The Right Way To Go Down On Her – How To Eat Pussy Like A Pro

Kevin Anthony 0:11
Welcome to the love lab podcast a safe place to get real about sex. Whether you’re a man or woman, single or couple, this is the show for you.

Céline Remy 0:20
We are your hosts, Kevin Anthony and Celine Remy. And we are here to guide you to go from good to amazing in the bedroom and beyond.

Kevin Anthony 0:27
Alright, welcome back to the love lab podcast. This is Episode 122. And it is titled, The right way to go down on her how to eat pussy like a pro. Do we have a show for you today? So here’s the thing. Well, okay, two things. The first one is that, you know, as entrepreneurs who like to give our audience what they want, we can clearly see in our demographics that anytime we really talk about like real sex stuff, people love it.

Kevin Anthony 1:04
So we thought we would do something that I know a lot of people have been asking for. That’s the first thing. The second thing is that if you listened to our last episode, or two episodes ago when we had Erik Everhard on, we were in prep for that. We were reading through his book. And his book has a chapter on giving oil to a woman. So Selena is reading this in preparation for you’re creating interview questions and all that.

Kevin Anthony 1:42
And she says to me, one day she goes, I’ve been reading this chapter, and did you know this? Did you know that I’m just kind of sitting over there, like, you’re quiet, listening to her letting her tell me what she’s learned from reading this? Then when she’s done, I just looked at her and I said, What do you think I’m doing every time I go down? I’m like, Yes, of course. I know that I do this all the time.

Kevin Anthony 2:07
So that, that got us sort of wondering and thinking like, okay, actually, maybe a lot of people don’t know this stuff. So we have to credit Eric with giving us the inspiration for saying, Hey, you know, we should do a whole episode on this. Because I think a lot of people are kind of like you like did you know, you know, so we just want to pass on what we know about this subject.

Céline Remy 2:31
And I will mention that Kevin is definitely more of the subject expert in the matter, you know, so we’ll defer to his better judgment, but I will give it to you from the woman’s perspective, especially if you’ve ever wondered like, what does she think? What happens in their head?

Céline Remy 2:47
Do women like oral? I’ll tell you what I like. Of course, it doesn’t mean that every woman thinks like me, but it will give you a little inside, look-see into a woman’s mind?

Kevin Anthony 2:59
Absolutely, you are almost certain to learn a bunch. I can almost guarantee that.

Céline Remy 3:07
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Kevin Anthony 3:34
Okay, so I had to split this up into a couple of sections, rather than just saying, All right, here are the 10 things that you got to do. Right. I had to split it up into some sections because we need to talk about some things separately. Number one, preparation. Okay, and so there’s probably already there’s some people rolling their eyes.

Kevin Anthony 3:55
Really, like really, like, you know, giving oral isn’t enough, like, what do I got to do now, you know, trust me, trust me, trust me, we are dealing with women here. Okay, it’s all about the preparation. Maybe not all about the preparation, but it’s largely about the preparation. So

Céline Remy 4:14
you’re working against our diffuse awareness. So as a guy you tend to be more singularly focused and you can focus on one thing, we are gifted with multiple diffuse awareness, which allows us to focus on so many different things at once. And as you’ll hear later in this episode, this can get against us during oral so remember that, that you have that going against you and so if you can help with some good preparation, it can help us let go of a lot of the mental chatter.

Kevin Anthony 4:45
Okay. So number one, if you want to really be good at going down on a woman, you have to want to do it. You have to actually really enjoy doing it. And we actually Talking about this in our sexual mastery program a little bit as well. But you really have to, you have to want to do it, you have to be like, Oh, yeah, I can’t wait to do this, right. Because if you were in that mindset of like, I really don’t like this, I really don’t want to do it.

Kevin Anthony 5:14
I guess such a tool or like my tongue cramps up. If that’s where you’re coming from, you will never be good at it. Mm. Period, you will never be good at it. It’s like anything else you ever listen to a musician who maybe is like, amazingly, technically proficient, like, every note is crystal clear, and just awesome sounding. But their music leaves you completely uninspired. Because it doesn’t have the soul it doesn’t have the heart doesn’t have the love behind it.

