69’ing, Cunnilingus, Fellatio And Other Oral Delights

Kevin Anthony 0:12
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man, woman, single or couple, this is the show for you because well, six We are your hosts Kevin Anthony and Celine Remy.

Kevin Anthony 0:28
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast and this is episode 69. And it is titled 69’ing, cunnilingus, fellatio and other oral delights. I mean, come on, it’s Episode 69 How could we not do it on oral sex?

Céline Remy 0:48
We have been waiting for that one for a long time.

Kevin Anthony 0:51
68 episodes worth.

Céline Remy 0:53
It has finally come

Kevin Anthony 0:58
Not too soon.

Céline Remy 1:01
Obviously,

Céline Remy 1:06
All right, there is so much that we want to cover in this episode. So as always, I think we over-prepared, so get ready, it will be juicy who will be very explicit. Make sure you are in a private location, but you’re going to love it trust us. I think we’re going to dive into some of the benefits. We’re going to dive into some vulnerable shares about our personal experience around oral sex and stories there and somehow to use and some science things. I mean, this is going to be jam-packed so get ready.

Céline Remy 1:38
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Kevin Anthony 2:12
Alright, so, you know, as usual, we’re often inspired by something that’s happening in real life, whether it’s ourselves or, you know, clients that we work with. That gives us this inspiration to do a particular topic. So yes, it’s Episode 69. And there were some things in our own personal sex life that sort of inspired us to want to talk a little bit more about oral sex so it all lined up perfectly.

Céline Remy 2:38
So what I love is actually that was unplanned if you listen to our previous episode about date nine gone wrong, you know that we had a date night that the other week that wasn’t really good. So now we had another date night after that one, and it went fantastically. It went so good that it is by us for the 69 because yes, there was oral sex. I’m like, wow, we couldn’t have planned better.

Kevin Anthony 3:02
Well, Celine, why don’t you tell the listeners about your oral sex?

Céline Remy 3:09
Well, What part do I start with? So let’s start with numbers. This was only the number four that I had an orgasm with oral sex. And the third time with Kevin. Yeah, you’ve got a medal there, Kevin. So, I really love to share that because I’ve always liked oral sex. Well, I love giving oral sex, and I will liked receiving oral sex. So there was a little bit of a difference because to me receiving it never felt that exciting.

Céline Remy 3:47
First of all, when my partner has his or her head down my legs, and then I don’t always feel as connected and sometimes that’s frustrated, frustrating and there Something about really judging myself or needing time to get to an orgasm. What I’ve noticed is the first time it probably took about 45 minutes, and there were a lot of things going on in my head in terms of like, you should be coming and he’s going to get tired, I can believe he’s doing that for so long. I mean, I would never give him a blow job for 45 minutes. I mean, you know, all these things.

Céline Remy 4:30
And once we finally went over that hump of like having the first time that I had an orgasm through oral sex, and once I saw his excitement too and the obviously the experience was really nice for me as well. The second time was faster, and I think the third time was faster too. So it seems like once we were able to get past the mental blocks and like creating that now we can recreate it, recreate it faster.

Kevin Anthony 5:00
Yeah, and you know, the point that I really wanted to bring up with this particular topic is that you know, so many people have a story around their sexuality and the story might be, I don’t have an orgasm from oral sex, or the story might be, you know, I don’t last long enough or I mean, you know, you name it, we’ve heard a lot of them. And what’s so wonderful about this story is that it really shows that they’re just story. Right?

Kevin Anthony 5:31
So so for, you know, pretty much your whole life, you didn’t have an orgasm from oral sex. But suddenly, all of a sudden, something unlocked and now you’re having them regularly. And so it’s just a great illustration of how things can change. So whatever the story is, that you’ve built up around that thing for you when it comes to your sexuality, just know that it’s, it’s not necessarily going to be like that forever.

Céline Remy 6:01
Actually, when you are too attached to the story, that’s when you get in your own way. As Kevin said, sometimes I work with clients that like, oh, I can’t do this because I had knee surgery and I can’t get in that position. And I’m like, I’ve watched their bodies. I’m like, of course, you could, like maybe you just need to add a pillow, or there’s something there. Or like, Oh, I can come from doing this. And I’m like, well, maybe you can if you let go of that story in my case, and just give yourself permission to take as long as it takes, like, there are no set times like this must happen in three and a half minutes.

