you wish you did that small Cox syndrome and prostate orgasms. Okay, so if you have been listening to us regularly, a few weeks back, we did an episode on how to do cock worshiping, and also how to do pussy worshiping. And those two episodes did really well thank you all for listening, both on YouTube and on the podcast platforms.

Kevin Anthony 1:00
They did really, really well. People really liked those episodes, but they also generated a fair number of questions, comments, and commenting out. Yeah, so which is great, you know, because that’s, we want people to think about the topics and the subjects that we talk about. And so it’s great when they have questions, it’s great when they have comments, it’s great. When they engage, it means that they’re thinking about these things.

Kevin Anthony 1:27
You know, some of these things, people are probably like, yeah, of course, in some of these things, they’re probably going. I never thought of it that way before. Right. And that can sometimes bring up questions. Well, okay, since I’ve never thought about it that way. Hmm. Then what does that mean for this or for that? Right? So we have a few questions here related to that, that we think are great questions, and really give us an opportunity to expand what we talked about in those episodes. So if you haven’t listened to those episodes, I highly recommend that you go back and listen to them.

Céline Remy 2:03
They are fucking awesome.

Kevin Anthony 2:06
And we’ve got some great stuff to share today. Think of this more, more as a continuation of those episodes and less of a listener question even though it really is a listener question.

Céline Remy 2:19
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Kevin Anthony 2:58
Okay, so our first question comes to us from Josh and there is a lot to unpack here. So I will read through the question first, and then we’ll break it down a little bit and we’ll break it down. We’ll take it in little bits. Okay, so Josh says, What if I’m a pussy worshiper and she is not a cock worshiper. She basically is on autopilot. You said, Why do you think women love vibrators? I bought her one. But she keeps saying it’s too sensitive.

Kevin Anthony 3:27
Obviously, as a caring lover, I respect that. But also as a knowledgeable person. It’s obvious she’s afraid to go over the edge. She’s basically holding herself back from nirvana. What do I do? I want to do whatever she needs. But she doesn’t really care what I need. We love each other. But I worship her pussy. She doesn’t I worship my cock. She doesn’t. Who okay? Yeah, so so there’s a lot here. Let’s just take the very first sentence what if I’m a pussy worshiper and she is not a cock worshiper?

Kevin Anthony 4:01
Well, remember that these things are not I’m giving so I can get it’s not visceral, you know, for that kind of a thing, right? So, if you’re a pussy worshiper and you love worshiping, worshiping pussy, then worship a pussy. And if she’s not into worshiping your cock, you can’t make her do that. Unfortunately, you get now you can suggest that you would like it. I would say that in a loving relationship. We sometimes do things for the other person, even though it’s not really our thing.

Kevin Anthony 4:34
You know, but we know that the other person likes it. So she’s not a cock worshiper. You know, maybe she’s not going to on a regular basis, do all those things that we discussed in our COC worshipping episode, but she might be willing to do it from time to time. And so, you know, that’s the sort of thing you need to have a conversation about

Céline Remy 4:53
the conversation should also be trying to figure out why in a sense because If she’s not into it, because she doesn’t like it, she doesn’t feel confident, or comfortable. So she’s lacking the skills she did need to be trained? Or is it because you have an agenda, she feels pressured? There’s something else that needs to happen. So you need to figure out the why behind it.

Céline Remy 5:25
Or maybe it’s because she doesn’t know how to relax, and she was just too stressed. Or is it because she’s really frustrated in her relationship? And I’m gonna take a step back here because we’re talking about the bedroom. But when it comes to sexual acts, and pleasing your partner, how you act also outside of the bedroom, will affect how your partner is willing to show up for you. And what I mean by that is, you might be thinking it’s all sexual. But for her, her experience might be very different. Maybe she has not gotten her love language spoken.

Céline Remy 6:10
Maybe she’s not getting the support she needs with household chores. Maybe. I mean, I don’t know, I’m really making it up. Maybe there’s a pattern in your way of communication. And there’s resentment and bitterness. And women can hold a grudge. Women can be mean, women will remember things, even when you don’t. I’m not saying it’s a good thing. And it works against them. But the problem is, she will remember what you did 10 years ago, and she’ll hold it back against you and not give you the calculus if you want.

