What Is A Sexual Awakening And How To Have One

Kevin Anthony 0:11
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man or woman, single or couple, this is the show for you.

Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and Celine Remy. And we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:28
Right, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 124. And it’s titled what is a sexual awakening and how to have one. Okay, this idea just came to me while brushing my teeth this morning of all things. But it comes from a lot of experience that we have. So we’ve had quite a few experiences at different places where we hear people talking about what they call their sexual awakening.

Kevin Anthony 0:59
In fact, we were even at a party one time where we’re listening to a friend talk about her sexual awakening. What we thought was sort of interesting about that is she’s talking about her sexual awakening or sexual awakening the whole big conversation around it. Because we know this individual fairly well, we’re like, you got a long way to go. And she was talking about it as if she just had this awakening. That was it, and all was good.

Kevin Anthony 1:28
And now she’s an enlightened sexual Master, just because of the line of work that we do. Because we happen to know her somewhat well. We knew that wasn’t really true. And so that then, of course, got us to ask the question, well, what really is a sexual awakening? Why would one want to have one? How do you have one? And so we’re going to answer all of those questions. You know, what really, is it? You know, what does it mean to have one? What are the benefits?

Kevin Anthony 2:00
What are the signs? How do you have one like we are going to break this down? And we are going to make you want to have a sexual awakening so bad that you’re going to start right after this show? Well, maybe maybe not. I don’t know. Maybe, well, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ve had one already. But I think if you’re in that space where you’re like, I don’t know, have I had one? Or do I want one? I think this will help clear a lot of that up.

Céline Remy 2:25
Is it like an orgasm? Kevin? Can you have multiple sexual awakening? Just like orgasms?

Kevin Anthony 2:32
Yes, and no. Um, I gotta tell you what I mean by that. Because sexual awakening really is a journey, as opposed to something that happens at one time. We’re gonna get way more into that in a minute. But first, we have a word from our sponsor.

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Kevin Anthony 3:20
Okay, so I think what we need to do first is define what a sexual awakening is. So you found the urban dictionary definition of it.

Céline Remy 3:29
Yeah. So from the Urban Dictionary, their definition is that the first time in a person’s life in which they experience a euphoric feeling and desire to be physically intimate with someone, that’s what they consider to be a sexual awakening. While doing research as well, what I noticed is that the term is most often used for women.

Céline Remy 3:52
And one of the reasons and somebody was speculating on that they were thinking that maybe is because, in our society, it is more acceptable for men to have lost an experiment at an early age than it is for women. And I’d say things are changing and are different.

Céline Remy 4:10
But it is true that more often than not, you’ll hear women say her sexual awakening versus a guy because I think a guy assumes he’s going to step into that journey of discovering who he is as a sexual being.

Kevin Anthony 4:26
Well, and I think too, men don’t ever want to admit that they’re not good at sex. Let’s just be honest here like to admit that you’re you are experiencing a sexual awakening for a man means that you probably didn’t really know what you were doing before. Not necessarily but that’s I think how a lot of men would feel about it, so they wouldn’t necessarily say, guess what, I just had a sexual awakening. Everybody’s gonna go.

Kevin Anthony 4:51
You’re 45 does that mean all these years you sucked in bed. That’s how a lot of guys are gonna think about it. Not that that’s true in any way. way, in fact, you know, both men and women can absolutely have sexual awakenings. And they can be just as profound for both and it doesn’t mean that you weren’t good in bed before. But when we get into our definition that I think that’ll make a little bit more sense,

Céline Remy 5:13
yeah. So why don’t you share with our listeners our definition of sexual awakening Kevin?

Kevin Anthony 5:18
Okay. So before I even lose, like, sometimes I look stuff up, you know, like in research in preparing for the show, and then I go, Okay, I don’t really like what they have. I’m gonna write my own this time, I didn’t even want to look first. I didn’t even care what anybody else’s definition was. I just wanted to write my own. So I did

Céline Remy 5:37
is our destination. So yeah, no.

