What Is Tantric Sex? And How To Do It

Kevin Anthony 0:11
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex with men, women, single couple. This is the show for you because well, sex matters. We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and sending me welcome back to the love lab podcast and this is episode 47. And it’s titled what is tantric sex and how to do it.

Céline Remy 0:39
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Kevin Anthony 1:03
Alright, so I’m really excited about this episode. And at the same time, I feel slightly challenged by it. And I’ll tell you why. Because I’m excited about it. Because I think this is an amazing part of sexuality that I wish everybody could experience. And at the same time, I feel slightly challenged by it. Because it’s a little bit esoteric and a little bit intangible, and difficult to describe to people. And if you’ve never experienced it, it can be, it can be difficult to truly understand what we’re going to share today. So we’re going to do our best

Céline Remy 1:50
You know, it’s kind of like, honey, right? Where you can read about Honey, you can see how it sticky and sweet and delicious, but until you really taste Honey, it’s not going to make as much sense to read about it. So that’s basically what we’re talking about today.

Kevin Anthony 2:09
Okay, so before we get started, we have to clear up a few things. The very first one is it is Tantra, not Tantra. I know, it’s silly, but we hear this all the time people always pronounce it Tantra, it always makes us giggle a little bit. So just so you know, it’s actually pronounced Tantra,

Céline Remy 2:34
Alright, that’s the first place. So, what is Tantra? Really? And what is the difference between Tantra and tantric sex?

Kevin Anthony 2:43
Oh, so this is a big one. Because in the West here, where we are, people kind of use the two terms interchangeably. And when they say Tantra, what they really mean is tantric sex. And so yeah, we felt it was really important to explain the difference between Tantra and tantric sex.

Céline Remy 3:06
So Tantra is basically a way of life, right a system for living. And the word Tantra finds its roots in the word “Tan”, which means “whole”. Tantra itself, as the word in Sanskrit, means to weave. So I love this analogy of wholeness and weaving things together. So I want you to think of it as a life path. And it combines many teachings and sexuality is only a fragment of the practices that are being taught.

Kevin Anthony 3:43
Yeah, and that’s the real key is that Tantra is a system for living life that encompasses everything. Everything from your sexuality, to your spirituality to what food you eat, like it’s literally it’s a, it’s a holistic way of living life. And for people here in western may not be that familiar with Tantra, one of the analogies that I often use is, people here are familiar with Yoga has had enough popularity for the last decade or so that most people are familiar with yoga now. And what I always used to say is that, that Yoga is like Tantra, in a sense that Yoga is a holistic way of living life. But what we call yoga here in the West is actually only Asana. And Asana is just your sort of postures your poses your physical part. And it’s just one small piece.

Kevin Anthony 4:36
And so I used to say all the time to people that asked me is to yoga, what tantric sex is to Tantra, it’s a small piece of a larger system, a larger whole, how you live life. And so I just thought I’d throw that out there. Because maybe people would get it a little bit more if they could relate it to something they already know about, like yoga.

Céline Remy 4:58
And then the thing is, it’s not a religion, okay? It talks about spirituality. So something bigger, but it’s not a religion, and it’s not religious. And so you don’t have to change who you are, you don’t have to follow dogmas and rituals and ring bells and do like, I don’t know 17 different things. These things can help you at times to get into your body or create a container. But there’s no such thing as like, a written path that has to be followed one way,

Kevin Anthony 5:35
Exactly you can be any religion that you want to be, and still practice Tantra, there’s no conflict there at all. Tantra is just, it’s just a way of living life that’s balanced. And there’s, there’s, you know, so many cultures have their version of it. You know, in Chinese culture, when you think about the Union, the young and that sort of balance that’s created between the two, you know, touches similar to that, in a way, this is a balanced, holistic way of living life.

Kevin Anthony 6:07
So there’s no conflict, don’t worry, it’s not cult, you’re not gonna be sucked into some strange sex cult. Which is sometimes I think, what people actually think. But you know, I will say, along those lines, is that like anything else, whether it’s religion, whether it’s a gun, or you know, a tool, or a car, or anything else, it can be used for good, it can be used for bad. And there have been times throughout history, where the knowledge and the power of Tantra has been used for bad stuff. But don’t get that confused with Tantra itself. So I just want to make that point real fast.

