How To Have Multiple Orgasms

Céline Remy 0:11
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Kevin Anthony 0:27
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast. And this is Episode 76. And it’s titled How to have multiple orgasms. So the subject that everybody wants more of, and not just the physical ones, but actually everybody wants more of this subject. This is a subject that comes up a lot. We just had people asking about it again this weekend. So I don’t think we can have too many orgasms and I don’t think we can talk about orgasms too much either.

Céline Remy 1:00
As a matter of fact, we were considering doing a little orgasm series. So we’ll see what our next show will be like. But for today, we will focus on multiple orgasms, and we’ll talk about it from the female perspective, the male perspective will give you our How to is will give you like, Hey, what are they? If you like, no, that’s not even possible. What are they talking about? We’re going to give you all of those nuts and bolts and details so that you’ll feel very versed in orgasms and ready to come loud and clear multiple times.

Céline Remy 1:30
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Kevin Anthony 1:53
orgasms

Céline Remy 1:55
Yes.

Kevin Anthony 1:56
Yeah. Who wants more?

Céline Remy 1:59
You know, it’s also interesting because I think that it is also part of the trap that in our society, we always want bigger, like more, bigger, and better. And sometimes it can kind of become a trap that we, we are so focused on results that we are not able to experience the adventure in itself. And that’s definitely something that I wanted to bring into the discussion.

Kevin Anthony 2:25
Well, yeah, that’s an important point to make. And, you know, I think what’s also important, at least when we’re speaking from the men’s point of view, most men tend to think of orgasm as an ejaculation. And so if I say who wants more of those, it’s like, well, how many of them can you really have? Right? So I think you need to let go of that idea.

Kevin Anthony 2:44
We’ll talk way more about that as the episode goes on. But realize that more orgasms don’t necessarily mean you’re going to be screaming the entire time or you’re going to be ejaculating every time Yeah, more orgasms, better orgasms multiples, for sure. And we’ll explain more and more about what that really means.

Céline Remy 3:08
Yes. And so having a quick definition of an orgasm, I think for some people, they have a very narrow definition which makes it difficult to enjoy the various varieties of orgasmic sensations that can show up in the body. There are no limits to how orgasms can show up and not all orgasms are earth-shattering, mind-blowing, sometimes they can feel like a ripple or a tingle or some warmth or relaxation. Sometimes they feel like this like an overpowering thing that you can’t even contain and you need to scream sometimes them and it’s so different.

Céline Remy 3:47
And for some, they only associate the word orgasm with a very high level of arousal and really strong body signals. But if you are able to start to understand your body more, and start to read what’s going on. You can have an orgasm out in many different ways. You can have “hairgasm” like I’ve had that I brushed my hair one day, I was brushing my hair and looking at myself in the mirror, and I just was lost in the moment. And then I totally had this orgasm just from my, like brushing my hair. You gotta have nipple orgasms, you can have like cock chasms, right. I mean.

Kevin Anthony 4:23
Ever had a foodgasm?

Céline Remy 4:24
Foodgasm. Exactly. That even like orgasms don’t always have to be linked with a sexual activity. It could be having pleasure in doing something to doing like eating. Right.

Kevin Anthony 4:39
And I think the key to that is, once you’ve learned to cultivate and move the energy, sex isn’t the only thing that can move the energy. Absolutely. So if you’ve really learned how to do that, then you can technically have orgasms from all sorts of things. I mean, there’s tons and tons of reports from women who have orgasms during yoga. Uh-huh,

Céline Remy 5:01
that’s true. That’s true meditation. And like you said, eating or brushing your hair like so taking a bath. So I think you got it and I think we laid the foundation for this episode around orgasms. So what I would love to do is to take a dive into what are multiple orgasms? And then what do they feel like?

Kevin Anthony 5:26
Okay, that sounds like a good place to start.

Céline Remy 5:28
So multiple orgasms, if we look at the definition are really when someone can experience more than one orgasm during sexual activity most often, but it really doesn’t have to be right. And they can show up differently for different people because we are all unique in our ability to come. And that’s something that’s really important to remember because if you read erotica and you read the women like orgasming a certain way and you like I never do it this way.

