Are You Addicted To Ejaculation?

Kevin Anthony 0:11
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Céline Remy 0:20
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Kevin Anthony 0:27
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 163 and is titled Are you addicted to ejaculation? And we’re not just asking that question to the men, but also to the women.

Kevin Anthony 0:44
So we are going to be talking obviously, about ejaculation, but also about how both men and women can get addicted to having an ejaculation in two, to facilitating an ejaculation and what that really means and why that might not be a good thing.

Céline Remy 1:07
I can’t wait to dive into it. So whether you’re men or a woman, stay tuned because you are probably going to learn some good stuff about a jag elation and new ways to take your sex life to the next level. So before we get started, let’s give a big shout-out to our sponsor’s power and mastery.

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Kevin Anthony 1:49
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Céline Remy 1:56
So let’s start with the problem when it comes to ejaculation. So most people like problems, ejaculation, what are you talking about? It’s great and awesome. And there’s nothing better in this whole world? Well, here’s the thing. The problem is that men have associated orgasms and ejaculation as a combo that comes together.

Céline Remy 2:20
And they use it to release tension and never learned to harness the power of their ejaculation. So this scenario usually goes as he has sex wants to focus on the ejaculation as fast as possible ejaculates and rolls over and falls asleep.

Kevin Anthony 2:38
Yeah. And I would say it’s not so much that they associate ejaculation and orgasm as being the same thing. They don’t know that there is even a difference. It’s not even like they’re lumping them together going yeah, you always do both at the same time. They don’t actually know that there is a difference. They think they’re the same thing. And they’re not.

Céline Remy 2:58
Oh, that we have to dive more into that. Now when it comes to women, and I think it’s a good thing that I’m the one talking about this right now is that unfortunately for many women, they link their self-worth to their ability to make him cum. And often they will feel insulted or led down. If he doesn’t come. They make it their mission to make him come if something doesn’t function the way it usually does.

Céline Remy 3:26
The first place they go into is what’s wrong with me. What did I do wrong? Why I’m not pretty enough. He’s not attracted to me. Did he cheat like whatever crazy faults that go on? Most of the time, it will be tied to their self-worth. And most women expect arousal and ejaculation as the end goal.

Kevin Anthony 3:50
Yeah, this is a crazy one. I still shake my head guy. I don’t understand how they don’t get it part. But it’s a crazy one. Because yes, a lot of women tie their self-worth in the bedroom to whether or not they can make a guy come. So a lot of them try really hard to make that happen. But then they make the guy come too soon. And then they’re disappointed and not happy with the quality of their sex life.

Kevin Anthony 4:18
Sometimes you just want to shake my head go, don’t you get it. And here’s the thing. A lot of them really don’t. I mean, I had a girlfriend years ago, who you know, I was sort of prided myself on being this tantric person and I could last as long as I wanted. And the first time we had sex and didn’t last that long. It wasn’t super fast, but it wasn’t that long.

Kevin Anthony 4:39
I felt like I was struggling the entire time to hold back my ejaculation. And so after that, we talked about it. And I said, Wow, that’s that was kind of weird because I was like, we’re having a really hard time. And she said, Oh, don’t worry about it. It’s just like every boyfriend I ever had, you know, comes really fast. And that’s when the light bulb went off, and I went I know exactly what’s happening here.

Céline Remy 5:04
So now would be a good time to explain the principle from the masculine as masculine, the principle is basically that the energy comes out shoots out, no pun intended, actually, pun intended. Well, farther feminine, the energy, she draws the energy in. Now, why is this important? It is important because when it comes to the bedroom, men in their nature will want to expose things out.

Céline Remy 5:37
If they’re not careful, they will come very quickly. And that’s kind of like their nature here. And woman, she draws beings in to like pull things towards her. And so if she’s not aware that she does that, she will then pull on the men. And by pooling, it’s an energetic experience.

Céline Remy 5:58
But it’s very tied to the story that Kevin just explained when very real, he could feel like he had to hold down a lot while making love to her because she was energetically pulling. And I tell a lot of my clients when we work one on one, that if she’s decided that you coming, this, there’s nothing you can do.

Kevin Anthony 6:22
It’s actually true, even if you’re really, really good at it. If she really wants to make you come, she can. But isn’t nature Amazing, right? So as men, we want to give things out. And as women they want to take things in, it’s almost like it was designed that way, how interesting how amazing

Céline Remy 6:44
were Are you sound effects given when you need them?