Kevin Anthony 5:48
They’re just like robots, you know, murmur, a computer could do that, right? What makes music amazing and beautiful to our ear and stirs our soul is the person that’s behind it, playing it, it is the same thing.

Kevin Anthony 6:03
When you are giving oral sex. You just have to love it and want to do it and give it that love that energy that that goes so far, even if your technique isn’t that good, or you don’t have any of the other, you know, 20 things we’re going to talk about, just that alone will make you better at oral sex than most people.

Céline Remy 6:22
And also be realistic with your own expectations. If you’ve never gone down on a woman, don’t expect to just be super good at it right away. We have we deal with clients who are late, like blooming bloomers, and like still virgin really late.

Céline Remy 6:38
And that’s one of the things that we always mentioned is you can’t expect to be a master at something you haven’t practiced at. So be gentle with yourself and be okay that maybe you just need more practice. So just do it often.

Kevin Anthony 6:54
Yes, practice does make perfect Well, actually, perfect practice makes perfect. But you keep practicing until you get it perfect. And then you keep doing it perfectly over and over and over again. That’s an aside. So let’s go to number two, no,

Céline Remy 7:10
you should offer and not wait to be asked. And let me tell you that it’s kind of like you with a blow job. You want her to just give it to you and you want her to want it right. And you would love for her to just walk into the room and say, pull down your pants, I want to go down on you. It works the same in reverse.

Céline Remy 7:30
There’s something about you man walking towards you and be like, I want to eat you alive. I want you to come in my mouth or anything like this. That is so hot. And I’m getting Kevin turned on. I’m seeing his eyes like this. And I should start to look, is there a boner coming up to

Kevin Anthony 7:54
the table? Well, yeah, and so you know, guys think about it. Right? If you’re always the one asking to get a blowjob, you start to kind of not feel good about it. Right? Like I don’t want to be the one to have to always ask you want her to just do it sometimes. So it absolutely goes both ways. Just volunteer and just say hey, you know what?

Kevin Anthony 8:16
And sometimes, if I know that we are about to make love, sometimes I’ll just grab you and just go down. And we’re gonna ask and say do you want it? You know, of course, we have that agreement, right? We’ve discussed all of these things already. So I’m not forcing anything on her. But yeah, you have to definitely just offer to do it.

Céline Remy 8:37
Tip number three is you want to make her comfortable so that she can really relax and get into her body. So remember when I was talking about the diffuse awareness, where we think about a million things, so usually, we still tend to stop in our head in our bodies. And if we can’t just really let go, it’s going to be difficult. And kind of like brings up the possession idea in terms of then how should she be? should she be laying down on her back or like, should she be on top.

Céline Remy 9:07
And I don’t think there’s one position that’s better than the other because everybody is different, and some women will be able to relax more in one way or the other. But I do think that being really flat on your back gives you a little bit more leeway to fully relax rather than having to tense up your legs if you’re on top. But again, everyone is different.

Céline Remy 9:29
So you should just be curious and asking her what position allows you to relaxed most. And then I’ll also want to add that when we talk about being comfortable, it goes the same for you because if you are uncomfortable, your tongue will transmit some of that tension and she could feel it.

Céline Remy 9:48
It’s not specifically on the physical more on the energy but there’s something if you give a massage,  touch, or licking to somebody and there is tension in your body. You will be giving that through your touch. So think about it both ways, both of you need to be comfortable.

Kevin Anthony 10:05
If you have a choice if you both can’t be comfortable, and you have a choice she needs to become. That’s just the way it is Sorry, guys tough it up, cowboy up, whatever you want to call it, right. But the point is, she needs to be comfortable because she’s never going to relax. And if a woman cannot relax into any sexual act, she’s not likely to have an orgasm. So you just you got to make her comfortable. So she can relax.

Céline Remy 10:32
Let’s talk about expectations. And so this is a big one, if you can make sure that she understand that you have no expectations, meaning she doesn’t have to orgasm, or she doesn’t have to give back, that would go a long way. And I’ll come back into what goes on in our head.

