How To Have Sex With Family Around

Kevin Anthony 0:12
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man, woman, single or couple, this is the show for you. Because well, six We are your hosts Kevin Anthony, Céline Remy.

Kevin Anthony 0:27
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast and this is episode 67. And it’s titled “How to have sex with family around”. So, you know, last year we did an episode on like sex around the holidays. And we were just realizing that when this show airs, it will be the holidays again, but this isn’t going to be specifically about the holidays.

Kevin Anthony 0:51
This is going to be like what to do, like how you can have sex when you’ve got young kids around older kids around extended Family staying with you. Maybe you’re visiting your family, they’re visiting you all the possible life scenarios that can happen, and some strategies for how you can still manage to have a great sex life.

Céline Remy 1:12
Mm-hmm. Because we’ve got some stats here. And the numbers are pretty scary in terms of people’s dissatisfaction with their sex life. And so we really thought we needed to address that because again, we want the whole world to be a happy, healthy, horny and fucking, because hey, what makes it such a better place?

Céline Remy 1:34
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Kevin Anthony 1:53
Right? And you know, I want to say also that almost everything that we’re going to talk about There’s one assumption that has to be made before we start. And that assumption is that you actually still want to have sex. The reason why I say that is because there are some people in relationships where the sex really, it’s just the desire isn’t there anymore, and you know, the relationship itself has changed. And if that’s the case, that’s not really the focus of this episode.

Kevin Anthony 2:24
We would like to direct you to listen to some of our previous episodes, where we’ve addressed exactly those topics. So in episode eight, which is how to get in the mood when you’re stressed out, that’s a good one to listen to. We’ve Episode 11, which is how to keep sex alive in the long run. So for those that have been together, and when we get to the stats about people with older children, and yeah, you’re going to want to go back and this is also Episode 35. What to do if your partner wants less sex than you.

Kevin Anthony 2:54
Those are the three most relevant but there are at least five more episodes that we have that have bits and pieces. Is that really fit into? You know, what do you do if it’s 20 years later, and there really isn’t any desire there. So but that’s not really the focus of this episode, the focus of this episode is, you know, want to have sex. But you got all these people around…

Céline Remy 3:19
All these cock blocks.

Kevin Anthony 3:24
Little cock blocks, big cock blocks.

Céline Remy 3:28
So let’s start with our first scenario when you have family that you live with. And so the most common challenge is definitely for parents who have kids. And one of the questions that come up over and over is how do you have a healthy sex life with kids? A lot of the couples that we work with, that’s literally what’s going on for them where they’ve had kids and they have no idea anymore, like how to get back into that sexy part.

Céline Remy 3:57
And so this is really what we want to help you with Now we want to give you some stats because I was actually very surprised about some of the numbers. So we found those stats from family lives.org. And so they carried a survey. And some of the numbers are that a huge majority. 86% of the respondents to that survey said that they have sex and less often since having children. Okay, so 86%.

Kevin Anthony 4:27
That’s not good. So that means their sex life is less frequent than before, but the next stat I think, is even worse.

Céline Remy 4:34
73% said their sex life had definitely taken a turn for the worse since kids came on the scene.

Kevin Anthony 4:43
So by the way, this is like every man’s worst nightmare. Um, and one of the major reasons By the way, ladies, if you’re listening, that men are resistant to having children. Because you see, we get together with this woman because we love her. We’re attracted to her, we like having sex with her. And then she said, Okay, let’s have kids and all of a sudden they start realizing, oh, wait a minute, I’m not going to have access to her any longer, the time I get to spend with her is going to be very small, and then the sex is going to go away.

Kevin Anthony 5:14
And all the things I got into this relationship for going to disappear. So I would say if you’re listening, ladies, and you have kids, and you’re not feeling super motivated to have sex, it’s definitely worth it for you and the long term health of your relationship to make this a priority.

Céline Remy 5:32
Absolutely. Now, there was a stat here that I was very surprised with. And then Kevin, you had an answer to it, because it said that parents having the least sex are the ones whose children are teenagers. And I was like, Well, how is that even possible? That does not make sense?