Kevin Anthony 6:47
I know, you know, I need to, I was not happy with the sound effect generator, it was not reliable enough. And it cost me too much of a pain in post-editing. So I have not been using it. But I do want to find a better one, if anybody out there has any ideas of you know, good sound effects that I can put directly into the board. That would be amazing,

Céline Remy 7:14
you know, asked directly supported the love lab podcast.com. We’ll be eternally grateful. Yeah. Okay, back to our ejaculation, right. The problem here is that both men and women in a traditional way, it is all goal-oriented, it’s focused on the destination.

Céline Remy 7:34
And that model of lovemaking is not sustainable in the long term, because she will eventually get bored with that style of lovemaking and not feel fulfilled. And he will eventually get really tired and not be able to stand up for the occasion.

Kevin Anthony 7:55
Yeah, I mean, we talked about this a lot on the show that is not about the destination of reaching an orgasm for him or for her. And then if you truly want to have mind-blowing, you know, out of this, out of this world, life altering sex, you’ve just got to let go of that you just do. Because that’s where the magic happens is when you let go of that agenda, that goal.

Céline Remy 8:19
And it’s a tough one. Because for most people, when we work with clients, and we teach couples to not so much focus on wherever he comes, she comes but more on the quality of the lovemaking. A lot of people kind of look at us about like, with big deer in headlights like eyes and are wondering, well, if that’s not the end goals, and what its like, why would I do

Kevin Anthony 8:47
that? Right? And that’s actually the question that comes up is, why would you want to do that? And it’s hard to explain to people because the reality is, you don’t know what you don’t know. In other words, if you’ve never experienced it, you have no idea what you’re missing out on. So you sit there from your limited perspective, and you go.

Kevin Anthony 9:08
Why in the world would you want to do that? If you are ever lucky enough to experience that, then the light bulb goes off you go. Oh, now I get it. Right. So what’s interesting about that, is that because they don’t know what they don’t know, they think that orgasm is the best thing that they can achieve.

Kevin Anthony 9:32
So of course, why wouldn’t they want to do that? And hence they can come become addicted to that orgasm. And there’s a couple of ways we’re going to quote some David data work here in a moment, but there’s a couple of ways or such reasons why men become addicted to their ejaculation.

Céline Remy 9:53
So this information comes from David Deida and if you haven’t read his work He has some very controversial work. His book is the way of the superior man is kind of like one of the first books he wrote like 20 plus years ago, and it’s still in print

Kevin Anthony 10:13
that book, honestly, because I read it years ago, and then I went back and read it again, just a few, I don’t know, two years ago or something like that. And I have to say, that book has stood the test of time. It really has, I know, given today’s culture and everything they’re saying about men and masculinity and, you know, nonbinary, this, that and the other thing, you know.

Kevin Anthony 10:36
It’s contrary to almost everything you’re seeing out there today. But if you’re really honest with yourself and you really read that book with an open mind, you’ll realize it’s just as relevant today as it was 20 years ago.

Céline Remy 10:48
Yeah, so what he did and so check out his work if you haven’t yet but otherwise, we’ll keep you here the three ways that a man can become addicted to ejaculation so the first way is due to evolution. In short, we’ve had an ejaculation you will have no babies you have no descended like your future can you get continue the lineage and all of that. This is way more powerful than you realize.

Kevin Anthony 11:14
Here’s you know, this thing, just kind of flying it out there like well, you know, evolution because if you didn’t ejaculate, you didn’t have any kids. And you know, there’s probably a few people rolling their eyes going, Oh, please, here we go again. But there are, there are whole books written by extremely well known and well-credentialed PhDs, studying human evolution and sexuality.

Kevin Anthony 11:38
And the drive to procreate is massive. Whether you feel it or not, it is programmed into the very DNA that makes you who you are, it is, it is not something to just brush off and go, Yeah, whatever. That’s just programming stuff. Like, yeah, it is programming, the deepest level of programming that exists

Céline Remy 12:01
very ancient stuff. Well, and some of the things too, is that with evolution, there was a time when humans probably didn’t have as much comfort and safety and security. Of course, not everybody in the world has the lifestyle that we have here. And poverty still exists and all of that, but let’s face it, like maybe 1000s of years ago, let’s say you’re making love and then there’s a physical fret.

Céline Remy 12:28
I mean, one of the examples people give all the time is like a tiger, that’s you, you’re making love and there’s a tiger nearby. The first thing that happens is when there’s that fret, that stress is that your body goes to ejaculation because you got to finish what you’re doing. And you got to be able to focus your energy on saving yourself and your family and all of that.