Kevin Anthony 6:37
You know this is such a great topic because people do this in every area of their lives, not even just their sex life. Listen to the average person talk and you will hear a whole long list of well I can’t do this because of this and because when I was a child that and because when I was in my 20s I tore this or because of that, or because I’m this age, or you know I mean the list of self-imposed limitations is gigantic for most people. And so, you know, I would just love to point out that they are indeed self-imposed limitations.

Kevin Anthony 7:11
And yeah, maybe it’s more difficult for you to have an orgasm from oral sex, then do you know your girlfriend who you talked to who goes off after about 35 seconds of stimulation, but that doesn’t mean you can’t do it. You just have to find out what’s in the way and then fix it.

Céline Remy 7:28
You know, like, I wish I could remember the exact thing that you know, the one I’m talking about where they said, you ever making excuses, or making life happens, something like that, you know, like, I don’t know the exact wording, but that’s it. You know, every time I hear somebody, I can’t because of this. I’m liking you, right? You can’t because you’ve set this up. And then we spend so much time like rehearsing that thing.

Céline Remy 7:51
And that’s why did it doesn’t happen. So next time you caught yourself with those excuses or reasons why maybe stop and be open I wonder what it would take for me to have an orgasm from oral sex? Like be in the inquiry be in the curiosity, I wonder what it would take for me to experience an orgasm from penetration sex, I wonder what it would take for me to do this or that?

Céline Remy 8:17
And then see, you might have an answer that suddenly comes into your head or your partner could brainstorm something or but just having this openness will open the door.

Kevin Anthony 8:27
Yeah, I’m sure you’ve all seen many videos throughout social media of like, you know, somebody with no arms who learns how to play guitar. Or like that mean, there are so many different things like that, like Don’t, don’t allow yourself to get put down by the limitation.

Céline Remy 8:45
So what I love and that’s something that you said earlier, as we were prepping for this episode, Kevin, you said that whatever is going on for you in your sex life, you can change it. And if there’s one thing you are taking away from this episode, and from all of our shows, and That’s really the message whatever is going on for you in your sex life, you can change it.

Kevin Anthony 9:05
Absolutely. You just have to want to. And you have to be patient with yourself. Like, you know, yeah, maybe it’s going to take 45 minutes of oral sex.

Céline Remy 9:15
I feel so, so grateful and lucky. I have a husband who was willing to go down on me for that time I was singing and the song was hurt. And obviously, the more I was thinking that the less like, sexy that was being for me. So then I was like, he’s going to take care of himself. If he needs a break, he will do so. And I just need to let it go. And that’s really the key.

Céline Remy 9:37
The key is in letting go is the key, being vulnerable, being open. And that’s also how you feel pleasure and orgasms and higher sensations.

Kevin Anthony 9:47
No tongue soreness, either was all good.

Céline Remy 9:49
Oh, I’m so glad. I can’t wait for another session. So let’s look at some of the benefits of oral sex because

Kevin Anthony 9:59
well, this was really fun. So when we decided that we wanted to talk about this particular topic, we’re like, Well, yeah, okay, you know, we like to pack our episodes full of value. So let’s talk about not just our own personal experiences, but what are some of the benefits? And you know what, if you would take the time to research the benefits of oral sex, you will find some really fun and funny information.

Céline Remy 10:22
Okay, before we dive into that, I do want to have a disclaimer like remember, we have done episodes on sexual transmitted infections or disease, sex STDs, like how to have safe sex, because oral sex is a form of sex and oral sex can still you can have disease or infections that get transmitted. So I just wanted to have that as a reminder, because some people are like, I’m a virgin, but I have tons of oral sex. And I’m like, there is the word sex in oral sex. That means it is a form of sex right,

Kevin Anthony 10:56
Despite what a former president of the United States would say. oral sex is indeed sex.

Céline Remy 11:03
And there are risks involved. So only play once it’s been cleared safe, and you know your partner and you can trust that person. So now that we got this out of the way, let’s talk about some of those benefits.

Kevin Anthony 11:18
Ah, yes, there are quite a few benefits. Now, what’s interesting, too is there actually is some science to back some of these things up. So, the first one on the list is fights depression. Well, that sex in general, right,

Céline Remy 11:33
yeah, I think it comes from the fact of the oxytocin like the touch the bonding that happens, I mean, then what they’re spending time in pleasure and you’re focusing on something that feels good. It can lift you out of a bad mood, that’s for sure.