Kevin Anthony 5:40
Right. all that to say that this is coming from not only my own personal experience but the experience of working with clients. And so it’s not something necessarily that we just found on a website talking about sexuality. Okay. So what I wrote is a sexual awakening is a process of evolution where one seeks to understand all aspects of their sexuality.

Kevin Anthony 6:01
This process usually starts with a catalyst such as a specific partner, or experience that provokes one to step outside their previously held beliefs around sexuality. During this process, what often expands their sexual experiences and capacity to feel sexual satisfaction. Now, I want to compare and contrast that with this urban dictionary definition, because Urban Dictionary says the first time in a person’s life in which they experience a euphoric feeling and desire to be physically intimate.

Kevin Anthony 6:32
But that could have been like when you were 16 years old, and you’re like, oh, I’m feeling that desire, you know, and you’re like, Oh, I suddenly realized that the world of sexuality exists, and I want to be part of it. Okay, that is a form of sexual liking a form. But I think our definition is so much more inclusive, because, you know, by the, by the urban dictionary definition, somebody who’s in their 40s is going to look at that and say, it’s been doing that for 24 years, you know, since

Céline Remy 7:01
I was five years old,

Kevin Anthony 7:02
yeah, or whatever, I must have gone through a sexual awakening, well, not necessarily. So I think our definition is more inclusive and expansive. Because really, what it’s saying is, is that, at any point in your life, at any point in your journey, as a sexual being, you could potentially have an awakening that could radically change the way you think about sexuality, the way you do sexuality, and potentially radically change your entire life from that point on.

Céline Remy 7:34
Mm-hmm. So a sexual awakening can occur with a new partner, or at any point, you know, with an old one. So it doesn’t have to, you know, some people think are gonna always bring in something new, you know, gonna throw out the old, you know, people are so focused on the disposable society that we live in, and they think that their relationship is disposable as well and sometimes approach it this way. But it doesn’t mean that’s what you need to have a sexual awakening.

Céline Remy 8:04
As a matter of fact, it has more to do with your ability to connect with yourself first, and then connect with another being. And so basically, it’s simply when you learn that you can feel open enough with someone for whatever reason, to communicate your desire, ask for what you want, try new things or shed the inhibitions that would have prevented you from doing so previously. And so if you can do all of that with the same person that you thought you couldn’t, that’s even better.

Céline Remy 8:35
And it is funny, because just this morning, on our morning walk, I was talking with Kevin about the last lovemaking that we had last night. And one of the thing that I was appreciating was that we have now reached a level of comfort with each other in ease where I feel totally safe to be 100% myself, and there might have been times in previous life partners, just times where maybe I felt shy to stroke my collet or touch my breasts or say something in a way that I like my kinks.

Céline Remy 9:20
Being together for five years has allowed us to know what one another likes and to feel really good and giving that to each other and to feel free to express our sexuality. And it was really good sex because we really went for it and gave each other what we wanted and liked and we wrote these waves of pleasure and had orgasms and free different possessions and, and ejaculation and all of this I’m being very graphic. I know that’s not quite the show. We were like promising you but I’m sure you enjoy this. That’s

Kevin Anthony 9:53
a bonus.

Céline Remy 9:55
And what I was realizing is while I’ve always been very sexually Free, there’s definitely a new level that I’ve been able to reach since I’ve been with Kevin in terms of my comfort with my own body, my sexuality, and how I use it and how we do it.

Kevin Anthony 10:15
So, we have had the privilege of observing quite a few people who’ve gone through what we would call, or they would call a sexual awakening. And so from that, we kind of put together a little list of like, what does it really mean to have a sexual awakening? Right, so right now, we’ve so far been talking in sort of vague, no generalities about what it means to have a sexual awakening, but But what are some like things that you could really pinpoint, to show that you are experiencing one now or you have experienced one.

Kevin Anthony 10:51
So I have a shortlist here. One is, you realize that your previously held beliefs around sexuality are either incorrect or incomplete. And you seek more knowledge. And to me, this is one of the big aha that people have, right. So maybe they’ve been in a relationship, maybe they got married, when they were 20 years old, they’ve got two kids already. And all they’ve ever known in their life is the standard type of sexuality that they were taught, right?