Céline Remy 10:51
And when we receive a role and in terms of expectation, but you can’t say it enough, Kevin and I have been together for just about five years now. And I still love to hear those things out loud, because it helps me to relax and let go. So be very willing to give with no agenda, no expectations, and don’t put pressure on her.

Kevin Anthony 11:16
Absolutely. So you know, the thing is, you have to think of it like a gift, right? So you don’t give a gift expecting the same gift back again, because otherwise you would just buy it for yourself and she would just buy it for herself.

Céline Remy 11:32
No hard to give yourself all roles. So you kind of do need somebody I’ve tried for years to develop my flexibility, but I’m still at least a good foot away as a metaphor.

Kevin Anthony 11:42
Okay, it’s a metaphor. But the idea is, is that you’re giving it without the expectation of anything in return. Right? And that will just be doing that alone will literally help her relax into being able to just receive that what she’s not thinking about. But okay, you know, if as soon as he’s done, then I’m going to have to do this or I’m going to have to do that. And I’m not ready for it really. I’m not in the mood. Like it’ll take all of that out of the equation.

Céline Remy 12:11
Mm-hmm. Let’s talk about number five. Kevin, I think you should bring that up.

Kevin Anthony 12:16
Haha. oral sex does not have to lead to penetration sex. Right? Here’s another thing about getting her to be able to relax and receive and really enjoy it is the fact that she knows that there doesn’t have to be anything out. So not only does she not have to then give you a blowjob, but she also is not required to give you sex. Like maybe she just enjoys it, just like you’d I mean, think just for a minute. Like a guy, right? I mean, you are a guy.

Kevin Anthony 12:46
So you should be thinking like a guy but. But think of it like this, right? You would love to just randomly in the middle of the day, get a blowjob and you’re like, sweet. That was a blow job. I didn’t need anything else. That was awesome. Great. boom, done, man here, I’ll never next thing, right? We’ve been actually sometimes like that, too.

Céline Remy 13:02
Mm-hmm.

Kevin Anthony 13:04
So she doesn’t want to have our if it goes down on me, then we have to do the whole sex thing, and then I’m gonna need to shower, then my hair is gonna be mad. And then it’s like, ah, right, take all that out of the equation.

Céline Remy 13:17
Okay, I can’t wait to get into the mental things. He is going to hint at that. But you had one more thing that I think you should also bring. Because, you know, if it comes from you, it would make it would be more meaningful. Kevin. Advice. He doesn’t be like, she’s just selfish. Do you know? I’m like, no, it’s from a guy’s mouth.

Kevin Anthony 13:34
That’s right, then what? Yeah, I mean, okay, it is absolutely, from my mouth. So how we prepared the show notes is, I sat down. And I wrote out everything I could think of, from my point of view of what I think really works. And then I gave it to Selena and I said, fill in anything that I missed? Like, was there something that you need, or you want or whatever that I haven’t included in here, please, please put that in there. So yeah, the basic flow is how my mind thinks about oral sex.

Kevin Anthony 14:08
And then you’ve added the little touches and details in there. Actually, you added the whole mental section to it anyway, you don’t need to know our whole process for creation. I was just saying that mostly to say that, that these don’t necessarily request that a woman is making saying, guys, you better learn this, like this is literally the stuff that I do that she likes. Okay, so number six, be prepared to go for however long works for both of you.

Kevin Anthony 14:38
Now. I sort of like sometimes I get tired of saying it, but I know I have to keep saying it. Which is that when you look at the studies on how long it takes men, how long men last, and how long it takes women to have an orgasm, right? We’ve said this, probably we’ve done 122 shows now. We’ve probably said it in 100 of them but But you know, they did a couple of different studies in the times are slightly different.

Kevin Anthony 15:05
But they said men, three to five minutes or five to seven minutes take them before they actually have an ejaculation. Women 20 minutes or 30 minutes, right. So we’ve talked about this all the time. But that’s important to understand. Also, when you’re giving a woman oral sex if you get if you go down on him for five minutes, it’s probably not going to do a whole lot for her.

Kevin Anthony 15:31
Like maybe if she’s already horny, she’s already like, wants to have sex. But otherwise, you’re going to have to go longer. And I wrote it like, for however long works for both of you, obviously. Because if your tongues craps out on you or your back go out or something like that, obviously, you know, it’s not going to work really well.