Kevin Anthony 11:49
Absolutely. So that one is confirmed by science

Céline Remy 11:52
and now the second one is it helps you have a glowing skin. I mean, if you’re watching this video, you should see our faces are glowing reflections right now. If you do not, picture us with radiant glowing skin, looking 10 years younger than what we truly are.

Kevin Anthony 12:08
That’s right.

Céline Remy 12:08
Actually, it’s true. We get that a lot of people think we are younger than we are. And I do attribute to a wonderful sex life. And now maybe I should thank you spam for it.

Kevin Anthony 12:22
We’ll get into that one in a minute.

Céline Remy 12:25
Number three, it relieves stress.

Kevin Anthony 12:28
You know, this one, this one, it really is true. This is something that’s very interesting, because, I mean, yes, sex in general, we know to relieve stress. That’s also science confirm, but, but what is it about oral sex in particular? Because honestly, I find there to be a difference between receiving oral sex and regular sex and, and I did figure it out recently, so I’ll share it with the audience.

So you know, there are times when I’m working really a lot and I’m really quite stressed and You know, something sometimes will say like, Hey, come here, sit down, you know, and she’ll just give me oral sex.

Kevin Anthony 13:06
And after enough times that that happened, I really started noticing a difference, not just a difference in how I felt afterwards because that’s pretty obvious. But what I started noticing is the difference between just that oral sex and say any other sexual contact that we might have. And here’s what I realized. I mean, sex in general absolutely helps relieve stress, and you feel better no matter what.

Kevin Anthony 13:32
But what I realized about receiving the oral sex was like a guy, it’s one of the only times during sex where I just get to kick back and only receive, like, I don’t have to do anything. It’s like, put my hands back behind my head, keep my feet up and just totally relax and let go. And when I was how I started, realizing that was I was just noticing that even I had a crazy like 12 hour day and I was super stressed, like five minutes of a blow job. And I was instantly distressed.

Céline Remy 14:10
And I’d like to add that there oftentimes is zero ejaculation. It’s literally a five minutes blowjob. Yeah. And then you just hard and we put it back into the pants.

Céline Remy 14:23
And have fun with stuffing it in.

Kevin Anthony 14:28
So yeah, I really noticed that there’s a quality to receiving the oral sex. That is, it really does help relieve the stress because you don’t have to do anything.

Céline Remy 14:40
And I think for me, that might have been one of the challenges because I loved giving oral sex because I was in control in charge. I could choose everything I was doing and something was happening and to help me feel good and I love giving oral sex. Well, when I was receiving it, oftentimes, maybe there was a part of me There was like, I’m not adequate, because I’m not responding. Like, you know, if I watch a porn movie or go to a sex party, and there are women who literally, like the person will put their lips or their mouth, on their lips, and then it’s like they already like screaming and pleasure and arching and being like, this was amazing.

Céline Remy 15:22
And I’m like, wow, or sex does not do that for me. So then there was this whole story about that too. So when in that stillness of having to be fully receiving and not having to do anything, I think all the stories of not being good enough or not this enough, we’re coming up so it wasn’t that enjoyable. Alright, we have one more benefit here, that it does lower the risk of prostate cancer.

Céline Remy 15:48
And I’m not quite sure yet how that one works out but in some of the different studies that I have seen, it has to do with the fact of during the orgasm and especially when it is coupled with The relation there is a contraction and the milking kind of the prostate, which kind of keeps it moving the circulation That’s my understanding.

Kevin Anthony 16:09
Well also that in semen, so semen is made up of not just sperm, but also other fluids, those other fluids are actually produced in the past. So by stimulating the prostate and by ejaculating, if you include an ejaculation in the oral sex, you really basically helping to flush out the prostate, you’re like removing all the old, stagnant, you know, fluids, and then it has to produce new ones, what’s keeping the energy moving and flowing in, you know, like traditional Chinese medicine, like stagnation of any sort is really harmful and really bad and causes all kinds of things. But we actually have a few more things on the list here. That wasn’t the last one.

Céline Remy 16:53
Oh, that’s true. Well, we have more facts. Now. Now. We give you some of those, like benefits. Let’s look at some of the things like why does it work the way it works? What’s the science talking about?

Kevin Anthony 17:06
You take the first one because I want to take the second one.

Céline Remy 17:08
Oh no, I wanted a second. All right, fine.

