300th Episode Celebration & How To Feel Her With Your Penis

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All right, welcome back to the Love Lab podcast. This is episode 300. Yes, that’s right, 300 episodes. And this one is titled A Celebration of 300 Episodes and how to feel her with your penis. So I’m going to start out with just, you know, a little bit of celebration. 300 episodes is a milestone, for sure. And I want to just talk a little bit about the show and how we got here to this point. And then I want to spend the rest of the show talking about something that I’ve been thinking about doing for a long time. But I haven’t done it because I was struggling with how to express this in words. I think I’ve got it down, I’m going to do the best I can. But really what we’re going to be talking about is how to feel all kinds of different things that are going on with your woman through your penis, when you’re making love. It’s, it’s gonna be a little tricky to really put this into words, as feelings often are. But it’s what I consider an essential skill to being a sexual master. So I think it’s something that’s really important. I think all men should know how to do this. And I’m going to do my best to explain to you what I’m talking about, and then show you how you can really learn this.

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All right. So, you know I’ve been I’ve been talking to friends and colleagues lately about the fact that this 300 episode was coming up. And a lot of people were like, This is amazing. This is a huge milestone, you really need to celebrate this. And I thought okay, yeah, we got to spend a little time talking about this. But I’m fairly sure that most of you don’t want to listen to an entire show of me, you know, gushing about, you know, the podcast and 300 episodes, but I needed to take at least a little bit of time to talk about it.

So first of all, a couple of quick stats on the show thus far. 300 episodes, obviously, you know, that 223 with Céline and 77. Now on my own. It’s amazing how much content Selena and I put out there and is how much has been put out since she’s been gone. It really amazes me, you know, and I’ll talk about this when we get in when I get into a little bit more of like how it all started and everything, but I never never thought we’d be anywhere near 300. Over the course of those 300 episodes, there have been 107 guests interviewed. That’s a lot of interviews. I’m very fortunate that a lot of my guests will often say things like, wow, that was one of the best interviews I’ve done in you know, you’re really good at interviewing people and all I can really say is that how has been honed over hundreds of views, which is quite a lot with a lot of varied guests, some of which were easy to interview, and some of which really were not. I’ve learned a few things about how to do a decent interview since the beginning.

Over half a million downloads in Apple podcasts, and that does not include other podcast services. You know, some people get more than that in one YouTube video. But the podcast base is really different. And, you know, when you realize that the average podcast, you know, when somebody releases an episode gets less than 100 downloads, do you realize that over half a million downloads is significant? And then, you know, obviously, the show is also on YouTube. On YouTube, it has over 8.7 million views. That to me, kind of blows my mind. Yeah, I mean, I know, I know, there are plenty of YouTube channels out there that will get that on, again, one video. And I’ve got 300. So it’s like, okay, whatever. But you have to realize these shows are an hour-long and hour-long content never does as well as short videos, people’s attention spans really are not that good these days. And so very few people will listen to, you know, an hour-long program on YouTube.

So I think that’s amazing. And for, you know, what is still, I think, considered a relatively small YouTube channel. I think that’s pretty impressive, of course, due to the subject matter, and often the way it’s presented, I know that I get suppressed a lot. So I’m, I’m really happy and really pleased to see those kinds of numbers. And so yeah, just wanted to take a moment to celebrate that with y’all. So I just wanted to talk a little bit too, about the show, sort of how it started, and how we got to where we are. You know, I understand that over 300 episodes, and we started in 2018. So that’s a fair number of years now going on six years, that not everybody that listens to this show now has been around that entire time. So you might not understand a few things about the show that I just thought I wanted to share with you.

The first is, how did we even start doing this show what we were doing coaching work, for sure, we were using our website primarily as a way to expose people to the work that we were doing. And of course, we were looking for new ways to potentially get our message out there. But podcasts really didn’t come up from that. Every morning Selena and I used to take a walk through our neighborhood, the first thing we would do when we would get up in the morning is go out and take a walk, rain, shine, winter, whatever. I mean, dreaded winter, we live in Southern California, but it would still get cold. And we would just walk in the mornings and what would we talk about on those walks a lot of the time, a lot of the time we would talk about our clients and what was going on for them and who we were working with that day and what their problems were and how we were going to solve those problems. Sometimes we would talk about our own relationship and the things that we really love things that were working, you know, maybe we were talking about the sex that we had the night before, and how amazing it was. And like, you know, again, what was working?

So we were having these amazing conversations on a daily basis. And at one point, I said, you know, we really need to record these because there’s so much valuable information here that people could really use. And we’ve also Yeah, okay, I you know, the other place that the idea came from was, you know, and this has to do with where the title of the show came from as well. You know, we would have these amazing lovemaking sessions, and then afterward, we would always sit there and talk about it and like, we, you know, again, what worked, what didn’t work, and, you know, there are so many times where, you know, Céline would say to me, Okay, how did you do that thing? We need to figure out how you did that thing. She’s like, I need to know this because I need to teach this to my clients. She’s like, What did you do? How did you do and a lot of times I’d be like, I don’t really know I just do and so that was forced me to really think about it like, what was I actually doing in that moment that she really responded to and really liked? That she felt was so uh, Amazing, she needed to teach it to her clients. And so we would kind of reverse engineer the amazing sex that we were having. And originally, we were just using that to coach our clients. And then again, it was like, Man, that’s like, we have all these amazing discussions on our walks. We have all these amazing sort of reverse engineering sessions, you know, after I love making, like, there needs to be a way to capture this, and put it out there to benefit people.