Kevin Anthony 11:18
So which is, you know, maybe it’s, you know, you don’t have sex until you get married, you have sex with one partner, you do it in the missionary style, and doesn’t really matter if you’re satisfied, you know, like this kind of, like, the basic idea of this is what sex is right. And at some point, people start to wake up and go, there’s got to be more, there’s got to be more. And so for some people, unfortunately, this happens a lot, right? It’s like they go through the midlife crisis, they get divorced, right?

Kevin Anthony 11:51
And then they get a new sexual partner who just blows their mind. And they’re like, What? What is this right? And then they go, Oh, my God, I need to figure out what just happened to me. And I need to know everything there is about that. That’s one way that it manifests. But there are many, many, many other ways too, it could be just having a particular experience that you didn’t expect.

Kevin Anthony 12:14
Maybe it’s even with the same lover, you’ve had many times, but the orgasm that you had suddenly was completely different than anything you’ve experienced before. And you’re like, how did that happen? How did he do that to me? or How did I do that? Or, you know, and all of a sudden, you start going, whoa, there’s something else here, I need to figure out what this is. Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 12:37
The second way that you know, is that you are no longer limited by the beliefs about sexuality given to you by your parents, teachers, friends, or belief systems. And I would like to add religion because it’s a huge piece. And we deal with that a lot. So many people come to us and saying, I was raised, search and search for a for and I felt so much shame and sexuality was not accepted.

Céline Remy 13:05
And now I no longer want to be living my life through the lenses of shame around sexuality. That can be qualified as an awakening. Or sometimes you might be like, wow, this is like, I have a client. And he was telling me the other day about his mom found him masturbating super early on, like, like, five, six years old, like really young. He got shamed for doing that. And, and since then, he’s basically been very repressed in his sexuality.

Céline Remy 13:41
So that is so sad, because not it’s a grown-up man, in a man body who still behaves like a six-year-old, like a naughty six years old with the programming of his parents around their shame and discomfort about body and sexuality.

Kevin Anthony 13:58
Yeah, you know that, that that is actually a very common story. In fact, in our interview that we just did with the founder of please meet with Heather, thank you, that we just did with Heather, she had a very similar story, right, where she was in the dressing room with her mom and her mom stepped out. And she was somewhere around that same age.

Kevin Anthony 14:19
She just decided to lift up her skirt and kind of poke around what’s going on around here. Then, of course, when her mother and the store employee came in, she was shamed and made to feel embarrassed and bad and wrong for what she does a very common story. The crazy thing is, is that people will relive those stories for the rest of their lives.

Kevin Anthony 14:39
If they don’t do something about it. As you said, You got people in their 40s 50s, even 60s sometimes coming in and saying like, Well, when I was five, or when I was 14, or when I was 10, or whatever it is, and it’s like, wow, your whole life has been dictated by one event that happened to you a million years ago. Hmm,

Céline Remy 15:01
there’s another. Another one too, that we wanted to bring here is when you start to awaken to a lifelong journey of expanding the possibilities of your sexuality, whoo. So if you fall in any of these free categories where you’re like, Okay, you no longer give, like so much into the old beliefs and in programming that you had and you want more knowledge, you don’t let your teacher use yours religions or new parents define what being sexual means to you, and you start to expand the possibility of your sexuality.

Céline Remy 15:40
You, my dear, are starting to experience a sexual awakening.

Kevin Anthony 15:45
Yeah, and I, you know, I’ve just wanted to expand on that number three for a minute. Because there are people that didn’t experience those other things, right. Like, they didn’t have a lot of hardcoded beliefs around stuff that were given to them, or, you know, they, they felt like they had a decent knowledge. But at some point in their life, they just decided, like, take that game to the next level. Right.

Kevin Anthony 16:10
And so I want to make sure that we included that so people understood that that that’s a possibility, too, because you can be saying, I don’t have any trauma around this stuff as you and I went around this that we didn’t have any wacky experiences. I mean, yeah, I got caught playing with the girl next door when I was about five, two. And I don’t remember, like, I think my mom was just like, No, no, no, don’t do that again. But I never thought about it.