Céline Remy 5:59
Then something must be wrong with me think again because that’s how she comes. It doesn’t mean that’s how you need to come. Things change to overtime, especially as women as we go through different phases of life, our hormones change. And also during cycles during the month, like things will feel differently in our bodies, I do tend to think that orgasms have a potential to become better as we age for us women, because we get a better understanding of our bodies and our energies and how things work and operate. So that’s something to look forward to.

Kevin Anthony 6:33
Well, I think they get better for men also. But I think for women, they tend to get better no matter almost no matter what. Okay, as they get older, they get more comfortable with their bodies, they care less about what everybody thinks as they’re looking at them, they’re able to relax into their orgasms more. I think for men, they have to do a little bit of work. And this comes back to the separating orgasm from ejaculation part that we’ll talk about a little later in the show.

Kevin Anthony 6:59
But, most men, you know, they learned how to masturbate and ejaculate very early in life when they’re children basically. And a lot of times if they don’t do anything to change that, or to improve it or to get better at it, they’re basically doing the same thing they’ve been doing their entire lives. Yes. So I think for men, they need to work at it a little bit. Learn how to cultivate energy and separate orgasming Jagadish. But if you can do those things, then they keep getting better.

Céline Remy 7:30
Ooh, so that sounds like it’s better for both which is awesome. Okay, so for some, I want to say like, they will experience orgasms after orgasms and there’s like no breaks and there’s kind of like this. These peaks after peaks after peaks and that’s one definition of how multiple orgasms can show up. For others. It’s more like there’s an orgasm. There’s kind of a little break or the energy coming back down. And then you go back higher, more like surfing waves so they go up and down. And oftentimes there is often a build-up to in terms of the intensity, especially if you don’t start too quickly.

Céline Remy 8:14
Because then if you don’t come too fast, but if you start to like, like start at a certain level and not push it and then it keeps building up. I think the next level when it comes to multiple orgasms is to start to move this energy from being just a genital experience and become a full-body experience. And I that’s really where I see the multiple orgasms becoming fucking amazing because you start to be able to recharge your body with this sexual energy you not only just coming once and then feeling tired, you are starting to come over and over and every time it’s different in the body, and then it’s your entire body that started into your genitals.

Kevin Anthony 9:02
Yeah, absolutely now, and I would say, you know if you’re a woman, and you can have multiple orgasms, or you’ve, you’ve learned how to have multiple orgasms because you can all have them, then it doesn’t really matter, in my opinion, if you come really fast, just because you can just keep going, you know, there’s no refractory period, never worry about getting interaction, you can have a great orgasm, you know, literally in the first 20 seconds, which happens occasionally. And but then you just keep having more you keep building that energy more and more as you go. You know, from the male point of view, you definitely don’t want to do that right away.

Kevin Anthony 9:39
Especially not if you haven’t learned how to separate your heart chasm in here, ejaculation. Absolutely. But the point is actually the same for both which is that you want to build the energy throughout the whole process. And this is one of the benefits we try to, to talk to people about all the time. You know, when When we tell them how long we make love for, and they’re like, what, you know, or some people have said, why would you want to have sex for that long? And I’m like, Wait, what? Why wouldn’t you? But what I realized after having so many of those conversations is that people don’t know what they don’t know. Yes. Right.

Kevin Anthony 10:19
And what they don’t know in this case is how much better the orgasms can be. If you take the time to cultivate energy. And here’s the thing as a guy, even if I ejaculate in after 10 minutes, of intercourse, then I’ll probably feel pretty depleted. I really haven’t taken the time to build up the energy. But if we go 30 minutes, 40 minutes, an hour, more than an hour, I don’t feel any depletion at all. Why? Because I’ve taken the time to build that energy, build it, build it, build it, build it so that even when a lot of that energy gets released, there’s still this reservoir event. energy left, where you’re like, let’s do it again.