Céline Remy 12:53
Now, while we may not have to face tigers, like animal tigers, people in their daily life experience just as much if not more, I believe actually more stress than their ancestors. And our brain doesn’t know the difference between real and like imagined stress between like by the real meaning

Kevin Anthony 13:17
like real stress, meaning the Tigers about to eat and the other stress meaning as you know, you have a deadline at work or something like that, right? Like an arbitrary manmade stress thing that really has nothing to do with life or death or survival at all.

Céline Remy 13:33
Yeah, but the results in the body are the same that when there’s so much stress there’s a need to release that tension, tension in the body equals ejaculation. So this is why this is Reason number one that you might be addicted to ejaculation because of your programming because you haven’t yet bypassed the need to procreate the need to just be a chrome Mannion said how you say that in English caveman

Kevin Anthony 14:00
Cro Magnon CRO Magnon man number two on a date his list is an early sexual experience. So you basically have to do it quickly before you get caught. But you know, I’m going to add to this because you know, we do think of it in terms and this is where it starts, right? You’re young boy, you learn how to masturbate you’re like, Oh, this is cool.

Kevin Anthony 14:24
The whole world is telling you masturbation is no good. And maybe they get slightly different messaging these days. But trust me when I was growing up, it was like hair was growing to grow on your palms, you were going to be banished to hell forever, you know, like, all that kind of stuff. But you did it anyway. Right? Because you just you couldn’t do it. The hormones were driving you stuff was happening. Evolution

Céline Remy 14:45
was driving you Kevin right.

Kevin Anthony 14:48
So you did it anyway, but you had to like hide in the bathroom or someplace or worry about getting caught. So you just basically did it fast. And you trained yourself to ejaculate as quickly as possible. Now, here’s the thing. I think that this is also true for a lot of adult men. Especially they’re in a relationship. They don’t. They’re not being fulfilled sexually for numerous reasons.

Kevin Anthony 15:14
You know, they’re using porn. That’s often a way of training yourself to ejaculate too quickly because the porn is overly stimulating. I mean, let’s be honest, how many guys get through more than 10 minutes of porn before they rub one out, right? Like, not too many. Actually, the statistics show that by the way, if you dive into the stats, like Pornhub publishes their stats.

Kevin Anthony 15:34
We’ve talked about it on the show a few times, if you dive into that, you realize they only watch for a few minutes. Why is that? Because they watch them get super turned on they masturbate. They ejaculate. Now, they’re no longer turned on that turn it off. But the point is, is that you know, whether it starts when you’re a kid, and or continues into adulthood, you are literally training yourself to ejaculate quickly.

Céline Remy 15:58
Yeah, and the habits used to basically behaving like a teenager in your sexuality. So again, with coming back full circle with Are you addicted to ejaculation? Meaning, are you still having the kind of sex you had when you started to play with your penis and discover sex? And if yet, yes, you haven’t yet stepped into the new level of what could be achieved, which we’ll talk about in a few minutes.

Kevin Anthony 16:23
So that’s basically number three.

Céline Remy 16:25
Well, number four is a little bit different than the third way is that most people nowadays have improper life habits. So bad diet, bad posture, poor breathing, very lack of sleep, I mean, so many things. And what that does is that people are stressed, so stressed that they become anxious, fidgety, and the only way to feel better is to rub on at night,

Céline Remy 16:59
because you’re like, can’t really sleep tossing like, if you know, you just going to do this and you’re going to fall asleep, but and also this lifestyle of poor diet, poor breathing, poor posture, all of that creates a lot of stress in the body, and the body just can’t thrive, really. So you just end up feeling tenser. There are all these patterns. And that’s one of the reasons to

Kevin Anthony 17:29
Yeah, so there you go. According to David Deida, those are the sort of top three reasons why men can become addicted to ejaculation. You know, the reality is, too is ejaculation is fun. It feels good. And a lot of people in this world are always after the sort of quick fix, right, the short-term gain.

Kevin Anthony 17:52
So it’s really easy to be like, oh, I’m just gonna, you know, masturbate for five minutes, ejaculate and then move on with my day. As is often the case, when you only focus on the short-term gains, you miss out on long-term gains, the long-term gains are generally significantly larger than the short-term gains. Larger sorry, larger, stronger,

Céline Remy 18:21
just had to get there well enough to last longer. I do love that you brought up the whole that Yeah, ejaculation is spot on and is good. And in no way do we say that. You shouldn’t ejaculate. But what you need to do is to learn to practice moving the energy, otherwise, it will accumulate in your body and cause you to feel tensed and just not as good.