Céline Remy 6:53
So, okay, so now we know that tantric sex is that small part is a fragment of the teaching, and here in the West with focused a lot on that, and this is what we call Tantra. And so really, what is that sexual part of Tantra?

Kevin Anthony 7:15
All right, now we’re getting into the good stuff. So what are we talking about when we say tantric sex? Right? This is where we’re going to do our best to describe what we believe tantric sex is there might be some different opinions.

Céline Remy 7:31
Oh, yeah, by the way, I like to say when I talked about it with my clients that Tantra is like chocolate. Everybody has their own the recipe of it, you know, it’s Yes.

Kevin Anthony 7:39
Like dark chocolate. So like milk chocolate, sweet chocolate, bitter chocolate. Yeah, there’s, there’s a lot of different flavors. So, so we have some guidelines for that will help you understand whether or not the lovemaking that you’re having is tantric in nature. And so the first one is, you no longer focus on the orgasm or ejaculation, and the focus is more on the journey of the lovemaking. And I tell you, we observe a lot of people having sex not only as part of work but as just our friend’s circle and lifestyle.

Kevin Anthony 8:15
And I can tell you that most people focus on the friction with the intent to orgasm, they just do, they’ve never been taught anything else. And so I think one of the big distinctions with Tantra is you’re not doing that. It’s not about grinding genitals together and rubbing clits and stroking cocks and, and trying to achieve an orgasm, that’s not it at all.

Céline Remy 8:44
Another one is that you focus on moving the powerful energy that is generated throughout both of your bodies. And so that’s when we get a little bit more esoteric. I want you to think of sexual energy is not something that you really can see it’s that intangible, but yet you can feel it. You know what I’m talking about? That? Oh, yes, I do right attention. We know that like sexual tension, sexual energy. And so once you start to tune in, rather than just focusing on the sensations of the body, and especially the sensations on the hot spots, but start to tune in to the energy of the entire body, and not just your own energy, but your partner and what the two of you are creating together, that is starting to be a step in the direction of tantric sex.

Kevin Anthony 9:40
Yeah. And, you know, I forgot in the introduction to give the Wu alert. where, you know, we try in this podcast, and not to get too Woo, but there’s a certain aspect to sexuality that just is a little whoo, whoo. And, and there’s no way around that, really. So this is one of those moments. If, if you don’t understand what we mean, by feeling the energy. You have got some hurdles before you can really get into this tantric lovemaking because it’s a huge part of it.

Just to use an example from our own life, you know, we were making love last night. It was just this beautiful, slow, expansive, tantric lovemaking. At one point, it was totally, you know, silent as far as words go. And I said to Céline. I can feel you expanding.  And, you know, she said to me later on afterward, she’s like, She’s like, Yeah, I was totally expanding in that moment. And yet, I was you were thinking like, the fuck does he know that?

Céline Remy 10:54
Yeah, it’s another that changed anything, but I mentally was picturing my vagina opening up and just kind of expanding and there’s sometimes places where I can go where it’s a very intentional the lovemaking and there’s a form of prayer or intention, however you want to word that and at that moment, that was really relating to becoming one with all and becoming one with the universe, and that my pussy was the gateway to the universe. And I was imagining that and just kind of like focusing on this, and you felt it?

Kevin Anthony 11:35
Yeah. And here’s the thing is, I don’t even think we were moving in that moment. Right? And yet, so there’s an intention that you’re setting. And yet, I can feel that. So how, you know, how do I feel that? Well, there’s a, there’s an energy that’s created. And, you know, many different societies have called that energy, different things. She and life force energy, pronto. Universe energy. There’s a whole long list of different words, even Kundalini energy. It’s it really, it’s our life force energy.