Kevin Anthony 6:52
So a great Far Side cartoon the other day, and it was a police officer, and he was arresting somebody, a guy and he had the guy up, like with his back to him. And he’s like, patted him down. And he says, he says, I see your marriage. So you already know that anything you say can and will be used against you.

Céline Remy 7:15
Yeah, and so sometimes that’s the aspect that we may forget. We’re like, well, she’s not doing this in the bedroom. That’s not working. But sometimes taking that step back, and really looking Is there something deeper?

Kevin Anthony 7:27
Yeah. And so that’s the point here is that if she’s not a cock worshipper, why? Right? And there might be, there might be a deeper issue there. That could be solved, and she could therefore become a cock worshiper. Okay, lovely. Let’s take the next bit. You said why do you think women love vibrators? I bought her one.

Kevin Anthony 7:48
But she keeps saying it’s too sensitive. Okay? There are lots and lots and lots of different types of vibrators. And what a woman likes really, really varies from woman to woman. So it could be anything from you know, just a typical, you know, small vibrator. It could be the kind that sucks on the clitoris. It could be the friggin hitashi one which is like the jackhammer of vibrators. Right? So

Céline Remy 8:19
be like the bunny. Oh my gosh, remember, like insects in the city? They were talking about the rabbits, you know?

Kevin Anthony 8:26
Yeah. Oh, there’s all different kinds of the point is that some of them can be really strong. Some of them are not that strong. You need to find one that actually works for her,

Céline Remy 8:35
you know, a good thing if she thinks it’s too sensitive, meaning that she actually doesn’t need too much,

Kevin Anthony 8:41
maybe a good thing. That may be a good thing. So if you bought her Hitachi and she’s like, Whoa, this is way too much for me. That’s great because that means she feels sensation and that’s what you’re getting at is that she says it’s too sensitive.

Kevin Anthony 8:54
It may just be because she has no problems feeling sensation, whereas say, for instance, a lot of women that you work with, that’s one of the things you have to do is is like basically the de armoring process where they’ve got so much trauma, they don’t feel

Céline Remy 9:09
anything, it’s all numb at this point. Right? So being too sensitive, would mean maybe putting her hand in between the vibrator and her pussy. Use a sock over the vibrator. Use it on the lowest setting. Don’t use it directly on the clit but maybe above or below. Just do use it to relax and not turn you know not like excite because these are good they kind of like massager, they can actually release the tension

Kevin Anthony 9:43
and you know you might have to try a few until you find one that works. It’s usually best if she can pick one out for herself but she may not even know what she likes or what she wants. So you might

Céline Remy 9:54
do next door because you can try things on that is in your hands.

Kevin Anthony 10:00
Oh, yeah, no, I don’t think you can actually try them.

Céline Remy 10:03
Advanced, you know, I’ve done that.

Kevin Anthony 10:07
So, and then, of course, there’s, there’s one last part to that that needs to be talked about, which is the issue really too sensitive. In other words, there may be trauma there that does the opposite thing, right? So trauma can cause women to numb out and not feel anything, or to overreact or to be overreacting. Right. Good points. So that’s another thing that needs to be looked into, are you really too sensitive? Or is there some sort of trauma thing? It’s

Céline Remy 10:34
a defense mechanism where it’s like, don’t go there don’t touch. And then it’s interesting that Joshi is saying that, in your opinion, she’s afraid of going over the edge. So, is it really that she’s afraid of going over the edge? Or is it that she doesn’t know how to let go, and she’s not feeling safe?

Kevin Anthony 11:01
Safety, that’s a good point. So there could be an element of safety where she doesn’t feel safe enough to let go. But there is a possibility and we know nothing about her background. But if you are just from what you’ve written, Josh, if you really are, you know, a caring lover, and somebody that respects her, and somebody that really wants to do whatever she wants, then you sound like you’re doing the right things, meaning that it may not be you who is not creating safe environments.