Kevin Anthony 11:05
Let’s sometimes it like, you know, you might be tired if it’s in the evening and you’re like, well, I’m going to go to bed. I’m wired. I’m like, I can’t sit still, I gotta go do something because I have so much energy. I don’t feel that exhaustion that happens when most guys ejaculate.

Céline Remy 11:23
So I love that you brought this up about not having to like come really quickly for the first orgasm. I think I’d love to jump into something here that I think the biggest mistake that people make is that they stop at their first orgasm. They stopped like emotionally physically, like, the whole thing is like it’s an end they see an orgasm as the end goal. And that’s really what limits you in your ability to experience multiple orgasms because you have set your mind on having one and that’s it.

Céline Remy 11:58
Some people have orgasms, they make those happen quickly and very much focused on the clitoris or on the shaft. Then they become ultra-sensitive and they can’t be touched anymore. They’re like, no stay away, nothing else can happen. That’s why they’re like, I can’t have multiple orgasms because I become too sensitive. And I think when that happens is because you’ve concentrated the energy too much on the spot you’ve been rubbing.

Céline Remy 12:27
And that makes it impossible to build up and achieve those states of full body pleasure because you’ve limited it to a little area of your body which feels good, but I don’t think it allows you to go to the places of multiple and also higher levels.

Kevin Anthony 12:47
You know, it’s so funny because I’ve heard many times from women, that they’re like, Oh, no, what one orgasm. That’s it. I’m done. And they’re like, they say that they’re happy to be done. I never understood that because as a guy, like we’re used to that, like, you know, for the most part, most guys, especially if you haven’t learned all those things we’ve already mentioned, it’s like one and out, you know? And come on guys.

Kevin Anthony 13:12
How many of you haven’t thought of like, Oh man, I wish like, boom, I could just keep going. Right? Of course, you have. When you were super young, you probably did 345 times. They’re all about three minutes each but, but the point is, is from a male perspective, I always thought, Man, if I could, why wouldn’t I? And so I was always surprised to hear some women, not all women, but some women say like, No, no, we just have sex until I have an orgasm, whether or not you know, he does blah, blah, blah, and then we’re out and I’m like, wow, are you limiting yourself? Hmm,

Céline Remy 13:48
absolutely. So I’d love to dive into well, who can have multiple orgasms, right? And I think the way that I’d like to do it gives you the perspective, my perspective, from the women’s perspective and then I would be really curious to hear Kevin’s perspective for the male, for our male audience because I think it’s going to be a little bit different. So yes, both men and women we know can experience multiple orgasms. So that’s done. Now, you know, like, both of you can do it. Okay. Now, I think it is a little bit easier for women just because the way we are wired, we don’t lose an erection or like have the ejaculation it’s easier for us to access those places of having multiple orgasms.

Céline Remy 14:39
Now, I don’t know. Like, I don’t go into sex with the intention of having multiple orgasms. I tend to not be really goal-oriented in my sexuality. Not to say that sometimes it doesn’t happen. There are days where I’m like, this is it. I am going to come and this is how it’s going to happen. But most of the time I keep an open mind. What I noticed is once I started to open up my mind to how does the orgasmic sensation How do they want to show up today? What does it look like?

Céline Remy 15:14
The first time I experienced an orgasm was actually through penetration sex, and I didn’t even know it was kind of happening. I had all these sensations in my body and I was like, why does this and I was like, Oh my goodness, I’m having an orgasm and oh, this is really cool. I found how to have orgasms from penetration sex before I figured out how to use my clitoris.

Céline Remy 15:38
So then for me, it was very different because I never had the experience of the clitoral orgasm that got in the way of me experiencing penetration orgasm. I experienced penetration orgasms after they were great and I noticed they were a very different form, depending on the duration depending on what point inside my vagina was stimulated like so many factors and That it varied in their intensity. And then later, like about five years in, that’s when I finally understood how to use my clips, and had clear orgasms and was able to add that into my repertoire.

Céline Remy 16:15
Most people I think are stuck with their clit and they go and that’s how they know how to do it. And they’re not open to the sensations that come from penetration sex. So if you are open to the different ways that an orgasm can show up in if you understand that it takes time for Oh, yes, make the energy to build up and you don’t focus it so much into one spot. This is when you can have more than one orgasms if you have that open mind.

