The Truth About Semen Retention

Kevin Anthony 0:11
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Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts Kevin Anthony, and Céline Remy and we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:28
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 104. And it’s titled The Truth About semen retention. So we’ve been holding this one for a long time. Just kidding. No, but you know this, this is a subject that comes up pretty frequently. Some people call it semen retention.

Kevin Anthony 0:53
There’s a bunch of other names for it, but it was definitely time that we dedicated a whole episode to this In the last couple of years, there’s been a whole bunch of movements that have popped up around this. And that has led to a lot of guys having questions about what is it? How do you do it? Should I be doing it? Is it good? Is it bad, all that?

Céline Remy 1:15
Mm-hmm. So basically, in the context of sex, semen retention means choosing, choosing lists. That’s a really important word, not to ejaculate every time you have sex, to retain and harness that energy so that you can use it to create anything that you want in your life. And there are two very important concepts in this one sentence that I just read, which is to choose it, and it’s also having sex. It doesn’t mean you’re not having sex, and we’ll talk more about that.

Kevin Anthony 1:45
Oh, we will get to that.

Céline Remy 1:47
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Kevin Anthony 2:18
Yes, and when we talk about what semen retention really is, we teach you how to do all of that in our courses.

Céline Remy 2:25
So let’s start with the origins of semen retention. Where does semen retention come from?

Kevin Anthony 2:35
Yes, please tell.

Céline Remy 2:38
Well, both the Tantra and our sexuality traditions believe that too much ejaculation can hurt your house, physically, emotionally, energetically, and both traditions believe that sexual energy really has is this incredible source of like power and then you can cultivate it and transmuted and then it can bring in more pleasure, more profit, and abundance in your life, more love, I mean, it can heal your body so many ways.

Céline Remy 3:10
So basically it’s taking this really powerful force of your sexual energy which is being used for creation. Out of this energy, you can make babies, but it’s not the only thing you can make, you can use that energy to create anything that you want in your life. So, both the ancient Chinese and the Taoist and the ancient Indian of India’s like, with Tantra talked about this in some yogic tradition, and they were also bringing that content that concept so it is something that has been around from many different traditions and for centuries-long time

Kevin Anthony 3:50
Exactly. It has been around so I have one of our many books. We have an entire library of books because we like to read this is Mantak Chia reflexology. Mm-hmm. And I wanted to read a little bit from this book because they actually give an exact breakdown by age of how many times a man should ejaculate. Alright, so number one, a healthy male has 20 may ejaculate two times a day.

Céline Remy 4:22
Oh, wow, that’s a lot. Lucky if you’re 20 and listening to this show.

Kevin Anthony 4:30
A 30-year-old male can ejaculate once a day, but only once every two days if he is not strong. So in each one of these are going to say if you’re strong, you can do this if you’re not strong, right. Three, a brandishing vigorous 40-year-old man can give off semen once every three days but if he is lacking power, he may do so only once every four days.

Kevin Anthony 4:57
Number four full-bodied man. 50 years old man eject semen once every five days but only every 10 days if he is lacking strength. A healthy 60-year-old man may ejaculate once every 10 days, but only once every 20 days if he’s in poor health. And the last one number six, a robust 70-year-old man can eject semen once a month. But one lacking strength should no longer emit semen at all.

Céline Remy 5:27
Fascinating.

Kevin Anthony 5:29
So I read this….the first time I read this, I was in my 30s my very early 30s like, probably just turned 30 ish 31 somewhere around there. And I remember reading that thinking, what a bunch of nonsense because it was telling me so according to that, what did it say I would have been Alright, well it says you can ejaculate once a day.

Kevin Anthony 5:58
When I was 30 I was like Check. So I wasn’t necessary. I wasn’t necessarily buying that. But I can say that as I’ve gotten older, you know, now I am considerably older than that. We’ve already said how old I am on this show. So it doesn’t really matter, but 46 Yeah, but you know, I was gonna say mid-40s. But I’m starting to approach the upper 40s.

Céline Remy 6:28
I know, on its own.