Kevin Anthony 12:11
It’s the energy that flows through us. And we’ve said this before in different shows. But there is no difference between sexual energy and life force energy, or Jing, or G or any other, they’re all different words to describe the same thing, which is this energy that’s inside of us. And it really does move. And I know it sounds woo woo, or esoteric or whatever. But it’s real. And it’s palpable, once you learn how to tune into it,

Céline Remy 12:37
absolutely. And if any of our listeners do martial arts, they probably very familiar with that concept. If you even do something like Tai Chi, that’s the whole point, you make movements in the air following and feeling the energy. When you watch these people move really, really slow. There’s this intention, a feeling beyond the physical movement. And so it’s really a concept that’s really important to grasp and understand. And it is something that you will continue to cultivate throughout your life. Just because you understand it today, you will get it even deeper later down the road.

Céline Remy 13:22
And there’s never a time where like, that’s it I have reached enlightenment, I have reached the place. It’s constantly expanding. So if you approach lovemaking with the intention of going beyond the physicality and feeling what’s underneath the surface, and focusing on that, which cannot be quantified or really like seen, it will start to move and you will start to get used to it and like become familiar with it.

Kevin Anthony 13:53
Yeah. And the pro tip here is whether you’re doing tantric sex or not, if you can tap into this one, this one skill, you will improve the quality of your lovemaking 100 times absolutely is this is what it’s really all about.

Céline Remy 14:08
Yeah, you know, sometimes when we think of tantric sex, people are like, okay, what can I do? Which positions? What exercise? This the trap where you can get stuck in your head in like, I have to do it just right. Then I have to follow these guidelines. And that’s not really what that is all about. Because you’re not so much in the present, you’re thinking about the next move or what needs to happen. And that takes away from the experience.

Kevin Anthony 14:37
So let’s keep describing what sexual Tantra is. So we had you no longer focus on the orgasm and ejaculation and you focus more on the journey and we have, you focus on moving the powerful energy that’s generated throughout your body. The next one is, as a guy, you have to learn to separate orgasms and ejaculation. And this is huge because we say this so many times in so many shows, but you know, depending on which study you follow, you know, the average man ejaculates in three to five minutes or five to seven minutes. In either case, it’s only a few minutes long. And honestly, it’s almost impossible. I won’t say it’s impossible, but it’s almost impossible to reach these heightened levels. In five to seven minutes.

Céline Remy 15:24
I have never done it. But like you said, No, no,

Kevin Anthony 15:28
I have either. I’m just you know, I don’t like to talk in absolutes. And so I’m leaving, I’m leaving a little bit of room to say that maybe some Todrick master can do this in five minutes. But in general, No, you can’t. And so as a guy in order for you to be able to get there yourself, and also be with your woman when she gets there and helps her get there help the two of you get there, you gotta last longer.

Céline Remy 15:55
Yes, you just have to. And so you need to understand that ejaculation and orgasms are two different things. They are two different processes in the body. And these can be learned to be separated. And even just now having that spot for the very first time that they’re two different things is the beginning of the journey.

Kevin Anthony 16:14
Yeah. And, you know, if, if you’re hearing this for the first time and going, What the fuck are they talking about? Or even if you’ve heard of it, but you just never really experienced it, or maybe you’re not that good at it. We have an entire program designed to help you do this. It’s called master your jack elation, it will teach you how to separate the two so you can look it up. It’s at powerandmastery.com.

Céline Remy 16:37
If you’re a woman, you need to learn to turn your orgasms more inward and move away from the explosion explosive orgasm to more of an implosive orgasm. And I know it’s also a strange concept. It’s kind of the same tonight is for guys to learn to separate ejaculation and orgasm. Like first you are what are you talking about? You know, what is this? Well because you probably used to go for the clitoral orgasm and it’s this firework and it’s that’s which I call the genital sneeze that happens. But then you can start to tune in and bring the energy inward.

Céline Remy 17:17
So rather than exploding on the outside, where you coming, and then you feeling tired or worn out or you can’t touch your clit anymore, it’s ultra sensitive. You move the energy inward where you explode on the inside, and you never reach that point of too much can touch no more ultra sensitive or I’m tired. As a matter of fact, you become insatiable. That’s such a good place to be.