Kevin Anthony 16:33
Again, I never cared, I didn’t let it influence me that I smashed, I didn’t really have any trauma around that kind of stuff. But I did. I did have a point in life where I just was like, I know there’s more. And I need to figure out what it is. And oh, by the way, this process of figuring it out, it’s pretty damn fun.

Céline Remy 16:54
So now that you have a better understanding of what sexual awakening will look like. I also really want to say that the biggest mistake I think people make is that they’re thinking it’s a place a reach, and then they there and then that’s that, the idea is really a journey. It’s like this deeper level, deeper things you can find. Just because you started the first step doesn’t mean you ever come to a place like that set, I’m enlightened zero or whatever.

Céline Remy 17:26
It’s an ever-unfolding evolving process that you simply need to be present too. And if you approach it through those eyes, it’s going to make things much easier. Because sometimes the mistake people do is they go like that sit at did some work done. And they are not yet being able to experience the next levels of things.

Céline Remy 17:52
It just did the first round and we’ll talk to you about the different stages of the sexual awakening. But really keep that in mind that it’s not a place you reach a destination and that you forever have done. It’s a process.

Kevin Anthony 18:06
jammy that’s it this is like any other personal development process that you’ve ever undergone, or ever will undergo, it never ends. It doesn’t ever end. Really. I mean, even if you were having music is such a great example of this. But do you know that probably every amazing musician that you’ve ever loved and thought was the greatest ever was still taking lessons when they were making those great all-time albums that you can’t stop listening to?

Kevin Anthony 18:37
So in other words, you know, did they get to the level where they went, have a master at this now I’m a millionaire from it. And everybody worships me like a god, I must be done? No. They’re always, always learning, always pushing the boundaries, getting together with other pros, and learning different things from them. And it’s the same thing with any personal journey that you go on.

Céline Remy 19:02
So why would you want to have a sexual awakening, then? What are the benefits? It’s liberating, it can release trauma. And by the way, trauma doesn’t have to be hardcore trauma, because I do think that most people have somewhat traumatic experience at some point in their life, and especially women, but I do hear a lot of guys to like, where sex didn’t go the way they wanted. It’s not that they got raped. It’s not that something terrible happened.

Céline Remy 19:33
But maybe they got penetrated too soon. If it’s a woman, or maybe a guy did something to them, they didn’t want at this time, you know, and same for a guy. Some men do talk like I wasn’t quite ready, and she just like impaled herself or wanted to do something with me. And so it doesn’t have to be something that is so profound and deep, but anything that was not exactly on your own timing.

Kevin Anthony 19:58
Yeah, absolutely. So I mean, it can be absolutely liberating it can really break down barriers. And it can definitely help you release trauma, both of which are very beneficial for your entire life, not just your sex life.

Céline Remy 20:10
It’s empowering. It’s so empowering to go after what you want, claim what you want, and just claim your pleasure. You should try it if you haven’t done it yet.

Kevin Anthony 20:23
Yeah, and it reduces stress, that’s another one.

Céline Remy 20:26
It’s good for your heart health. Hey, you know, it’s not just good for feeling good in the body, but it’s good for your health. It creates deeper connections with yourself with your partner with the world in general, something bigger, hey, I want to take the next one.

Céline Remy 20:42
Because I think any woman listening will like that one, it gives you galore, younger-looking skin, because you’re radiant, you know, when you are sexually expressed and fulfilled, that’s basically the side effect of having a sexual awakening. It shows.

Kevin Anthony 20:57
Absolutely. And so the last two on the list are, it makes your sex better. I mean, literally, if you go on this journey of awakening, and you have a bunch of different experiences, and you really wake up to the possibilities, that sex can be, your sex life is going to get better. And if none of the other things on this list appeal to you that one should you are going to have better sex.

Kevin Anthony 21:24
And then the last one is removing blocks around your sexuality will also potentially remove blocks in other areas of your life. And this is something that people don’t think about, often enough. It is all connected. We say this on the show all the time, your sexuality is not a separate piece of who you are, oh, my sexuality is over here in this box, right? And my intelligence is over my job is over here.