Kevin Anthony 16:47
Yeah.

Céline Remy 16:49
How about you, Kevin? What? How would you explain that to our male audience?

Kevin Anthony 16:54
The male experience is so different. is, you know, so from the male perspective, I mean, it’s very rare that a guy doesn’t know how to give himself an orgasm, right? Like it’s, it’s really not that difficult. Most of us discover it really early on. So not really a problem. But where the problem does come in, is the fact that you tend to have an orgasm so quickly that you never get to multiple. Right? So and that’s because you haven’t learned to separate your ejaculation from your orgasm.

Kevin Anthony 17:37
So for men, the key is how can you last long enough so that you can experience multiples and then how can you separate the orgasm from the ejaculation because you can’t have multiples really. If you ejaculate when you orgasm, it’s You can’t, you know, you could have an ejaculation and orgasm, you know, wait your 2030 minutes depending on how quickly your body reacts, and then go again, that’s not technically multiple orgasms because the energy is not building from one to the next to the next, you’re having one discrete event, and then a break, your energy comes all the way down, then you have another discrete event, right and then a break.

Kevin Anthony 18:26
So I wouldn’t really classify that as multiple now orgasms. In order to really have multiple male orgasms, you have to separate the ejaculation from the orgasm, so that you can then have smaller orgasm after smaller orgasm after smaller orgasm before or even if you get to the actual ejaculation. And one of the things I really want to make clear for men if you haven’t experienced this before, they’re not going to be the same type. orgasms that you’re used to when you have an ejaculation because you have an orgasm, and you have an ejaculation that tends to happen at the same time, so you’re used to that feeling.

Kevin Anthony 19:13
You’re not going to feel what the ejaculation feels like when you have not what we would call a not ejaculatory orgasm. So there’s two, two parts that you might feel as a man when you have multiple orgasms. So the first one is that that typical orgasm energy that kind of washes over your body like you just feel this energy. Wow. Yeah. Right. So that’s, that’s kind of the orgasm part. There’s the energetic orgasm part. The second part is, you may actually feel the contractions of the same muscles that you’re used to when you ejaculate. The difference is though, you’re not actually shooting any ejaculate out nothing. There’s no liquid. coming out, but you might get little contractions spasms

Céline Remy 20:03
In your pelvic floor muscles in your perineum. Around the prostate.

Kevin Anthony 20:08
Exactly.

Kevin Anthony 20:09
And they’re typical although they can be somewhat intense, they’re typically less intense than they would be if you were physically ejaculating. Because there, you know, when you physically ejaculate, and there’s literally trying to pump ejaculate out as far and deep as possible. So but the cool thing is, is, is that even though it may not be as intense, and you might be like, Oh, yeah, that was kind of cool. It was like kind of small, whatever. Over time, you can learn to grow them. And if you’re having long lovemaking sessions, they will get stronger and stronger as you go.

Céline Remy 20:46
By the way, I want to clarify what long is I think anything. It has to be at least 20 minutes, and usually, we’re talking more into 40 to 45 minutes. That’s where the long comes. Then I just wanted to clarify it

Kevin Anthony 21:02
could be different for everyone. Absolutely. And it’s really important to state that because it is different for people. And we have to realize that our idea of long is pretty different than most people’s idea of long. I mean, when you look at stats, and they say that the average man only lasts, you know, five to seven minutes that’s on the high end, you know, one, study three to five, the other one, five to seven, let’s even round it off and say it’s 10, like 10 minutes, not really long enough to get into those multiple orgasm states.

Kevin Anthony 21:34
I’ll tell you something else that has to do with the time is it my, my ability to get to that multi-orgasmic state has a lot to do with where you’re at. Okay? Because I feel your energy very deeply. Right. Every time you have an orgasm, it blasts through me like a bolt of lightning.  The more orgasms you have, the more energy you’re moving, the more it flows through me too. And you know, if you understand the microcosmic orbit and the circulation of energy between the male and the female, then you have some idea of what I mean by like it flows through me but I feel that massive energy build-up that you have to flow through me too.