Kevin Anthony 17:47
Yeah, and what’s interesting is as a guy, I can feel the difference when you have an impulsive versus explosive orgasm. I don’t necessarily know how to describe it, or the difference in words, but I can feel the difference when you have one versus the other. And the impulsive ones are much more expansive.

Céline Remy 18:10
Mm-hmm.

Kevin Anthony 18:12
And why they can they can both be very powerful. There’s just a difference to like a true implosive orgasm is just off the charts powerful.

Céline Remy 18:23
But it is different, it’s a different energy, two different breeds. Totally different animal. So get used to that. And then what you want to do is, like we mentioned earlier, it’s all about surfing those waves of pleasure, right? So building out the waves of energy. So it’s because we’re not making it about the destination, and about the orgasm about the ejaculation. And we’re starting to tune into something deeper, then what we focus on is, how long can I write this way? How high can I go? Nice. It’s a totally different approach.

Kevin Anthony 19:03
Yeah. And we described them as waves because they literally are waves where they’ll, you’ll get a big wave intense energy, and you’ll ride that a little bit, and then you’ll come back down. And then you’ll have another way, you’ll come back down and you’ll just surface. So it’s not, it’s not a linear progression of just constantly getting more and more and more and more and more and more and more intense. It’s more of a wave where each wave gets a little bit bigger than the one before, which is just really quite fun. And it’s

Céline Remy 19:32
Very different than how you see if you look at the model of arousal. And in sexuality, that’s really that curve where most people start from a place of being flat, have a curve that spikes up, you reach your peak, and then there’s a massive drop down back down after that orgasmic cataclysm expression.

Céline Remy 19:53
Well, in the tantric sex lovemaking, you start at the same place, it takes a little bit longer, and then you start to like linger, and then it gets a little higher, and you linger and the progression is different, and you can go higher, but you never go back down and drop even lower than when you were before you started. When you are done you actually higher than where you were at the beginning.

Kevin Anthony 20:17
Totally. And, you know, I want to just say this for the guys out there. So, you know, most guys tend, if they’re having sex kind of the normal standard way, they tend to have more of a linear increase where their excitement builds, builds, builds, builds, builds, builds, builds in this linear line until it fucking explodes into an ejaculation. And so if that’s the way you’re used to having sex, and you’re thinking about riding these waves and building, you’re probably thinking, How can I possibly sustain that, like, at a certain point, you’re thinking that you just have to let it all go and explode, right.

Kevin Anthony 20:56
And so I want to reframe that for you and let you know that the reason why you feel like you have to explode into an evacuation is because you’re not moving the energy through your whole body. It’s basically getting stuck in the genital area. And it builds to a point where the general area can’t contain it anymore, and it has to explode into and Jackie elation. And so if you can learn to move that energy through your body, and feel it everywhere and your toes and your fingers in the top of your head, like everywhere, you can build the level of energy up so much higher, without that need to explode off into an evacuation. Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 21:41
So beautiful. So if we were to summon up at its essence, Tantra is about opening your heart and moving energy in the body through conscious awareness. It’s about the connection with oneself, presence, and tapping into a higher dimension of consciousness.

Kevin Anthony 22:01
Doesn’t that sound amazing? and juicy

Céline Remy 22:04
And mind-blowing out of this world?

Kevin Anthony 22:06
Everybody who wants that raise their hands?

Céline Remy 22:09
My toes are up. So, so that leads to my next question, right? So often when we start to discuss this with friends and like people will ask us, why do you want to do this?

Kevin Anthony 22:25
Oh, my God, this is this is the funniest question we get. I mean, we’ve literally had friends over for dinner, where we talking about this kind of stuff. And I specifically recall one instance, where one of the men there were three of us there to three couples, and one of the men looked me square in the eye and said, why would you want to do that? Like he literally said, why would you want to do that. And what I realized at that moment was, he didn’t know what he didn’t know. Right? Like, you’ve probably heard that expression before, you don’t even know what you don’t know. Which means that you don’t even know that you don’t know that you can attain these levels. Like it’s not even in your awareness that something like that is possible.