Kevin Anthony 11:34
So you could be as safe a person as possible. But there may be some trauma there, from past relationships, or childhood, or whatever it is, that is not allowing her to really let go, as you said, Celine, and access her pleasure.

Céline Remy 11:51
And maybe it’s not something that the two of you can solve together. Maybe you need a third party to help you see things differently. Because you get stuck in a certain way of relating, and I see that with some of the clients that I worked with were sometimes you know, there’s a dynamic that’s created. And then that’s kind of what you experience, and having somebody else who can step out and be like, Okay, here’s what’s at play. Let’s try new things. It can really help you.

Kevin Anthony 12:21
Yeah, and that you’re working with somebody else can really help you get to that core root of why you’re not allowing yourself to access that pleasure.

Céline Remy 12:31
I think I want to move to maybe the last part of the question before we get to our next question. But you did bring up a point that she’s not a pussy worshipper, either. So you are asking her to do something that she doesn’t even do for herself? It’s a little bit tricky.

Kevin Anthony 12:55
Well, so yeah. So what you wrote was, you worship her pussy, but she doesn’t. And you worship your cock, but she doesn’t. So when it comes to, you know, what you were just saying something is, if she can’t even worship herself, how is she going to be able to worship you? And that’s the thing. And so, you know, what, what this is signaling to me is that there’s definitely some trauma there.

Kevin Anthony 13:19
There’s something and she needs to get to a place where yeah, she can remove whatever’s in the way, and access her own pleasure. I am constantly amazed, and I talked about this on the show somewhat regularly. I’m constantly amazed at how many women don’t know their own bodies. We talk about this all the time. And this is a large part of the work that you do.

Kevin Anthony 13:41
And we’ve seen this not only in the work that we do, but we’ve seen this in the work that other professionals who do what we do, you know, their experiences as well, where you could do something as simple as an exercise having a woman sit down and look in a mirror at their vagina. And they have all kinds of emotions, they have tears, they go, Oh my god, I never saw it like that before. Like, I never knew that it even looked like that.

Kevin Anthony 14:07
There is so much disconnection between women and their own bodies, their own vaginas. And so really, what I would suggest for her is that she do some of that work to get in touch with herself, get to know her vagina, get to love it, get to love pleasuring it. And I think that would go a long way in helping her open up to all these other things that you want to do with her.

Céline Remy 14:35
And again, it has to come from her. You may wish it hoped for it. But ultimately, it has to be her decision. Hopefully, you can be good at inspiring her.

Kevin Anthony 14:48
Maybe just maybe you could get her to listen to the Love Lab podcast episodes because there’s tons and tons of stuff there that could be really really helpful for her. But you know Don’t, don’t give up Josh. But also don’t push, just know that there’s something there that she needs to work on. Be a loving, supportive, caring partner start, you know, loving conversations where you can talk about these things, and just let her know that you’re willing to support her in any way that she needs.

Céline Remy 15:24
Exactly. And make time, make time to explore each other without any pressure, and see where it leads. Alright, so let’s move on to our second question. We have K next, his biggest problem is, he has small COC syndrome. It never used to bother me. And I used to get all kinds of policies in my younger years. Now, I’m almost 40.

Céline Remy 15:51
And I think I got even smaller, I’m embarrassed, and I don’t want to share it with anyone. With that being said, I’ve taken a new liking to masturbation, but I’m getting really bored of it. Maybe you can help me with some new techniques, or something to help me love myself and be confident and learn to love my smoke doc. Thanks. Can’t wait to hear from you.

Kevin Anthony 16:17
Okay, okay. All right, we got to start with the big elephant in the room. And that is your feeling that your caulk is too small. Now, you didn’t tell us what size your cock is. So we don’t really know. But I can say pretty confidently unless you’re really small. You’ve got plenty, right? So in other words, the average penis size is five inches.

Kevin Anthony 16:47
That means 50% of the population has a penis smaller than five inches. Obviously, 50% have a penis larger than five inches. But we’ve talked about this on the show a lot as well. You know, a lot of guys like, you know, they watch porn, they see these men with enormous penises that are way above the average. And they think all guys have big penises. If you’ve really spent a lot of time around nude beaches or in locker rooms and things like that, would you realize that that’s just not true? Like a lot of guys have smaller penises.