Kevin Anthony 5:49
Well, on the one hand, it doesn’t make sense because, you know, you tend to think logically, which is that, you know, teenagers don’t require as much care. So you’re not like you know, on top of it 24/7, all the time, so you have more free time. So if you have more free time, then you must be having more sex. But what I was thinking was likely the cause of that is it means that they’re, they’ve been together in a relationship a lot longer.

Kevin Anthony 6:13
So their kids now are in the teenage years. So that’s at least 15 years, maybe 20 years, they’ve been together, maybe more than that, right? And so it’s not so much the kids that are the problem at that point. It’s the adults that are the problem that isn’t making sex a priority anymore. They’ve let all kinds of relationship junk get in the way, or they’ve just played forgotten about it because they put it on hold for so many damn years.

Céline Remy 6:41
Now, we’ll have some other numbers here, just under 27% of all parents who responded to the survey said that they just don’t have the energy for sex. And I think this is like, I can have compassion with that. Okay, I know how demanding it is to have kids.

Kevin Anthony 6:58
To keep up with me.

Céline Remy 7:00
Not just to have to keep up with your kids with life and with a job with the household and I get it sex becomes one more thing on the to-do list that you have to do. And at the same time, I think that we have to get out of that, oh, I don’t have the energy so I can’t have sex. Because it’s kind of this loop. You actually if you have sex, you have more energy.

Céline Remy 7:26
But if you don’t have enough energy, you don’t have sex, but if you have sex, you would have more energy and it’s like chicken or egg. Which one starts first? Right?

Kevin Anthony 7:34
Yeah, both directions are self-perpetuating so the less sex you have, the less sex you want, generally, and that’s not true for everybody, but and then the more sex you have, the more turned on you are more frequently the more sex you want.

Céline Remy 7:48
But here’s the thing like I have noticed for myself, and I’m really speaking here to a lot of the women listening, but also a lot of men because I see that in my private practice to where it’s just common theme that as a rule, most people are overextending themselves, they are stressed and they just don’t have more time or energy. And having sex is one more thing to do on the to-do list and it’s draining just to think about having sex.

Kevin Anthony 8:46
You’ve got to treat it as essential self-care.

Céline Remy 8:49
Yes, right.

Kevin Anthony 8:50
It’s something that is essential to your well being and the well being of your relationship. Just one last thing from the survey was respondents reported a lack of privacy and time as the two biggest reasons. So there’s obviously more reasons than that those were the two biggest ones that people reported as really negatively influencing their sex life and their ability to have sex. So we have a list of tips here for how to do better.

Céline Remy 9:23
And you know what to do with it. One thing that you need to remember is you’re not alone. It’s not something that only us dealing with. It’s something that every person on the planet has to deal with to us to a certain level. You know, not everybody has kids, not everybody has several jobs, all stuff. We all have different pressure and demands. But we all have to deal with a lack of time and a lack of privacy sometimes to a certain degree. And then once we become creative, that’s how we can get a solution. So now that you’re not alone, and know that it’s possible to shift things around.

Kevin Anthony 9:59
Yeah, and I know You know, some people will be saying, Well sure that it’s easy for you guys to say because you don’t have kids. It is true. We do not have any kids. But we have both been step-parents for multiple years in previous relationships. So we know what it’s like to try to have sex when kids around.

Céline Remy 10:18
We do, we do. Alright, so let’s stop with the start with our tip number one, Kevin.

Kevin Anthony 10:23
Okay. Number one is to be affectionate with your partner around the kids. And this is something that a lot of people just don’t do. They want to isolate children from sex so much when they’re young, that they also take away the affection. And that’s the thing, you really have to draw a distinction between affection and say, it’s perfectly fine to be hugging, to be kissing, to be touching, to be saying nice things to be acting in that amorous way around the kids all the time.

Kevin Anthony 10:52
In fact, I don’t know if there’s any research on this. I imagine that there is but it’s my opinion that that will actually Then teach them how to have healthier, better relationships in the future. So you’re actually not just doing yourselves something good. By showing the affection, you’re actually helping to train the kids. What does a healthy relationship look like?