Kevin Anthony 22:23
And as long as I can control my ejaculation, I can then use that energy. And I can use that energy to move through me and actually trigger my own orgasms and so we have learned you and I had in our lovemaking, it often takes 30 to 40 minutes for you to really get to that place of like those powerful rolling orgasm.

Céline Remy 22:52
Yeah, I want to say the first 20 minutes are all about distressing and getting out of my head and finally getting into my body. And finally, I’m there, and it’s about around the 20 minutes mark.

Kevin Anthony 23:03
Right. So now think about what we’re giving, we’re giving most the average man here, we’re giving them three extra minutes by rounding to 10, you’re still only halfway there, halfway to getting to the place where she’s just now distressed and relaxed, relaxed enough to really be able to get into those deeper level orgasms. And so, you know, if you’re sitting there going holy hell, 20 minutes is a long time. You got some work to do.

Kevin Anthony 23:32
And if you’re thinking 40 minutes is an impossible goal, then you’ve got a lot of work to do, but just know it is totally possible. We do it all the time. Lots of other people do it all the time. You just have to learn and you know, we did an advertisement at the beginning of the show, as we always do for the power mastery series, but the master your ejaculation product, it’s going to teach you how to do that.

Céline Remy 23:56
Well, sexual mastery will really take it to the next level.

Kevin Anthony 23:59
Yeah. Of course, sexual mastery will take it to the next level. But if you really start with mastery or ejaculation, you learn how to separate the two and last a little longer. And then once you’ve kind of got that down, go into sexual mastery and take it to the next level, like, yeah, if you’re listening to this as a guy, or if you’re a woman, and you’re listening to this, and you’re going on, boy, I wish my man could do that. Please go check that out. It’s really, it’s for your own good

Céline Remy 24:23
lately. So I think this gave us a good idea about what they look like that both men and women can experience that. Obviously, like the questions like, well, are they really pleasurable? Are they really that good? Is it worth you know, like, Is it worth going and aiming for that? And I say absolutely. You know, multiple orgasms are highly pleasurable. There is a cumulative effect. Oh, and that’s something I wanted to add to around.

Céline Remy 24:53
If you only have sex once or twice a month, it’s going to be much harder to get to those places and have multiple orgasms and go to higher levels of pleasure. Because you know, what you don’t know us you lose is kind of similar in sex. What I’ve noticed is, when I have regular sex, it’s easier for me to get into it quicker, it’s easier to go to a higher state of pleasure.

Céline Remy 25:15
When we did our episodes on the 30-day sex challenge when we did our 30 days in a row of sex, we saw a lot of different things how we were staying like into a slightly aroused state from having the daily activity of the sexual intercourse. And so like this is really important to realize that you can expect to have multiple orgasms if you have very seldom sex.

Kevin Anthony 25:41
That’s true. We really did experience that like the next day. It was like we were almost picking up where we left off the day before.

Céline Remy 25:49
Yeah, so it’s much easier to go to more or to higher levels. If you not so depleted and can’t remember the last time you had sex and what it felt like right Then I want to bring something to into the equation in terms of having better orgasms. And this idea here is number one, you really want to celebrate every orgasmic sensation so don’t be snobby and be like oh, this is not like mind-blowing so I’m not going to count it as an orgasm like celebrating every sensation in the body because you start to focus on that and what you focus on expands so that’s really important.

Céline Remy 26:26
And the key to getting there is also by relaxing and chilling out and which is counterintuitive most people like well but like you’re giving me what to do not have to focus work at it and like no actually drop that. Because when you approach it from that place of being slightly stressed like this, there’s going to be cortisol level in your body you know, you’re going to be in you like fight flight freeze mode of like, our cortisol, adrenaline or things like this is so counterintuitive to having an orgasm it really when you have the cortisol Well in the body, it puts the body into survival mode. And it’s basically next to impossible to have an orgasm when you’re in survival mode.