Céline Remy 17:11
It’s okay. I’ll give it you my gift to you. So I’ll take number one. Two semen contents melatonin. And Melatonin is essential in your quality in your sleep. So it promotes better sleep.

Céline Remy 17:26
So through and I have to say that that was my question to Kevin. I was like, is it through like swallowing it? or applying it to you? Like, how do you get that so I’m not quite clear? Because you know, ultimately, wherever you swallow it and put it on your skin, our skin absorbs what we put on.

Céline Remy 17:43
I think about 70% of what we put on our skin gets absorbed within like five to 10 minutes. So I think you’ll find if you just have it on your body and imagine that and you get a direct those if you swallow it, that’s my guess.

Kevin Anthony 17:57
But yeah, we’ll have to do some more research on that

Céline Remy 18:03
Like in the field, right?

Kevin Anthony 18:05
Absolutely. This is the love lab.

Céline Remy 18:10
Alright, so, so yes, so semen contains melatonin. And so if you’re having trouble with your sleeping and all of this, that could be something better to do than pop a sleeping pill in your mouth. Just pop a dick and

Kevin Anthony 18:26
All right, the next one anti-aging. Alright, so this one really made me laugh. So, semen actually contains something called sperm Dean, which is an antioxidant. And okay, so I’m researching this stuff and I read that semen contains sperm ED, of course, I start laughing hysterically. I’m like, Oh, come on, really? Like could this really be true? So then I actually start I you know, I started researching it and I found that it actually is true. Swimming is a real thing. And it is indeed contained. semen I know this is an antioxidant and it is indeed an antioxidant.

Céline Remy 19:05
You know, we know antioxidant keeps you young vital it it’s it slows down the cells degeneration and stuff. So that’s pretty good

Kevin Anthony 19:15
you know I mean, not to say that I am a scientific expert on like sex and sex-related body fluids but you know I mean I know a fair amount about this stuff and we talked about it and work with it a lot and I’ve never heard of spare money. So if you take away anything from this, maybe is that sperm exist

Céline Remy 19:41
if eating sperm is not your thing, this is not the only place you can find sperm it in and I’m wanting to make sure you knew that. You can find it in wheat germ and mushrooms and leafy greens in pairs, broccoli, cauliflower, or even very strong fermented cheese, the experiment with fermented cheese

Céline Remy 20:05
Anyone now, Okay, enough of the jokes. When we think of orgasms and stats, a lot of women don’t orgasm through penetration sex alone. And so bringing in oral sex can really increase her pleasure. So thinking about it this way because most women are the opposite of me. For me, I was always very easily having an orgasm through penetration sex, but I was struggling with oral sex.

Céline Remy 20:35
And most of the people that I work with or that that comes come to us, it’s the opposite of like, well, it all works good with our sex, but penetration sex is the hard part for me. So think of it this way. It is one way to increase her pleasure and orgasm is an orgasm whether it’s all for clitoral through internal cervical, and I believe that getting to orgasm is better than not getting.

Kevin Anthony 21:07
Yeah. But remember, the goal is not orgasm. Right? Whenever we have sex, we talked about this a lot. The goal isn’t orgasm. But orgasm is great. And if you can have an orgasm while you’re having sex then even better. The next one is it increases the chances of a dual climax that we call simultaneous orgasm. Oh, yeah, well, so and that is because women generally take longer to reach orgasm than men. We talked about this so many times on this show, right?

Kevin Anthony 21:39
The average man, you know, three to five minutes, you know, five to seven, depending on which study you referenced. And the average woman is like 20 to 30 you know, big difference. So how do you make up that gap? Well, if you’re a man and you can’t last long enough with penetration sex, you make up the gap with oral sex. So if you can get her 20 minutes into her orgasm cycle and then penetrate her, there’s a possibility that you could actually have a simultaneous orgasm. Now, you and I, we have simultaneous orgasms a lot. And they are fucking awesome.

Céline Remy 22:13
They are super powerful when they do happen and we timed them perfectly. Yeah, yeah, it definitely takes it to the next level. But this is why so let’s, let’s talk 69 because that’s part of our episode title here. One of the things that I didn’t quite like about 69 was the fact that it was hard to focus on everything that I was doing the receiving or the giving. But one of the things that I did like about it was kind of like the feedback response that you get because you have a sensation in your genitals and then you’ve got somebody else’s genitals in your mouth, and you can kind of like have a feedback loop, which is pretty fun.