Kevin Anthony 15:51
But the basic idea is that, understand that she’s a woman, she needs her fire stoked a little bit. She needs a little bit more time. So be prepared to be down there for a little while.

Céline Remy 16:08
So finally, we’re coming on to the mental thing that I was so excited to bring forward because I think your biggest enemy when it comes down to going down on the woman is her brain is her mental thing. What’s happening there. Let me tell you what most women think at first, especially when they haven’t fully learned to understand their body to fully let go to be comfortable with the person so, and even if you are comfortable, it’s still things that we deal with.

Céline Remy 16:41
Am I taking too long, Am I okay? Am I normal? Oh my gosh, he must be so tired. When was the last time I took a shower? Oh my gosh, help. It’s okay. Please tell me it’s okay. Please tell me he likes it and that he likes how I taste? Because I know. I mean, I think it is. Shit. When did I wax last? I mean, am I shaven? Is it okay? Is it smooth? Does he like it? How about laundry? Did I forget that load in the washer? Man, I’m gonna go through this and I need to do this. Go shopping for groceries tomorrow.

Céline Remy 17:19
No kidding. This is a ton of the thoughts that happen for us. So what can you do? Because honestly, there’s not really anything you can do to stop that. And that’s more of her thing. But let me tell you what can help her give her reassurance It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve gone down on her and that she knows you love her. You love her pussy and how she tends to look so tell her every single time.

Céline Remy 17:44
Tell her soon at the beginning because the sooner you tell her the easier it will be for her to relax. So look at her posse, find something you find beautiful that day. Let her know how much you love how she tastes. And tell her Take your time. These free words will be like, bless to her ears, these free words will help her go a long way and come and come and come again for you.

Kevin Anthony 18:15
Yeah, absolutely. And so now that you’ve heard sort of the mental stuff that goes on there, you understand why that whole preparation phase that we just gave you is so important. Because all of that preparation stuff helps ease all of that mental stuff that’s going on in the head and will really allow her to sit back, relax, enjoy. And if she can do that, she’s going to then thank you are the greatest ever at oral sex.

Céline Remy 18:44
And while I’ve shared some of my oral sex stories on many shows, and if you’ve been listening to the love lab podcast for a while, you’ve heard bits and pieces of maybe the full stories. I’m not going to do the whole thing today again, but I’ll give you the cliff notes in terms of I discovered my clips when I was about 23 or 24 I had vaginal orgasms before had clear orgasms. I never enjoyed oral sex.

Céline Remy 19:08
I felt that it wasn’t getting me anywhere because I had not really developed the pathways the understanding of my clitoral I mean, it felt good, but I was like, boy, it’s boring. Let’s move on to something so much more interesting. I had had orgasms from oral sex twice before I met Kevin in all the years that I had had sexual partners just because usually I would just tell them, it’s okay. You don’t need to continue and most of them would just stop.

Céline Remy 19:35
Don’t listen to her when she says that you’re going this is that and it really took it was I think maybe three years into our relationship I wasn’t really even close that’s kind of hard was like well she likes or all for a few minutes and then we move on to something else we prepare her and stuff but there was never any light coming in his mouth or anything like that.

Céline Remy 19:55
And then one day while we were on vacation and relaxing and just Kevin decided to go for it. Didn’t matter what I would say like, Oh, it’s been too long your care or anything, he just went for it. And it probably took about 45 minutes, honestly. So if you’re wondering like, how long what are we talking about here? Probably 25 minutes, 3045 minutes would be absolutely normal for women, all the porn movies that show you that she starts moaning at the first leg are pretty much fake.

Céline Remy 20:25
And I’m now going to say some women can come quickly for moral because some can and I do think it has to do with how much she’s masturbated with her clit and knows how to make it work with her body. Because then what I started was to understand what it took. And then to give me permission to relax. And I don’t think I’ve ever taken that long again.

Céline Remy 20:47
But there are days where it’s a little bit longer, especially if I’m in my head versus if I’m already turned on. But the fact that I know that it doesn’t matter. Because Kevin always says that, like take your time. Remember your free magic little words that you need to tell her. This really helps.