So one day, I said, You know what, we need to do a podcast. That’s what we need to do. That’s how we’re going to get this out there. And so he was like, well, that’s a cool idea. But I don’t have time for that. I’m too busy. And I was like, Okay, I don’t remember what she was working on. At the time, some projects she was working on and off, it was redoing the website that was primarily just her at that point in time, I had very little of my own stuff, if any, I think on the website at that time. I used to have my own separate website. Whatever it was that she was working out, she was like, I’m too busy. I just can’t get to this. And I was like, Okay, well, that’s fine. Let me know when you’re ready. I think it was about a solid year later. And I had brought it up a few times, you know, over the course of that year, I think it’s about a solid year later that she came back to me. She said, Okay, I’ve got the bandwidth now. Let’s start a podcast. And I was like, great, but we had zero experience doing a podcast, we didn’t know anything about it. I just didn’t get on, the interwebs and go like, how do you do a podcast, you know, fortunately, I had a background in doing a little bit of music recording as a musician. I was experimenting around with recording some of my music. And I had some equipment, I had a basic recording interface. And I had live performance mics, not even studio mics.

So you know, there’s like this is a studio mic, you wouldn’t use this in a live performance because it would pick up everything and sound terrible. Sounds great in a controlled environment, though. But I had just, you know, standard live mics like you’d see anybody in a local, you know, club, bar, whatever, you know, singing through. So I just set that stuff up. And we just started recording, we had audio only. Absolutely no video, I have somewhere I have a photo, hopefully I’ll get that up on the screen over there, showing you what the original setup looked like. It was pretty simple, pretty rudimentary, we were learning as we were going, trying to figure out better ways to get the sound quality better. And as the show started to catch on, people started saying, hey, you know, be really nice to be able to see you rather than just hear you because we were also posting these on YouTube. But it was just audio.

So we’re like, oh, man video, that’s like a whole other thing. Like, we were just recording in this little corner of a room, and like, we didn’t have a background, we didn’t have a camera. We were just how are we going to do this, I got nothing to do. We had no lighting, and nothing to do with our setup was conducive to recording any sort of quality video. So we just started super basic, literally using the camera in my laptop at the time. And throwing up just a white background behind us. That worked for a little while. But then eventually was not working. And you know, it was just it was a progression over time. You don’t need to know all the details of all the different things we changed along the way and why and all that but, you know, we would just we would have people on the show. And we would see what their background looked like or their lighting looked like. And we were like man, it looks so much better than ours. They look so much more professional than we do. Like we got to step this up. We have to figure out how to do better. And it was just a constant, you know, trial and error of like, how can we do better. I remember we started noticing that the video quality just kept getting worse and worse and we couldn’t figure it out.

And then one day I realized that my MacBook was suffering from a problem that I didn’t even know a certain number of years MacBooks suffered from which was the anti-glare coating on the screen was starting to peel off and you couldn’t see it visibly with the eye it was lifting from the surface of the glass. But it was causing some of the images causing everything that the camera saw to be a little blurred like a little blurry almost like it had a little bit of a wall I opaque color over it or something like that I kept trying to clean the camera would never fix it. I mean, just so many stupid things like that. And it’s really interesting because nowadays podcasting has gotten so popular that what a lot of people are doing when they want to start a podcast that just go out and they hire a podcast expert, you know, somebody that knows how to do all this tells them exactly what equipment to use, what to buy, how to set it all up, you know, does the editing for them and just all the technical stuff is taken care of by somebody else. And we really had none of that we had some basic level skills in this area. And the rest, we just kind of figured out from trial and error.

So some of our earlier podcasts, the audio recording doesn’t sound that great, which is a shame, because some of the content is fantastic. The video looks terrible if there is a video on some of it. I mean, it was just, it was quite a quite the interesting experience as we went on. But all in all, I’ve always been really proud of the information that we put out there. In fact, one time, Selena and I had to take a road trip, when we were going to be in the car for many, many hours. And we said, you know, why don’t we go back and listen to some of our early podcasts now, I don’t know, I’m guessing we were, we were well over 100 episodes in at this point. And we hadn’t listened to any of those early episodes, right? We couldn’t be in the car for six, seven hours, whatever it was, one way. So let’s just listen to some of our early podcasts. And honestly, I was a little a little scared to do that. I was like, oh, man, this is gonna be so cringy I don’t even know if I want to do this, I’m just gonna like, the whole time, I’m just gonna be going like, Oh, God, this is terrible. So we picked a handful of the early episodes. And we listened to them. And we were really pleasantly surprised that they were actually pretty good. Like, I was just expecting disaster, like, I’m going to be so ashamed. Like, I’m going to want to go home immediately and pull all of these down off the podcast and YouTube because, you know, they’re so embarrassing. And they they really weren’t.