Céline Remy 11:16
Absolutely. And then also what’s happening when you start to be more affectionate, whether or not you’re around the kids is that it doesn’t become that the only time you’re touching is when you want to get some. Because then it’s like, I’ve heard stories of people being like, when he wants to get laid, he touches me a certain way and I know where it’s going. And I’m like, this sucks because you’re not appreciating the touch you not receiving it.

Céline Remy 11:38
So if you start to make affection part of your daily life, then you not never have to be this junkie for touch because you don’t get enough and you never have to like pull away from it because it means that you’re going to have to give something in return. And I think that’s very important to be aware of that because it changes how you can receive and give the touch. Yeah. Our second tip here is to start with age-appropriate conversations about sex. And I think this is really essential. So it’s easier for me probably because I grew up in Switzerland. It’s a different culture.

Céline Remy 12:14
I had parents who gave me sex education that was age-appropriate from comic books for kids to like later on, like real, more nerdy stuff about how babies are made. But that’s something we talked about that’s something we discussed. We looked at the book it had real nudity to explain it explained everything how you know how the sperm travels, and like how the babies are made the stages how the baby is made like actually parents making love.

It wasn’t like graphically porn, but it explained that parents need to have that time. And I think if you lay that foundation, it creates a different expectation. It creates a foundation that is so much more healthy.

Kevin Anthony 12:57
Yeah, well, the problem is, is when when you completely hide all of it from kids and you don’t tell them these things, then you’re trying to have your moment right in the bedroom and then all of a sudden, the kid walks in and sees something that looks like wrestling or, like you do far more damage, like if they accidentally walked in and said, Oh, yeah, I understand what that is. I shouldn’t be here. And you know, we’ll get into why they shouldn’t be walking in the first place.

Céline Remy 13:27
Number three, you want to make time for it. That means you have to put sex back on the agenda after children in a know it sounds crazy. You mean we have to put it down in the calendar? And yes is the answer. You should have a weekly date night as a given just because you’re a capital and you together whether or not you have kids, just because you want to invest in your relationship, and you probably need to have sexy time and it doesn’t mean it has to lead to penetration sex, but at least to some naked connections. Absolutely.

And it doesn’t have to be six-hour tantric lovemaking. You know, if all you have is a half-hour, just do a half hour.

Kevin Anthony 14:08
Anything is better than nothing.

Céline Remy 14:10
Absolutely, absolutely.

Kevin Anthony 14:13
All right, number four, oh, this one’s going to be maybe a little controversial for our listeners. But it stops sharing a bed with your kids. So we know a lot of parents who are into more of the New Age, style of you know, parenting, which is they will co-sleep with their kids. Now, with babies and infants, that’s pretty normal. The differences are that as they start getting older, a lot of these parents are continuing to co-sleep with their kids for a long time.

Kevin Anthony 14:45
And that I mean, if you want to talk about a cock block, this is about the biggest cock block that you could possibly have. Now, when children are infants, you know, it’s not unusual for parents to like put the kid over to the side are, you know, put the kid in a crib next to the bed and still make love. But once they start getting a little older, there’s no way that’s going to happen. Right? So having them co-sleep in the bed, the only time that the two of you get to be naked together, well, you’re not going to have sex when that’s the case.

Kevin Anthony 15:16
The other problem with that is, is the time that you do want, like, let’s say, you know, you have the kid co-sleeping with you. And you say, Friday night, that’s the magical night, that’s when it’s going to happen. And then you try to tell the kid you’re going to sleep in your room tonight. No fucking way. Do you want to see the tantrum that this child is going to throw? It’s not going to happen, right?

Kevin Anthony 15:41
So the problem is, is that that you’re trying to do something that you think is good, but it’s actually long term as they get older, going to do more harm to both you and them because the attachment they’ve built a stronger, it’s even more difficult to get them to go do their own thing.