Kevin Anthony 21:04
Yeah, and so the sort of ending to that story is, is that once you got what you needed as far as the process, and once you were able to really access your orgasm through oral sex. Now you have an orgasm pretty much every time absolutely pretty much every time. And you know, I never, I never gave you a lot of oral sex because you didn’t like it all that much. But I liked it.

Kevin Anthony 21:33
So the day that you’re referring to on vacation, I just that’s just what I wanted to do. It goes back to number one that we talked about. I’m like, you know what, I mean? I know you like it, at least to some extent. So it’s not torturing having you sit there and go through that, but that’s just what I wanted to do. So I’m like, I’m just gonna keep going, even if it’s not, you know, her most amazing, perfect, you know, thing.

Kevin Anthony 21:56
And then we realized they got you there. And now I’ve been asking for it. Yeah, I know. Now you actually asked for it.

Céline Remy 22:02
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Kevin Anthony 23:27
Alright, welcome to our new sponsor. Okay, so so first we gave you the sort of preparation stuff then we talked about some of the stuff that goes on in women’s minds when they’re trying to relax and receive. Now we’re going to talk about some more specific tips because people always want to know like, Well, what do I do and, and there are all these things. Oh, you do the alphabet over the clinic or you do there’s like all this stuff.

Kevin Anthony 23:53
Most of its just complete fucking nonsense, right? So we thought we would give you some good tips for how to actually do it.

Céline Remy 24:03
I think you should go with number one, Kevin.

Kevin Anthony 24:05
Okay. This one. So this is funny because this one is one I absolutely agree with. And it’s also the first thing that Eric Everhard said when we were having a conversation with him. Absolutely. When we were talking to him about you know, what’s the difference between, you know, sex as portrayed in porn and sex as in real life? You know, and this is one of the first examples he gave.

Kevin Anthony 24:27
So what I wrote is, don’t just get close and stick your tongue out. Right? So like what you see in oral sex all the time and it’s just because I should say porn movies, is because it makes a good shot. You see a guy who gets close to it right? And then he sticks his tongue out and he’s like flicking the clearest with his tongue or maybe licking you know, kind of like a dog but the reason is, is because if you really do oral sex, the way oral sex is really done.

Kevin Anthony 24:53
You can’t see anything on camera, and that comes straight from one of the most like all Hall of Fame porn stars will tell you that like he says that when he goes down on a woman, like for real. He’s not sticking his tongue out from two inches away, right? He’s like he’s in there. So the idea is cover use your mouth to just cover the vagina, especially all around the Clint like, get in there, you know, you can breathe through your nose. Don’t worry about it.

Céline Remy 25:22
Mm-hmm. Yeah, gotta learn that nose breathing technique there. Let’s talk about collateral because really when it comes to technique, and oral sex for her is to follow the clips. But you also need to understand the culture a little bit. So most people are familiar with the clearest as this little pointy thing that sticks out like a little iceberg. And they’re like, Oh, that’s the clit, when it’s got so much more.

Céline Remy 25:47
And I wish I had to remember to take my like anatomical clitoris to show to all the ones that are watching this show on Youtube rather than listening. But if you are listening, let’s just do it this way. You’ve got the head of the clitoris oftentimes, there is a herd over the clearest think of it just very similar to a penis. And it’s got this body of the glitter is the shaft, and the clitoris has legs that go deep inside her vagina.

Céline Remy 26:17
So that’s why when you are stimulating her glitter is and a lot of people are talking about Oh, clitoral orgasms versus vaginal orgasm versus cervical orgasms. Are they all the same? Are they different and this is where it gets confusing and because everything is interconnected, and what I can tell you they feel different in the body? And I think it has more to do with the nerves and where they go because we have like different nerves that innervate different parts and go into the brain for our orgasms.

Céline Remy 26:48
The clitoral orgasms will feel different than a vaginal or cervical however the clitoral is because of its legs that go deep down, can stimulate, and kind of wraps around the G spot area. So it can also feel good inside and be all connected. So remember, when you are thinking about the glitters, it’s not just a little button that’s on top that you want to play with.