Kevin Anthony 23:10
So what you’re doing then is you’re looking at lovemaking through your own limited lens. And your own limited lens says lovemaking is 10 minutes long and ends in ejaculation. Yeah, it feels good for a few minutes, and then it’s over. Then you go back to listening to podcasts or watching TV or whatever it is you do or sleep or whatever. So their frame of reference is so narrow, that they can’t even comprehend why somebody would want to do this.

Céline Remy 23:42
And maybe some of you have heard of staying, and he used to talk about his lovemaking that he would make love for hours. And I often hear that people like whoa, who would want to have sex for four hours?

Kevin Anthony 23:55
Me. I think our current record is six and it was fucking amazing.

Céline Remy 24:01
That is correct. And it’s one of those where I say, do try this at home.

Kevin Anthony 24:09
Over and over again.

Céline Remy 24:14
So if you want to learn more, so we have episodes for you, by the way, Episode 25. How to have the best orgasms ever when we talk about the different levels of orgasms. So we’re not going to get into that today, we have an episode number 12. How to harness the power of your sexual energy where you learn and you know how you can use your sexual energy to manifest things in your life to reach a goal to have more health, happiness, and wealth. It’s amazing. So listen to these two episodes, because we’re not going to dive in right nine to that.

Kevin Anthony 24:45
Yeah, but we’re not going to leave you hanging either. So you know, we’ve talked about what is Tantra versus tantric sex. And, and, and we talked about why you would want to do it. And we do want to give you somehow. Here’s the caveat, though, is that we’re going to give you a list of things of how to do it. It’s 11 things long, actually. But each one of these is so deep. And there’s so much that you could learn about each one that there’s no way we could possibly get it all into a podcast.

Kevin Anthony 25:19
So we’re going to give them to you, we’re going to give you some brief descriptions. And really, at the end of the day, if you really truly want to learn and master this stuff, it would be best to work with somebody, whether it’s us or somebody else. There’s plenty of people out there that teach Tantra to try to find a good one, though, because some of them, they say they teach Tantra and it’s really just a bunch of crap. But anyway, we’ll talk more about that after we go through this list.

Céline Remy 25:41
Absolutely. So number one, how do you do this? You have to let go of expectation agenda and goal.

Kevin Anthony 25:49
It’s essential at the start that there is no goal agenda and destination to reach. Exactly. So So what is something that we hear quite often from men? Well, now that you’ve got me all turned on, you have to finish me? You need to stop that.

Céline Remy 26:08
Or women also, the same thing was like scared no longer nearly there. I’m just about there, like keep going. Don’t stop. Or don’t leave me hanging.

Kevin Anthony 26:19
Exactly.

Céline Remy 26:20
Right. So these are like really important. Like we mentioned earlier, as a man, you want to learn to separate your ejaculation and orgasms. This is like a crucial step in getting into that space of having tantric sex for hours.

Kevin Anthony 26:37
Yeah, and these first few that we’re covering here, number one, let go of expectations. Number two, learn to separate your ejaculation and your orgasm. These are kind of like foundational pieces like these are skills that you need to have before you should even really try to embark on this journey. Because if you can’t do those, that those two things, you’re not likely to get to true time sex. And number three, this one is well, it’s really for both men and women at when I wrote it, I was thinking more in terms of women, but I think it applies for both, which is learn how to fully open and surrender this, this practice really is about surrendering.

Céline Remy 27:17
And that’s fun like we talking about the path of non-resistance. Like last night, when we’re experiencing this lovemaking, I was noticing that I was not tensing up my body, I was not trying to get anywhere I was in resisting anything, the more sensation I would feel, the more I would relax. And that’s really what allows you to like go to higher levels. And so it’s a very different concept than how we usually do that. So that’s where you need to have these things in place. And awareness is essential because we have a default mechanism.