Kevin Anthony 6:31
But anyway, as I do get older, I actually do now start to feel the difference, which I didn’t when I was younger, I was like, whatever I can inject as many times as I want. Now that I’m older, I do notice that if I were to ejaculate too frequently, that I do feel more tired.

Céline Remy 6:49
Fascinating,

Kevin Anthony 6:50
but, but for me, it’s like, I just feel more tired. And it’s like, Well, okay, maybe I need to rest a little more. Drink some more water.

Céline Remy 7:00
So one way that I tell people to figure out what’s good for them, because yeah, these are guidelines and not everyone bids by them. I always tell them to simply just masturbate every single day without ejaculating. And then basically notice the day that comes when you’re like, I must ejaculate. Because I’m I know I’m not a guy.

Céline Remy 7:20
So I’m really counting on Kevin right now to like, give me like the real-life examples. But basically, you come to a point where like, I need to Jacqueline at this time, and maybe it was four days in maybe it’s five days, and maybe it’s seven days in or 10 days in. And that’s basically giving you that every 10 times that you have the sex you can ejaculate if you waited 10 days before needing to ejaculate.

Kevin Anthony 7:42
Yeah, well, there’s a bunch of important caveats, which we’ll get to as we go. But no, so according to this, it’s telling me all right, so they have a 40-year-old and a 50-year-old, I’m kind of in-between there. But so for a 40-year-old man. It’s saying once every three days Okay, for 50-year-old man, it’s saying once every five days again, assuming that the person is healthy, so I’m healthy. I’m, you know, an athlete, I’m still constantly moving, climbing, cycling, martial arts, all that kind of stuff.

Kevin Anthony 8:13
So I would consider myself a healthy 40 something year old. Honestly, if I were jack elating once every three days, yeah, I’d be feeling it, I would definitely be tired. And the thing is, a lot of guys listening are probably my age, and they’re like, they probably do that all the time. And you’re probably like, you don’t feel any more tired. Mm-hmm. It’s probably only because you’ve been doing it your entire life and you don’t even realize that it’s making you feel tired.

Céline Remy 8:42
So we’ll talk more about that. But before we get continuing, I want to talk about the difference between ejaculation and orgasm. If you’ve been listening to the love lab podcast, you know that it’s something we talked about a lot that there are two different things in the body and that you can have one without the other, it’s actually really good to learn to have an orgasm without ejaculation.

Céline Remy 9:07
Once you have that power, it’s so good to be able to choose to be like today I want to ejaculate versus today I’m going to keep this energy.

Céline Remy 9:16
And so, the ejaculation is controlled both actually by the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system, because in the arousal, you get into your parasympathetic nervous system. So the more relaxed you are, the more you can have an erection you into your arousal when you shift into the ejaculation.

Céline Remy 9:35
Usually, it gets into the sympathetic nervous system, where it gets things like moving in ejaculating like heart races are going faster. I mean, everything in the body is responding a little bit different while in orgasm is purely a cerebral and emotional cortical event and normally coincides with ejaculation.

Céline Remy 9:55
Okay, but now that we know it doesn’t have to, but that’s kind of like the dictionary definition. In an in a nutshell, orgasm is controlled by the involuntary or autonomic nervous systems such as the muscle spasms in multiple areas of the body in general emotional sensation experience and very often like having body movements and sometimes even vocalizations.

Kevin Anthony 10:19
Okay, so now that all that scientific mumbo jumbo is out of the way, let’s talk about what this really means. Okay, so one of the things I like is in the definition of orgasm, they actually did right and normally coincides with a very key phrase right there. So, you have an ejaculation, which is literally where you are emitting semen. You also have this movement, this rush of energy that flows through your body and these contractions of the muscles that are triggered.

Céline Remy 10:55
And just to be clear the muscles we’re talking about the muscles around the prostate in the pelvic floor muscles, all of these I can have like between your balls and your feeling Right, exactly.

Kevin Anthony 11:07
So, you know, these things are designed to work together, the contractions actually help pump the semen out. But the release of the semen is separate from the contractions itself and from the movement of energy that you experience. And so here’s the thing. Here’s how I experienced the difference between the two.