Céline Remy 27:11
You got to think of it and in terms of how it reacts as well. And everything else. I’ll talk about this right now even though we talked we said we have it later, but I feel it’s appropriate. She can fake an orgasm with her sound, but her body can’t fake an orgasm or reaction. So the clitoral is now that you know it’s so much closer to the way a penis looks because even in utero, they both look the same. And then it morphs into different things.

Céline Remy 27:39
And so that’s kind of the remnants, these are clitoris it means and gets engorged and it gets hard. So when you are going down on a woman and Kevin will say that you let us listeners know about it, like do you feel it, you’re supposed to feel it, there’s gonna be an engagement. So you’ll see it but also under your tongue. Her clitoris will harden just like a good old boner but think of it as a lady Boehner. So this is what you want to look for. Very important.

Kevin Anthony 28:08
Yeah. And we’ll talk more about the signs and things to pay attention to. But yes, you are correct, the glitters will actually grow in size, it’ll get a little harder, and then you’ll definitely have swelling around the vagina. So that’s a sign that what you’re doing is working. But I think you should go also to number three since you’re talking about following the clip.

Céline Remy 28:27
Yeah, you also want to sometimes think about other places that could feel good. So the fourchette, which is basically the end part of like, at the bottom of her intruders just before the perineum. So it’s kind of that V-shaped there, that’s what’s called the four shafts. And it can feel really good for some women when you lick it there and sometimes even put some pressure on her perineum.

Céline Remy 28:54
So might be a little too much with the tongue, but you could use your thumbs to do something there on the perineum, and then the urethra and just below the clit can also feel really good. I was very surprised to feel the sensations around my urethra, which is the pee hole. And it can be a little bit hard to find but depending on the woman’s anatomy, it’s easier but this area can also feel really good. And then think of it too Is it can feel nice to have her labor.

Céline Remy 29:23
Yes sucked on and like as something different. It’s not what’s going to get her there but it could be a nice little like lick of the neighborhood and waking things up.

Kevin Anthony 29:33
Yeah, we’ve got some ideas to try later on. surely remember the labor one because that’s actually not on the list. Okay, so number four women prefer rhythmic motion. If you’ve ever gotten down on a woman, you’ve most likely figured this out already. But if you haven’t, you know, you try different moves and it’s not so much the move because, well you know what, we’ll talk about that more later.

Kevin Anthony 29:59
But you know, What she likes in any given moment, or any given session will be different. But in general, if you find a move that she likes, keep doing it right. So that there’s a rhythmic motion. And you’ll tell because you’ll be doing the rhythmic motion and she’ll be getting into it, getting into it, and then you’ll change do something else in her whole body will change.

Céline Remy 30:22
Yeah, that’s the problem with changing is literally when you find something that works takes to stick to it literally because it will help her if you change, it will make her go back down. And you’ll have to redo all of the work. And it’s okay, it’s not just about making How come we’re going fast but understand the principles.

Céline Remy 30:40
And when you think of a vibrator. What a vibrator does is that it never gets tired. And it just delivers the same amount of stimulation pressure in those specific spots.

Kevin Anthony 30:52
Yeah, and if you’ve ever watched a woman masturbate, you’ll notice that they tend to do the same thing, right, so they find the move that’s working for them. And they just keep doing the same thing over and over and over again. So that was actually our number six, which is if you find a move that’s working stick with it doesn’t matter what the move is.

Kevin Anthony 31:07
And keep in mind that you know, what worked five minutes ago, might not be working now. Mm-hmm. And if you tried something, you know, when you first started, and it wasn’t working, it might work again later on. And this thing that worked last time that absolutely did it this time might not be working at all. So you have to be willing to try different things and change it up.

Céline Remy 31:30
Mm-hmm. So we talked already about paying attention. But that was our tip number five, like kind of to give it to you, but pay attention to how she reacts to certain moves because some things will work better, right. And then remember that she can fake really her body reaction, she can fake the orgasm or whatever it thinks she’s doing but watch her body. And if you see that her clit is big becoming a gorge and feels that it hardens underneath your tongue if you see that her labia as a changing color going darker.