Céline Remy 17:25
So I was, you know, I’m part of like different groups on Facebook. And there was a poll that was being made. And it was literally about the size matter. And there were over 100 Women who answered so it’s just for women, that group, right? And I was really curious because we’ve done shows on that

Kevin Anthony 17:46
we did a show.

Céline Remy 17:48
It’s something that we talk about, because I know it’s a real issue. And what was fascinating is, this is not just coming from me, this is coming from over 100 Different women, the answers were all over the place. So yes, for some women, a big cock is an absolute necessity. It just is. But for a lot of women, the most common answer was, it’s not what you’ve got. It’s how you use what you have. And so for most women, it was more important.

Céline Remy 18:32
How in tune you were with your body, and what you could do with what you had, rather than the size. For most women. They prefer a very attentive lover who can pay attention to them, and is not just distracted by hey, here’s my big, big deck, you know? Yeah. So

Kevin Anthony 18:56
I mean, there’s always going to be some women that just want or need a big cockpit, they are the minority. They’re absolutely the minority by quite a lot. What most women will tell you is, as long as it’s a decent size, and he knows how to use it that will do that. That is absolutely the answer most women will give you that means okay that you have a large pool of potential women who don’t mind what size you are and here’s the thing you actually wrote in here that you used to get a clue, right, which is that when you were younger, you used to get plenty you said never used to bother me and I used to get all kinds of pussy in my younger years.

Kevin Anthony 19:42
Well, Did any of those women care? Now? I know you’re saying that you’re almost 40 And you think it’s gotten even smaller? That’s probably not true. Now. If, if you haven’t been using your penis at all masturbation or sex, then yes, it can shrink a little bit. Not, you’re not losing half an inch, right? Like you, maybe it’s a little bit smaller. But the thing is, remember, this is the elastic tissue that fills up with blood.

Kevin Anthony 20:18
So if it seems smaller, maybe you just need it hasn’t been used, you need to stretch it out a little bit. Or maybe you have some circulation issues, right, where you need to increase blood flow, I would suggest that you go back and listen to the episode that we did with Dr. Brandeis. And in that episode, we covered all of these things. He’s got some interesting technologies that you can use to really help. They are working on something now where they’re there.

Céline Remy 20:53
It is Episode 186, the modern disaster of men’s sexual health, and how to fix it with Dr. Justin Brandeis.

Kevin Anthony 21:02
Yes, that is the episode and don’t let the title fool you there. There’s a definite discussion in there about the size and some new technologies that can help. Yes, so for sure, go check that out. You’re almost 40 I’m almost 50 My penis hasn’t shrunk. But here’s the thing, I use it. Not only do I use it in sexuality with my wife, but I also give it testicle massages and general massages.

Kevin Anthony 21:34
And you know, if something happens is due to somebody’s health or whatever, and we can’t have sex for a while like I make sure that it gets some movement in some use, right?

Céline Remy 21:45
And, you know, you keep yourself in good shape, because we have to address the hormone parts, you know, the testosterone because it will affect your virility.

Kevin Anthony 21:57
It’s going to affect your drive and your desire, not so much your penis size. But it’s all like mental too, right? Because if you don’t have the drive and desire, then you’re not using your penis, in which case you know, use it or lose it kind of thing. But it’s probably not any smaller, most likely what’s happening is you’ve lost the confidence, that’s most likely what’s happening.

Kevin Anthony 22:20
So if you got plenty of pussy when you were younger, and the women didn’t mind, then you are perfectly capable of getting plenty of pussy today. And they’re not going to mind either.

Céline Remy 22:31
What I find interesting is that you mentioned in kg that you’re getting bored with your masturbation. So your masturbation is basically not working for you. And what that tells me is you probably still masturbating the way you did when you were 15. And guess what? made life we want different things. So do the woman you’re going to have sex with, we want a different kind of sex. What used to work before is not going to fly anymore. Yeah, that’s the of your size.