Céline Remy 11:29
Oh yeah, I’m so curious, go for it.

Kevin Anthony 11:33
When you have an ejaculation, there’s this huge release of energy that moves through your whole body. Then there’s a release of semen. And then there are the spasms that occur, the contractions of the muscles that pump that out, and it’s all happening all at once. Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Wow. You know. That’s, that’s what we think of as an orgasm. Most people call orgasm.

Kevin Anthony 12:00
But if you have learned to separate these, you can have all of that but without the release of the semen. So you get the energy moving through you, you get the contractions, you still feel the contraction, you still feel your cock pulsing Mm-hmm. But there’s no release of actual semen. Now, I will say this, the amount of energy that you feel moving through your body may not be the same intensity as what you’re used to during an ejaculation. But it could be it all depends how good you are at allowing that flow of energy while still holding back the ejaculation itself.

Kevin Anthony 12:48
So once you’ve done this a lot and you’ve gotten good at it, you can learn to really let the energy flow while holding back the ejaculation. The problem that a lot of guys have in The beginning when they start is if they really allow that energy to move, like really move, it triggers the ejaculation. So they have to shut down the energy movement at the same time. Otherwise, they’re going to ejaculate. So with the beauty, and we’ll talk about this under benefits more later.

Kevin Anthony 13:20
The beauty is one, of course, you can last as long as you want. So you can keep making love for as long as you want. But you get to have a bunch of them. Like it, you know, if of intense ejaculation as far as orgasm rates on a scale of say, 10. You know, maybe, maybe there’s somewhere between six and eight on the non-ejaculatory, but you just keep having them. Mm-hmm. And they do tends to build a little similar to a female orgasm. As you have more of them.

Kevin Anthony 13:55
They tend to build intensity and it kinda, it will kind of do that. too. So it’s just a super cool experience. And then you get to choose whether or not at the end, you want to end in a giant explosion or not.

Céline Remy 14:12
That was a fantastic description there, Kevin, because it is the biggest question that every client comes to and always asks, and having the experience having this in your body, you can really describe it and I think it gave a good understanding to our listeners. So one of the points that we really want to bring to you that it is okay to not ejaculate every time you have sex.

Céline Remy 14:33
And that’s probably the biggest hurdle that you’re going to come up with our against. It’s to bypass your addiction to your ejaculation and to be okay with having sex that doesn’t end in ejaculation because you’ve trained yourself to go from point A to point B with a certain result or entire in life. And then you starting to do something differently, like oh, it doesn’t feel the same, so therefore it’s not as good as Kevin mentioned earlier.

Céline Remy 14:59
The subtleties and the higher sensations tend to come later once you start to have a little bit more mastery with moving the energy to understand your body. So don’t be so disappointed when you start and you’re like, wow, it’s not quite the same. So, therefore, I’m going to revert back to the old self.

Kevin Anthony 15:18
When do we get to talk about the benefits because I know it’s further down. But I’m saying that simply because there are some really good reasons why you would want to make love, not ejaculate.

Céline Remy 15:30
I think now is a perfect time to talk about our benefits.

Kevin Anthony 15:34
Okay, first one on the list. Every guy I know says he doesn’t get enough blow jobs.

Céline Remy 15:40
But you

Kevin Anthony 15:43
can always do with a few more but, but I’m very blessed. But pretty much every guy says he would love to have more blow jobs, right? Here’s one and there can be lots of reasons but here’s one and you can talk more about this as well. There’s one reason why men don’t get more blood. jobs, because most men think every blow job has to end in ejaculating in her mouth. And you know what, she’s not really always in the mood for that.

Céline Remy 16:09
Or just have to ejaculate every single time. And sometimes you just want to suck dick and be like, this is a three minutes little joy-full thing that you’re doing and then moving on. And if you have to clean up the mess, if it’s not something you wanted to swallow, I mean, it’s just

Kevin Anthony 16:22
fixed or if you didn’t want to do more than three minutes or whatever.