Kevin Anthony 22:52
Yeah, you know, I do it. Don’t tell me. I focus on giving.

Céline Remy 22:56
Hmm, was good. I focus on receiving.

Kevin Anthony 23:00
Well, the thing is, is if I focus on the receiving it’s too distracting. Mm-hmm. It’s actually somewhat difficult to focus on the receiving. Yeah. So the way I like to do it within 69 is I’ve just focused on the giving. Then every once in a while, you know, I just get these waves of like, family. Oh, yeah, that’s right, oh, yeah, that’s cool. You know, but my main goal is giving. And then I’m also sort of feeling this energy moving through my body because of the receiving but I’m not really focusing on the receiving Yeah, that’s what works for me.

Céline Remy 23:38
Yeah, actually, I do the same. And sometimes I do take breaks where I’ll just kind of like lay there and like, just really like feel that receiving otherwise. It’s true that I focus on the giving. One of the things that I like to do too, is kind of trying to mimic the tempo the moves of the other person because it’s kind of fun to do this call and response. But to me

Céline Remy 24:10
that was good. To me. 69 is a form of like fun play. It’s never like my good to like, oh, I’m dreaming about it, but I think it’s a fun thing to do every now and then. So, okay, there we’ve got that. We have a couple of things. So we were like, okay, we have all of these things we’ve been talking about sperm semen. And we have one more thing. Did you know that the average decoration contents, five millimeters of semen and 252 milligrams of protein?

Kevin Anthony 24:42
Yeah, so you know, there are actually all kinds of things in semen. First of all, that’s a relatively high amount of protein, you wouldn’t necessarily expect there to be that much protein, and that’s in an average ejaculation, which the scientists determined the average is about 5 million milliliters. So something like Morrison then might be last. But aside from just the protein, there are actually high levels of zinc. Mm-hmm. Which is also good. There are traces of B vitamins.

Céline Remy 25:12
Wow, I’m convinced, Kevin.

Céline Remy 25:18
Next time rather than heading for my colloidal silver or vitamin C, I’ll just go for your penis and give me a good dose.

Kevin Anthony 25:25
Well, you know there actually is this belief that semen also contains vitamin C. However, I was not able to find any scientific proof of this whatsoever. I think that was just made up.

Céline Remy 25:41
Well, all jokes aside, the Dallas ancient Dallas used to talk about they were having secret societies with the white tigress and Green Dragon LJ Dragon, and some of the things that they do do they are very big proponents of oral sex. That it was one way to gain your energy from the other person by doing oral sex. So there is something even in ancient traditions that they are aware that there is something beyond just the physical that there is an energetic part and maybe there’s full those of you a multivitamin, your daily multivitamin, but we don’t have a Jacqueline every time so it doesn’t always happen.

Kevin Anthony 26:27
Yeah, so you’re not getting enough spare money.

Céline Remy 26:33
Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I need more doses. So it made me curious about Okay, we’ve spent a lot of time on the male one and I was like, hey, what is that for the guys, right?

Kevin Anthony 26:47
Yes, we know every woman is thinking about this like, Okay, great. These are all just ways to convince me to give more oral sex. So what about the other side?

Céline Remy 26:55
Well, it’s actually was harder to find but one of the things that we found is that you have a Nice full of probiotic, mainly the lactobacillus. And so this is one of the really good probiotics in your gut flora that you need. So, I don’t know, one may speculate that eating pussy may be good for so many good things. So if you want to, rather than popping a probiotic, like a good policy,

Kevin Anthony 27:19
well actually this is very important because, with the modern diet that most people eat, which is full of processed foods, all of those processed foods and you know, they’re loaded with chemicals and pesticides, you know, they’re loaded with glyphosate and all that kind of stuff. When that stuff gets into your stomach and your digestive system, it destroys all of the good bacteria.

Kevin Anthony 27:45
And this is why eating fermented foods is so important for people today always been important but it’s even more important today. So you know, that’s your sauerkraut or maybe your kombucha is or you know, miso soup or anything. That is fermented food, right? Well, now you have yet another reason to give oral sex because you’re actually ingesting some very beneficial probiotics.

Céline Remy 28:14
See I kept like laughing and holding my laughter because I was thinking about, here’s a way to boost my kombucha or sauerkraut, we put some  pussy juices

Kevin Anthony 28:25
as what you were laughing about. Trying to figure out like, what is it what is she wants to say? What’s coming what’s good.