Céline Remy 18:43
And we also want to dress quickly, because we’ve done a whole show on nofap. But we want to talk about nofap and semen retention quickly. Because some people then they start to understand about the ejaculation, maybe you should enjoy it every single time. And then you’d be like, that’s it. I’m never doing it. I’m going to go for years without coming on my whole life now without coming.

Céline Remy 19:04
And I’m laughing. But we’ve met people like this who went four years without ejaculating. We’re proud of that. And that’s not what we recommend that you do. That could be one of the pitfalls. When you go too far. On one end of the spectrum, you go to the other end, and it’s essential that you learn the skills of moving energy in the body and no fap and semen retention usually don’t really focus on that.

Kevin Anthony 19:33
Yeah. And you know, we did talk about this on the show that we did on nofap and semen retention and all that but I do believe at this point in my life, that practicing semen retention for long periods of time is actually harmful to your prostate. We don’t need to go into it here and go into the details of how or why you go back and listen to the A previous show that we did, but I don’t think that that is actually healthy for you.

Kevin Anthony 20:05
And I know people are gonna, it’s probably somebody listening right now who’s like, bullshit by law. I know that there are people that disagree with me there. But there is some data and science behind the buildup of toxins from not flushing the prostate and blah, blah, blah, anyway.

Kevin Anthony 20:26
Yeah, I would say avoid nofap and semen retention now, you know, no, fap if you have a real problem, if you’re addicted to masturbation, like, you know, you’re you’re in your 40s, and you’re still masturbating three times a day, every day. Maybe something like no fat might help you for a while to break the habit. So it’s not all bad, but I don’t think it’s really a way of life’s not long term.

Kevin Anthony 20:56
It’s like, it’s like keto diet, you know, everybody wants to go on a keto diet, right? And then like six months later, like, why am I miserable? Because keto is never designed to be a permanent diet. keto is a diet designed to help you achieve a specific goal for a short period of time, and then you’re supposed to go back to eating like a normal human. Sorry for all your keto fans out there, but it’s true.

Céline Remy 21:21
Why don’t you give our listeners you have a special invite for all the men listening and if they want to learn to get better at the control of their ejaculation, you can help them

Kevin Anthony 21:34
That is correct. And I can help them with a great many other things. So hey, guys, do you know what makes a man great? Do you know the kind of masculine man that women are irresistibly attracted to? And what is it money job title his body? Is it because he’s great in bed or has a big penis? He has great pickup lines. But what if you don’t have those or maybe you only have some of them?

Kevin Anthony 21:55
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Kevin Anthony 22:26
If you really want to learn any of the stuff that we talked about here, separating orgasm from ejaculation becoming a sexual Master, lasting longer, you know how to achieve and maintain erections. How to how to be a real man in a relationship, the kind of man that women just absolutely crave. Even though they don’t necessarily know it all the time. Then you need to go to kevinanthonycoaching.com/go/warrior and book a strategy call with me because I can help you be all of those things.

Céline Remy 23:04
So how do you know when to ejaculate? Now that we’ve talked about some of the problems, the ways that you can be addicted to ejaculation? Talking about the idea of not ejaculating every single time. So now where do you go from there? How do you know when to ejaculate? And that’s usually where people freak out. They’re like, I don’t know. Like, how do I know that?

Céline Remy 23:26
So now that you understand that ejaculation and orgasms are two different things. No ejaculation doesn’t mean you won’t have an orgasm, you can learn to separate that you can work with Kevin to learn how to do that you can go to our online courses, we can help you with that. Okay, moving on. You’ve got that one. Now, do you need to choose sometimes you will have sexual intercourse either with yourself or with sexual activity ever with a partner without a partner?

Céline Remy 23:55
And you want ejaculates every single time. So the way that people can tell what is unnatural is to decide that, okay, you’re going to start to have a sexual activity every single day without ejaculation. There will be a day, when that day you like, today is a day. I need to come like not from your head, but from your body or your body’s like, yeah, I need to have a good ejaculation.

Céline Remy 24:25
So let’s say maybe it was four or five, six days in. What that means is that your body naturally kind of likes to ejaculate about every four or five or six days. What’s not days or six? Could be well, because you’re not always having sex every day, but every four or five, six times you have sex, meaning that your natural is this maybe if it’s free days, and that would be for every free time to have sex and it doesn’t have to be so dogmatic that’s what it is right?