Kevin Anthony 27:09
Yeah, and you know, another thing too, is a lot of guys think and have been taught, and they read certain things about how they need to really tense their muscles up to control that orgasm. But as you know, and you’ve told our listeners and clients many, many, many times, is that tension equals ejaculation and if you have too much tension squeezing in those muscles that can actually trigger an ejaculation. So there’s this fine line of like, using the muscles to hold it back while also not over tensing and forcing yourself into an orgasm.

Céline Remy 27:42
Right. So I’d love to dive into our How to use and some tips to having multiple orgasms to leave you with some action steps you can take right away because we’d love for you to experience that if you haven’t yet experienced multiple orgasms. We’d love to have you take your orgasms to the next level. So We’re going to give you a few tips here to get you started. Number one, you want to take your time and slow down and enjoy the buildup of sexual energy without trying to get anywhere.

Céline Remy 28:13
This is actually essential. This is why it’s number one. It’s because it’s going to set the pace and the tone for what comes next or who comes next. You don’t want to go so fast that you go so high that then you crash and you so tired that you can go up again. You want to go slowly and build up and that’s how it’s sustainable. Absolutely.

Kevin Anthony 28:41
The next one is making sure you have toned pelvic floor muscles and strengthening your muscles will lead to stronger orgasms and we were just kind of talking about this. One thing that’s interesting. You know, I never really thought about I’ve never really felt any other than my own. But I know you working physically hands-on with men you are can often tell when their pelvic floor muscles are not developed.

Céline Remy 29:08
Absolutely. So you want to think about your pelvic floor muscles as a trampoline. You want to have resiliency you want them to be bouncy, which means they can be toned but not tight.  I’m saying toned, you know, so there’s like this tone to it, and flexible, this is bounce that happens. And that works for both men and women. I know. Oftentimes, they tend to think about the tight vagina or doing the Kindles for the women, but they are equally important independently of your gender.

Céline Remy 29:39
And the importance here is to focus both not only just on the contraction but on the relaxation. And I tend to see that more people have hypertonic muscles, which means that they are to text versus hypotonic versus like the day like not strong enough. That’s Most people will fit in will fall into the category of tensing too much and not knowing how to fully relax. And the intensity of the orgasms and the ability to go to a higher level of pleasure comes from the ability to relax.

Kevin Anthony 30:13
Yeah, the relaxation part is key. So you know, if you think of it like any other muscle in your body, when you grab it, you should feel like oh, yeah, there’s some muscle there. But it shouldn’t be hard as a rock unless you’re actually flexing, engaging, engaging. Exactly.

Céline Remy 30:29
And when you relax it, it has to fully relax. And that’s where people fall short. Most of the time they thinking they’re relaxed, but they’re not fully relaxed.

Kevin Anthony 30:37
This is, this is how people do giggles the wrong way and then train their body the wrong way. So let’s say you were working out in the gym and you were doing bicep curls, right? You wouldn’t do a bicep curl, put the weight down and continue to contract your muscles and hold them. You wouldn’t do that. Right? eventually, your arm would become so stiff, you wouldn’t be able to use it right? So you would never do that.

Kevin Anthony 30:59
You flex it, you put the weights down, you relax it. It’s the same thing when you’re doing key goes. And this is what a lot of people don’t get. They focus only on the tensing bar. And then they don’t learn to completely relax it in between. And so what happens is over time, especially if they do them a lot, they literally develop a chronic tension.

Céline Remy 31:20
Yeah, and then there are our lifestyles. Were sitting all the time we put a lot of pressure on our parents, and our pelvic floor and that usually will make gets more tensed. So if you don’t do come two things to offset that, then you tend to just walk around with a tight ass and tight perineum area and pelvic floor muscles.

Kevin Anthony 31:39
Well, that’s no fun.

Céline Remy 31:41
No, nobody likes tight asses. Nobody wants to be a tight ass. Number three, breathing is key to your orgasms. So conscious rhythmic breathing makes you come alive. The more you breathe, the more you feel. Most people will hold their breath will tense up And that really is how they shortcut themselves literally, you want to be able to have like belly breathing, rhythmic breathing, you want to feel this a lightness because that’s how it starts and you need to be able to feel that in your body and your breath is the foundation and is that key?