Kevin Anthony 23:05
That’s a really great point, which is that, you know, obviously, when we’re young men, and we’re masturbating, we’re just like, going as fast as we can just because we just want to basically have an ejaculation and don’t want to get caught, right. And so, we just learned to do this sort of quick and dirty, right? Whereas now that you’re older, you might need more than that, like, take some time, you know, put yourself in a nice environment, play some music, whatever, you know, relaxes you and

Céline Remy 23:36
use both hands, use both hands things down some lube.

Kevin Anthony 23:39
Hmm. You’ve done a few masturbation technique videos there on the YouTube channel. Yes. So just go to the YouTube channel, and use the search function, because there are a lot hundred of videos on there. I

Céline Remy 23:54
think we have like 250 videos. Oh, yeah. 100 I don’t know.

Kevin Anthony 23:57
So use the search function and search for that. And that will give you all kinds of potential new ideas for how to improve your masturbation practice. Really, I think what needs to happen here is you just need to get your confidence back. You just need to be like, hey, you know, my penis is fine. I can do the job.

Kevin Anthony 24:19
You know, you know, we’ve talked about this too. It’s like, women only have nerve endings so deep into the vagina, right? So you don’t need a super long penis. And when we’re talking about you know, hitting the g spot, we’re talking about like a knuckle and a half of your finger. Like your pain is definitely bigger than that inches,

Céline Remy 24:37
three inches,

Kevin Anthony 24:39
not even right you know, so. So the point is, is that as long as you’re at least, you know, two to three inches long. You can penetrate you can hit a G spot, you know your couple that was some good foreplay, some good tongue, and finger techniques and in the ability to last long enough, you’re gonna be good to go.

Céline Remy 24:58
So I think it’s a perfect segue into the invitation to work with you given because I’d say Kay really works with Kevin, if you want to increase your confidence, get into a course on sexual mastery. That’s another option. But do something. Does that know that you’ve lost your mojo? Don’t blame it on your cock. Jay, just do the work to find it back and be in love with yourself. Just the way that you are.

Kevin Anthony 25:25
Yes. Great advice.

Céline Remy 25:33
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Céline Remy 27:01
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Céline Remy 27:13
Right. How about our last question, we have Ryan?

Kevin Anthony 27:19
Okay. Ryan says I have a question about prostate orgasms. They seem like a mythical orgasm and I am wanting to experience this with my wife. We have the toys and all. But we are not sure if it is a mental thing. But I am really wanting to have this with my wife Céline. Have you given one and Kevin? Have you experienced one?

Kevin Anthony 27:43
What has happened in a relationship where prostate play has been introduced from your experiences and consulting? Okay, there are a couple of different things there that we need to cover. And this last part, oh, that’s part of the same thing. So with that said, the topic of polarity in situations like this comes into view for me here. Okay. Yeah.

Kevin Anthony 28:02
So that’s one of the things that I wanted to talk about for sure. When he was asking about what happens in a relationship and prostate play, so okay, but let’s take it from the top and just talk about prostate orgasms first.

Céline Remy 28:18
Right?

Kevin Anthony 28:19
Okay, well,

Céline Remy 28:20
it’s yours, just to play with. Yeah, baby.

Kevin Anthony 28:29
Okay, so in my mind, this is just my personal experience. In my personal experience, I don’t orgasm, just from prostate stimulation. So the idea is that you can just stimulate my prostate and not touch anything else whatsoever.

Kevin Anthony 28:51
And I’m just gonna launch into a big orgasm and ejaculation. It’s never happening. I’m not saying it’s not possible. It is possible. I mean, look, we know paralyzed people who’ve trained themselves to touch the tip of their finger and have an orgasm, right? So technically, it is possible. If somebody were turned on enough by prostate stimulation, they could potentially have an orgasm just from that.

Kevin Anthony 29:20
But here’s what here’s how I experienced it. I experience it more as something that increases my regular orgasm. So if I were to use the term prostate orgasm, I would mean having an orgasm, where there was prostate stimulation or play involved, that led to an increased orgasmic sensation.