Céline Remy 16:26
It’s like and so if you want more blowjobs to make it fun for her and make it that she doesn’t have to finish you know exactly

Kevin Anthony 16:35
how many times if we had a penny for every time we’ve heard a guy say, you got me started now you got to finish me you know, it’s like that is old, archaic thinking. And that’s really because they haven’t mastered moving the energy, feeling that through their whole body. So here’s one of the things that I love about not ejaculate, whether it’s from sex or from a blow job. I’m going to start with using the example Have a blow job.

Kevin Anthony 17:01
So, you know, let’s say it’s the middle of the day. Mm-hmm. And you’re like, Hey, how about a quick little blow job? Of course. You know, it’s three minutes, five minutes, seven minutes, whatever however long it is. It really gets my energy moving and flowing. And so you know that stereotype of like, men, they just want to pound real quick ejaculate and then roll over and go to sleep. Well, where does that stereotype come from?

Kevin Anthony 17:28
Because they ejaculate it and now they feel tired and so now they just want to close their eyes and nap because they just released all that energy. One of the beautiful things about you know the midday blow job is like five minutes of that and I’m like my energies moving Oh,

Céline Remy 17:43
yeah. All right. Ah, let’s get on with the rest of this day. And that is one of the benefits of semen retention. You have increased vitality, increase clarity like of mine, like how you fake for a lot of men. It gives them a boost in their company. Dance because again, it’s about having the ability to choose when or if you want to ejaculate, and it gives you this sense of like being a powerful man. I do want to say that I think it will improve your sex life because it changes how you approach sex.

Céline Remy 18:16
As a woman, not having the pressure to always have to make him come or that sex has to end when he comes. We can just make law for as long as we feel both that it’s like, beneficial, or feels good. And then we’re like, okay, we complete I wanted more if I felt that you were very needy, that something had to happen for you every single time. I would work most likely to have less sex with you.

Kevin Anthony 18:45
You know, and there’s this thing to like a guy that, you know, if when we start making love, I already tell myself, you know what, I’m not going to ejaculate today. It’s actually easier to not ejaculate. So if I go into it thinking, Oh, today’s the day because I’m focusing on it more, because I know that that’s the end goal that I want to get to. It’s actually harder to hold back. So, one of the good things about practicing semen retention is if you know going into a lovemaking session, that you’re not going to ejaculate, then it’s actually easier for you to hold it back, which means you can make love longer.

Céline Remy 19:28
Mm-hmm.

Kevin Anthony 19:29
And we have talked about this in practically every episode we have done, but the stats show most average men ejaculate from either three to five in one study five to seven minutes in another study, the average woman orgasms in 20 to 30 minutes, right. So here’s another huge benefit of semen retention or just basically separating your orgasm from ejaculation, which is that if you can do that.

Kevin Anthony 20:00
You can take your woman to orgasm almost every time I say almost because sometimes, you know, there’s a lot of complex things happening here, a woman, and maybe she’s got something going on. So it’s never It’s not your fault or your responsibility one to either give her one or if she doesn’t have one, but just know that at least you are able to go as long as she needs. Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 20:26
Another benefit is it will develop your magnetism in our life, people will be drawn to you and we’re going to talk more about that as this concept of sexual transmutation. But that’s definitely something and I think ultimately, it’s building up your health is helping you feel more powerful, stronger in your body, building up good sexual health and health in general.

Kevin Anthony 20:51
Yeah, so when we get to the semen retention movement, which we’ll get to a little later This is one of the big things they believe is that it will make women Like magnetically attracted to them, but here’s the thing. You know, it’s not like you got a bunch of semen swimming around in your testicles that somehow have a magical attraction. You know, they’re like pulling women. No, no, what it is vitality. And if you’re not drained and tired all the time, you’re, you’re more attractive.

Céline Remy 21:22
Well, and you know, what’s attractive is a confident man. And so a man who knows that he has control over his body will show up very differently in relation to a woman than a man who’s afraid that he’s going to come too soon.

Kevin Anthony 21:33
That’s true. And that’s actually another thing that we really work on in the online courses that we have created is teaching them how to have that confidence how to show up like I got this, I can do this because that is absolutely attractive to women.