Kevin Anthony 21:50
My family life is Oh no, it is all connected. It is all part of the whole that is you. And if you start healing sexual trauma, if you start releasing the blocks that are there, you are going to see other areas of your life open up and start to flow more than they ever have before.

Céline Remy 22:11
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Céline Remy 23:11
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Kevin Anthony 23:35
Okay, so how do you know that you’re in one?

Céline Remy 23:38
Let us kind of you know, right? Well, yeah,

Kevin Anthony 23:42
but there are some things that you can look for. Okay, so number one, you’re no longer content with your current sex life and feel that there has to be more to it than what you’ve experienced. This is a big thing that we hear from a lot of people which is that at some point, they’re just like there’s got to be more to this I hear my friends saying that they have all these orgasms or I hear this or, or like I see this in a movie I like and it’s not the reality that I’m experiencing.

Kevin Anthony 24:10
So therefore at some point, people realize that there’s something else out there that they haven’t found they haven’t experienced and they want to find it.

Céline Remy 24:20
Number two, you frequently think about sex and it takes a higher priority in your life. Some even say it consumes them and that’s not so good if you’re so consumed that you can do anything but think about sex and have sex. And the thing is most people go sex starved for a while have an amazing experience some sexual awakening happening and then they have a hard time finding that balance.

Céline Remy 24:45
So maybe just don’t go sex star for so long. Just have more sex more often so you can have more you can be more balanced.

Kevin Anthony 24:53
Yeah, but you know, I really wanted to talk about this one a little bit more because and I changed the wording of it a little bit. From what was originally on here, and I wrote it to be a little softer, which is like, it takes a higher priority in your life rather than sort of consuming your life. And the reason I wrote that is that what happens when somebody ends up on a journey of sexual awakening is that it suddenly becomes a priority.

Kevin Anthony 25:21
Whereas for most people, sex isn’t really a priority. Job is a priority. Kids are the priority, making money paying the bills, doing the tasks at home, maybe they even have another hobby that they love, their music is their priority, or their, you know, whatever it is that people have so many things that come ahead in the priority list than sex. And sex tends to be one of those things that Well, okay, all that other stuff is done. So there’s nothing else to do, I guess we can focus on sex for a little while, right.

Kevin Anthony 25:56
And because people don’t give it a high enough priority, that’s partly why they don’t really have a great sex life. It’s something you and I talk about a lot. And so I really had to put this on the list. Because when you have a sexual awakening, you suddenly realize that you have to prioritize it, especially if you’re really in that seeker’s mode. Like you’re a seeker now, right? You want to find you are seeking out the sexual Secrets of the world.

Kevin Anthony 26:24
And really, the only way you can do that is if you make it a priority. So what does that mean? It means that you know, it gets bumped up on the list, when the weekend comes, you’re like, I’m carving out a certain amount of time for this event or for this workshop, or I’m going to read this book instead of that book, right? You suddenly start making it a real priority to address this and not just something that is like, Yeah, when I have time.

Céline Remy 26:50
Mm-hmm. Number three, you begin to seek out new sexual experiences.

Kevin Anthony 26:56
Yeah, I mean, that, that, and so that becomes part of it. Right? So rather than just sticking with the same old, same old, you start suddenly going, like, Hmm, I wonder what this fetish party would be like, like, you know, and I’m glad. And it’s not a coincidence that we’re doing this show after interviewing Heather. But if you go back and listen to the show, prior to this one, you’re hearing a journey of one particular person in her sexual awakening.

Kevin Anthony 27:21
And that was part of it was like, she didn’t really know what she liked, or what she didn’t like, or what she wanted and what she didn’t want, right. So she started going, I’m gonna go to this, this fetish party, you know, and it’s like, well, maybe that fetish isn’t really her thing. But she’s like, I’m gonna try it, you know, I’m gonna go to this sex party, or I’m gonna go to this thing.

Kevin Anthony 27:39
It’s just all about trying new things and seeking out new experiences and figuring out what parts you really like, what parts you don’t like, what parts are an absolute hell no. And what parts are a Fuck yes?