Céline Remy 15:56
So and sometimes it uses it as an action Excuse, you know, and I’ve seen it where women are like, Hey, I just live with my children and my husband’s on the couch. And I’m like, you know, you got into this relationship because of your husband, and you need to make him a priority, you can just always put him last on the list of things. If you want this to be thriving, your kids are gonna go, you partner supposed to stay. And so like think long term.

Céline Remy 16:24
Think also in terms of attachment, it’s always going to be painful the day you cut the cord off. There’s going to be multiple versions of cord-cutting of time, we’re going to have to let go. This is one of those moments. That’s all the next one is to set appropriate boundaries. I think it’s very appropriate to put it right after that because it does come down to boundaries.

Céline Remy 16:48
What does it look like to have personal time for yourself or time as a couple without kids, have one on one time with your kids, you know, like have boundaries around what’s happening? Create so how it’s appropriate to act around you like don’t allow things that you’re not comfortable with just because you don’t know how to say no.

Kevin Anthony 17:08
Yeah, that’s part of the appropriate boundaries and other appropriate boundaries are things like when the bedroom door is closed, you don’t bother us you don’t walk in. And what goes along with that, of course, is further on down the list. We’ll talk about it again but lock the door, right. But the idea is that you set boundaries like I know when I was a kid with my parent’s bedroom door was closed. We didn’t go in and we didn’t bother them unless it was an emergency. You just cut your finger off or something. Yeah, you go pound on the door. Otherwise, you wait until they get up.

Céline Remy 17:45
And usually, you had to knock. That’s what I had to do. I had to knock until they would come and open and it was like I’m so sorry. And stuff like I couldn’t just barge in anytime I wanted in their bedroom, that’s for sure.

Kevin Anthony 17:55
I have seen so many parents who do not lock their door and then the kid comes in Then they get into an argument and then they put them back to bed and then they yell at them, then they close the door. Then the kid comes in and it’s like, why don’t you just lock the fucking door. Eventually, the kid will realize it’s useless to come because the door is going to be locked. But you got he got to set boundaries. That’s the important part.

Céline Remy 18:17
And of course, you want to make nudity normal, which might sound weird. I’m glad that I’m the one getting this one because it’s like, again, culturally speaking, I grew up in a family where it was totally okay to be nude, going to the bathroom from the bedroom and stuff and never made a big deal. Again, there’s a big distinction between nudity and sexuality.

Céline Remy 18:37
This is not about having sexual acts in front of children. This is about like normalizing nudity, that it’s not a big deal. You showing up good proper body image being normalizing something that’s natural, and that creates a healthy foundation for healthy sexuality. That also makes you a place of healthy sexuality.

Kevin Anthony 18:58
Yeah, absolutely and the thing is, again, how much more damage is you going to do when you’ve withheld this for x number of years and then they accidentally walk in because you forgot to lock the door that day even though you knew you were supposed to lock the door. It’s like all of these things every time you withhold, withhold, withhold, deny, you know, all that eventually if something happens later on down the road, it causes more harm than if you just made it normal.

Kevin Anthony 19:23
So you make it normal that nudity is okay you teach when it’s appropriate and when it’s not appropriate. Right and then if they happen to see you naked walking from somewhere or post-sex or whatever, it’s not a big deal.

Céline Remy 19:35
Absolutely. And then you want to make sure that you communicate between yourself your partner, even your kids, you know, again, it’s always has to be age-appropriate but have communication to with your partner, especially if you like feeling resentment that you’re not getting the sex you want a need or do you not having the time the connection that you want the first acknowledge that this frustration And then acknowledged that there are a desire and a willingness to recreate that connection.

Kevin Anthony 20:05
Yeah, you’re talking about it is huge. In fact, in one of the articles where we got some of the statistics from, they had some stories from people who responded to the survey, and one of them was they were parents of teenagers. And they were interviewing the man. And the man basically said, you know, in the beginning, we weren’t really having sex that much, but I didn’t say anything, because I figured it would get better. That’s what he said.