Kevin Anthony 24:56
It’s the first time and by the way, sex means we’re talking about mass Innovation practice or you got a blowjob or you actually had intercourse with your partner like sexual activity where you actually use your penis. So yeah, I mean, you know, for me, I basically generally assume that I’m not going to ejaculate. It’s just I just kind of like, you know, whether it’s masturbation or you know, lovemaking or blowjob, Thursday or whatever, you know, I basically assume that I’m not going to ejaculate.

Kevin Anthony 25:34
But then sometimes I’m just like, you know, I just really feel like a jacket thing today. And so I will. The point, though, is, is if you’re trying to train yourself, you have to, you have to train the way you want to be more often than not. So in other words, if you’re training to make yourself last longer, let’s say you trained five days in a row. And for those five days, you actually ejaculated early.

Kevin Anthony 26:03
And then on one of those days, you actually held it long. Well, what do you really training yourself to do at that point, well, ejaculate early? So the idea here is that you need to not ejaculate more often than you ejaculate. If you want to train yourself to be able to not ejaculate. I mean, it’s kind of common sense. I would, I would think.

Céline Remy 26:27
Well, I also want to bring out the point that you mentioned earlier that ejaculation feels good is good for the body like a good ejaculation, the Barretts the energy in the body of freeze. Yeah, that makes you so much lighter and supercharged when it’s a good ejaculation in when it’s an intentional ejaculation instead of a default response.

Kevin Anthony 26:48
Yeah, and you know, we really have to talk about the energetic difference between ejaculating quickly and taking the time to build the energy that’s really important. I’ve had this conversation with so many people, and I’ve had this conversation about ejaculation with a bunch of other professionals in the field. Some of them get it and some of them don’t, you know, some of them will tell you, it’s no big deal at all. You can ejaculate every day, and it’s fine.

Kevin Anthony 27:14
I’m in my 50s. And I a jacket every single day. And I see no reduction in energy or anything. Well, first of all, if you ejaculate every single day, no matter how much energy you’re building up, you will actually be depleting your body of energy. Don’t listen to any of the other Yahoo’s out there say it’s true. But how depleted you are, is definitely impacted by how long you take to build the edge. So what do I mean by that?

Kevin Anthony 27:44
So let’s say you have sex, or you masturbate. And within five minutes, you’re like, oh, that was great. I ejaculate. Okay, awesome. You do not have enough time in that short period, to build up enough energy inside your body so that when you ejaculate, they’re still an excess reservoir of energy. That takes time. So if you can learn to last longer, and go 15 minutes, 20 minutes, 30 minutes, 40 minutes, hour long.

Kevin Anthony 28:16
If you can do that, when you do have an ejaculation, yes, you will be releasing a certain amount of energy, but you’ve built a reservoir of energy that is so big, that the ejaculation doesn’t even come close to depleting you. And that’s really the difference. So when people tell you, oh, you can ejaculate as many times as you want, it’s not going to deplete you.

Kevin Anthony 28:41
Only if you take the time to build up that reservoir of energy before you ejaculate. I know we’ve talked about this before many times, the Daoists actually have a chart based on age, right about how many times they say you should ejaculate, and it starts with, you know how many times you know, in a week, and then it’s like how many times in a month and it’s like, you know, it gets to the point whereas you get older, they’re like, you should never a jack

Céline Remy 29:14
didn’t ever go to never.

Kevin Anthony 29:16
Yeah, but it’s like twice a year or so.

Céline Remy 29:18
And they are very big on moving energy and circulating the energy. And this is really what that piece that you’re talking about when we talk about optimizing your ejaculation, meaning that you got to learn that your body can be supercharged with sexual energy.

Céline Remy 29:38
And sexual energy is not just trapped in your genitals, where most people always experience everything, but you can learn to move the energy, the way that it usually goes is at the spine, down into the head down to the front of the body, and into the belly.

Céline Remy 29:55
And once you start to do that, that’s when you are able to do what we say like move energy, to feel things more, and to not just have all the sensation in one spot, but then you can experience full-body orgasms, full-body sensations. And that’s how you that’s in the short description how you do it. There’s a little bit more to it, of course. But if you have that idea and understanding that’s that, and then, of course, we can help you get there.