Céline Remy 27:54
Another sign is that you actively work on healing past sexual traumas. And that’s usually an entryway that a lot of people take big, especially women where they go like, Okay, I need to see somebody. So working with a professional, like ours, and just in terms of like, being proactive to no longer be defined by the past sexual experience, and recreating a story of empowerment for yourself.

Céline Remy 28:23
And number six here is that you begin to break down the barriers you have put around your sexuality. And you don’t have to be crazy kinky, and go to fetish parties, or go have free subs or anything like that. But the barriers may simply just be around being more open to asking for what you want or receiving targe or anything that you’ve you’ve not given yourself permission to fully receive.

Kevin Anthony 28:50
Yeah, absolutely. I mean, any. Anything that is impeding your ability to experience, open, and fulfilling sex life is basically a barrier. And so you know, part of of this process is you start to break those things down, you start to get rid of them, you start to realize that these things are not serving you, then they’re even potentially hurting you.

Céline Remy 29:16
So I want to take a bath, talk about the stages of sexual awakening. And that’s something that I was pondering and created for this show in terms of having witnessed so many people going through their own journey. And one thing that I realized is, as we mentioned earlier, it is a journey. So it’s not something where you just reach at some point in you forever done. There are always deeper levels and new things that you see.

Céline Remy 29:41
The first level and first stage are that people start with releasing blocks around their sexuality, and anything related with their sex and if you know about energy centers and chakra your sexual chakras, and so that lower belly and that’s what they focus on whether they had traumas and They’re like, I need to do something or I want to release things around that. After that comes the second stage where you’ve kind of dealing with the physical part of it, and you move into the releasing of the shame and the emotions.

Céline Remy 30:13
And a lot of people get stuck in the first level where they just stay with that sexuality piece and their sex, and they don’t move higher. And that says, where the solar plexus is where the emotions, I see so many people, most of their blocks come from their emotions. So being able to release that takes you to a new level into your sexual awakening. And after you’ve done kind of that cleansing and activating, you ready for the third stage of the opening up of their heart, and connecting to something bigger.

Céline Remy 30:47
And that would be a show in itself, which we probably will cover. At some point, we wrote some notes about that. But this is about opening up your heart, it’s about being the heart is like in the middle between the Earth and something bigger. And it’s about learning to just open it up and not having so many goals and going beyond the physicality of sexuality, maybe into spirituality, if you want to call it this way. But again, this is going to be the topic of another show. So it’s just something for you there.

Kevin Anthony 31:28
Okay, so then the next question is, how does one go about getting a sexual awakening? Well, they just go online and order one.

Céline Remy 31:38
And you can even get a crime.

Kevin Anthony 31:43
Okay, well, this one doesn’t necessarily get a sexual awakening, but one can start on the journey anytime they choose.

Céline Remy 31:51
Yeah, I don’t think you can make it happen. And especially if you eat talking about sexual energy, when people try to force things to happen, it’s never good. So it’s better to go with the flow of having an intention, but don’t try to force something,

Kevin Anthony 32:07
right. So what you know, what you can do is you can set an intention that you are going to be more open, you’re going to seek more knowledge, you’re going to try new things. Along that path, that process at some point, you are likely to have an awakening. And there’s no telling when on that path. There’s no telling which piece is what actually did it. And there’s no telling that that awakening is anywhere near the end, it’s probably just the beginning.

Kevin Anthony 32:40
But having said all of that, there are some different things that you could do that could start you on this path of your sexual awakening. So number one is to work with a professional. And you know, a lot of times when we create these lists, and we have worked with a professional, and that’s usually kind of at the end of the list, there’s like all these other things that you could do.

Kevin Anthony 33:02
But when you hear us talk about sexual awakening, and how so much of it is in breaking down barriers and releasing traumas, and you know, really fixing a lot of that stuff, it’s so much faster, you shorten the curve so much, by working with somebody that I just needed to be on the top of the list,

Céline Remy 33:23
and find somebody that has done, what you want to do has accomplished doesn’t carry too much trauma and baggage of their own, because they can only take you as far as they’ve gone themselves. Number two, try a new sexual experience. So give yourself permission to go for something new. And it doesn’t have to be super big, just new and different. It could

Kevin Anthony 33:44
be anything, it could be just doing a different position with your current partner, it could be having sex in a different part of the room or at a different time of the day. You know, I mean, and that could go all the way up to, you know, going and having a full-on gangbang and a sex club like I mean, there’s a huge range thereof potential new experiences that you could have.