Kevin Anthony 20:32
And now and then he continued on and said, and here we are, now, you know, the kids are 15-16-17. And it’s not any better. Right? So this idea of like, wow, just not gonna say anything, because I know eventually about a lot. No, you need to talk about it. You always need to talk about it

Céline Remy 20:52
and don’t whine about it. Don’t complain, don’t be a badge about it, but just like behave. This is what’s going on for me the take responsibility. State what you really want instead, you know, because I really just want that connection to remember how much we love touching each other on making love having hot passionate sex. How was that with you again?

Kevin Anthony 21:15
All right, Number eight is put your partner before chores. So here’s the thing. The list of chores never ends. It literally never ends and especially never ends. If you have kids. There’s always going to be 10 more things. 15 more things that you got to do. But like we said at the beginning of this list, which is making it a priority, well, yeah, you got to put them ahead of some of the chores you know, you do what you have to do, obviously, the things that are necessary.

Kevin Anthony 21:44
And you know, you’ll probably realize that some of those things really can wait.

Céline Remy 21:49
Mm-hmm. But again, if you are in a beautiful space with your partner as parents, it creates a much more harmonious energy for the family now You want to teach your kids to respect closed doors, like we already mentioned, what you teach them when you do that you teach them to respect other people’s space. And that’s really essential because having sex requires some privacy.

Kevin Anthony 22:14
Yeah, and this isn’t just about respecting your space, because I mean, yeah, that’s important. But as silly mentioned, this is actually teaching them a bigger life lesson, which is to respect other people’s personal space. So you’re actually using this scenario, this situation as a way to teach your kids an important life lesson.

Céline Remy 22:35
Now, this is my favorite to go to bed early at night and go to bed together. This is one other thing I’ve seen, like one of my clients, they’re dealing with that like the nighttime is his only time that he can unwind and has time for himself but she likes to go to bed early and she kind of goes like, hey, I want to join me with to bed. And that’s kind of her signal of saying let’s have sex and he’s realizing that He doesn’t make it, he doesn’t get any.

Céline Remy 23:02
And then the morning, there’s the kids, you know. So there are all these things that come together. So it’s like, hey, think about that I go to bed early, make it and go to bed together because it creates a special bond,

Kevin Anthony 23:12
it’s kind of hard to have sex with your partner in the bed if your partner’s not in the bed. Pretty simple, right? But, but you know, I sort of understand your client because I often feel the same way that the evening time is the only chance I get to really like, sit down, relax, decompress, you know, even if it’s just reading some articles or a book or something, it’s just that’s unloading the stress of the day.

Kevin Anthony 23:45
But you know, like, the way we handle it, is we just make sure that we have certain days set aside. So I get that time at the end of the day, on some days and other days, I make it a priority to give that time to you and us. Right. So easy way to do it.

Céline Remy 24:01
So I’m going to go quickly with a few here because I want to go to our next section of this. Obviously, we’ve already talked about this log the door. An idea is to keep the noise level to a minimum, and it’s okay if they hear some noises. You know, obviously like some morning I’m sad like, like, if you like into real dirty talking or like really bad words may be referring to like, hey, like this batch and stuff like who are you talking to last night our daddy say that, you know,

Kevin Anthony 24:31
Keep the hardcore BDSM for the nights when you have a babysitter.

Céline Remy 24:34
Exactly. But we have to get over at its life again, so okay to have some noises but give them a little bit lower, play some music, have a background TV noise, whatever it is, or a fan white noise like there are ways around, which means do you can get creative, get creative around when you get together how you make this work. And then another strategy is to go for it first thing in the morning.

Céline Remy 25:00
Or, better yet one of my kind did that just put your alarm clock 20 minutes sooner in the morning and just use that time for connection. And above all, remember the love, speak each other’s love language daily, if you want to have sex, you need to have you love container to be filled, you need to feel that this is a strong connection that there’s more to it than just the sex. And you need to have that love tank full. So make it a priority to speak each other’s love language.