Céline Remy 29:49
You know, it’s interesting that you’re saying that because over the years, I have had the joy of sharing many, many hundreds of, thousands of prostate orgasms. And you’ve right I think there’s a misconception that you press the button. And suddenly you go to like this place. For most men, it increases the sensations on their penises. And it’s the coupling of the prostate with a penis, that goes to a different world.

Kevin Anthony 30:24
Yeah. So assuming you have a healthy prostate, having some touch, or pressure on the prostate can be an enjoyable sensation. So anything that adds pleasurable sensations, while your cock is being stimulated, is going to increase that right.

Céline Remy 30:43
I also want to mention that it’s very common for the prostate to be numb for a while, whereas a man doesn’t feel much

Kevin Anthony 30:54
or you know, if you’re older and you have an enlarged prostate, which many, you know, men over 40, do. You might even have some discomfort initially,

Céline Remy 31:05
well, I don’t want to go there just yet. I want to talk about numbness. Because I think that it’s similar to what women experience, we have the g spot where it takes a while for this to awaken. So sometimes, a couple will try prostate play and be like, it didn’t do it, or nothing happens. So I guess it’s not meant to be. And you have to give it some time, even with you. It took quite a few practices before you really got into it. Remember, like it was?

Kevin Anthony 31:44
I wouldn’t for me, I wouldn’t say that it was because it was No, I think for me, I just needed to get used to relaxing into it. It was something that was relatively new. And I was like, okay, not sure. Not sure how I’m feeling about this, but then eventually I learned to relax into it. Yeah.

Céline Remy 32:03
And you’re right. The third option is that it could be painful. But usually, it’s usually painful if you tense. So usually I always tell people don’t go, don’t push if it’s like, tight and the person’s having pain. And yes, it can be painful if there’s prostatitis or inflammation or something. And that, again, is a tricky one.

Céline Remy 32:32
I would say to kind of always stick with, you know, a professional, have your doctor know what’s going on. But I will also mention that I had a client that had prostatitis, and we did regular prostate massages. And he was able to get off his meds, again, with the supervision of his doctor, through the regular massage. And that worked.

Kevin Anthony 33:04
Yeah, I wanted to add one more thing too, because, you know, basically, what I was saying is, well, you’re not going to orgasm just from stimulation of the prostate. It is possible like we said, but probably not. But aside from the fact that if you have a healthy prostate that’s not enlarged or inflamed in some way that it can feel pleasurable.

Kevin Anthony 33:26
And the other thing that it can do is it can stimulate more intense contractions. So when you have an orgasm, right, there are a couple of things that happen. One of which is those rhythmic contractions, right? And those can be really intense and really pleasurable. Well, stimulating the prostate, while you are having an orgasm can create more intense sensations, and more intense contractions, so, therefore, it can make the orgasm feel stronger. And if

Céline Remy 33:56
she’s using her fingers, and she’s really on the prostate, she literally feels the pulsing. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. You know, the other thing that I wanted to say is, it’s all about attitude. So you talking about the dynamic with a couple. It’s true that usually in a heterosexual couple, he does the penetrating, she’s being penetrated. In the prostate play, it’s reversed. And you have to approach this as a gift in not trying to do him and like don’t as the woman approach it like your dude, we’re about to fuck her man. Like, be there as a woman. Be gentle.

Kevin Anthony 34:46
Yeah, so So just because he is allowing for a moment, himself to be more open and vulnerable, doesn’t mean that you as the woman automatically stepped into Your masculine mode, put your strap on, and like, I’m gonna fuck the shit out of him like, no, no, no, that’s that you show up as a woman you show up, think of it the same way as if you were going to give him a genital massage. He’s gonna lay back and just allow you to just worship his cock.

Kevin Anthony 35:18
It’s the same thing you approach it with the same attitude, same reverence, the same reverence and you are, you are giving to him you are not taking from him in a masculine sense of I’m going to do you or do this or anything like that. So the other thing is to I mean, I don’t know, I mean, if you really, really like prostate play, maybe you’ll do it frequently.