Céline Remy 32:04
And being in gorged as well. Whatever you’re doing is working. And maybe sometimes her head is not there fully where she’s thinking, I’m not turned on, but her body is there, which happens a lot. A lot of women are disconnected from what’s truly happening where they did a study with women and men watching porn and you know how they always say that guys get turned on so much faster.

Céline Remy 32:28
And it takes longer for women, in reality, the women reacted within the same amount of time than the men in their genitals and in their brain, they could see the same thing happening. But it took longer for the women to realize that that was happening in their body.

Céline Remy 32:43
And this is what you’re working against when you are talking about oral sex and going down on her it’s her head, it’s her mind, it’s coming down the fear and it’s helping her arm her connect with her body and feel what’s truly already happening. What is already there?

Kevin Anthony 32:58
Yeah, and that’s why also in this one when we’re saying pay attention, and we mentioned this before, but it may take some time. Right? So if you do a particular move, and she’s not really responding much, just give it time, you know, come back to try something else, you know, experiment around till you find what she likes, and then come back to it later on. because later on, it may be a completely different moment and experience for

Céline Remy 33:22
Mm-hmm. So I think that is a good time we want to give you some ideas to try on the culture is there is no one recipe that fits all because some glitters are more sensitive than others. Some creditors have heard that’s one more prominent than others. Some women like it more or less, I mean so many things right. Now one thing when you are looking at a clitoris and you were to break it into four quadrants, meaning there’s her upper left, lower left upper right, and lower right.

Céline Remy 33:56
Most women tend to prefer well not to prefer that I should say the way the nerves are in nerves the upper left her upper left is oftentimes the most sensitive. So some women go straight to that because they love that while for others because it’s too much it will prefer it on the right side so it’s interesting to know that that that upper left for her tends to be the most sensitive some women will take it some women want and in terms of what to do on the clitoris.

Céline Remy 34:25
I’m going to share the first thing because that’s my favorite. My favorite moves is a circle. I love circles wherever I am using a vibrator I will make a circle emotion whenever I’m using my fingers I’ll make a circle emotion and just you know in preparation for this show the other day I had Kevin go down on me just so I could like really feel things and can like be up to date

Kevin Anthony 34:51
how dedicated we are to this show and you as an audience.

Céline Remy 34:55
Yes, absolutely. So we take it so seriously. And after that, We were talking about what he did. And I was like, Oh, you know which one I really loved. So he does this move where he basically circles my clit with his tongue. And but there’s a little flick that happens, where it’s like, there’s this little like, there’s a circle. And so it’s just a little flick like this.

Céline Remy 35:16
And oh, I love this so much. I don’t know, you should explain this better. I don’t know if I’m doing a good job. But it feels really good. I’m starting to feel really hot right

Kevin Anthony 35:23
now. Yeah, I mean, you basically describe it, it’s, it’s, it’s, it’s circling around, but it never really goes 100% around that last little bit, kind of like just gives it a little gentle flick.

Céline Remy 35:37
Like a transverse movement or something. I don’t even know if you’re really paying attention to where it goes. But there’s that little flick, that little flick is a winner. I love the circle. But then that little flick just what it does is that it tells my body you get used to the same stimulation over and over. And that little flex just wakes me up enough to not get too used to the move and to appreciate it more.

Kevin Anthony 36:01
Yeah. And that’s actually our second idea to try which is to lightly flick the clutch. Now I had to say lightly tell a guy to flick the clickers he’s gonna go over there and like hitting it like it’s a speed bag. But no, no lightly. If she’s really in the mood for it, you can go a little harder. But

Céline Remy 36:21
yeah, so you could try something again, with an up and down motion of that or side to side and flicking ads. It’s, it’s up to you like what works best and up to her to see how she reacts and how her clit reacts because again, you have to watch when does her clit start to get more engaged and be like, Ooh, I’m responding as this little like movement that happens.