Kevin Anthony 25:29
Absolutely. So, so that was pretty much all focused around when you have kids. But there may be other situations when the family are around to right. Like they’re visiting you for the holidays. you’re visiting them, right. So if you if they’re visiting or you’re visiting, and it’s only you know, two, three days, like whatever, pretty much everybody can, you know, hold off for a couple of days. But what if it’s extended like we just spent three and a half weeks in Europe? Uh-huh. Two and a half of which were with your Family I know. So how did we do it? How did we have sex? Did we have sex? Oh, yes, we did.

Céline Remy 26:07
Oh, yes, then we are about to give you some good tips here.

Kevin Anthony 26:11
Hey, at least this time, you didn’t ejaculate all over your mom’s comforter.

Céline Remy 26:15
That’s true. We were more prepared. Sex is normal sex is okay. And sex is what people do. Okay? So keep that in mind. We have this dilemma too because we go, visit families, my family lives on a different continent, your family lives on the other coast. And so we always make it a little while, like worthwhile for the trip to be, you know, worth it. And so we deal with that every time we go visit like this at least a few weeks, like at least like 10 days to like weeks and nearly a month.

Céline Remy 26:50
So we’ve become pretty creative. So one of the things that we’ve learned is, you absolutely need to keep time for yourselves. And it’s a tricky one because you’re so happy Happy to see your family, you want to give them time you want to give them attention, you want to make that time matter because you only have this short period of time. But you gotta remember that the unit of love that you are you and your partner, you need to keep that time for yourself. So you can’t always give everything to other people. So keep sometimes for yourself.

Kevin Anthony 27:18
Yeah, absolutely. And that can look like a lot of things. So like number two on the list, or no, sorry, it’s number three on the list is to get a hotel room. So one thing that you can do is if you’re going to visit them, you can go a day or two earlier, or maybe stay an extra day or two afterward or just say, you know what, we’re here for two weeks and on Thursday, we’re just going to do something on our own. We’re just gonna go explore have some downtime, and then go get a hotel room.

Céline Remy 27:50
Yeah, don’t need to tell them. What you are doing.

Kevin Anthony 27:52
You don’t need to tell them and take some time.

Céline Remy 27:56
Yeah. Very important. Keep the sex going. It is too easy to get off track, it’s much harder to get back on the sex train than it is to fall out of it. And so I think we have to like work at it. And we constantly have to work at it after nearly four years now, we still have our ups and downs where we go through lots of sex, less sex, and we constantly have to course correct. So even as who loves sex, focus on this workaround sex all day long. We still have ups and downs and we need to make it a priority. And we that’s a choice that we make

Kevin Anthony 28:31
its life, right? Yeah, we’re entrepreneurs. We’re working hard, we’re busy, we’re tired, just like everybody else, you know, I mean, and yeah, you just have to make it a priority. You have to be able to have honest conversations and say, You know what, I’ve noticed we’re not having as much sex as we usually do. Okay, well, what can we do about that?

Céline Remy 28:51
Hmm? Okay, the same same thing applies here. When you have family visiting or you’re visiting, do an Early to bed evening. Just send it Everybody out to a movie but you or tell them to enjoy the kitchen or whatever. And you guys go to an early bed. Like that’s it. One thing that I’ve noticed too is we talk about sex around my family we even talk a little bit about, about sex around your family for nothing, mine’s a little bit more open. But here’s the thing, like they didn’t know you’re doing it. So might as well just say it.

Kevin Anthony 29:25
You’re sure? No.

Céline Remy 29:29
No, you don’t have to put it in their faces but at the same time, honor that relationship in the special bond you have

Kevin Anthony 29:36
absolutely normalizing it makes it a whole lot easier. It does. It does. You know, if if when you say, you know, we’re going to go to bed early tonight, there they understand and feel that it’s normal. They go Oh, yeah, that’s a good idea. Other than

Céline Remy 29:50
wink, wink.

Kevin Anthony 29:53
But why we haven’t even talked and there’s this and that. You know, it’s like,

Céline Remy 29:57
let’s play tonight. Um, the same thing here applies to the closed-door policies. I mean, I think it’s essential and please don’t share a bed with your parents.