Kevin Anthony 34:07
The point is to just have some sort of new experience, try something different than what you were doing before.

Céline Remy 34:14
You can get some inspiration by reading an erotic novel or watch an erotic movie, something that can spark a new ness for you, or make you think differently, basically.

Kevin Anthony 34:30
Yeah, the next one on the list is to masturbate differently. You know, for some people, that’s all it takes. In fact, some people, don’t masturbate at all because they were told it was wrong and shameful. It’s bad, it’s this or that you’re gonna grow hair on your palms, whatever, whatever it is that you were told.

Kevin Anthony 34:47
And sometimes for some people, the fact that they could just sit there and explore their own body and enjoy it is massively liberating them. It just is meaningful. Some people you’re like, really, I mean, I do that four times a day like whatever. But for some people, it is really massively liberating. Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 35:08
You can be curious about learning new things. And you know, we talked about trying new things. So try new things. Also with your partner going to a sex club, have a curiosity. These are kind of all different ideas that are a sub of what we talked about earlier about trying new sexual experiences, but we’re just giving you some ideas here.

Céline Remy 35:30
And last but not least, and never stop learning. Just because you learned in your sector sex techniques or new sexual practice, don’t think that you know it all. There’s always something new, you can figure out or discover and experience.

Kevin Anthony 35:48
Yeah, I just want to reiterate those last two, be curious, never stop learning. Being curious, I think is super important. I mean, if you think about almost every great scientific, you know, the discovery that’s ever been made. It comes because somebody is curious, what happens if I combine this element with this one? What happens if I try this experiment, right? And really, your life is no different. Obviously, you know, much like in a scientific setting, you want to be careful, because if you mix this one with that, when you might have a big explosion, right?

Kevin Anthony 36:23
So that can happen in your sex life, too. But the idea is always to be curious that there could be something else, something new to experience, some new place that you could potentially be, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be content with where you currently are. And I want to make that point, too. Because I don’t want people to be like, well, where I suck. And so I always need to be pushing further, further, further, further, further. That’s not necessarily true.

Kevin Anthony 36:48
But just always have an open mind and be curious about the possibilities that could potentially exist. And this is something we talk about all the time with people is like, even when you get to that level, where you’re having these same intense, multiple rolling orgasms, and you’re dizzy, and you’re like in an alternate space, like, you feel like you’re in another reality, and you’re completely shifted and altered from and you’re like, wow, like that is the most amazing thing ever.

Kevin Anthony 37:15
And who knows where else it could go? Because before you got there before you got to that point, you didn’t even know that was possible. Right? So now that you’re at that point, you don’t know what else is potentially possible past that point. Right. And that’s the idea of being curious, always be curious. And then of course, never stop learning just, there’s always something cool or new, or, or whatever, this new information coming to us all the time.

Céline Remy 37:40
And I want to leave you with the next step, which we call sexual mastery. And mastery is sexual awakening is filling things about your body and starting to know it better. But then you want to take it to that next step. It’s when you feel the flow of your energy from the connection. And you can redirect your flow of energy intentionally. And it’s your own sexual energy. It’s your partner’s sexual energy.

Céline Remy 38:05
And it’s basically that next level that we are talking about in terms of not just being so focused on the physical, but that sexual energy exists. You can do so much more with it than what you’ve been taught. That is when you start to be on this never-ending journey of discovery and potential.

Kevin Anthony 38:27
All right, everybody, that’s all the time we have for this episode. I hope that we did a good job of explaining to you what it is how you know you’re having one why you might want one. And I really hope it inspires people to take a journey. Take a journey. Find out what could possibly happen expand yourself to new possibilities. Alright, that’s all the time we have for this episode, and we will see you next week.

Kevin Anthony 38:58
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Céline Remy 39:06
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