Kevin Anthony 35:42
But just because you are okay, relaxing, and letting a woman you know, give you a prostate massage, or do some sort of prostate stimulation while you’re having sex doesn’t in any way mean that the dynamic, the polarity in that relationship has shifted. Now, if every time you have sex, you’re like, I want to be the bottom and bend over. And yeah, can you put your strap on and tag me like, if you’re doing that all the time, then yeah, your polarity is reversed, right?

Kevin Anthony 36:15
And you’re in the feminine, and she’s in the masculine. Short of that, though, if you’re just like, hey, every once in a while, it would be great if you gave me some prostate stimulation. I mean, and then, you know, we sell this product on our site, the Narrows, right, which is a self prostate massager for men, but it can also be used while having sex.

Kevin Anthony 36:37
So as a guy, you could use in the Narrows, while you’re on top, and you’re actually penetrating her so that you can do that. So prostate stimulation in play doesn’t always mean that you are simply in the receiving feminine mode, of the dynamic. I mean, you could be

Céline Remy 36:59
you can be a receiving vulnerable, receptive masculine. Yeah. That’s,

Kevin Anthony 37:06
some people are like, Wait, that doesn’t compute. I don’t get it. But

Céline Remy 37:10
honestly, it’s, it’s the greatest gift a man can give his woman to be willing to be so vulnerable with her and open up in that sense. And that at the same time, he still remains masculine. He hasn’t shifted, but he’s, he’s willing to be seen in that most tender spot.

Kevin Anthony 37:33
Yeah. And you know, honestly, if you are a masculine man, the ability to let go and be that vulnerable. It really takes you being a very masculine man, like, like, a somewhat masculine man, or a man who’s sort of insecure about his sexuality and his manhood is not okay with this. Right? And it’s very uncomfortable being in this position. But a man who’s super comfortable with his masculinity and his sexuality, and he knows that he’s firmly, firmly in his masculinity.

Kevin Anthony 38:07
He’s perfectly fine. Relaxing into that vulnerable space from time to time. Yes. You know, I mean, if I, if he only ever wants to be in that space, then he’s probably not very masculine. But if he’s masculine, and he’s like, you know, what, you know, it’s time for our once a month, you know, prostate massage, and I can just lay here and relax and just allow myself to be open, vulnerable and enjoy my pleasure. Great, because you know, every other time that you get together, right, you’re gonna be the masculine man, and it doesn’t take away from that in any way.

Céline Remy 38:45
I was gonna say, I know we have a whole like a prostate show,

Kevin Anthony 38:50
we have two prostate shows. One was like the way in the beginning, no episode. Okay,

Céline Remy 38:57
so the one you want to check out, I think it was episode seven or something, something like that. First, the second one was episode 137. What you need to know about prostate and prostate massage. So if you want more Ryan on tattoos, check out this particular show.

Kevin Anthony 39:18
Yeah, you know, 219 episodes now like I know when you’re in your podcast app like you have to scroll forever to get to some of those older ones. So I’m sure a lot of people never even see how much content there really is there but so far in this show, we’ve referenced four or five previous shows that we’ve listened to go more in-depth.

Kevin Anthony 39:39
Yeah, so if you want to know more about any of these topics that we’ve discussed today, we’ve literally done entire shows on them. And you know, we did our best to answer your questions in this episode, and if you want to go even deeper, haha, pun intended. Then go check out those other episodes as well.

Céline Remy 40:00
I love how we went full circle with the protein, the prostate play just like you do the clock worship started that, you know, we didn’t even plan that. I know. So good.

Kevin Anthony 40:13
All right. Well, we hope that answers all of the questions for Ryan Kaye and Josh, as always, you know, feel free to send us questions. We love doing these episodes. We hope that it’s helpful. We know that even though there’s only a certain percentage of people that will actually get up the nerve to ask us a question. We know that many, many of you have the same questions.

Kevin Anthony 40:39
And so that we know that doing these episodes can be helpful for far more people than just the person who asked the question. All right, that’s all for this episode, and we will see you next week. We hope you liked this episode of the Love Lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe. Leave us a review and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 41:04
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Kevin Anthony 41:16
Thanks for listening.

Céline Remy 41:19
And remember, you’re amazing