Céline Remy 21:48
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Céline Remy 22:17
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Kevin Anthony 22:42
Okay, so we’re talking about all of this semen retention stuff. And again, it’s a topic that has really been popular lately, which is one of the reasons why we’re talking about because we get asked about it a lot. There are two primaries, I guess you could call them “movements”. Sort of ideology ideologies that are very common right now.

Kevin Anthony 23:06
One is no fap. And the other is the semen retention movement, which we mentioned earlier. So we thought it would be important because we get so many questions about it, to tell you what each one is and explain the differences. So you want to start with no fap.

Céline Remy 23:19
Yeah, so no fap, generally speaking, describes an extended period of time that a man chooses to go through where he doesn’t watch porn masturbates or have sex. So he’s basically abstaining from any sexual activity of any kind, whether with himself or a partner, with the goal in mind to reset his sexual response system and come back to his own internal power.

Céline Remy 23:39
Okay, cool. nofap is basically saying no to all sexual things for 30 days or more, there are like forums where people meet and help each other. And it’s to shift that focus a lot of guys experience like they have trouble with porn and like watching it too much or having trouble with their erections. So that’s what leads them to want to try No fap because They like that’s gonna help them to get back in touch with that part of themselves like quitting cold turkey Exactly.

Céline Remy 24:06
Well, semen retention is different because it says yes to everything sexual is like do it, have fun with it, enjoy it, let it inspire you and be in your life, but simply stop from ejaculating every time you masturbate and use that energy to fuel it for the creation of your life.

Kevin Anthony 24:29
Let’s be clear here. That last bit wasn’t about the semen retention movement because that’s something different what you were comparing and contrasting where the ideology of nofap versus what we’re talking about when we say semen retention. When we say semen retention, it’s like yeah, have all the sex you want. masturbate? all you want, just don’t ejaculate every single time?

Céline Remy 24:52
Yes. That’s very different.

Kevin Anthony 24:54
It is and you know, specifically with no fap they’re looking at it from the point of view. Primarily somebody who’s struggling with porn addiction or sex addiction or something like that. And it’s exactly kind of what you read, which is like this reset. You know, it’s one of the things they often tell you, you know, when you’re dealing with any addiction really, is to not do that thing that you’re addicted to.

Céline Remy 25:18
And I think we should be careful with the term addiction. We did a whole episode on that and saying that, really, it’s not so much the addiction that it is more a lack of connection. So

Kevin Anthony 25:29
yeah, well,

Céline Remy 25:30
if you haven’t listened to that, and want to hear more about that, go to the episode on his porn addiction real?

Kevin Anthony 25:36
Yes. Yeah. So yeah, we’re not really getting that. But I wanted to make sure that that was clear about sort of what the intention behind the nofap people was.

Céline Remy 25:45
So you had this really fun article that you found online to describe really what those things are. So why don’t you read what you found?

Kevin Anthony 25:54
So you know, you and I, we’ve been familiar with semen retention for a long time and in practice this for decades, and I was you know, no fap kind of came into my awareness more recently and we did an episode where we talked about that as well. But I had not actually heard of the semen retention movement as this whole separate thing. Hmm. So, okay, I wanted to know what it was and how it was different from nofap.

Kevin Anthony 26:26
And actually, if you try to google search or DuckDuckGo search or whatever, I prefer DuckDuckGo. By the way, if you search for semen retention movement, a lot of what you get is stuff about no fap. Um, so like, for instance, no fat, there’s like a website you can go to and there’s like, a whole sort of formalized thing. I couldn’t actually find anything formalized for the semen retention movement, but apparently, there is a subreddit that apparently is quite the rabbit hole where they talk about this stuff a lot.

Kevin Anthony 27:09
And so what it did find was an article written on a very funny website actually called, we hunted the mammoth calm. And they wrote an article called, cause every girl crazy about a semen filled man. Alleged true tales from the semen retention subreddit.

Céline Remy 27:28
This ought to be good,

Kevin Anthony 27:29
oh, it was pretty damn funny. So I’m going to tell you what they say about the semen retention movement. Because it even though they’re sort of making fun of it, they actually did a good job of explaining what it is. So here it is. The semen retention movement, in case you haven’t encountered it before, is sort of a hardcore version of nofap. Its ideology is a mixture of ancient Buddhism, modern, modern pseudoscience, and more than a little bit of manosphere nonsense.