Kevin Anthony 30:28
Yeah, so one of the big keys to learning how to control your ejaculation is learning how to move that energy through your body. And I can’t tell you how many men I’ve talked to who tell me they want to last longer. And then they describe to me their experience. And I’m just like, he’s really doing everything wrong. And then I tried to explain to them, okay, here’s what’s happening there. No, no, no, that’s not it.

Kevin Anthony 30:53
That’s not it. Like, the classic example that comes up all the time is this. You know, some guy will tell me Wow, yeah, you know, I watch a lot of porn and, and, you know, then I masturbate to it. And then, you know, I ejaculate pretty quickly. And, you know, I don’t know, like, I just feel like, like, the energy just builds up so much that I can’t, I can’t contain it like, I want to I try to, but it’s just too overwhelming.

Kevin Anthony 31:22
And then I ejaculate. Right? That’s, that’s what I hear from a lot of men. It’s like, Okay, well, what sounds like is happening is you are building up energy in your lower chakras first, and second, that’s great. But it’s stuck there, to literally stuck there. It doesn’t go anywhere else throughout the body. And as it grows, if you’re not moving it through giving it someplace else to go, then it has to explode out somewhere.

Kevin Anthony 31:52
So then, of course, is that okay, well, here’s what’s going on. And then we start digging into what could possibly be blocking that energy from moving right. And, you know, depending on which, you know, we’re gonna get a little bit esoteric here, if you’re not familiar with the concept of chakra is, you know, the first and second chakra as being your sex centers, depending on which system you follow.

Kevin Anthony 32:14
But anyway, the third one that comes after that is your solar plexus, which is your power, your confidence, who you are, your self-worth, all that kind of stuff, right? Almost every single time I have a conversation with a guy who tells me the energy just builds up and it’s and then he just explodes. There’s always some sort of self-worth confidence, something rather that’s blocking in that in that solar plexus chakra.

Kevin Anthony 32:44
So you don’t have to care about shaggers. You don’t have to know anything about it. But it’s just an example of something that we see often. So then we have to start digging into, okay, what’s going on in your life? Where do you not feel, you know, strong, confident, capable, you know, and that there’s just layer after layer of stuff that can get in the way there.

Céline Remy 33:06
It’s not something that gets accomplished in one day or in one week. And same when you start to change how you approach ejaculation. We hope that today’s show was inspiring for you to start to see that there’s more to your sexuality than the regular just get aroused, then a little friction and the ejaculation that once you understand that ejaculation is not the end goal.

Céline Remy 33:33
And you want to focus more on increasing the energy in your body, increasing your lifeforce, moving it so that you can start to use sex to feel better about yourself and in your body. It transforms then how you do sex also, and think of it that your body is like a battery.

Céline Remy 33:54
And so instead of depleting yourself through your sexuality, and ejaculating without giving it any faults, you can learn to choose when and if and how, and use that energy to become more strong, to be uplifted to recharge that battery.

Céline Remy 34:17
And that is a different type of sex. And that’s something that’s so much more interesting, especially as you’ve been in a relationship for longer because then it changes how you do sex. It makes sex so much more interesting. So much more appealing for women when she doesn’t have to herself have an orgasm. She doesn’t have to make you come you guys can focus on being together and the quality of the energy that’s being exchanged.

Kevin Anthony 34:46
Yeah, and when you can take her long enough through the lovemaking experience for her to finally be able to relax, access her own orgasm, you know, we’re talking 3040 minutes, maybe an hour before she Really get there. And if you can’t hang in there that long, that’s a problem. So if by now at this point in the show, you’re still sitting there going, but why would you want to do that?

Kevin Anthony 35:15
Then you absolutely need to rewind. Listen to this again, and then probably reach out to one of us or both of us because you need help. You really do. If we haven’t made it abundantly clear why this is so important to your sex life. I’m not sure what else to say at this point.

Céline Remy 35:40
And if we’ve inspired you, we suggest and dare you to go for it for a little bit. Try next time that you are active sexually to not come and see how you feel. and go from there.

Kevin Anthony 35:56
Yeah, and if you need help, of course, you can reach out to us You can also check out our power mastery programs, our master your ejaculation program, and our sexual mastery programs both focus on this. There’s great information in there. I’m telling you, it will transform your sex life and therefore transform the rest of your life as well.

Céline Remy 36:20
There you have dear listeners thank you so much for listening today. This is all the time we’ve got and we will see you next week.

Kevin Anthony 36:34
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Céline Remy 36:41
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Kevin Anthony 36:55
Thanks for listening

Céline Remy 36:57
and remember you are amazing.