Céline Remy 28:35
So, the bottom line is that oral sex is good for you, it’s good for the giver and it’s good for the receiver. You should have plenty of it. It’s a really good form of connection as a couple like a bonding you know, I mean, you don’t like everybody’s pussies or deck. So it’s kind of like a special thing with special friends.

Kevin Anthony 28:55
Well, some people do. And there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’re into that,

Céline Remy 28:59
then true but for most people, so it does increase your bond and that that that connection.

Kevin Anthony 29:06
Do you know, I also read when researching for this episode, and this was within young people, I think it was ages 18 to 25 they did a study and that women 18 to 25 years old said that they felt that giving regular oral sex in the relationship actually gave them more control in their relationship. Isn’t that interesting?

Céline Remy 29:29
Well, that’s kind of what I was saying at the beginning when I felt very comfortable with a giving because I felt powerful I felt in control and all of that, you know, like everything both as a giver and receiver you gotta remember that communication plays a good role. If something feels good like let the partner know something doesn’t feel good let them know as well.

Céline Remy 29:48
And that there’s like asking for things ask for all sex. I mean for a lot of people it’s really hard Will you like lick my pussy and be like really shy about it, but like practices, asked for a blow job, you know. And remember, it doesn’t always have to end in ejaculation or orgasm. It could literally be a five minutes facility or car clicking. And that’s plenty good enough. And that’s really changing how you approach sex and oral sex.

Kevin Anthony 30:17
I love when women ask for what they want. I had a couple of times where women have asked me for things that are, you know, maybe a little vulnerable to ask for. Like one time this is many, many years ago. It was just sort of dating this woman we only had sex maybe I don’t know a couple of times if that.

Kevin Anthony 30:37
And one day she has me over for dinner and we’re having sex and she’s like, really apprehensive to ask for something and then finally she comes out says I was wondering if you expect me in the ass there was another time with it with Another girlfriend and she is like, she was like, super cute, super sweet, like, more on the conservative and I would say, you know, and all of a sudden one day out of nowhere, she’s just like, come all over my face.

Céline Remy 31:14
Yes, I thought you’d never ask. I remember that’s what you said you said.

Kevin Anthony 31:20
So anyway, the point of that is don’t be afraid to ask because most of the time, people will be like, hell yeah.

Céline Remy 31:26
And then don’t be afraid to enjoy it. I want to give you some of my how-to use others I got some articles I have that have been published on different platforms. I think it might be on your Tango itself, where I have six expert blowjob tips, you know, like expert tips and advice to like take your blow job skills to the next level.

It’s a very popular subject and I’ve got some videos on YouTube too on that, because a lot of women want to know and so I was going to give you some of my tips and then I’m going to have a Kevin give some of his tips for our male listeners iron women because I was telling Kevin I was like, I’ve liked policies and dicks so I’m like, Hey, I can go either way. So please like to give me all the tips you can.

Céline Remy 32:10
But I am going to give you the ones here in terms of okay? Giving a blowjob, really and it’s like has a lot to do like take your time. When you do this, you know, enjoy what you’re doing, find ways to love what you’re doing and love his cock. Slow down a lot of the time we go really too fast. And remember that there’s more than just the head of the penis, you can go down with deep rotating on the shaft you can include his balls, which is very unusual to have the balls massage, gently massage and then stretch to include the perineum and do some deep pressure here. And just like making like nice sounds and moans and appreciating it, letting him know that you love what you’re doing.

Céline Remy 32:56
And so, if you grab his card and put it in your mouth So I can’t seem to have enough of it. He’s gonna totally love it. And so find the ways and of course, you know, it doesn’t have to always don’t do anything you don’t want. If you don’t like to swallow, if you don’t like to go to the regulation, it’s totally okay to be like, okay, we’re done with this, and then we move on to something else, I’ll be totally done. And pay attention to what he seems to like, obviously, and all of these tips will go both ways. Actually, I’m going to add a couple of things here.

Céline Remy 33:31
And then I’ll give you the mic, Kevin. Since like I said, I can like both have done both. So it was like, slow down, slow down when you do this. And as a tip, I’m a woman telling you all the guys listening, please, please, please. You might have read about doing the alphabet in our class, but trust us It sucks. There’s nothing good about your tongue to the alphabet on our colored. What we like is constant pressure and repetition. of the movement, it’s having a pace, and it’s not changing constantly and going all over the place. And then please, please just don’t quit on us. Give us a chance, give us a chance to get there. Kevin, what are your tips?