Céline Remy 27:55
And I see that all the time when I work with my clients, they don’t realize that they turn up their bodies, they don’t realize that they stop breathing are like that they go fast. They’re like they go into these, like, I know, there’s a switch in the mind, and they like go on autopilot. And it’s not serving them.

Kevin Anthony 28:16
It’s autopilot. And, you know, I also want to just say for the guys out there being open and surrendering does not mean being passive in the bed. So it doesn’t mean that you’re just going to lay there and, you know, be all hippie and like, not going to take charge and just go let the flow go. No, you could still be a man, you can still take charge, you can still, you know make love to your woman, like the masculine that you are. But it also means that you’re open and surrendering to what might happen at the moment where it might go, what mood she might be in what she might need at that moment. just totally being open to maybe it goes into literally like other dimensions. We’re not just being open to however that goes.

Céline Remy 29:06
Mm-hmm. So number four, you want to learn to move and feel the energy. We talked about this a lot earlier. So you’ve got that one.

Kevin Anthony 29:15
Yeah, they’re there in traditional tantric practices, there are a bunch of practices that they have to teach you how to feel and move energy. You know, and even if you’re not doing it in a sexual way like you mentioned, Tai Chi or Qi Gong earlier, those are both two great practices that will teach you how to move energy and feel the energy. There are some tantric specific practices to teach you how to do that, too. But it’s another like must prerequisite if you really want to experience to chart true tantric sex, you have to be able to do that.

Kevin Anthony 29:49
Mm-hmm.

Céline Remy 29:50
Yeah. Then my favorite number five, you have to get into your body. A lot of us are stuck in our heads. And I know even for women, you know, we, we have diffuse awareness. So we can think of several things at once. And that’s just how we operate. And it’s difficult at times to get out of the headspace into the body. But getting into your body when you make him laugh is essential.

Céline Remy 30:13
Because if you making love from your head, and you’re stuck in a fantasy island, if you’re stuck in what was said earlier, and that’s something that we talked earlier with Kevin, I was sharing about our experience last night where I was still present in the now I wasn’t thinking about the sexy things he had said earlier that could still potentially turn me off because sometimes you revisit fantasy or something that happened because it still gives you a charge. And I wasn’t thinking, what’s the next thing I can do to get turned on or turn him on in the future. I was really just like, here, really here? Yeah, we’re kind of like speechless right now. We’re like, kind of like feeling it all over again, I’m still feeling the effect of it.

Kevin Anthony 30:54
What what’s interesting is, is we had this topic on our list of show topics for while now. But one of the things that we really like to do is we like to talk about the topics that are really present for us at the moment. So like it’s a conversation we have with a friend or something we experienced ourselves that makes us feel truly juicy and alive in that moment about that topic. And since we had such amazing lovemaking last night, that truly was deep tantric, other dimensional lovemaking, we were like, today’s today. All right, number eight on the list. Slow down, slow down, slow down. We’ve already said it’s not about the destination. It’s not about having an orgasm, there’s no place to rush to. You don’t have to try to reach these things as quickly as you can. In fact, if you try to get there too quickly, you most likely won’t get there. So just slow down and take the time to cultivate the energy and the practice move. And if you get too close to having an orgasm, slow it down again. or stop altogether,

Céline Remy 31:59
And then that’s the key. I think, actually, we skipped six and seven, my love. I think we were in to get our body. But

Kevin Anthony 32:05
sorry, but that was my bad.

Céline Remy 32:07
Yeah, we went a little faster, because actually, you want to start slow.

Kevin Anthony 32:12
Yes, sorry.

Céline Remy 32:15
I find that we should still give those keys because starting slow is essential.

Kevin Anthony 32:22
I misread the notes, I got so excited.

Céline Remy 32:25
And then the other seven is, allow energy to build in waves just like what Kevin was talking about. So from that starting slow to building energy to slowing down or stopping when to close, this is like a refined practice of achievement.

Kevin Anthony 32:44
Yes, thank you for getting us back on track. That’s because those six in April start with slow.