So despite, you know, the challenges we have with trying to figure out how to do all of this on our own, not having had a YouTube channel previously, or a podcast or anything else, we were really pleasantly surprised that they were as good as they sound, it’s to us. And you know, you’re always most critical of your own stuff. So the fact that, you know, we were like, Hey, these are actually pretty good, was really quite amazing. And that made me feel a whole lot better about all of the early work that we did. I mean, I still have some of my very first YouTube videos up that I did solo. And that’s a whole story in and of itself, you know, I was not doing solo YouTube videos, I was only doing videos with Céline Not just the podcast, but other videos as well. And Céline was doing videos on her own, but I was not at the time. And, you know, obviously, as people listening to the show know, now Céline is not here, that, you know, she was struggling with some pretty big health issues. And at a certain point, she really couldn’t make videos on her own anymore. And even before that, like she was still making some but not nearly as many. And in an effort to just, you know, keep the YouTube channel going and keep the business going and keep putting content out there so people could find us, you know, I said, Okay, I gotta do something, I got to figure out a way to get some videos on this platform. And I literally just use my phone and a selfie stick and just started recording videos. And those are terrible video quality and audio quality. But they’re up there. And I don’t take them down because they’re still good content. And, you know, I’m not out here trying to, you know, pretend that I am the best at, you know, any of this stuff.

You know, I’m just, I’m just a regular guy like the rest of you who learns as he does things, you know, so I don’t need I don’t feel the need to only have the most polished, perfect content out there. I just do my best to give you all the highest quality content as far as what am I talking about. You know, these days, I’m trying to do really high quality when it comes to audio and video and all that as well because I know that that makes for a better experience for you, the viewers, and the listeners. But the goal has really always primarily been like, what’s the content that I’m delivering? Is it helpful? Is it teaching you something? Is it making a difference in your life? And, yeah, that’s always been our goal, to help educate, inspire people to have, you know, the best relationships, they can have to become the best versions of themselves they can be, and to enjoy all of the benefits of having a fantastic and fulfilling sex life. So that’s always been the goal of this show. It will continue to be the goal. And I am glad and happy that y’all have supported it as long as you have.

Yeah, you know, obviously, you can hear I’m a little emotional about it. Part of that is thinking back about the journey, but obviously, a lot of that is tied to Celine. And what a big part of this journey she was. So thanks, everybody, for all your support all these years. Here’s to many more episodes. And that’s all I want to say about that for now. Okay, so we’re going to do things slightly differently. I’m going to break a little bit earlier. I’m going to read the second ad, and then we’re gonna get into the real meat of the show today, which is how to feel her with your penis.

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All right. So how to feel her with your penis? What do I even mean by that? Okay, so when you’re making love, there are a lot of things that you can feel when you are penetrating a woman. And that requires a certain level of awareness. If you have that level of awareness, you can know what to do when. And sometimes you might even know what she needs before she even knows what she needs. So when I’m talking about, you know, what do I mean by feel her going in a moment and give you basically a list of different things that you can feel? But the idea here is, is that you can learn a lot about where she’s at what she’s feeling, what she wants, what she needs, simply by paying attention to what you can feel with your penis now. I don’t recommend that that’s the only way you learn those things.

So, you know, I teach a lot, you know, visual acuity. So looking at her face, are her cheeks getting flushed? What facial expression is she making? Is she kind of wincing that’s a little uncomfortable, or does she have a big smile on her roll her eyes rolling into the back of her head because she’s experiencing so much pleasure? So that’s that’s one set of skills, right? That visual acuity looking at her face to see what’s going on. You can also look at her body. What’s her body doing? Is it tensing up or is it relaxing? Is her back arching? You can look at her genitals. There’s a whole thing in the it’s empowered mastery, I think in sexual mastery and also in my coaching program, where I show you photos of the different stages of encouragement of a woman’s genitals her vulva, you can see the different colors that it changes. You can see how it swells. You can see how it opens. You can see how you know the position of the clitoris We’ll change, there’s lots of things that you can tell, just by literally looking at her. So those are all important skills. And you’ve also got, you know, the fact that you can ask her, where she at? How is she feeling? What does she need in that moment? So really good communication skills are also some tools that you can use. So when you combine, you know, the visual acuity, the communication, the just sort of spatial awareness of what’s happening in the room around you in with her, and you combine that with using your penis to also feel what’s happening and what’s going on. You. Really, I mean, that’s the mastery level, you can do so many things.