Kevin Anthony 36:44
All right, and next on the list is to lightly suck the clutter is now again, I say lightly. And you know, this depends on your woman. But I know, I like to suck on your quitters and you like it, but it’s super intense for you. And sometimes you’re like, that’s all I can take. Yeah, so

Céline Remy 37:01
what I think works best when you’re sucking the club, because it feels really good. It’s to slow it down. And if you can slow it down, it’s a little bit easier to take it because again, it can be so sensitive, but it can feel really good. And then you can speed it up a little bit or increase the intensity but start lighter because it’s easier to increase it.

Céline Remy 37:23
But if you’ve gone too fast, too far too quickly, it will make her shut down. And so it’s better to go slower and increase for her body to remain open.

Kevin Anthony 37:35
Alright, number four.

Céline Remy 37:37
Well, you can also use your finger I mean, you no dummy. We’re sure you know what you’re doing. But like your tong is not the only thing you can use and having a finger penetrating her or blank pressure on her G spot area. While you are like licking her clit remember how are clear the anatomy the clip has the legs.

Céline Remy 37:56
So now you connecting the outside the outer of the clitoral with the inside part of the clutter is by being inside and also adding the G spot. So it’s a lot of very good sensations.

Kevin Anthony 38:09
Some women really like it and someone will like it. And it’s a bit much.

Céline Remy 38:12
Exactly, exactly. Let’s talk about oh, I wanted to talk about tip number five. I think it’s a really good one.

Kevin Anthony 38:20
Yeah. Number five, use your voice to create vibration. You know. Anybody here remembers from like, I don’t even know 30 years ago at this point. Howard Stern had a listener, take one of her stereo speakers, and put it on the floor, and had her straddle it. And then he was humming into the radio with his deep voice.

Kevin Anthony 38:44
And she starts screaming and having an organ. It’s one of the very first things he ever did that kind of thrown off the air. Well, that’s because it worked.

Céline Remy 38:54
Yeah, so try the vibration, because it’s unusual. Most people don’t use that. So whether you use as a deep sound and cover your mouth, or you could even use your hand and place palm flat and do a vibration of shaking to that could be something cool.

Céline Remy 39:12
Now I wanted to end today’s show with a debate here, Kevin, I don’t know if it’s a debate. Should we say flat Tom versus pointed, pointed Tom, what do you think is best? And then what do I think is best?

Kevin Anthony 39:25
Both depending on the technique that you are using? Hmm, so for certain techniques, say the circular motion, the more pointed tongue works very well

Céline Remy 39:35
because it’s a more precise little tip.

Kevin Anthony 39:37
Exactly. And then maybe like if you’re doing I don’t know the first shed or some other area like that. Maybe a more flat or broader stroke. might work.

Céline Remy 39:48
Yeah, don’t think of a blue sea as an ice cream cone. Oh, like really don’t I mean, I think precise is good, but there’s a bigger leg sometimes will feel really good. I have to say when you’ve been like zooming onto the clit and I’m about to explode and then sometimes you move the attention elsewhere and do a few good licks or tease my fourchette or slightly like put a finger inside you go like.

Céline Remy 40:11
It adds so much like it’s, it’s amazing because it’s sensitizing every single area. I know you told me to bring back the labor to the tips. And Tom, do you have a particular tip you wanted to give there to our listeners?

Kevin Anthony 40:24
Well, the tip is don’t forget the Lamia like a guy saying Don’t forget the balls. Forget the Lamia.

Céline Remy 40:38
Wow, well, we managed to keep this show within our timing we do a lot. So ultimately, don’t go crazy. You don’t need to do please the alphabet is the stupidest thing. Don’t even play with that day. Get your free things like your circles, you likely flake and you suck and you are good to go.

Kevin Anthony 41:00
And be creative. Maybe you’ll come up with something else that’s not on the list. Like try stuff and see what works. Pay attention and see what is actually really doing it for her. All right, everybody. If you can do those things, you will be considered an oral sex god or goddess By the way, if you’re a woman and you’d like to go down on other women and these things all still apply every single one of them.

Kevin Anthony 41:24
So you will be considered a god or goddess of oral sex. All right, that’s all the time we have for this episode. And we will see you next week.

Kevin Anthony 41:37
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Céline Remy 41:45
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Kevin Anthony 41:59
Thanks for listening.

Céline Remy 42:01
And remember, you’re amazing.