Kevin Anthony 28:00
Whereas no fap ORS tend to see themselves as fighters of compulsive masturbation and porn addiction, seeming retainer see themselves as spiritual warriors protecting their vital life force from delusion, not only by masturbation but also by nocturnal emissions and sex. And keeping their sperm bottled up inside they think will not only enable them to have more energy and think more clearly, but it may also give them literal magical powers, helping to bring about as one Redditor put it a magical synchronistic connection between thoughts and reality.

Kevin Anthony 28:34
Also, they think it will make women really hot for them. Okay, so you know, that was sort of tongue in cheek, but you know, the core of it. I like how they described it as a hardcore version of nofap simply because the real difference that I see when researching these is that no fap is like, okay, you need to reset your system, you’ve got some issue that you’re working with. Here’s a way to do that. So it’s like, you know when somebody wants to try a diet like most people don’t look at a diet as I’m going to do this for the rest of my life, it’s like I couldn’t do this for a while to reset like keto diets are a perfect example.

Kevin Anthony 29:15
You’re not supposed to do keto forever. keto is a system reset, you do it for a period of time, it resets your body, and then you go back to a healthy diet. So that’s kind of the way I understand what most of the nofap people are talking about. Whereas the semen retention movement is like, no, this is a lifestyle. This is a lifestyle that you do all the time. And they might have spiritual beliefs behind it, they might have scientific reasoning behind it, you know, apparently, there can be all kinds of reasons behind it. But that’s how the two really differ.

Céline Remy 29:50
So I want to talk about how not to do semen retention because now that we’ve talked so much about this, I think you got to do it for the right reason. If you’re going to get into this because you want to be better than other people and as a kind of from that like, I don’t know the spiritual bypassing reality that you really stuck in your ego but you pretending to be spiritual. That’s not the right reason. If you approach it from a place of curiosity and have a genuine desire to yes become a better person or increase your heart or your vitality that’s very different. So get clear with you why and do it for the right reasons. Yeah,

Kevin Anthony 30:27
absolutely. And so that’s kind of the thing about the semen retention movement is, you know, if you listen to what they say how it gives you more energy and makes you more attractive, those are all benefits that we just talked about. So we’re not necessarily disagreeing with them. But where I have a problem is when it becomes dogmatic. When it’s because Buddha said or because this or because I’m more spiritually enlightened, or because I’m going to be a superhuman. Mm-hmm. That’s, that’s where I draw the line.

Céline Remy 30:56
So what do you want to do is that you don’t want to be like masturbating to porn and not connecting with your body and then holding it back and then ending up with blue balls. Because really if you’re doing semen retention practices, it’s to you need to move your sexual energy if you do not move it and simply hold back your ejaculation or use the million-dollar point to the point on the burn em to block you, Jacqueline from coming out in the vast difference.

Céline Remy 31:24
You are not doing your body a favor. So that’s not what to us. And remember, we did an episode where we talked about our blue balls real? No, they’re not. And go listen to that episode. If you want to hear why we say isn’t real. If you’re not paying attention to your breath. And because the breath is super important here when you’re doing semen retention, again because it helps with moving the sexual energy. So these are always you can just masturbate the way you did before and just do semen retention. You have to change your mindset.

Céline Remy 31:55
You have to change your habits and how you approach it. And then I think that’s something very important to bring when you do semen retention. You don’t have to always not ejaculate, you choose, sometimes you will. And sometimes you won’t. Because it is good to ejaculate, you’re not going to demonize it that they sing, you’re never going to ever do again. Your body still needs to ejaculate every now and then if you are healthy or just want to do it. Give it permission, it clears the pipes, you know, just don’t be totally addicted to it every single time.