Céline Remy 32:52
Well, I’m gonna go for number nine, since it’s about women here. It’s very important to get into your including orgasms. Okay, essential. And I think at some point, we’re probably going to have to do a whole show on that because it would take too long to explain about it. But it’s that concept of tuning, turning the energy inward rather than outside in your orgasms.

Kevin Anthony 33:15
And number 10. See, where it takes you, don’t put any pressure on yourself to be in any particular place. I know we’ve talked about that already episode of letting go of the expectations. But yet, tantric lovemaking doesn’t have a destination. And it can take very different paths from one time to the next. You never really know where it’s going to go. That’s kind of part of the fun. It’s like, yeah, if every time you made love, you tried to make it a certain type of tantric experience and attain a certain level of high so to speak. Well, honestly, it’s not going to happen every time. And it’s going to happen varying degrees.

Kevin Anthony 34:01
So if you put that kind of pressure on yourself on your partner on the lovemaking, it’s actually going to impede your ability to get anywhere. So to just let go of that, and to just see where it takes you and to be open and new. do all these things that we’re talking about. And if you do you’re likely to get to some really magical places, like a mind-blowing place.

Céline Remy 34:30
And then my favorite is you’re done when you say you’re done. That’s often a question we get but how are you done? If a jack elation and orgasms, not the end? And I’m like you done when you feel complete? And you can pull out with a raging hard-on and that’s still fine. Absolutely throbbing pussy.

Kevin Anthony 34:47
Yeah, I know. It’s so funny that people are so conditioned to that sex is over when you have an orgasm morning Jackie elation. And honestly, even if you’re having regular sex, that should not be the end of your sex. I mean, if you’re, you know, the average man who lasts about seven minutes, and the average woman who doesn’t orgasm until 20 to 30 minutes. If you ejaculate, you are not done.

Céline Remy 35:16
And people ask me, How do you know? And I’m like, it’s the same when you eat. You feel full, you’re done, you just know. I mean, you just have to experience it. So if you approach sex with all these steps that we’ve just given you, you will get to those places, you will start to see what we are talking about. It will make sense later on. And you’ll feel it and you’ll notice I can’t complete I’m done. Thank you very much, you know, or like, I just want to snuggle now or talk about our highlights or no lights or anything like that.

Céline Remy 35:50
And that’s one way that you can keep the energy moving are they are you could be like, now I’m going to go make this amazing meal, or I’m going to go create a painting or do something else and put that energy into that.

Kevin Anthony 36:04
Yeah, I would just suggest, you know, like not operating any heavy machinery or deadly weapons afterward, because most likely you’re going to be in an altered state.

Céline Remy 36:16
A little dizzy spacey, very happy, has really nice side effects. Warning, warning, this might make highly happy.

Kevin Anthony 36:26
Natural, organic, it’s even gluten-free.

Céline Remy 36:34
So we hope these tips were really helpful. Remember that tantric sex and Tantra is a journey and it’s you never going to reach a place of having experienced it all. Take your first step today, try one thing at a time and start to do things differently and reframe how you view sex because this is really going to enrich your life.

Kevin Anthony 36:57
Yeah, there are tons of great books on it, read some books, try to like really expand your mind into the possibilities of what could be and, you know, I really do recommend work with somebody that has experience and really knows how to get there. Let them guide you.

Céline Remy 37:19
And we are happy to help you. And if you want to know what book to read, make sure you sign up for the sex vault, because there is a whole list of our favorite books on the subjects for you to read. So just join us in the sex vault.

Kevin Anthony 37:33
All right, there you have it. That was our best attempt at describing tantric sex and we hope that it gets you a little turned on and a little curious. And if you’re not already having tantric sex, you’re going to go out and try it. All right, everybody, we will see you next week. We hope you liked this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoyed this show, leave a comment and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 38:01
And if you want more, we have an entire digital library with the best sex tips and Relationship Advice at Selena amy.com. That’s kevinanthonycoaching.com. So join us in the sex vault to continue this adventure.

Kevin Anthony 38:18
Thanks for listening

Céline Remy 38:19
and remember, you’re amazing.