So that kind of brings me to the next piece, which is, what would you be able to do? If you could feel all of these things? Well, as I mentioned already, you might know what it is that she needs or wants during penetration. Okay, well, what do I mean by that? Well, let’s say you go to penetrate her and you notice that you’re not feeling any wetness. Well, that would tell you that you need more foreplay, you haven’t done a good enough job of getting her warmed up. Maybe she’s still too much in her head. And maybe she hasn’t relaxed enough yet. Or maybe you go to penetrate her and you feel that, you know, Her vagina isn’t really open yet. Again, that can tell you, maybe you need more foreplay, maybe that tells you you need to do a really slow penetration, maybe that tells you that you only need to penetrate a little bit and not go all the way in yet. Right? So there’s a lot of things that you can learn just by feeling with your penis. And like I said, I have a whole list of things you could potentially feel here, which we’ll get to in a minute. But under the why would you want to be able to do this, you can learn stuff, you can learn valuable information that can help you be better.

And so, as I stated earlier, I think this is really a key skill to becoming a master lover. And I will explain why that is more as we go a little further through this. But I think, you know, any man that a woman refers to is really, truly an amazing lover. Whether he realizes it or not, has this skill. He’s doing this, whether he’s consciously thinking about it or not. She will also be really amazed at how intuitive you are. And I mentioned earlier, just a few moments ago, that you might even know, things that she doesn’t even know yet about her body if you’re really paying attention and feeling. So for instance, you know, I remember Slean, you know, telling me on a on a few occasions, she would say something like, you know, I’m not ready yet for penetration. And I’d be like, really, because I can feel lots of lubrication. And I can feel that your vagina is actually quite open. And she and then she would like, check it for herself. Like sometimes she’d even use your own finger. And she’d be like, Oh, my God, you’re right. Now, some of you may be thinking, How could Céline You know, being this expert, not know what her own vagina was doing? Well, the answer to that actually is quite simple. Because, you know, Céline was really in tune with her body, pretty much all the time really was a master of her own sexuality. But the answer lies in the fact that sometimes there was a disconnect between what was happening in her head, and what was happening with her genitals. And, you know, we’ve talked about this many, many times on the show about women’s ability to have this diffuse awareness and be thinking about a lot of different things. And one of the big skills that I’m always teaching men is how to help women get out of their heads, right?

And get into their physical body. And so all that really showed was that she was too much in her head and not really connecting with her physical body. So if she’s not aware of what’s happening with her physical body because of that, well One, you know, again, do everything you can to help her get into her body. But two, you can actually figure out where her physical body is. So that can be very helpful. Because, you know, in those moments when that happened, and this was fairly early on in our relationship, and I would say, well, here, let me tell you what I feel, let me tell you what I think is happening. And then she’d be like, Oh, my God, you’re right, she would start to make the connection. So for her one of those big aha was that what my brain is thinking isn’t always what is actually happening in my body.

And so for her, it was there was this aha, about, okay, just because I feel a certain way in my head, doesn’t mean that my body feels the same way. And so, it was really interesting, because a lot of times, you know, women will think, Well, you know, I’m in my head, I’m not in the mood. So, therefore, my body must not be in the mood. And sometimes that’s true, sometimes the body will follow, and you know exactly what the mind is thinking. But that’s not always true. And so, that was kind of an important sort of breakthrough for her in that moment was like, ah, there can be a disconnect between the mind and the body. This is true for men also, by the way. And this is one of the things that we talk about and work on when it comes to erection difficulties is, is having the mind and the body not really connected, not functioning as one, right? So yeah, she might be amazed at the things that you know about her body that she may not have actually known herself, and you can help her reconnect her mind and her physical body. So that is an amazing skill to have. She’ll start to learn to trust you more. And this is another reason why you’d want to be able to do this, she’ll start to learn that you’re not just saying, I’m penetrating you because I want to penetrate you now. She’ll start to learn that, Oh, yeah. If he’s going there, then he must see this, feel this, whatever, right?

So she’ll start to learn to trust more, and she’ll start to learn to soften and relax more. And the reality is, is this is what she’s always wanted in a man. This is what every woman has always wanted her man to be able to do. You’ve heard it a million times. Well, he should just know. And, of course, you know, when coaching women, I have to tell them, No, he’s not a mind reader. He shouldn’t just know. Do not expect him to just know anything. If you want him to know something, tell him just outright tell him. However, women don’t always do that. And so one of the things that we teach men is everything that they can possibly do to figure out what’s going on. And that includes all the things I started talking about in the beginning of the show. That includes having really good communication and asking questions when you’re unsure. That includes visual acuity and looking for all the signs that things are going well or maybe not going so well. And that includes being able to really feel right really feel with your penis. So if you can do all of that, she’s gonna look at you basically, like a god, a sexual God. For those who are religious. Don’t take this the wrong way. We’re talking little g god here, not big G God. But the idea is though, she will look at you like Wow, I’ve never had a man that was able to really know me, know me, feel me know what I need, the way that you do. And trust me, you definitely want her to feel that way about you.