Kevin Anthony 32:19
Yeah, and the breath can also be used for the male to control ejaculation. And in power mastery, there are a couple of breathing techniques that we teach you in there that you can also use. So breath is very important to the whole process.

Céline Remy 32:37
Now, if you are a woman, our next step probably will make a lot of sense is that foreplay is your friend and don’t forget to stimulate multiple erogenous zones at the same time. Now, the multiple erogenous zones will work both for men and women because oftentimes you too focused on just the COC and you forget that there’s a whole body or just the pussy. For women. Sometimes it’s difficult to achieve those dates of pleasure orgasms.

Céline Remy 33:03
And if you start to combine multiple zones at once it increases the pleasure and it helps to spread the sensation throughout the entire body. So remember when we’re talking at the beginning about the multiple orgasms really, that next level is to be able to have more than one orgasm, but then to turn your entire body into this throbbing, pulsing genitals. That’s really how you get to that is by moving away from the attention focused solely on your genitals and including your entire body.

Kevin Anthony 33:34
Yeah, absolutely. And, you know, I certainly didn’t intend for this episode to turn into a giant advertisement for power and mastery, but I do believe we have a free gift at power mastery. com, for 11 erogenous zones, right.

Céline Remy 33:51
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Kevin Anthony 34:19
Yeah, especially if you’re a guy. Because there’s probably a bunch on there that you rarely ever touch or don’t even really pay any attention to.

Céline Remy 34:26
Yeah, and that’s where you want to go before you go to her Boise. So it’s very important.

Kevin Anthony 34:30
We did talk about that last episode. But we did talk about that very recently in one of our previous episodes about, you know, for the man, you want to get to him through the genitals, genitals and then working up. Whereas a woman it’s completely the opposite. You want to start more at the heart level, that connection level, you know, other parts of the body before and then you work your way down. Absolutely.

Céline Remy 34:54
And our last steps here for you. Really, just don’t limit your pleasure. Okay, don’t put yourself in such a box that you can explore more of what your pleasure could look like and give yourself permission to be vocal. It is so important. Like, if you let your mouth open and I really don’t care, like it’s really hard to hear her moan, it’s really hard to hear him on like give yourself permission to be more vocal, they will have the energy to circulate.

Céline Remy 35:25
And then, especially for women here is like move your hips and bodies in a way that feels good. Because if you tend to be too stiff, or try to want to lock into a position to get to an orgasm, the more you focus like this, the less you’re going to get to that results right so that your body really come into that aliveness. And then I think the last point which is the most important is that believe that you too can have multiple orgasms. That means that if you’re a guy and you’re listening believe that you can separate your ejaculation from your orgasms believe that it is possible.

Céline Remy 36:01
Like that’s the first step to know that you can. And we hope that through this episode we’ve given you enough to be like, Okay, I know it’s possible I know what to do. And you know, that’s going to power and mastery.com to check out the courses will help you get there if you don’t know yet how to do it.

Kevin Anthony 36:17
Yeah. Don’t worry, I don’t know if any of you listening have seen there’s an old I think it’s like an old mad TV episode or something. There’s a guy teaching about Tantra and how he’s in a perpetual state of orgasm. And he’s like, Oh, he’s like having orgasms constantly, like trying to write his name on the board and he can’t even write because he’s constantly having Oregon. Don’t worry, that’s not real. It’s not going to happen to you if you learn how to have multiple orgasms. So don’t worry about it. Don’t have any fears. Try it. You’ll like it.

Céline Remy 36:53
Most likely.

Kevin Anthony 36:57
All right, everybody. That’s all the time we have for this episode and we will see you next week. We hope you liked this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoyed this show, leave a comment and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 37:12
And if you want more, we have an entire digital library with the best sex tips and Relationship Advice at kevinanthonycoaching.com. That’s celinemy.com So join us in the sex vault to continue this adventure.

Kevin Anthony 37:29
Thanks for listening,

Céline Remy 37:30
And remember, you’re amazing.