Kevin Anthony 34:17
Well, all of those tips apply to all of the ones that you gave. And, you know, if I were going to add anything to that, you know, I would say first, don’t have any expectations. Right? So don’t go into it saying I’m going to make her come. Or I’m going to do this, that or the other thing, like, just go into it with a sort of open beginner’s mind and see where it goes from there. Because someday she’s going to be really into it and want more and more, more, more another day, she’s come back. Okay, that’s enough. Right? It’s gonna change so don’t have any expectations.

Kevin Anthony 34:50
The second thing I would say is, you have to really enjoy it. This goes for anything insects that you’re doing. I mean, sex is about connection. It’s about pleasure, it’s about love, it’s about all of these things. So it should be something fun and something that you enjoys doing. So when you’re feeling inspired, and you’re like, yeah, this is what I really want to do. Just go for it and just enjoy the entire process of it. It’s like I tell people all the time, like if they want to learn a musical instrument, you know, there’s like, at least a year of just making horrible sounds, people don’t even want to be around you. And everybody wants to just skip past that and get straight to making music, you know?

Kevin Anthony 35:29
And it’s like, no, it doesn’t work that way. And if you spend a year of doing it, just wanting to get past that part and get to the good part, you’re going to have a miserable year and you probably won’t ever finish that year. Right? So just you have to go into it saying that, even if I’m not making beautiful music, I’m loving every minute of it. The same thing when you’re giving oral sex, you just have to love every minute of what you’re doing.

Céline Remy 35:53
And to bring it back to the full title of our oral delight. You know, something really high Hot. I love it when you go down on me and then come back and kiss me.

Céline Remy 36:05
And I get to taste to myself. It is fucking hot. And I kind of like it if I went down on you, and then come back to your mouth as well.

Kevin Anthony 36:15
Some people will like that some Well, that’s totally up to you. I mean, personally, I’m glad that you like that because it makes it much easier. But if that’s not your thing, they’ll find you can do a little mouth of Washington between whatever. Let’s see, just to continue on with a few more tips for guys. So don’t have any expectations and love what you’re doing. And the biggest one really is, you know, you mentioned it here. You said to pay attention. We talked about our power mastery course, where we talk about presence.

Kevin Anthony 36:55
And really what it is, is there’s sure there are tons of different moves. There’s the This technique and that that technique and you know, if you’re curious, you can go find those things online that will tell you how to do certain techniques or whatever. But really, it’s paying attention to the feedback, when you do a certain move, how does she respond and give her more of what makes her respond in a positive way? And less or none of what makes her respond in a not so positive way.

And this is sex in general, right? You have to be connected to your partner, like don’t think of it is she’s up there and you’re down here and you’re just doing your thing you know, like, No, you are connected with her the entire time.

Kevin Anthony 37:39
And you should be paying attention to how everything you do affects her. And you really don’t need to 36 moves like if you have three moves that you alternate, and just do them very well with that attention and presence is plenty good enough and every woman’s going to have moves that she likes more than others, like the one that worked on your last girlfriend might not work on your character

Céline Remy 38:00
You know what might change throughout your time together. That’s the whole beautiful attitude of curiosity of like, hey, what feels really good. And we still do that sometimes I’ll take time. And also don’t know which one of these two moves Do you prefer today? which one works, you know, and I try new things. And then you always my muse, because I always find new ways of like, licking your penis. And that’s

Kevin Anthony 38:23
a tough job. Somebody has to do it.

Céline Remy 38:28
Thank you for all your service,

Kevin Anthony 38:30
taking many for the team.

Kevin Anthony 38:36
Well, I would say unless you have anything else you want to add, we should probably wrap it up.

Céline Remy 38:41
Yeah, I hope this was good for you and inspiring. And remember, stretch your tongue a little bit and go at it.

Kevin Anthony 38:49
All right. That’s all we have for this episode because we need to go have some oral sex. See you all next week. We hope you liked this episode of the love lab podcast. If you enjoyed this show, leave a comment and share it with your friends.

Céline Remy 39:10
And if you want more, we have an entire digital library with the best sex tips and Relationship Advice at CelineRemy.com. That’s kevinanthonycoaching.com. So join us in the sex vault to continue this adventure.

Céline Remy 39:27
Thanks for listening, and remember, you’re amazing.