So that’s what I’m talking about when I mean really feel her with your penis. Those are some reasons why you would want to do that. Trust me the look in her eye. When she looks at you like you are a sexual God a master is like no other look you will ever get from anybody else in your life and it is amazing. Obviously, there are some other parts to having her look at you like that, such as being able to last as long as you want and take her through multiple multiple multiple waves of mind-blowing orgasms of clitoral and G spot and cervical and all of that stuff. I mean, there’s way more than just this but this is an essential piece because this is how you do all that other things. All right. So then let’s talk about what is it that you can actually feel? Let’s try to bring this from the theoretical into the real actual, you know, what? What is it? That I might actually be feeling with my penis? Some of this I talked about a little bit already some of it I have not. Okay, first one, is she wet enough before you even penetrate her, I mean, you should be able to feel that. Now, obviously, you can feel it with your hands, but you can also feel it with your penis. There should be at least some wetness on the outside. And if there isn’t, then you either haven’t done enough foreplay, or, you know, maybe she’s wet inside, but not outside yet.

Maybe you need a little extra lube on the outside, depending on, you know, her age and you know where she’s at, in her life. As far as you know, perimenopause, menopause, that sort of thing. You know, levels of lubrication can vary, but you should at least be able to feel, is she wet enough for penetration? This is important. And this is a huge complaint of women, when you talk to women about, you know, the quality of the sex they’re getting. Women will often say things like, he often tries to penetrate me too soon, and it’s uncomfortable, and it doesn’t feel good. So you should be able to feel that. Next, is she open enough? Right? So as you start to penetrate her, you should be able to feel again, is there tension in the vagina? Or is it starting to relax? And because there are several rings of muscles in the vagina, some may be more relaxed than others. So when you attempt to penetrate her is it’s difficult from the start, or is the beginning easy, but then you feel it’s tighter as you go a little deeper in, you should be able to feel that, unfortunately, too many managers like just jam it in there. Just just jam it in there. And they’re not even really paying attention to that. And this is why women are like, oh, oh, hold on, slow down. This is why they tense up more, and then it becomes even more tense and more difficult.

So yeah, you should be able to feel if she’s open. So what can you do with that information? Well, you can, if she’s not open enough, yet, you can say, well, let’s not penetrate yet. Let’s do something else. Let’s do some more foreplay. You can penetrate just a little bit. And then just work with very short strokes in and out just in, you know, the first inch or so you can do a very, very slow penetration where you’re just little by little, just slowly penetrating and as she feels, you slowly entering her, you’ll feel different layers of her muscles starting to relax and open. So you know, when you penetrate her and how you penetrate her has a lot to do with what you feel when you are attempting to penetrate her. So we talked about the three different rings of muscles, that’s another thing that you should be able to feel not only with penetration, but let’s say you know, when beginning to penetrate, I should say, but let’s say when you are, you know completely inside of her, you should be able to feel the different rings contracting at different times. Now, especially if she has done some work to strengthen those muscles and learn control of them, and learn to separate them so that she can squeeze the different muscles independently of each other whenever she wants. And you should be able to feel all of that. And, you know if she has learned how to do that, that can add a tremendous amount of sensation and enjoyment for you and your experience. But if you’re not really capable of feeling that and we’ll talk in a little bit about why that might be if you’re not really capable of feeling that you’re missing out on a tremendous amount of pleasure that you yourself could be feeling in this lovemaking penetration process. So you should be able to feel those differences.

Another thing you should be able to feel is whether or not the tip of your penis is touching her cervix. Now obviously whether or not you can reach the cervix has to do with many things it has to do with the length of Your penis, it has to do with the depth of her vagina, and also has to do with where she is at in her cycle because the cervix will drop or raise depending on where she’s at in her cycle, it also has to do with the position that you’re in. So some positions will allow for deeper penetration and some for more shallow penetration. So all of those things will affect whether or not you can actually touch her cervix. But it’s important to be able to know when you are because sometimes that will feel really good for her and you’re like, oh, okay, if I move this way, and I touch her, like, I’m in this position, I can touch her cervix, and she’s loving it, keep doing that. And other times, it might be a little bit uncomfortable for her. And so you might want to go, oh, okay, I can tell I’m bumping up against the cervix. And because I’m paying attention to all these signs, I can feel that that is not that comfortable for her in this moment. So I’m going to back off on that, and maybe try, you know, stimulating the cervix a little further on in and see if maybe it’s a little better later on.

But you should be able to tell whether or not you are touching it. This is a big one. Because, you know, not every man can touch a woman’s cervix all the time. And so it’s really important to know, like, am I stimulating it? Because cervical orgasms are some of the biggest, most powerful, just earth-shaking, orgasms that a woman can have. And so you want to know, if you’re on the right track to helping facilitate one or several of those. So you should be able to feel whether or not you are touching her cervix. And some other things you can feel if the muscles in her vagina are contracting voluntarily or involuntarily. Right. So is she controlling those? You can tell when she’s manually controlling those muscles. Or did she just have an orgasm and those muscles have gone into the involuntary contractions that can happen? You would want to know that that’s one of the ways by the way that you can tell if she has actually had an orgasm is what do you feel inside her vagina? Now some women some women have different definitions for what an orgasm actually is. So you’ll hear some women, they will only call the big earth-shaking-like explosive orgasm as an orgasm. And all these smaller waves of orgasms or maybe even the implosive orgasms that don’t explode out. Some women don’t realize that those are also orgasms.