Kevin Anthony 30:14
You know, I would say, That doesn’t even make sense except for the fact that we actually know some adults who do that.

Céline Remy 30:20
Yes, please, for their sake and your sake, please don’t. It’s okay if you’re on a trip and you co-sharing a space, which we did. And it was two nights and we still managed to give you a blow job but there was kind of a word in the same bed. They were in a different bed downstairs. It was just an open

Kevin Anthony 30:38
line of sight that was not so great.

Céline Remy 30:42
And I was like giving you a blood job. And I was like, this is it. This is as much as you’re getting. We’re going to get some more once we have a little bit.

Kevin Anthony 30:49
Definitely, I mean, like, you know, you’re caught in a foreign country somewhere and all you can find is a tiny hotel room with one bed you share it like whatever. Yeah, but in general You really shouldn’t be sharing in bed with your parents past the age of about one in my opinion I know there’s a lot of other opinions about that but at very least they stop at least around six

Céline Remy 31:15
Then I last tip here around keeping sex alive when there’s family is to set healthy expectations and boundaries expectations of how much time you’re spending with them boundaries that you need us time for the relationship and you know get give your parents some time also like to spend time with them by themselves and then time with your partner like give everybody some love some good attention and set good boundaries.

Kevin Anthony 31:41
Yeah, well, that was just making the entire experience more enjoyable because you know, everybody, everybody after like, a certain amount of time starts getting a little tense, you know, in those situations, so it’s like, yeah, give them time. Like, I know when your family was visiting here, you’re like, here’s my car. Go have fun. Exactly,

Céline Remy 31:57
exactly. We went out to where We’re like, oh, we’re going out. We have two cars. So we’re like you can use our car this car and we’ll take our car and like here’s a key, have fun See you

Kevin Anthony 32:07
tomorrow and they loved it too because they weren’t needed all the restaurants we will need it.

Céline Remy 32:14
Here’s something that you said about how this tension that comes up and piles up. We have three additional tips I think or two additional tips that we want to give you. Number one is our lovemaking because we know that when there’s family around it’s actually stressful. Use lovemaking to relax.

Kevin Anthony 32:34
Relax and ease the stress

Céline Remy 32:37
Exactly remember this is like we call this we have “Cockspirin” and “Vaginol”. So you need a good dose of “Cockspirin” and a deep application of “Vaginol” and you’ll feel much better.

Kevin Anthony 32:50
You are giving my names away, I haven’t trademark to them yet. A couple of extra tips. You know if you’re going to be visiting family doesn’t mean that you can’t still be sexy. So bring a little sexy lingerie with you.

Céline Remy 33:14
Kinky fuck you.

Kevin Anthony 33:15
Yeah, you can even bring your toys with your noise levels, you know, whatever. But if you’re going to do the hotel room thing, hey,

Céline Remy 33:23
that works out.

Kevin Anthony 33:24
Yeah, exactly.

Céline Remy 33:25
Then remember do new things with each other because that brings the creativity that sparks it back. You know, vacations are a great time because usually you’re a little less stressed, more relaxed and you do some new things. Anytime you have this creativity, this new juiciness, it translates into the bedroom. Absolutely.

Kevin Anthony 33:47
Well, there you go. Now you have absolutely no reason to not have sex when the kids are around or when their families visiting or your way visiting them. There are absolutely ways that you can make it work and you will be better off the family will be better off, everybody will be better.

Céline Remy 34:05
Well, and remember, it was only 86% of people that means 14% of people are still having great sex and you want to be in that 14%. That’s true.

Kevin Anthony 34:17
Well, it’s not limited to 14%. In fact, how about you contribute to making the 14% become 86%?

Céline Remy 34:24
yeah. Hmm. We hope this was inspiring. And we will see you next week.

Kevin Anthony 34:34
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Céline Remy 34:41
And if you want more, we have an entire digital library with the best sex tips and Relationship Advice at Celine Remy. com. That’s kevinanthonycoaching.com So join us in the sex vault to continue this adventure. Thanks for listening And remember, you’re amazing.