Kevin Anthony 32:28
Yeah, you know, this is a personal story. But I know somebody who was very involved in the Tantra world for many years, and he’s older now. I don’t really sure how old he is. But he’s, he’s a silver hair. He actually had some prostate issues. One day I was having a conversation with him and he looked at me because he knows that I did some Tantra stuff too. And he’s like, you know, I’m really beginning to think this whole new ejaculating Tantra thing isn’t so good for the prostate. Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 32:56
So if you don’t ejaculate, it’s important to massage your prostate Manually to stimulated and sometimes to do some milking. That’s why I was saying semen retention doesn’t mean you won’t ejaculate ever again, it simply means you choose, you do more non-ejaculation orgasms and ejaculatory orgasms. I want to bring one last concept as we’re coming close to the end of this episode, which is the sexual energy transmutation with Napoleon Hill who wrote the thinking Grow Rich, and this is so important and he dedicated a whole chapter to chapter 11 of thinking Grow Rich is about sexual transmutation.

Céline Remy 33:33
And he, he doesn’t explicitly say not to ejaculate during sex, but he does talk about building your sexual energy and using it with the intention for mostly like financial success, right, and he says that the most financially successful and socially impactful men of our time have figured out how to master this energy. The reason I’m bringing sexual transmutation into the discussion today is that it’s oftentimes misunderstood by a lot of people who are thinking sexual transmutation means: I’m above sex, I don’t need sex, I’m not using it and I’m just channeling this energy.

Céline Remy 34:07
What that truly means is that you can still have sex actually, you need to have sex. It’s part of being a sexual being and feeling good. However, you need to learn to channel this energy, not just use it and wasted on useless things. But once you start to use this energy and move it into your entire body and feed yourself, your organs, and just your heart open up your heart and you there’s something really magical or different that happens in the body.

Kevin Anthony 34:35
Yeah, absolutely. You know, and that’s, we kind of hinted at it in the benefits. But yeah, that idea that you can really harness and utilize that energy and feel it flowing through you. You feel like super powerful, right? And then you can take that out and use it in other ways in the world. So we talked about what it is and the different movements. And why you’d want to do it and all that the only thing we haven’t really talked about is how to do it. Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 35:06
I mean, ultimately, you’re simply going to have to, well, you can go to our course’s sexual mastery and learn how to do that. Or you can start on your own with masturbating. and choosing not to Jacqueline’s going high and low on your arousal scale, bringing yourself up and down and then stopping without having an ejaculation. And that’s the first step

Kevin Anthony 35:25
that is absolutely the first step. And, you know, our master ejaculation program teaches you this exactly step by step how to do it. I mean, you can find some resources on the internet to you if you really want to, but you got to start somewhere. And that’s the first place to start.

Céline Remy 35:42
I also want to bring in that it’s important for every woman if there’s any woman who listens to this show today, or if you have a partner that she’s on board because women will sometimes link their self worth with their ability to make you ejaculate. So if you are in a partnership, it’s very important to have a conversation with her to let her know that you practicing semen retention moving the energy and that it doesn’t mean that you’re not satisfied sexually. That’s also asking for her support in not just pulling the energy and drawing it out of you.

Kevin Anthony 36:16
Yeah, you know, this is one of those sorts of self-fulfilling downward spirals, right. So these are some women, this really is true. Some women do tie their self-worth into their ability to make a man ejaculate. It makes them feel powerful. They have control over the situation, like look how good they are. The problem is, you’re training him to be an early ejaculator, which means then you’re not going to be satisfied. Right?

Kevin Anthony 36:43
So it’s like, you think you’re doing something good for yourself. But what you get back in return is dissatisfaction because of what you did, basically. So yeah, it’s not a good cycle to be in. So it’s really important as you said that she’s on board and trust me, ladies, if Your listening. If you can support your man in this and help him develop this ability, you are going to get more orgasms in return than you could ever count.

Céline Remy 37:09
So what are you doing still listening? Go now masturbate and start learning how to not ejaculate every single time or go to sexual mastery power mastery.com and you will guide you on how to do it.

Kevin Anthony 37:22
Absolutely. All right, that’s all the time we have for this episode, and we will see you next week. We hope you like this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoy this show, subscribe. leave us a review and share it with your

Céline Remy 37:40
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