And so she may be thinking, Well, I haven’t actually had an orgasm yet. But if you can feel with your penis, that she actually has, you could say, oh, I felt it. You had an orgasmic wave you had, you know, so women who are more in touch with their orgasms and have had more experience with all the different types of orgasms, and they’re a bit more tuned in, they’ll obviously no, I had this type or that type. But some women are still kind of figuring that out still learning it. They’ve maybe not had partners who have been able to facilitate multiple different types of orgasms. And they’ve never really experimented with them, you know, through their own masturbation. So they’re kind of learning that and doesn’t necessarily mean young women either. There’s plenty of older women who have not experienced these things and don’t really know what they’re feeling in their bodies. So, hopefully, you will be able to feel it also and say oh yeah, I totally felt that you had this amazing you know, orgasmic wave and I really felt it right.

So, you can actually help her connect with what she is feeling in her own body sometimes. Some other things that you can feel whether or not she has gushed are female ejaculated. So this is another interesting one because, you know, if you watch porn movies, you think that all female ejaculation is this massive explosion of like a gallon of liquid that goes everywhere. And that’s not necessarily the case. Sometimes they can be very small and subtle. But you can feel it and believe me, you can feel it. Usually what comes along with that is this blast of energy that you feel coming at you, through her vagina. But you can also sometimes feel these little mini-gushes. And that can really let you know that, again, you’re on the right track. And you’re, you’re, you’re doing something that she likes, and she’s enjoying it. And it’s getting really stimulated and turned on and maybe getting her close to an orgasm. So these are things that you can feel they really give you sort of the guideline of, do I keep going, do I keep doing this? Should I change and do something else? You know, is she really enjoying all that stuff?

Another thing that you can feel is, is she pulling you in closer or pushing you out. Right? So you can absolutely feel when a woman wants you so deeply inside of her that it feels like she just expands into this unknown limitless place, and it’s just sucking you in. But you’re gonna get sucked into a black hole in space, right? You literally feel that pull-in or you might feel that she’s starting to push you out. And that can really tell you where she’s at. That’s, that’s a pretty clear sign. If she’s starting tents, and the inner rings are starting to tense first, right? And you feel this sort of like, physical and energetic pushing you more out? Well, that is a good sign of not not a good sign. I should I have to say that properly, I was gonna say that is a good sign that something’s not right. But let me be really clear, it’s not a good sign per se, right, it’s just a sign that tells you something very clearly. So that’s another thing that you can feel. Here’s another one, if she is energetically pulling on you like literally pulling your ejaculation, your orgasm right out of you and into her. This is something that a lot of women do, that a lot of women are not aware that they do.

And when it comes to teaching men how to last longer, there’s always a component of teaching him, how can your woman help you last longer, there’s about half a dozen things that she can do to help you last longer, that will benefit her in the long run. Because if you last longer, she can go longer, and she can get closer to her orgasm and have different types of orgasms and all that kind of stuff. One of those pieces of how she can help you is not pulling energetically on you too hard. And this is one of those things like when I said earlier on, like I was somewhat struggling with how do I present this topic in a way that makes sense. And people can understand it. It’s this idea of sort of energetically pulling on you. And you know, once you learn to feel this and learn like you know, if you’ve been with a woman who was really, really turned on and not pulling on you versus a woman who’s really turned on and pulling on you. The difference is like night and day, it is so obvious and easy to tell. But if you haven’t experienced it before, you may not really be able to feel that difference.

The reality is, is most women don’t off really most is honestly the right term. But a lot of women especially the ones that aren’t aware that they’re doing this are pulling most of the time. And so a lot of men haven’t really had sex with women who weren’t pulling on them. And so they don’t, as men don’t really know the difference. I just like oh, that’s just what it feels like. But when you are with a woman who can allow her sexual energy to be really open, really expansive and really move, but without pulling on you energetically. That’s really that is a master skill for women in the bedroom. What tends to happen a lot is as women get really, really highly turned on and they start getting really close to their orgasm, they start pulling really hard on you as a man, and that will often cause you to ejaculate before she actually reaches her orgasm and then everybody’s disappointed. This I believe in my personal opinion is kind of the way nature designed it because nature was really trying to get us to procreate and make babies and so when a woman starts to get really close to an orgasm, she pulls hard, and boom, you ejaculate and babies are made.

However, it doesn’t have to be that way. Just because that’s the default program doesn’t mean that we can’t learn how to use our bodies differently. So as men we can learn how to last longer we can learn how to set radar, orgasm, and ejaculation. And as women, women can learn how to pull and not pull, so she can pull when she wants to pull you over, right when she wants you to ejaculate inside of her, and she cannot pull when she doesn’t want that. And you as a man should be able to feel that difference. And this is one of those things if you if you want to last longer, and you can feel that she’s pulling on you, you can communicate to her and you can say, Whoa, your energy is really pulling on me right now, like, can you back that down a little bit. Because I’m not ready to ejaculate yet. I want to keep going, I want to last longer, I want to take you through, you know, a few more orgasms beforehand.

So being able to feel that difference is really important. Another thing is, is she getting wetter during intercourse or drier, she might start out really wet and over the course of intercourse. Maybe she’s not as wet anymore, right? So that’s something that you would want to pay attention to. Or she might just get so ridiculously, you know, wet that it’s just oozing out of everywhere. So those are again, signs that tell you are we going in the right direction or not. Another thing you can feel is is there an abundance of energy flowing through her genitals, this is another one of those things when I talk about pulling energy and all that I understand that these are concepts that are not as easy to understand. But they are absolutely real. And if you experienced them, you know what I’m talking about. But I have often described, you know, having really amazing sex and being inside a woman and feeling like the analogy that I’ve always used is you’ve stuck your penis into an electrical socket. And it’s just like, you’re like, Wow, this is so much energy in there, coming at you from her. And you should be able to feel that.

Now, obviously, if there’s that much energy coming at you and you’re not good at controlling your ejaculation that can push you over into ejaculation. So you might be thinking, well, I don’t want to feel all of that, because that’s just going to make me ejaculate. However, feeling that is amazing and wonderful. And you want to be able to feel that because it makes the experience for you so much more amazing. However, you want to learn how to control your ejaculation, so that you can feel all of that and it doesn’t cause you to ejaculate. So you get the benefit of feeling all of that without being pushed over into a jack Ulation. And then the last one on this list of things that you shouldn’t be able to feel or could feel is I wrote his or her pussy happier. Not that this is an absolute reality, you can tell when a woman’s Pussy is really happy. Just like satiated, satisfied. Just happy. There’s nothing better in this world than a happy pussy. Very rarely will that be a happy pussy and not happy mind. Usually, the mind has to be happy also, for the PC to be happy. So a happy Pussy is of course, a good sign that your woman is also very happy in that moment.

So there you go. I’m sure if I gave it enough time, I could think of a few more. But that gives you a pretty good idea of the different things that you can feel simply by penetrating your woman, you can feel all of this stuff. And by doing this, you can know what to do when Okay, what do I do now? Do I penetrate now? Do I not penetrate now how far how fast, how hot, you know, all that kind of stuff. You can also learn how to give her the type of pleasure that she really wants. And you can also feel far more pleasure yourself much more intense sensations that can really really add to the experience that you are having. So yeah, I can’t think of any reason really why somebody wouldn’t want to be able to do that. And as I’ve said a couple of times, you know, this really, in my mind is a mastery skill. Okay, so a couple of things I want Talk about real quick before I wrap this one up because I am getting close to the end of the show, you know how are you able to feel all of this there are a few things that have to happen.

Number one, you have to re-sensitize your penis. So a lot of men have desensitized their penis from poor masturbation habits, too much porn use, things like that. And their penis needs a tremendous amount of physical stimulation to really be able to feel stuff. And so you need to re-sensitize your penis is so that you can start to feel all of these subtle things that may be happening. Next, you have to develop and maintain a really high level of awareness, you have to be really aware of what is going on in your body. And in her body. This is really important. Too many men check out they’re too focused on their own pleasure. They’re too focused on the destination of getting too into Jack Ulation. They are maybe thinking about, you know, porn or some other thing, you know, to stimulate them or turn themselves on. They may even be you know, doing all those mind tricks to not ejaculate, you know, counting this, that or the other thing or distracting themselves, you know, Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day, you know, all of those things, take your mind out of the game and decrease your ability to be able to feel all of these things.

All right, you need to know some female anatomy, so that when you’re feeling things with your penis, you know what it is you’re feeling? If I go in this angle, what is it that I’m feeling? If we’re in this position? What part of you know her vagina? Am I actually touching with my penis? Am I touching the cervix? You know, all of those things really help you understand what it is you’re actually feeling with your penis. As you’re learning, if you think you’re feeling something, simply ask her. Hey, it feels like I’m touching your cervix, you know? Am I like what does it feel like for you? She’ll know, she will absolutely no typical Oh, yeah. Or she’s like, No, that ain’t it. Keep trying. She’ll know if you’re touching her g spot. She’ll know if you are touching just a quadrant within her vagina that maybe has some stored trauma or some tension or something like that. So, you know, as you’re going, and you’re getting better at being able to do this, don’t be afraid to ask her, Hey, I think I’m touching this, like, what do you feel, you know, or you might say, Oh, I felt it’s felt like you were squeezing, you know, the inner muscles or the outer muscles, right. And she should be able to tell you, that’s exactly what I was doing.

So you get to kind of map the sensations to what it is, that is actually happening. And then you also need to have your cock, your heart and your head all connected. This is what Céline used to teach as the three minds, right? To truly be able to feel all of the fields, right, that you can feel when you are having that truly amazing, deeply connected lovemaking, all three of those things have to be connected, and the flow of energy between them all has to be open. You know, if we want to get woo-woo and get into the tantra space, and start talking about chakras and having all your chakras open and having the energy flow through all of your chakras. That’s another way of describing this, of having all of those energy centers open and having that energy flowing through you. So that you can feel all of this stuff. So you’ve got the physical, you know, thing being your cock your penis, then you’ve got, you know, feeling the energy of it. And then there’s the understanding of what you’re feeling. So you got to have all of those open and connected so that you can really feel so I just want to throw out a few tools Lastly, for you, that you can use to develop these skills.

Meditation and mindfulness is a great way to increase your not only your level of awareness but your ability to hold that level of awareness for long periods of time. Unfortunately, in our modern society today, everything is like little bits. little, you know, hits of adrenaline here and there and everywhere and dopamine right? From a notification on our phone and you watch a movie. And it’s like changing frame like cutting everywhere, every second, like we are so trained to be distracted all the time. Right that it takes practice now in our modern world, to be able to have concentration and mindfulness. So meditation is a way to do that. There are lots of mindfulness practices out there that can help you focus your mind so that you can concentrate and hold that focus. The mindful masturbation practice is a great tool that you can use. That’s something that’s taught in power and mastery and also in my coaching program.

Obviously, it can be used to teach a man how to last longer, and it can be used to teach a man how to separate his orgasm from ejaculation. But it also really teaches you how to masturbate. And I know most men are like, Oh, come on, I know how to masturbate. I’ve been doing it since I was, I don’t know, 10 years old, or whatever it is, right? But most, again, I don’t know if most men is correct. A lot of men have poor masturbation habits, things that have, you know, desensitized, their penis, for instance, because of rough masturbation, in some cases, even physically damage to their penis. And it’s not helping them, it’s not helping them have great sex, and it’s not helping them be able to feel all this stuff that we’re talking about. So you can use the mindful masturbation practice to change your masturbation habits, so that you can re-sensitize your penis, and you can start to feel a lot of things maybe that you haven’t felt before. Along with that, is to either stop or take a break from porn use. Because the porn use often contributes to these poor masturbation habits.

So this is a huge point we talk about when it comes to lasting longer because porn often trains men to ejaculate too quickly. So that’s something that you might want to do when you’re trying to learn how to feel more good communication skills, how you can communicate to your woman to your partner, what it is you’re feeling or what it is you think you’re feeling, the ability for both of you to communicate about what’s actually going on, so that you can both bring more awareness to what each of you is feeling. Obviously, the power master reprogram is a great resource did the ad for that at the beginning of the show link is in the description. A lot of the skills that you learn there will help you get better at this. And then lastly, you know, working with a coach, a coach that really understands this coach that really knows what this means that it’s not just a physical thing that understands the subtleties involved, here is another great way to learn this. So those are some tools that you can use now. There’s no way in a one-hour episode, I can actually go through and teach you every one of the things that you need to know to be a master at this. It’s just not possible in an hour.

What I really wanted to do with this episode was I wanted to bring up this subject, approach this subject, and get you to think about it in a different way, maybe introduce you to some ways of thinking about it that you’ve never thought of before pique your interest, get you thinking, what else could I possibly feel? How could I become more attuned? How could I become a sexual master with this technique? And then what are some tools that you could seek out and utilize in order to get there, and that was really the goal. So, you know, I don’t have enough time in this episode to teach you exactly how to do it. But I wanted to pique your interest, I wanted you to know that this exists. And I wanted to get you excited about learning it and then offer you some tools and resources for how you can learn it. I guarantee you, if you can master this skill, that it will absolutely improve the quality of your sex life. I absolutely guarantee that your woman will love it. And she will look at you like what did you just do? How did you do that? Where did you learn that? How do you know what’s going on in my body when I don’t write because I’ve heard all of those words myself. And I’m not saying that to brag. I’m just saying it to let you know that it’s possible that this does happen.

So I hope that I accomplished that in this episode, I hope you are more interested than ever, in learning how to do this and becoming the master that you were born to be. I always have felt that you know, obviously, when two people have a really rich and fulfilling sex life, it’s wonderful. But it, it then starts to go bigger than that, like, it will start to affect positively all the other aspects of your life and the quality of your life in general will just get better. When the quality of your life gets better, the quality of your relationship will get better, the quality of your home and family life will get better the quality of your work, life will get better, you might even see you start making more income, like everything just gets better, when you can master this amazing piece of sexuality, and what it means to have a truly amazing and fulfilling sex life, which will then in turn, improve the quality of your relationship and then just spiral out from there. Sending good positive vibes out through the rest of your life. So in my mind is absolutely worth it. And there’s no reason why you can’t be doing it, or shouldn’t be doing it. So I hope this episode inspired you a bit. Whatever you know, the path you want to take. I just suggest you start, try it, you know, do whatever whichever of these tools or practices is most appealing to you and see how far you can take it. All right, everybody. That’s all the time I have for this episode. Again. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for sticking with this show for 300 episodes, and I look forward to so many more.

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